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Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Henrique4real(f): 12:49am On Feb 18, 2016 |
There are too many Foolish and ungodly hegoats parading themselves as men! Jeez! May God therefore give u wives that have the same Character with you in Jesus name.easy to say but when they are at the receiving end, we wud start hearing about how all women are bitches and how they are not suitable as wives. Iranu! 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 12:50am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Memejem: Cant believe i had to quote all these but then what option would you take? |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 12:51am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Henrique4real: ok ma so what would you do? You have various options to pick from. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 12:54am On Feb 18, 2016 |
mizquote: Proudly an educated,objective,pragmatic and down to earth guy from the Yoruba clan so any issues with that? Anyways,lets know thye option you would settle for. Thanks |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by banmee(m): 12:55am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: A thread for men? What are you doing posting topics here then? 1 Like |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Tolatutu: 12:56am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: I would divorce the cheating goat and wait till i find a decent man. That option does exist, many women have gone on to marry faithful men, i would rather be single for life than stay with a philanderer. 6 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 1:01am On Feb 18, 2016 |
banmee: What a question? Im old enough to have a graduate as a child...how i wish Seun has age sections on nairaland. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Memejem: 1:01am On Feb 18, 2016 |
It's a long response I know sorry. But I wanted to make my point. Also I would pick a mixture of option of 1,3. In a case of an unrepentant serial cheater. I would leave my husband. But who says I must remain single and celibate? I can date and find a new man who I feel will be able to respect me and the institution of marriage and we can marry. And for you to say keep changing husbands in option 3 is unrealistic. Not all men cheat and obviously the second time around I would take my time choosing a new partner and hope to find one that I am compatible with. One that would not repeat the same mistakes as the first. You know the options you created are not the only options available and are a little unrealistic. If a woman divorces at pretty young age that doesn't mean she must remain single. Doesn't mean she must remain celibate. Option 3 insinuates that all men are cheaters so she would have to continue divorcing and we know that not all men cheat. Toks2008: 5 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 1:01am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Tolatutu: Issorite |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Memejem: 1:05am On Feb 18, 2016 |
I'm telling you. Why would I settle for less. All these men want to have their cake and eat it too Tolatutu: 5 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by banmee(m): 1:06am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: You know what I think? I think you have a potency problem. You can't function unless you can dominate a woman. I bet if you meet a confident woman it shrinks up. What's with you and male dominance? You need help. Every article you post is always about the subjugation of the female species. I will pray for you. Now close your eyes. 26 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 1:06am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Memejem: i no talk sey all men cheat and the third option is clear.....WILL U CONTINUE TO CHANGE HUBBY IF THE NEW ONE also CHEATS? |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Henrique4real(f): 1:07am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: That is where u get it totally wrong! How about we say she joins him in the mud instead of saying she drags herself there because surely the man in question is already a muddied and shameless person who allows only his Dick to think and speak for him. 6 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by mizquote(f): 1:08am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: I'm not surprised you re yoruba. you see, the world isn't as it use to be where women were treated as foot mat and slaves the world has evolved and its still doing. women re now self independent, educated and have dignity. marriage is not the ultimate, apostle paul said marriage wasn't meant for everyone. marriage is a fusion of two brings that is why the bible said the two shall be one, as the man and woman body belongs not to themselves but to each other. I will never ever stay with an unrepentant philander. marriage is not for cheating and no cheating for in the bible marriage can be dissolved on the basis of sexual infidelity. I better divorce him because I can never pretend to ignore him if hes a bloody cheat. I may re-marry to a man I'm sure won't cheat if he repeat same I will do same. with the kind of women I see now I am proud of how our future daughters will be, strong, intelligent and confident. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Tolatutu: 1:09am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Memejem: That's the type of "logic" they use to try and scare women into staying with serial cheats but women are wiser now. BEfore it would be no one would marry a divorcees but now we all know thats a big lie, many divorcees will remarry before single women their age sef 8 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by gemale(m): 1:10am On Feb 18, 2016 |
op no try @ all. 2 dey advise women 2 tolerate cheating husbands no good @ all. Both partners r supposed 2 b mutually faithful 2 each oda. A cheating partner has already eroded d foundation of trust dt marriage is supposed 2 b built on so y shld a woman cheated on stay in a marriage dt makes her sad? If d partner cheated on decides 2 4gv & move on, ok bt if dey decide 2 end d marriage, u cant blame dem. Its nt everybody dt can tolerate a cheating spouse & being a man or woman is no license 4 1 2 cheat on ones spouse. If op isnt a hypocrite, let him give men d same advice when their wives cheat. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 1:10am On Feb 18, 2016 |
banmee: You really think i have time for your juvenline deliquencies? I think i should stop responding to your vague comments. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Nobody: 1:11am On Feb 18, 2016 |
[/color] Toks2008: I want ladies to understand this one vital point that most and i mean MOST HUSBANDS will cheat on their wives even if they are married to angels and the fact that your husband cheats on you does not mean he does not deeply love and desire you. Please don't get it twisted...Not all men cheat and adultery is a sin before GOD and all adulterers be a man or woman shall end up in hell but i am not here to preach any sermon but to face reality head on. Many ladies are always quick to say they can not stand an adulterer as a husband and some will threaten to rain fire and brimstone on a philandering hubby but in case you discover your hubby cheats on you please what would you do? 1.Would you rather leave your marriage, remain single and celibate for life? 2.Would you rather leave your adulterous hubby and start sleeping about with other men who are probably randy or husbands of other women? 3.Would you keep changing the new man to start all over with another if he also cheats on you? 4.Would you prefer to stay with an adulterous hubby and also shamelessly philander about in the bid to seek a revenge? 5.Would you prefer to stay with a philandering hubby,live a decent lifestyle and focus on your life and that of your children and just see him as a sex partner warning him to use protection if he must eat out? 6.Would you prefer a sexually decent hubby to take a new wife because he says he hates sleeping with random women? Please don't answer with "none of the above because if you are in that position,you will certainly be faced with an option. This is what i want many married ladies to know and i can't stress it enough..There is absolutely nothing you can do to stop a man to be polygamous either by sleeping around or taking a second wife "IF" he wants to and you can't even nag him out of it but In order to have a good stand if your hubby cheats on you,be a good wife first by being very humble,GOD fearing,Excellent cook,Financially independent,a crazy LovePeddler only to your hubby then watch and see. Many ladies make some adulterous hubbies feel too important.Don't even think about worrying your head about your husband's fidelity but warn him to use protection if he must keep mistresses...i bet he will be so scared that he will sit up. Unfortunately many ladies just give their husband an excuse to have that Alpha ego whenever they rant and give them heat over an inconsequential emotionally vulnerable side dish. There are more interesting things in life so please don't spoil your fun by hinging your happiness on your hubby's infidelity to you..trust me,If every married lady can care less if her husband cheats and just focus on developing her life and that of her child(ren),how happy many marriages will be. Its not difficult,,its a thing of the mind. Hope this makes a little sense. Please your write-up got me pretty confused, i need your clarification on this..... All these so-called men that cheats, please, who are they cheating with?, "MEN", obviously not. I bet you know they are cheating with women. Men can't demand women be faithful, but at the same time continue cheating, because that's contradictory and hypocritical, since these men aren't cheating with their fellow men. If you expect faithfulness from women, you indirectly saying you expect the same thing from men as well, because it takes two(both gender)to tango, and besides these men are't gays. The earlier you men admit to yourselves that the ratio of cheating men is proportional to that of cheating women the better for you. Cheating is just wrong, irrespective of gender 10 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Pataricatering(f): 1:12am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Tolatutu: 1:13am On Feb 18, 2016 |
gemale: Gbam, Op will you tell a man to stay with a cheating wife because the next woman he marries may also cheat 4 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Memejem: 1:13am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Are we talking about reality here or a figment of your imagination? It's like you are trying to force an answer out of everyone. I will leave the man. Simple. And wait until I can find a man compatible with my taste. If I marry a second time and I love the man and he ends up being a serial cheat I will leave him as well. And remain single. At that point it doesn't make sense to remarry. Any rational man or woman at this point would be scarred and would not risk being hurt again. Maybe you've never been in love and only lust. Because if you truly know what love is you can't just be cheating on your spouse anyhow unrepentantly and not try to change when confronted. Toks2008: 6 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by banmee(m): 1:14am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: It will take time for prayers to work on you. Be patient. 11 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 1:14am On Feb 18, 2016 |
mizquote: ok then Please are there married ladies reading this? i need to see comments from them. 1 Like |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Pataricatering(f): 1:15am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by mizquote(f): 1:17am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: As a Christian Sir I expect you to represent Christ wherever you re. the bible says our body is the temple of God as sexual sins grieves the spirit and opens gateways to demons. its not impossible for a man to remain chaste and stick to his wife. pls stop mocking God by saying 97percent of men cheat. adultery comes like every other sin as such to be rebuked.. preach sexual chastity instead of endurance and you preach the gospel. don't let the devil use you. 14 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Tolatutu: 1:18am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: I'am married, stop assuming we're all single 3 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Memejem: 1:20am On Feb 18, 2016 |
If your advice is for women to care less in their marriage, my guy what is point of being married then? Is it not to care for the other? There are vows that you make. You seem to be someone who has a very strong opinion about something and whilst you are trying very hard to convince others that your perspective is right. You forget that other people have thier own different perspectives and live different truths than you. Anyone who disagrees with you, you comment that they are immature or weak at heart. What is the point of your question if you don't have an open mind and unwilling to see that men and women have differing opionins. Your viewpoint just leaves the option that marriage is not for love. You cannot control how much love you have in your heart for someone. That's why this cheating of a thing is always tragic 12 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by cococandy(f): 1:21am On Feb 18, 2016 |
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Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Henrique4real(f): 1:22am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: Sir, I am just really angry cos the only thing I see this thread doing is encouraging promiscous men to Pat themselves on the shoulder instead of scolding themselves. I don't even want to talk about what I wud do. If u know the pains and the resultant dashing of ego involved when u are a faithful person loving an unfaithful partner, u won't put up this thread! Seriously, all I want to do is attack this thread. 12 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by cococandy(f): 1:25am On Feb 18, 2016 |
So you know tok2008? Lol I think say na only me. I've given up on the dude long time ago. banmee: 1 Like |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by cococandy(f): 1:25am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008:See man. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by banmee(m): 1:25am On Feb 18, 2016 |
cococandy: He needs deliverance. 2 Likes |
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