daretodiffer:
Non-use of condoms or having multiple partners? The former seem more plausible than the latter. Having multiple partners is not an African thing

forget that thing African men are polygamous in nature. That's why our fore fathers have so many wives.
So you agreed that blackmen don't like condoms

Op,u'r stil a learner..which juju d gul giv u wey make u believe u'r d only guy shaggn her,na aboki luv portion or her menses own? U even quickly told urself she got it through sharp objects(tel my dead granny dat story)...2ndly, do u fink u'r free? U guys spent a month without seeing each other,i knw hw dis works,if u stay for a long period without doing dat tin,any day ur boo visits,b4 she drops hand bag,u don begin dey UnCloth her, tel me say u never do one round b4 d kal came or she was at ur door step wen d doctor called,pls after 3months,conduct a fresh test

Ireneony. Your theory is baseless and shows your level of reasoning. Who told you white men and asians are more faithful to their partners than Nigerian men.

Black men just like white men are not different when it comes to multiple sexual partners.

You lack basic knowledge about HIV transmission. Anyone with multiple sexual partner who doesn't practice safe sex is high risk individual. Whether the person is white or black. Asian or Caucasian.

Contacting the virus has nothing to do with once, twice...frequency or periodic sex. Multiple sexual partner is Multiple Sexual Partner whether once or twice and moving to next person and carries same risk.

Your white man could have sex with HIV carrier once and have the virus, move to the next person and spread same. While the African man you paint black have party weekly and still be HIV free. Who told you most white men like condom?

HIV doesn't respect race, colour. Exposure is all that is needed to catch the virus. Women are more susceptible.
Multiple sexual partner is one risk factor. Male or Female, White or Black, Old or Young.

You need to remove that your parochial idea of African men...mentality of having multiple sexual partners. Women also have multiple sexual partners. White or Black, Asian or Afro-Caribbean.

Google is your friend stop living in ignorance, which is no excuse. Seek knowledge and you shall find.

ireneony:
forget that thing African men are polygamous in nature. That's why our fore fathers have so many wives.
So you agreed that blackmen don't like condoms

I disagree with your first statement

If black men don't, what about black women? We have vagina condoms and our mouths

Mr man, women're not to be trusted o, no body follow you come this world...
1. Confirm and see she's not playing a fast one on you.

2. Sit back and ask yourself, if you were in her condition, will she be by your side?
If yes then go ahead and marry her

1) U know u guys can have kids without U or the kids contacting the virus.

2) U know Aids is not a death sentence.

3) U know she has been faithful to U

The time has come to prove Ur love for her.


U will face a great deal of trials from Ur family members but stand strong & show Ur baby that she is Urs for life

iSellUsedCars:


Well I love her so much that I'll rather convince myself she got it through a sharp object. Trust me, she's not in the best frame of mind to query her. I'm just confused as to what my next step should be.

Ur next step is ds go and carried out d test else where. If u are so lucky to be -ve. call ur mum dat God jst answer one of her prayer points and ruuuunnnnnnnnn asap

Kbeaut:
Comfort her. Let her know that her illness doesn't define or change who she is. Not only that but it's 2016 & with the advances in medicine she can live a long normal life, so she shouldn't worry. & also you can take prep so you can still have sex but will NOT be affected. So there is nothing to worry about as long as you both are responsible. & most importantly let her know that your love for her will not change and you will get through this together. The most important part is for her to understand that having HIV doesn't make her any less than anyone else. We are all human, we all bleed the same. Even with HIV her blood is still the same color as yours, no?

nice one babe

Wowzer:
Ireneony. Your theory is baseless and shows your level of reasoning. Who told you white men and asians are more faithful to their partners than Nigerian men.

Black men just like white men are not different when it comes to multiple sexual partners.

You lack basic knowledge about HIV transmission. Anyone with multiple sexual partner who doesn't practice safe sex is high risk individual. Whether the person is white or black. Asian or Caucasian.

Contacting the virus has nothing to do with once, twice...frequency or periodic sex. Multiple sexual partner is Multiple Sexual Partner whether once or twice and moving to next person and carries same risk.

Your white man could have sex with HIV carrier once and have the virus, move to the next person and spread same. While the African man you paint black have party weekly and still be HIV free. Who told you most white men like condom?

HIV doesn't respect race, colour. Exposure is all that is needed to catch the virus. Women are more susceptible.
Multiple sexual partner is one risk factor. Male or Female, White or Black, Old or Young.

You need to remove that your parochial idea of African men...mentality of having multiple sexual partners. Women also have multiple sexual partners. White or Black, Asian or Afro-Caribbean.

Google is your friend stop living in ignorance, which is no excuse. Seek knowledge and you shall find.

permit me to ask this question; how come HIV/AIDS is so rampant in africa? ...
I have live in both worlds and I see the way blackmen shagg anything under the skirt e.g my course adviser when I was in university. I see how 100 level guys shagg more than 50 girls in a semester and they care to use condoms....

daretodiffer:


I disagree with your first statement

If black men don't, what about black women? We have vagina condoms and our mouths

so you think african men will agree to vagina condoms wen they have finished using the one made for them

What an irony

It may be a test of your love for her. if not, u should test positive (forget that one month thing u are saying). do a few other tests in a hospital of ur own choice. If its a test, thats bad of her. couples are advised to desist from testing each other. If its not, God will give u guys strength and wisdom for the journey ahead

Snipes009:
I really like your theory. Plaudible. You made very valid points and observations.

thank you!

daretodiffer:
Tell that to those who got married despite having an infected partner

You are a journalist, your job is to inform not assume.

NB: Use to be a Journalist.... another correction I am not miss-informing neither am I assuming... I am only placing myself in his shoes and That's Reality!

Never mind, the OP will come to a conclusion himself (when reality sets in)

The days of Valentines are over...

missbronze:
my dear, you don't blame them. I use to be ignorant before oo. Not, until I start working in a hospital and also got knowledge about it.


We try to educate people is not that bad. For eg, I lost my kid sister to two weeks illness of hepatatitis, just like a play she fell Ill and within two weeks of one hospital to another, she died.


Had it been it was HIV that she got, believe me, she will still be alive today, all she needs is not her drugs? she will even be living her normal life.



That's why I said there are deadlier diseases that kills fast than HIV.

Jeeez am so sorry,that can be hepatities kee,thought that one only affect the liver not hormone,HIV/AID affects hormone,Hepatitis don't kill like that,am so sorry,enlighten me more on hepatitis since u work in hospital

Irenony. Your assertion is still wrong. White men and Women also shag like anything the same way black men do without condom. Have you found out the rate of STI infection in your country of residence? Do you know how many white men visit GUM clinic a day compared to black men.

What do you mean by rampant in Africa? Do you have upto-date statistics ? Is there any Epidermic?

HIV is still a big issue in developing countries because of the weak healthcare system. Accessibility, Stigmatization, Affordability, Healthcare Policies, Cultural Practices, Beliefs. Just to mention few.

Run to God now before it is too late ..You are like Jonah that brought trouble upon the people he boarded ship with..He escaped the wrath of God while others lost their properties in the storm..The Divine mercy of God preserved you hence sin no more ..If u want to marry now run and marry quickly and stop sleeping around.. How did u know the lady is not sleeping around ? The terrible things women do today is a call for concern.Don't be a fool for love. Escape fast with your life & stop playing God. You can not help someone that God could not help..No emotional sentiment on this matter..Repent fast and rededicate your life to God..offer him your life as a living sacrifice because from the spiritual analysis of your story God spared u to use you. Congratulations

LuveU2:
Automatic cancellation of marriage if its me. A no fit shout abeg.

That's to show that, if it was a guy that the story affect, I bet 90% of lady will abandon the guy for being hiv. But now, it's a girl. Most 70 % thinks a man should be there for her.


So guys, when it comes to issue like this. Know that ladies are heartless.

Lexusgs430:


Oga, e be like say you love to argue. Make we meet for beer parlour to continue this and other arguments.
NB: Drinks, Babes and point & kill, all on you!!!!!
Don't 4get condoms (I love the fruity flavoured variety)

Lolz. Just give me the Venue and i will be at your Service. If i bring condom, you will bring what it been used on.

[b]OP if you really want to marry her, go through this. Found this online.[/b]


Question from a man like you,

I’m currently dating this woman who has HIV and hepatitis B. She didn’t
tell me she had this. We didn’t have sex as she didn’t want to.

So a couple months went by. We were at her house. Then she told me she had HIV
and hepatitis B. I didn’t know what to say or do. She takes care of herself by taking her meds and eats right.

She says her count is low. I still don’t know what that means. But anyways, I’ve grown to
love and want a future with her.

We had sex a few times after she told me. I used protection. But I love this woman. And I want to marry her someday. And have kids with her.

She had boyfriends before we met and they never got infected.

My question is. Her count is low and if don’t use protection can I get infected. And what about the day I marry her and we want to have kids?

How do we make this happen without me getting infected?

I really love this woman. Please help I’m confused.

Answer

Firstly it is really good that you love and support and want to start a family with your girlfriend. Many sero-different couples (where one is HIV positive and the other is not), continue to have loving relationships.

You mention in your question that your girlfriend’s count is low. Can you please confirm whether you were referring to her CD4 count or her viral load.

CD4 and viral load tests are tests that are used to monitor the health of people living with HIV. CD4 tests measure a person’s immune system. Results are usually given as cells (per cubic mm). Above 500 is considered normal. For someone with HIV above 350 is good. Viral load tests tell you how much virus there is in your body. If someone is on treatment, viral load tests also show how well the treatment is working. The aim of treatment is to get the viral load to undetectable (below 50 copies). If therefore you were referring to your girlfriend as having an undetectable viral load, then this is good.

You mention that your girlfriend is taking meds. Are you referring to ARVs (antiretroviral treatment for HIV)? Being on treatment and having an undetectable viral load dramatically reduces the chance of your girlfriend passing HIV onto you.

In response to your question, it is possible for you and your girlfriend to have a baby without you catching HIV. There are a number of options available to couples like you.

The simplest and safest option which carries no risk to you is Do-it-yourself artificial insemination (self insemination) using a plastic syringe. This is a very safe way to protect you from catching HIV. This
method involves putting your sperm into your girlfriend’s vagina around the time when she is ovulating. Ovulation takes place in the middle of her monthly cycle, about 14 days before her period.

Different clinics may recommend different methods to collect your sperm. One way is to have protected intercourse with a spermicide-free condom. Another is for you to ejaculate into a container. In both cases, you then insert the sperm into your girlfriend’s vagina with a syringe.

For more information on this process and other options available to you, please follow this link to our guide to HIV pregnancy and women’s health.

Your girlfriend may also find it helpful to read the guide as it answers a lot of general questions around HIV and pregnancy.

Good luck with your future plans.

[size=60pt]Bros She is Negative its just a test of Love am 100% sure.....[/size]

Wowzer:
Irenony. Your assertion is still wrong. White men and Women also shag like anything the same way black men do without condom. Have you found out the rate of STI infection in your country of residence? Do you know how many white men visit GUM clinic a day compared to black men.

What do you mean by rampant in Africa? Do you have upto-date statistics ? Is there any Epidermic?

HIV is still a big issue in developing countries because of the weak healthcare system. Accessibility, Stigmatization, Affordability, Healthcare Policies, Cultural Practices, Beliefs. Just to mention few.

I made reference that in lovesdaisied post.
I'm not ignorant and I know what I'm saying
Modified:
Those white men talk about are mostly gay men

R U N

ireneony:
so you think african men will agree to vagina condoms wen they have finished using the one made for them

What an irony

I was talking about African women. You cannot put the full responsibility on our men alone, our women should be blamed too. If he doesn't want use one, she has a mouth to tell him no .

SirAweezy:

NB: Use to be a Journalist.... another correction I am not miss-informing neither am I assuming... I am only placing myself in his shoes and That's Reality!

Never mind, the OP will come to a conclusion himself (when reality sets in)

The days of Valentines are over...

Your reality

Op, you fit get am too o. Repeat the test in 3 months. The longest ofnyournlife.

Meanwhile, take her to government hospital so she can be retested. Both of you should be there

you stupid or what? have you seen somebody devastated by HIV before? God safe you jeje you wan land yourself for trouble. flee from her with speed of lightning.

Irenony. Well up to you. I don't have to disclose my profession, my location as you indicated in your post about living in both worlds with reference to your theory, assertions and beliefs...to show authority on the topic. But I have tried to pass a few facts in the simplest way. Can't force medical facts or knowledge on anyone.

I respect your views but they don't hold water. They Lack substance.

Good luck and enjoy your day. Nice discussing with you. Wish everyone could be like you discussing without abusing anyone who doesn't fancy their idea.

End of discussion.

3rdlegxxx:


Mr agaruwa abi wetin be your name, u sure say u dey ok so na baba God u dey talk say forget to add 'don't trust ladies' guy no let me sama u slap on behalf of bros j (jesus) ooo

no be me write am

Wowzer:
Irenony. Well up to you. I don't have to disclose my profession, my location as you indicated in your post about living in both worlds with reference to your theory, assertions and beliefs...to show authority on the topic. But I have tried to pass a few facts in the simplest way. Can't force medical facts or knowledge on anyone.

I respect your views but they don't hold water. They Lack substance.

Good luck and enjoy your day. Nice discussing with you. Wish everyone could be like you discussing without abusing anyone who doesn't fancy their idea.

End of discussion.

my moniker is ireneony not irenony good luck to you too

uckennety:


Damn I will marry her after we reduce her viral load @ cdc

Use your brain my friend, use it.

First thing first, do confirmation test in a teaching hospital or any centre that have internationally approved government HIV clinic. If positive, you can still live together. It is no longer death sentence. It is a big sacrifice, you can still make babies without been infected. I have seen few couples that have different HIV status and are still together. It is a great medical challenge. No matter how she got it she is not the worst sinners on earth. If you stay you will be like second God in her eyes. Meanwhile, it is not impossible to wake up tomorrow without the virus in her any more - divine healings - believe it or not it is still happening.
It is your decision.
Stay strong.

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