frob0genius:


Madam speak for yourself. There are billions of women in this world each with different attributes so stop generalising. We are all different

you should have said what you would do if in that position rather than attack my opinion, are you opinionless?

Trendishine:
u ar such a mumu, when u get ur own fiance or if u have, do it like that...u dnt even have love 4 urself, or even feel 4 urself... no be only bind, na stapler. . na ur type dey see woman, dey mumu..... u lots are so funny and akward here..kai..

u go old for der till u see perfect wife for dis life. na men like u dey change women like wrapper sote dem go be like Solomon for bible. na ur time go dey shake wen woman go turn to boy boy. I trust bini chicks, dem go handle ur type wella till dem taya for u. otumorkpo go work for u wella

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

If I was in your position, I will quit the relationship at once. This is my honest advise. ( I hope her name is not Edobor O. Precious )

Ghost447:
If I was in your position, I will quit the relationship at once. This is my honest advise. ( I hope her name is not Edobor O. Precious )

you must have had a bitter experience too. Thanks Op

E20BILLION:



You must be an Orphan from Orphanage home(respect to orphans) to have dragged my mother into this, that says a lot about you. What a diminishing life at every passing seconds!!!

You called that show of shame, stupidity and idiocy an opinion fool. What a wicked world! Pls save that advice for your unborn foetuses... Until then, keep your silly mouth shut before Amadioha does the needy to that silly mouth.

Dimwit, i am not here to exchange words with you as an idiot but to put you where you rightly belong which is uncleaned Rubbish bin. If you don't see your sheer stupidity in that write up of yours, then it's shame to let you know that you have lost touch with a common sense. You r just a mere living dead; no life, absolute nothing.

You foolishly advised the young man to move on with a death warrant as a wife in public forum and expected people with decency and dignity to keep mute at your well displayed idiocy. You belong to the gutter as a person and someone has to drag you slut on the floor all the way to the gutter.

I ll leave the rest with your local council to sort out, local council either put you on Cheap auction as maid or sell you to the Zoo as Ewu. Ode!

Yawns! Didnt even bother to read all that childish BS that you wrote above!
You are just a Frustrated son of a slut! I pray that the being that you worship heals you of your miserable state! For all I care, you could be one jobless coward hiding behind the screen of his phone typing nonsense! Nuisance of the highest order! Your fellow men are out there cashing in and you are here on nairaland 24 hours a day displaying your foolishness and pure stupidity...Dragging back and forth with a woman who clearly intimidates you... I feel sorry for the father that raised you because he failed big time. That is if you even have one because you clearly display the traits of a BASTARD!
This is going to be my last response to you... I usually do not go back and forth with fools and
I Refuse to stoop to your level People like you are not worth my time and strength. Whatever you call me is what your Mother, your sisters and your unborn daughters are and I feel sorry for whoever your wife is or whoever she will be. I could place a $5000 bet on your head that you are a violent mad man who physically abuses women! I'm going to give you one advice, go and cure your madness or better still eliminate yourself, the world doesn't need imbeciles like you around.

Do not go there...
She is not your wife

POWEROFPEACE:
you must have had a bitter experience too. Thanks Op

Sure

grossintel:
Op try and understand how serious her relationship with him has been. No offense I don't see any big deal here. Most ladies still keep a guy till there wedding day after which they let go. They are just complicated like that. If she doesn't love you why will she marry you? Make I no vex oh, Marry that girl. Most of theguys chanting leave her how faithful are they to their spouse and girlfriends. Just do as you wish mehn. Finally it's still your decision.

. You know nothing!! The signs are crystal clear and you're yarning thrash. Your comment is really annoying.

Bro... Love is a beautiful thing... I am married with Kids and speaking from experience, I can't categorically tell you to forgive her and before you came to this room, you have the intention to forgive her. There are worst situations that has happened before now and they still get married. Do not loose what you hold dear to heart because of minor issue, sending money to a guy, they may probably not be together anymore, sending money to another guy doesn't mean she is cheating. Look at it from different angle. Weigh your chances by checking if she loves you more than you know it. There are some girls that supports her guy financially, but trust me that money is from another mugu so they say but this is your fiancee... Weigh your chances of getting her fully to yourself that is if you see that guy more of a threat. That guy can tell you anything when you confront him or talk to him. You don't need what he has to say, forget about him. Your fiancee is the bone of contention. Talk to her, give her some test, then if she passes that test, change her phones to avoid temptation or to delay her communication even when she has their numbers in her brian... The change of phone line will create a barricade between her communication and you will never see her talk to that guy again. Trust me... Follow my advice. Every relationship has it's problems... Yours is not an exception...

Thanks Op, that makes a lot of sense.

Vickyydera:
God used this situation that just occurred now to show you that she is not the one, things like this happens few months to wedding to show us like an eye opener that the person is not meant for us, that is why we put our partner in prayer before we marry so that God can reveal to us if the person is the right one.
your financee is in love with another guy, she want to marry you for marrying sake, if you marry her,she will continue the r/ship with him and you will spend the rest of your life regretting why you married her.

About your age, do you know that you can meet the right person date her for a month and you guys will get married and you will still find peace and happiness in your marriage. My friend dated her husband for 3weeks and they got married, the are happily living together for 5years now. its about finding the right person, your soul mate,your better half.

youngmann:
. You know nothing!! The signs are crystal clear and you're yarning thrash. Your comment is really annoying.

it's my opinion, you can simple choose to ignore and look the other way.

Thanks for that advice Op

Ioannes:


Oga, imagine this scenario:

you go ahead and marry her because you are 35yrs and you feel old. two years later you catch her in a hotel room dishing out various styles to another dude, maybe even your gate keeper or her driver. you feel devastated and divorce her.

you are not only single again at 37 but also a divorcee.

if you like yourself do away with her otherwise you will be forced to raise the children of other men unknowingly.

once a cheat, always a cheat.

she has shown you whom she loves more. she is draining you to give to someone else.

if you get married to her, probably one day she will plot to kill you for her concubine to have your wealth.

a word is enough for the wise.

Ok, thanks so much Op for your quality advice

pweetyphola:


I'm really sorry you had to go thru that experience and I pray God gives you the heart to bear it. I will only put in my two cents and hope God leads you aright as pertaining your perculiar situation. I want to talk from a personal experience and it will help if you can understand the angle I am comming from. I have read most comments that says either you should forgive or forget the marriage and I need you to watch out. First of all inform your friends and family of prosponment cause obviously there is a break of trust. this is to make decision wherever this break is repairable or not. the problem must have been she tot she could get away with it not necesaarry lack of love on her part. I once cheated virtually (not physically)and my guy got to know and it hurt him immensely. infact I tot that was the end I the relationship being that he is a straight forward guy and had told me the consequence of such right from the begining. But the fact he loves me so much made him give me chances upon chances and I had to come clean with all my dealing with any other guy and I, with his guidance and patience, I can say I'm proud of who I am now. we have had our ups and downs but I can say they made us stronger knowing our very weak points to stay clear of. so please, try and see if she can work out things out with you concerning any oda person she could be with. let her understand that you will not be made and option and the prosponment will drive home the message that if she messes up, loosing you will be what she will have to contend with. This can only happen if u truly love, forgive and you can look past her former waywardness to a better future. But know this can only also work if she is willing to let it work.

I already done that. She told me she met the other guy before me and that she love him. Thanks Op

omauchay:
please I beg u...dont be one sided..u have heard from the guy...hear from your fiancee before u make any decisions...I know u myt feel you already have ur facts but still ask ur fiancee questions first..speaking from xperience, I have had facts some time but I listened to a one sided talk and judged from there..uptill now, I still regret it.my opinion bros

It is obvious OP. Thanks

Olufemiolaolu:
Honestly speaking she doesnt love you 1 bit. Relationship without d network of love ll just lead 2 automatic playing of games just like phone without network. Its left 4 u 2 decide ok. She's probably dating u becos u can pay her bills.

The other guy told me he has been dating her for over 8 years till the moment I caught her. Thanks for your contribution Op

tatucci:


u didnt tell us "the whole truth" which the guy told you... how we wan take advise u?

POWEROFPEACE:
The other guy told me he has been dating her for over 8 years till the moment I caught her. Thanks for your contribution Op

8 solid years? This is not one relationship that will end easily even after marriage. You should thank God for revealing this to you.

God will lead you to the right direction @ Op.

BTW....you are the Op, don't call us 'Op'. stay blessed!

POWEROFPEACE:
The other guy told me he has been dating her for over 8 years till the moment I caught her. Thanks for your contribution Op

falls inside well..please move on...that girl could choke you in your sleep with a pillow if you go ahead...

POWEROFPEACE:
The other guy told me he has been dating her for over 8 years till the moment I caught her. Thanks for your contribution Op

lol.. and ur still asking us? 8 years na beans? it will be very hurtful sha... but u have to decide for ursef.

POWEROFPEACE:
I already done that. She told me she met the other guy before me and that she love him. Thanks Op

it's justified then..go ahead and break off the engagement...let her go n stay wt the love of her life...

asuustrike2009:

u go old for der till u see perfect wife for dis life. na men like u dey change women like wrapper sote dem go be like Solomon for bible. na ur time go dey shake wen woman go turn to boy boy. I trust bini chicks, dem go handle ur type wella till dem taya for u. otumorkpo go work for u wella

u are such a foool..and an unrepentant fool...continue....wetin u sabi....little child...from ur utterance...it has gotten obvious dat ur type is worse dan mumu....its either u ar self destructively stewpid or have a trait of plain imbecility,..and ur childish ignorance of foolish "i too know" ..wld make u wanna insult anyone who tries to chastise u..seen uv already been hypnotised by ur benin girls "ideology"....its has been done 2 u according 2 ur words...savour in ur "ideology"... i cant bother u any futher...enjoy...ignorant juvenile...u tink and type from ur anus..blieve dat...u shld even come 2 nairaland 2 learn some fins...but what u do is come here to try and enforce ur juvenile ignorance and foolishness on others..that so far doesnt wrk 4 u..n the next u begin to insult pple way older and more experienced dan u...stewpid child....shu..go and play wit sand outside..frm ur typings, we have known u....

IkpuMmadu:



Too much stupid guys here ...just look at what that one write or wrote

Just negodu

my broda lots of silly children on dis forum...how they hv gotten here i dnt know...nairaland shld be sencored , regulated or sometin... i know nl myt not be able to do anyting about it....but mehn...them don full nl...grade 1 mumu dem sha o....by their fruit u shall know dem..even in public forum like dis. like they just stumbled upon d site...if u even start to they hint some of them on how awkward their opinion be, dem go start to dey attack u, like say u slap their scrotum..lol.... my broda...if na u, that one misyarn na real negodu...o

IkpuMmadu:



Too much stupid guys here ...just look at what that one write or wrote

Just negodu

my broda lots of silly children on dis forum...how they hv gotten here i dnt know...nairaland shld be sencored , regulated or sometin... i know nl myt not be able to do anyting about it....but mehn...them don full nl...grade 1 mumu dem sha o....by their fruit u shall know dem..even in public forum like dis. like they just stumbled upon d site...if u even start to they hint some of them on how awkward their opinion be, dem go start to dey attack u, like say u slap their scrotum..lol.... my broda...if na u, that one misyarn na real negodu...

asuustrike2009:

u go old for der till u see perfect wife for dis life. na men like u dey change women like wrapper sote dem go be like Solomon for bible. na ur time go dey shake wen woman go turn to boy boy. I trust bini chicks, dem go handle ur type wella till dem taya for u. otumorkpo go work for u wella

dondey... so because u no dey find perfect woman, then u go come go find d one wey go kill u ba?...foolish boy...uv spoken like the child u are...

Trendishine:
dondey... so because u no dey find perfect woman, then u go come go find d one wey go kill u ba?...foolish boy...uv spoken like the child u are...

mumu

Trendishine:
u are such a foool..and an unrepentant fool...continue....wetin u sabi....little child...from ur utterance...it has gotten obvious dat ur type is worse dan mumu....its either u ar self destructively stewpid or have a trait of plain imbecility,..and ur childish ignorance of foolish "i too know" ..wld make u wanna insult anyone who tries to chastise u..seen uv already been hypnotised by ur benin girls "ideology"....its has been done 2 u according 2 ur words...savour in ur "ideology"... i cant bother u any futher...enjoy...ignorant juvenile...u tink and type from ur anus..blieve dat...u shld even come 2 nairaland 2 learn some fins...but what u do is come here to try and enforce ur juvenile ignorance and foolishness on others..that so far doesnt wrk 4 u..n the next u begin to insult pple way older and more experienced dan u...stewpid child....shu..go and play wit sand outside..frm ur typings, we have known u....

am not your mate. you started the insult first that's I reply you. it was better you didn't reply

noblegrex:
you think you've made sense abi. Rude girl. Ewu

see me see wahala, u first quote me and called me olodo and u didnt expect an insult in return, do u kno the meaning of the word "RUDE". kids everywhere. Anu mpam, Anu ofia

Hillzy:
Dude sit her down n talk to her to find out wat are problem really is, before u take any decision. But look op u did'nt say wat d order guy said to u( wich I do understand), d guy was plain wit u n d money part wich d bae send to him, which clearly we both know there is sometin going on between both of dem, so op since u have listen d part of d guy in question u should also sit ur financee down n talk to her cos dat nigga might just fabricating some lies just to get even wit ur woman( or maybe he is blackmailing her) or if possible invite d order guy over n let three of u have a round table discussion to know where u stand before taking any decision, u too check am na all wat u guyz have might pass tru be4 even coming to d point of marriage, would just go down d drain like dat ehmm bros

STUPID ADVICE
Have a group discussion with the babe and side chick on who the main guy is? Bros, do you think with your head at all? Someone is hitting on his bae and you said the guy should have a discussion with them? To discuss what exactly?