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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by kaziblake(f): 8:55am On Mar 23, 2016
baebae:
1. Run
2. Do thanksgiving in your church
3. Do not marry this girl for any reason at all. Because you will live a life of regret..
Hain!
Your fellow girl.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Nobody: 9:07am On Mar 23, 2016
iSellUsedCars:
Fellow Nairalanders, my 22yr old fiance who came to my place just a day ago got a call from her family doctor that her attention was urgently needed prior to some tests that were conducted on her 2 days back. I had to tell her to go see her doctor immediately as it could be something very important, so she left. She calls me up some hours later to tell me her doctor says she's HIV positive. My head spun and I started thinking of where I must had gotten it from! We've been intimately together for 4years, and we make love as often as we feel like although our busy schedule hasn't made us see for up to a month now. As I got the news, I felt so restless and just had to go join her at the hospital so they could carry a test to confirm my status. It came out negative. I promised her to always be by her side and wouldn't leave her cos of the disease. I trust her a lot and I believe she must have contracted it through sharp objects her makeup business exposes her to like razor blades. Dear nairalanders, I need your advice. It's 3am in the morning, and she's called thrice already; she's depressed and suicidal right now. Pls air your matured and helpful opinion. God bless you.
I reckon that from 3yrs from now there should be a cure for HIV. Check out this site http://www.sciencealert.com/scientists-have-removed-hiv-dna-from-human-immune-cells-using-new-gene-editing-technique

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by emaxjey(m): 9:51am On Mar 23, 2016
Bro!!! Beta go anoda hospital oo...dis d tyme u shud love her more...a friend in need is a friend indeed oo...

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Fuckgratulations: 10:07am On Mar 23, 2016
so in this modern day people are still having unprotected sex, kwontinue

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Pangea: 10:18am On Mar 23, 2016
HIV now has a cure
Read the latest science journal
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by tayooluwole: 10:19am On Mar 23, 2016
Don't dull

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Fizzbizzie(m): 10:19am On Mar 23, 2016
Now, that is a very big negative
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by free2ryhme: 10:20am On Mar 23, 2016
iSellUsedCars:
Fellow Nairalanders, my 22yr old fiance who came to my place just a day ago got a call from her family doctor that her attention was urgently needed prior to some tests that were conducted on her 2 days back. I had to tell her to go see her doctor immediately as it could be something very important, so she left.

She calls me up some hours later to tell me her doctor says she's HIV positive. My head spun and I started thinking of where I must had gotten it from! We've been intimately together for 4years, and we make love as often as we feel like although our busy schedule hasn't made us see for up to a month now.

As I got the news, I felt so restless and just had to go join her at the hospital so they could carry a test to confirm my status. It came out negative. I promised her to always be by her side and wouldn't leave her cos of the disease. I trust her a lot and I believe she must have contracted it through sharp objects her makeup business exposes her to like razor blades.

Dear nairalanders, I need your advice. It's 3am in the morning, and she's called thrice already; she's depressed and suicidal right now. Pls air your matured and helpful opinion. God bless you.

You've already made up your mind what else do you want from us

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by stmayor(m): 10:21am On Mar 23, 2016
continue f**cking her don't use condom make her feel loved.
U have already told us what U wanna do
what difference will our opinion make?

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Patented: 10:22am On Mar 23, 2016
both of you should go for extra tests in a different facility
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Ada9103(f): 10:22am On Mar 23, 2016
Choi! This one is strong
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by joey150(m): 10:23am On Mar 23, 2016
Wait oh!
Why did she just randomly go and do a test at the hospital?!

Am guessing she had a fling...panicked and had to be sure she was clean.

Its just my theory. But it fits the story well.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by ziggy3579: 10:23am On Mar 23, 2016
Which kind stupid question b dis? undecided some people tho....una sha wan reach FP by force. kontinu
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Atlantian: 10:24am On Mar 23, 2016
It doesnt matter how she got the HIV, what matters is that you stop having sex with her and if you must do so, tripple the condoms. That being said, she must stop any form of alcohol in-take, get are anti-retroviral drugs after doing the c4 count test to determine the viral load in her fluid. Then nutrition, nutrition, nutrition. Its all about her life now, and I hope she will not take revenge at life by sharing it as many girls do these days.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by HRich(m): 10:24am On Mar 23, 2016
iSellUsedCars:
Fellow Nairalanders, my 22yr old fiance who came to my place just a day ago got a call from her family doctor that her attention was urgently needed prior to some tests that were conducted on her 2 days back. I had to tell her to go see her doctor immediately as it could be something very important, so she left.

She calls me up some hours later to tell me her doctor says she's HIV positive. My head spun and I started thinking of where I must had gotten it from! We've been intimately together for 4years, and we make love as often as we feel like although our busy schedule hasn't made us see for up to a month now.

As I got the news, I felt so restless and just had to go join her at the hospital so they could carry a test to confirm my status. It came out negative. I promised her to always be by her side and wouldn't leave her cos of the disease. I trust her a lot and I believe she must have contracted it through sharp objects her makeup business exposes her to like razor blades.

Dear nairalanders, I need your advice. It's 3am in the morning, and she's called thrice already; she's depressed and suicidal right now. Pls air your matured and helpful opinion. God bless you.
Show her Love. Bigger love than the one you have been showing her. Let her know there's Life even with HIV. Get married to her as soon as possible. Take her to Prayer ministry. And God almighty will show mercy and Heal her.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Jasy(m): 10:25am On Mar 23, 2016
well, I think u shld continue sleeping with her without protection until u get infected, then both of u can die happily ever after............thank me later

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by heilige(m): 10:25am On Mar 23, 2016
Since when do we have 24hrs HIV Test in Nigeria ? I Know how long a test take
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by mn09abk: 10:26am On Mar 23, 2016
iSellUsedCars:


I insisted they took the test again. We've not been intimate for a month now. Thus, she probably just contracted it. I'll try another clinic in the morning however. Thank you
It sad that many Nigerians still dont know how HIV spread....The truth is its a slim chance you can contact it through sex,like 20% chance but peple still dont know this....Oga she has had HIV since it takes a 3 month period for it to be detected, the good news is you can still marry her and have HIV free kids....but if you cant free your mind I advice you to move on...Get a Doctor that really knows not a quack o...He will give you steps on how you and her can live a very normal life

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Atlantian: 10:26am On Mar 23, 2016
HRich:
Show her Love. Bigger love than the one you have been showing her. Let her know there's Life even with HIV. Get married to her as soon as possible. Take her to Prayer ministre. And God almighty will show mercy and Heal her.
Marriage ke. Are you out of your mind ?

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by dulux07(m): 10:26am On Mar 23, 2016
"I will stand by her. Marry her"
Easier said than done. Time will tell undecided

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Otapipia: 10:26am On Mar 23, 2016
Take off.
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by UjSizzle(f): 10:27am On Mar 23, 2016
Be supportive. And if you decide her wife material has reduced to 3yards, don't feel guilty about walking away.
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Atlantian: 10:27am On Mar 23, 2016
heilige:
Since when do we have 24hrs HIV Test in Nigeria ? I Know how long a test take
Hahaha there is 5 minutes test-kits in pharmacy everywhere though. Looks like pregnancy test-kit.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by porshuch: 10:27am On Mar 23, 2016
iSellUsedCars:
Fellow Nairalanders, my 22yr old fiance who came to my place just a day ago got a call from her family doctor that her attention was urgently needed prior to some tests that were conducted on her 2 days back. I had to tell her to go see her doctor immediately as it could be something very important, so she left.

She calls me up some hours later to tell me her doctor says she's HIV positive. My head spun and I started thinking of where I must had gotten it from! We've been intimately together for 4years, and we make love as often as we feel like although our busy schedule hasn't made us see for up to a month now.

As I got the news, I felt so restless and just had to go join her at the hospital so they could carry a test to confirm my status. It came out negative. I promised her to always be by her side and wouldn't leave her cos of the disease. I trust her a lot and I believe she must have contracted it through sharp objects her makeup business exposes her to like razor blades.

Dear nairalanders, I need your advice. It's 3am in the morning, and she's called thrice already; she's depressed and suicidal right now. Pls air your matured and helpful opinion. God bless you.
let her repeat the test in another hospital. I remember when one of my colleagues was told he tested positive to hepatitis B, but after reapting it in Two different hospitals, he came out negative, then he went back to the first hospital to do it again, he came out negative. That means there was an error.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by soderican(m): 10:28am On Mar 23, 2016
RUN!!! In fact HWOOONNNNN!!!
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Lexusgs430: 10:28am On Mar 23, 2016
iSellUsedCars:
Fellow Nairalanders, my 22yr old fiance who came to my place just a day ago got a call from her family doctor that her attention was urgently needed prior to some tests that were conducted on her 2 days back. I had to tell her to go see her doctor immediately as it could be something very important, so she left.

She calls me up some hours later to tell me her doctor says she's HIV positive. My head spun and I started thinking of where I must had gotten it from! We've been intimately together for 4years, and we make love as often as we feel like although our busy schedule hasn't made us see for up to a month now.

As I got the news, I felt so restless and just had to go join her at the hospital so they could carry a test to confirm my status. It came out negative. I promised her to always be by her side and wouldn't leave her cos of the disease. I trust her a lot and I believe she must have contracted it through sharp objects her makeup business exposes her to like razor blades.

Dear nairalanders, I need your advice. It's 3am in the morning, and she's called thrice already; she's depressed and suicidal right now. Pls air your matured and helpful opinion. God bless you.

Ask her to tell you the truth of her extra curriculum activities, or you cannot stay with someone you cannot trust.
Remember to wear a condom!!!

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by amagunnerfan: 10:28am On Mar 23, 2016
You sure this is not a case of false positive? My fiancee ( now wife ) was tested positive for a sexually transmittable disease and I was tested negative even though we made love not less than 10 times within the 3 months preceding the test. We had a redo and it turned out to be what the doctor termed false positive.

It was an issue that almost broke us if not for the fatherly advise of the doctor who is like a father to me. Order a redo in another clinic please.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Xodiq(m): 10:30am On Mar 23, 2016
Marry her now , and always make love to her without protection.just to show her how much you love her and how your are officially blind with her love.

Mtcheeeeew

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by HRich(m): 10:30am On Mar 23, 2016
heilige:
Since when do we have 24hrs HIV Test in Nigeria ? I Know how long a test take
The guy is looking for an excuse to run away
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Nobody: 10:32am On Mar 23, 2016
iSellUsedCars:


Thank you. I'm comforting her but it's not easy. I'm going with her for her first counseling in the morning. I promised neverr to leave her regardless. But it's not easy; i've lost appetite and i'm sleepless. I'm not letting her see my weakness cos I feel she needs all the strength she can get from me. I'm just confused.
I am not HIV positive, but, if I happen to fall in love with a HIV positive man, believe me, I will gladly marry him.

I have seen plenty positive peeps getting married to negative peeps, they all have kids and live normally as couples.


It is not a death sentence. There are more deadly diseases that can kill within two weeks, Not HIV. What's the guarantee that we that are negative will live longer than them that are positive.?
Death will surely come for everyone, and, it can come in any form, be it HIV oo, Hepatatis oo, cancer oo, Kidney failure oo, or even normal death.



But, just like someone said before, don't make promises yet, at least not now. you are not emotionally stable now. Don't do anything out of pity.
Let your decision be based on what you really want, what you feel and what you can accept.

Take your time to understand the situation, talk to your doctor to enlighten about HIV. then, imagine your life without your fiance. Remember your love for her, and, her love for you too.


Then, take your decision.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Etizz: 10:33am On Mar 23, 2016
And u guys have not seen over a month??

And you think that it is sharp object dat caused it??
I look u laugh....
Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by HRich(m): 10:33am On Mar 23, 2016
Atlantian:

Marriage ke. Are you out of your mind ?
Lolz. I'm out of your brain. If you believe you will see the hand work of God.

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