grossintel:
Op try and understand how serious her relationship with him has been. No offense I don't see any big deal here. Most ladies still keep a guy till there wedding day after which they let go. They are just complicated like that. If she doesn't love you why will she marry you? Make I no vex oh, Marry that girl. Most of theguys chanting leave her how faithful are they to their spouse and girlfriends. Just do as you wish mehn. Finally it's still your decision.

God bless you bro.it could just be an innocent gesture.He should take histime though.

my brother the basic truth is, she's not your missing rib. Lobatan
you marry her at your own peril

wtf nawa oh

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Lilimax post=46176445[s:
]Forgive her and trust her cos she'll not do it again
Afterall she has not said I DO to you.
But If this repeats itself after your wedding, she's looking for something else :[/s]-[

Very stupi$d advice as expected from a fellow serial female cheater. Take a look at your advice especially how casual, indifferent you said it like it's a normal thing you and your friends do to guys. Today's women are just heartless!

OP...dump her immediately and throw her things outside....if you need help, call me! Make sure she refunds the money back. She was using you as a big maga...money machine and while the other guy is broke but serving her in bed. Let me tell you something about women...if you forgive her once, she will do it again! Women and men brain function differently when it comes to cheating. Guys...If a woman ever ever cheats on you, DON'T YOU EVER EVER FORGIVE HER...NEVER! She will lose respect for you and will do it again. If you go ahead and marry her, she will even poison you and murder you in cold blood. The fact she takes your money and gives this guy tells me he is giving her something you are not and that is SEX...WOMEN DON'T PLAY WITH SEX. Whenever a woman does things like this, it means she doesn't respect you. When a woman respects you, she loves you. When she doesn't respect you, she doesn't love you.

sorry sir OP, pls is it possible for you to run now with the evidence at hand with you heels touching your head?
it's a sign from whatever you believe in to save you from future heartbreak and disappointment. watch and pray they say, act with your brain without emotional effects.

jasysandra:
There are so many things that can make a woman cheat.

You might even be the reason why.

I just think you should sit her down and have a heart to heart talk.find out why she did it except she did it for the fun of it then there's a problem but even at that,you can't find a perfect partner.
If She's not a cheat,she'll be a thief or even a lier.
If you love her,make it work.

if he is the reason then why is she using his money to service another relationship.. is that not a total slap to the face.

Some advice here might be misleading. What's wrong with second chance? You know the lady better than any other person here. Why can't you just do what both of you know would work? Are you telling me you haven't cheated on her before? Or if you haven't, do you think you can guarantee tomorrow? If she acknowledges her wrong, not trying to save face for the disappointment of the on coming wedding, why can't you accept her back? Then you should start looking inward to why she cheated or still cheating on you. Are you satisfying her sexually? Are you two communicating well? Are you sensitive to her emotions? Do you give her attention? How often do you compliment her? Do you always tell her how much you love her? Does she love you? Is she proud of you? Do you molest her? Do you talk with her instead of "talking to her"? Please go make your relationship work. Relationship and marriage require alot of hardwork and commitment. Many times we would be offended and many times we are expected to forgive. Dish her if you suspect she would be an unrepentant cheat. Every Saint have a past and every sinner have a future. Am not married my brother and not even soon but that's what I can offer you free of charge as a wedding gift.

Broda forget ur age u will find anoda girl. Lve dat fiancee to go on with that guy since she finds him good to Bleep around wit let her marry him. Bro u will neva b able to live wit it. But if u cn ve her do it to u agn n u wnt mind den go on with d marriage after vin a heart to heart talk with her. My bet is she will do it agn doh its possible she won't as she may ve dne this out of curiousity n silly reason. On a second tot I really pray such don't happen to me but I tink if it does I will go on with d girl if she sincerely tells me she neva slept wit d guy or even if she has but truly own up and is poised not to do such agn. I vnt bn in such scenario n wil only know d feeling n d action I will tke wen such hapns wich I dnt pray for. My point bro is only u ve d answer but dnt work only with emotion in this but reason, experience,facts n her attitude in all these.

Why are you contemplating to sack her when God has revealed her true nature to you. To continue with her is to sentence yourself to complete Lifestyle of marital infidelity. She does not worth your love or else you will forever have to live with a snake under your roof. The same guy will be doing her browsing while she will continue to complain of tiredness with you in bedroom . Please & please don't be a fool for love.

@op if a lady have a guts to double date few months to her wedding.
Jesu mi oo..!!!
She is wicked and can drink alomo without squezzing her Face.
Better collect Baton from usain bolt and run for ur dear Life.

I don't think this should be called DOUBLE dating oh!
DOUBLE is too small for this offense.

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

From my point of view. I will advice you sit her down and ask her why she did that. A lot of ladies do a lot of poo before wedding. Some have the mindset of let me play before I take the final vow and believe me they will never cheat again after marriage. You really need to understand why she gave another guy your money. If you're not satisfied with her response then you can take a bow.

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

The fact that you think age is a reason to get married means you aren't ready for it. There are millions of girls in this country, the fact that you didn't end up with one doesn't mean you won't end up with another. Never stoop so low. Marriage is long term. Please let her go, your relationship can never be the same again. Don't listen to anybody that says we aren't perfect and blah blah blah. She has direspected you in all ways, you deserve better. And that better person is out there. It's hard but you'll surely get over it.

Uduak2019:


Very stupi$d advice as expected from a fellow serial female cheater. Take a look at your advice especially how casual, indifferent it's it like it's a normal you and you friends do to guys. Today's women are just heartless!

Lmao @ the highlighted

godoluwa:
what if d gal wanna marry d dude just because he has money & nt bcoz shes in luv?

Have u had a girlfriend or just a friend you really love but she's leaving you to get married to someone else? It has happened to me and she was just a friend but I love her so much and she knows but I wasn't ready to settle down. Girls are very emotional and won't want to hurt a guy who really cares about them just like that, if I wanted any financial assistance in any way she will offer to help just to ease of my pain but will definitely plead with me not to ask for more. This stuff is simple the Op is just complicating issues by throwing the question on Nairaland. Let him ask her not the guy because the guy might say things to make him change his mind so he can have her back. love can be stupid and most guys can do this to get her back

Besto:


if he is the reason then why is she using his money to service another relationship.. is that not a total slap to the face.

you can't pretend to know exactly why she gave that money to the guy.
She might just be helping out or.........
We can't tell neither can we all sit here and judge her.
Op please do what's right.
The devil you know has always proven to be better.

kingenry:
Some advice here might be misleading. What's wrong with second chance? You know the lady better than any other person here. Why can't you just do what both of you know would work? Are you telling me you haven't cheated on her before? Or if you haven't, do you think you can guarantee tomorrow? If she acknowledges her wrong, not trying to save face for the disappointment of the on coming wedding, why can't you accept her back? Then you should start looking inward to why she cheated or still cheating on you. Are you satisfying her sexually? Are you two communicating well? Are you sensitive to her emotions? Do you give her attention? How often do you compliment her? Do you always tell her how much you love her? Does she love you? Is she proud of you? Do you molest her? Do you talk with her instead of "talking to her"? Please go make your relationship work. Relationship and marriage require alot of hardwork and commitment. Many times we would be offended and many times we are expected to forgive. Dish her if you suspect she would be an unrepentant cheat. Every Saint have a past and every sinner have a future. Am not married my brother and not even soon but that's what I can offer you free of charge as a wedding gift.

On the backdrop of the advice; I would advise you postpone the wedding say 4-6 months.

agugi01:
If u can manage her fine go ahead if not quit now than to seek divorce later ....all ladies are the same thing ...only God knows who father the children we are given birth to nowadays.

my brother you just hit the Head by the Nail
sorry did I make any sense so what am I even saying sef.

Infact ur on point my guy

firstEVA:
It would hurt no doubt, but I can't leave a man if I consider him fit for me in every aspect of life because he cheated at a point in time, once he is genuinely apologetic, I will forgive and go on with wedding plans.




Btw it shouldn't be news that women forgive easily, it's men that don't.

the difference is that you are a female and females stay and fight once they identify the man ☀̤̣̈̇f their dreams and thus the saying 'the sanity ☀̤̣̈̇f every marriage rest on the woman'. And also know that ♍ƺ do have ego(which is the last place ☀̤̣̈̇f protection ☀̤̣̈̇f a man)

O.p don't go ahead with d marriage dats if u are faithful bt if u r nt rememba to chang wen u gt anoda woman

She was doing a last minute 'window dressing' with her boy friend( her love before you proposed to marry her). This happen to most guys and gals who had lovers prior to the wedding plans with other gals/guys other than thier prior lovera. Maybe she sent the money to the guy for breaking his heart. I was a beneficiary of same too. Pls free the girl, but scold her for that and go ahead with your marriage plans with her. If she was a really serious player or double dating, she wouldnt leave that bank teller in her bag for you to discover easily.

As for me, a break -up is inevitable. A woman that does not know what she wants few months before her marriage will be clueless forever.
The picture is so clear, you need no prophet to tell you to run for your life.

As for all those saying talk to her, una try well well. Make una see truth talk for once.

In the eyes of injustice, justice is never right.

Peace out.

Lilimax:
Forgive her and trust her cos she'll not do it again
Afterall she has not said I DO to you.
But If this repeats itself after your wedding, she's looking for something else

Interesting,...
Assuming you get engaged to a man, and few weeks to your wedding, he beats you up, shey you will continue and say the "I do", believing that he will change after the wedding?

Oh dear,I feel your pain.It won't be that easy to just forgive and carry on as if nothing had happened.
My people say when broken plate don break,e don break be that --no mmekwatalizm for it.
Better to have a broken relationship now than broken marriage tomorrow or worse God forbid,slicing of throat.
Just let her go because she will cause you more pains in that marriage than you ever think.Don't listen to those who will advice you to forgive her because they won't do same if placed in same shoes.
The gods are wise

grossintel:
Have u had a girlfriend or just a friend you really love but she's leaving you to get married to someone else? It has happened to me and she just a friend but I love her so much and she knows but I wasn't ready to settle down. Girls are very emotional and won't want to hurt a guy who really cares about them just like that, if I wanted any financial assistance in any way she will offer to help just to easy of my pain but will definitely plead with me not to ask for more. This stuff is simply the Op is just complicating the whole thing buy throwing the question on Nairaland. Let him ask her not the guy because the guy might say things to make him change his mind so he can have her back. love can be stupid and most guys can do this to get her back

As a married man, I knw what am talking about. I once offered assistance(not financial) to a married woman & the next thing that comes to her mind was to have affairs with me despite the fact that her husband is ok

kingenry:
Some advice here might be misleading. What's wrong with second chance? You know the lady better than any other person here. Why can't you just do what both of you know would work? Are you telling me you haven't cheated on her before? Or if you haven't, do you think you can guarantee tomorrow? If she acknowledges her wrong, not trying to save face for the disappointment of the on coming wedding, why can't you accept her back? Then you should start looking inward to why she cheated or still cheating on you. Are you satisfying her sexually? Are you two communicating well? Are you sensitive to her emotions? Do you give her attention? How often do you compliment her? Do you always tell her how much you love her? Does she love you? Is she proud of you? Do you molest her? Do you talk with her instead of "talking to her"? Please go make your relationship work. Relationship and marriage require alot of hardwork and commitment. Many times we would be offended and many times we are expected to forgive. Dish her if you suspect she would be an unrepentant cheat. Every Saint have a past and every sinner have a future. Am not married my brother and not even soon but that's what I can offer you free of charge as a wedding gift.

What's wrong with you sissy men of today? Why are you giving her a second chance when she not even married to him or have kids for him? She has the guts to do this to him weeks to their wedding? Mennn...do you know how deadly your advice is? Do you know she didn't confessed to it but he has to find it out by himself? It's one thing that she confessed, that I may allow a second chance, postpone the wedding to next 5 yrs and watch her closely like a laser. But for her to keep this hidden, continue with it even with wedding coming up and even sending him money? My guy, if anything happens to this brother if he goes ahead and marry this woman, You..will be held responsible.

saaedlee:


Interesting,...
Assuming you get engaged to a man, and few weeks to your wedding, he beats you up, shey you will continue and say the "I do", believing that he will change after the wedding?

I have made my stance known on this forum; any relationship that involves physical abuse and battering, count me out.
It is a no-no to me but as for infidelity, I can always forgive provided you don't do it again

firstEVA:
It would hurt no doubt, but I can't leave a man if I consider him fit for me in every aspect of life because he cheated at a point in time, once he is genuinely apologetic, I will forgive and go on with wedding plans.




Btw it shouldn't be news that women forgive easily, it's men that don't.

Forgive easily my ***

Wit all dis drama queen scattered all over d world

Uduak2019:


Very stupi$d advice as expected from a fellow serial female cheater. Take a look at your advice especially how casual, indifferent you said it like it's a normal thing you and your friends do to guys. Today's women are just heartless!

OP...dump her immediately and throw her things outside....if you need help, call me! Make sure she refunds the money back. Let me tell you something about women...if you forgive her once, she will do it again! Women and men brain function differently when it comes to cheating. Guys...If a woman ever ever cheats on you, DON'T YOU EVER EVER FORGIVE HER...NEVER! She will do it again. If you go ahead and marry her, she will even poison you and murder you in cold blood. The fact she takes your money and gives this guy tells me he is giving her something you are not and that is SEX...WOMEN DON'T PLAY WITH SEX. Whenever a woman does things like this, it means she doesn't respect you. When a woman respects you, she loves you. When she doesn't respect you, she doesn't love you.

you sounded vexed...

B4 u cast d stone, think!!! Do u cheat or have u ever cheated on her!!!!!!!