relationship is vice-versa, why can't you spend on your boy friend... then what is love all about if you don't take care of him by buying little things for him....I can't be in a relationship were I will be the only one given...all I know is that I will always give you more than I have received...

sapiosexual1:


You really should sit her down and give her an education. I'm however not surprised this is coming from a western Nigeria lady, they are more exposed and lovable than those from the other divide of the Niger who would never use a dime of theirs for their man. Little wonder men from that side soo covet the ladies from the west.

Have you heard of prenuptial agreement?, Find out why the western men make their women sign that document.

Have you wondered why ur African men will go their and end up marrying an old western woman that her punana has even rotten?.

You think western girls are stupid?, They need the money more than you, and taxes won't let them save.

Keep deceiving urself.

Benita27:
Am i referring to married couple?.

Did i in any where said married men are cheating on their wives?.

Don't read the back of my post.

Try reading your post. Cause before they got married she was paying his school fees and changing his wardrobe

oluseyioba:
I tink u broken...u need to heal

No matter how broke i'm, i don't depend on guys, and don't beg for attention, they just give.

I have my own career and future aspirations, like i said, be a man and don't develop the habit of collecting frm girls, is for ur own good.

Just get a job, and you won't be depending on ur gfs.

I don't depend on anybody..n I do hv a job....its not like girls r even open handed b4....goodluck with ur decision

Benita27:
No matter how broke i'm, i don't depend on guys, and don't beg for attention, they just give.

I have my own career and future aspirations, like i said, be a man and don't develop the habit of collecting frm girls, is for ur own good.

Just get a job, and you won't be depending on ur gfs.

Ladies and crazy mentality thou... I'm not saying you should be his father but assistance/help isn't in any way bad.

oluseyioba:
I don't depend on anybody..n I do hv a job....its not like girls r even open handed b4....goodluck with ur decision

Good for you if you don't, now you knw girls are not open handed.

Like i said, occasional surprises for a bf is wat a woman shld do.

Is a different ball game when u both a married, a married woman wouldn't mind paying her kids school fees.

For a bf and gf relationship, a woman shldn't carry the man's burden, give him gifts and sage advice.

ifeomaekol:
where did that dull mentality stream from?? Let's go back to history then, our fore fathers, our tradition, where did that phrase come out from 'my knight in shinning armour'. A man is naturally that way to protect n provide for his woman, n it ll always be like that. But yes a woman should give to her man once in a while, surprise him n show him via ur giving that u care n appreciate him( use her money, go to the market and cook his favourite meal). Real men dnt feel comfortable accepting things frm their women all the time, some see it as a trap. What of men that stp dia wives from working? N tell her whatever u need tell me I ll provide?? So my dear, our prayers should be that we should be connected to our own ordained spouse that's all. When u r in the right r/shp all these won't count.

hmmmmm! You don spend for your man before?

ikombe:
Try reading your post. Cause before they got married she was paying his school fees and changing his wardrobe

And what if he didn't marry her?.

If i was paying ur school fees n changing ur wardrobe, won't you feel traped in the relationship?, as a gf.

Benita27:
Good for you if you don't, now you knw girls are not open handed.

Like i said, occasional surprises for a bf is wat a woman shld do.

Is a different ball game when u both a married, a married woman wouldn't mind paying her kids school fees.

for a bf and gf relationship, a woman shldn't carry the man's burden, give him gifts and sage advice.

but a guy should? Smh!!

My ex is a medical doctor,I invested heavily (6digits) on her in ensuring she wrote a foreign medical licencing exam ..so she could relocate to a country with better welfare ...we broke up and it was very painful... we talk til date...i wish her well with no grudge...i spent that much on,her cos I felt she could do,same for me....

ifeomaekol:
where did that dull mentality stream from?? Let's go back to history then, our fore fathers, our tradition, where did that phrase come out from 'my knight in shinning armour'. A man is naturally that way to protect n provide for his woman, n it ll always be like that. But yes a woman should give to her man once in a while, surprise him n show him via ur giving that u care n appreciate him( use her money, go to the market and cook his favourite meal). Real men dnt feel comfortable accepting things frm their women all the time, some see it as a trap. What of men that stp dia wives from working? N tell her whatever u need tell me I ll provide?? So my dear, our prayers should be that we should be connected to our own ordained spouse that's all. When u r in the right r/shp all these won't count.

Is a pity that men don't knw wat makes them men, they think is to wear a starched shirt. you're right dear.

I will work on my career as a lady, be very independent and obviously, i will attract my like, not one thing that will put all his problem on my head, why den is he a man?, occasional spending is cool, most of them running their mouth here are male h*es.

MSEdLAW:
My ex is a medical doctor,I invested heavily (6digits) on her in ensuring she wrote a foreign medical licencing exam ..so she could relocate to a country with better welfare ...we broke up and it was very painful... we talk til date...i wish her well with no grudge...i spent that much on,her cos I felt she could do same for me.......

You have a good heart, some people are just ungrateful, it would have saved you the stress if you've married her b4 spending on her career.

agarawu23:
but a guy should? Smh!!

We're not equals, never created equally, it's ur responsibility to give a woman.

Why do people say " ladies first".

The only thing my ex can take frm me is gifts, he wouldn't take money frm me if he's broke, and wen i asked on finding out he had nothing, he said he shld be the one giving me.

Benita27:
We're not equals, never created equally, it's ur responsibility to give a woman.

Why do people say " ladies first".

The only thing my ex can take frm me is gifts, he wouldn't take money frm me if he's broke, and wen i asked on finding out he had nothing, he said he shld be the one giving me.

sorry for him, we guys aren't the same. My ex once supported me with over 50k years ago but its a pity we are no more. Do me i do you Is the game if we are yet to marry. That's why I like oyinbo ppl.

agarawu23:
sorry for him, we guys aren't the same. My ex once supported me with over 50k years ago but its a pity we are no more. Do me i do you Is the game if we are yet to marry. That's why I like oyinbo ppl.

That's ur mentality, just as i have mine.

My parents will always give me more money than my brother, and when he inquires, they tell him he's a man, and have survival instinct bt is nt the same for me, cos i maybe be forced to do other things.

I can't spend on a guy and let my parents knw, bt he can spend on me and let his parents knw, is totally wrong to be dependent on ladies, you're a man.

The oyibo people you like are not dummies.

Benita27:
Unfortunately for you, you attract the ones you spend on.

I pity you, dey spend dey go, nairaland broke guys go pm you tire.

When people are broke (Physically & mindset) they can say worst things. My prayers everyday not to meet such category of people.

"Some" ladies spend because they want something in return. What happened to doing it freely whether he is your bf or not? This same guy will spend more than 5x of what you spend without expecting any sort of returns or favor when you are not not even yet his wife.

What happened to the saying "Givers Never Lack". This is a natural law; It works very well for me. You must learn how to give for you to receive.

I will share this experience..... there is this female friend I have that kills me with her surprise( not like she has given me the highest gift, but because of the way she does it). One day I went to pick her at the airport, as we are about to leave after having lunch that she paid, she opened her bag and brought out an expensive already-made senators-wear and Puma footwear (Till now I do not know how she got my size). Aside different occasions she has offered to pay for our food, buy me drink, brought cakes to my Bday and even tried to take me clubbing which I have declined severally. Mind you, she is not even my gf even though I want her to be my gf. I have had gf's that have bought much expensive gifts which sometimes I declined. She has the heart of giving and that is my point. No matter how little the gift is in your capacity, try and do it.

Now, this is what I do....... whenever I go out with a lady and she offers to pay, what I do is I'll make sure I contribute minimum of 40% of what ever we spend; sometimes I do it 50 - 50; most of them don't like the idea but that is my own thingy. This same particular girl will sneak and pay for the bills at my back but I still have a way to give her my own contribution and that is one thing she hates about me. However, when ladies picks up bills for outing or shopping.... the smiles on the guys face is awesome. You don't have to wait until he is your husband; I doubt if you can even spoil your husband with gifts with this stingy mindset.

There's difference btw a husband n bf.

RuggedArab:


When people are broke (Physically & mindset) they can say worst things. My prayers everyday not to meet such category of people.

"Some" ladies spend because they want something in return. What happened to doing it freely whether he is your bf or not? This same guy will spend more than 5x of what you spend without expecting any sort of returns or favor when you are not not even yet his wife.

What happened to the saying "Givers Never Lack". This is a natural law; It works very well for me. You must learn how to give for you to receive.

I will share this experience..... there is this female friend I have that kills me with her surprise( not like she has given me the highest gift, but because of the way she does it). One day I went to pick her at the airport, as we are about to leave after having lunch that she paid, she opened her bag and brought out an expensive already-made senators-wear and Puma footwear (Till now I do not know how she got my size). Aside different occasions she has offered to pay for our food, buy me drink, brought cakes to my Bday and even tried to take me clubbing which I have declined severally. Mind you, she is not even my gf even though I want her to be my gf. I have had gf's that have bought much expensive gifts which sometimes I declined. She has the heart of giving and that is my point. No matter how little the gift is in your capacity, try and do it.

Now, this is what I do....... whenever I go out with a lady and she offers to pay, what I do is I'll make sure I contribute minimum of 40% of what ever we spend; sometimes I do it 50 - 50; most of them don't like the idea but that is my own thingy. This same particular girl will sneak and pay for the bills at my back but I still have a way to give her my own contribution and that is one thing she hates about me. However, when ladies picks up bills for outing or shopping.... the smiles on the guys face is awesome. You don't have to wait until he is your husband; I doubt if you can even spoil your husband with gifts with this stingy mindset.

Benita27:
Is a pity that men don't knw wat makes them men, they think is to wear a starched shirt. you're right dear.

I will work on my career as a lady, be very independent and obviously, i will attract my like, not one thing that will put all his problem on my head, why den is he a man?, occasional spending is cool, most of them running their mouth here are male h*es.

yes ooo dear.

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

I hear you wise lady you expect your man to be doing all the spending even if he is married to you the essence of a relationship is to help each other not to dry the man up meanwhile some of you ladies have endless request like op

MSEdLAW:
My ex is a medical doctor,I invested heavily (6digits) on her in ensuring she wrote a foreign medical licencing exam ..so she could relocate to a country with better welfare ...we broke up and it was very painful... we talk til date...i wish her well with no grudge...i spent that much on,her cos I felt she could do,same for me....

ehyah, just keep calm and watch God reward u with the best woman ever.

agarawu23:
hmmmmm! You don spend for your man before?

I am not stingy, once in a while I surprise him with something.

ifeomaekol:
yes ooo dear.

Such guys will even end up dumping you, run to marry one innocent girl they will take care of.

The truth is bitter, don't be a victim of stupid love.

Cheers! Babe.

Yes she should

badderdandem:
I hear you wise lady you expect your man to be doing all the spending even if he is married to you the essence of a relationship is to help each other not to dry the man up meanwhile some of you ladies have endless request like op

My post is strictly for dating couples.

Benita27:
I have gifted my man a packet shirt b4, bt can't pay his rents.

You dig?.

Men dey suffer oo......Boxers, singlet and packet shirt (cheaper than some brand of singlet) yet you want these people (men) to buy u big things cos they are dating you.

nelszx:


Men dey suffer oo......Boxers, singlet and packet shirt (cheaper than some brand of singlet) yet you want these people (men) to buy u big things cos they are dating you.

Sorry!, packet shirts done cheap now abi?, or i for buy am G-wagon?.

How much them dey sell am, that's if you don wear one.

Benita27:
Sorry!, packet shirts done cheap now abi?, or i for buy am G-wagon?.

How much them dey sell am, that's if you don wear one.

My dear I don't wear packet shirt sorry to disappoint you. If you give me packet shirt I will just lay it down on the drivers seat so he can step on it so he doesn't put dirt and mud on the car. When ur mates are buying turkey shirts u want buy me packet shirt my singlet expensive pass (God forbid nonsense).

There are several things u can buy ur guy to show love. If by mistake I buy you sth dat isn't of value to you will u take it? Yet you want Brazilian hair, IPhone 6S, Car from me right and you want to buy me packet shirt. Don't let posterity judge you

nelszx:


My dear I don't wear[b]packet shirt[/b] sorry to disappoint you. If you give me packet shirt I will just lay it down on the drivers seat so he can step on it so he doesn't put dirt and mud on the car. When ur mates are buying[b]turkey shirt[/b] u want buy me packet shirt my singlet expensive pass (God forbid nonsense).

There are several things u can buy ur guy to show love. If by mistake I buy you sth dat isn't of value to you will u take it? Yet you want Brazilian hair, IPhone 6S, Car from me right and you want to buy me packet shirt. Don't let posterity judge you

What are packet shirts?. Hope you knw they come frm different world designers.

My husband won't regret marrying me, bt for a bf, i don't owe him anything.

Let the posterity judge you, who's looking for a foolish girl that will spend on you.

Benita27:
There's difference btw a husband n bf.

Would you advise your bro or want your bf to help you in school fees or rent?

Benita27:
And what if he didn't marry her?.

If i was paying ur school fees n changing ur wardrobe, won't you feel traped in the relationship?, as a gf.

so are you saying it is ok only for guys to be paying for girs school fees and changing there wardrobe but looks awkward web girls does it

Why u wan spoil boiz show na

Abi which guy no want dat kinda girlfriend

As for your question i will not feel traped so long as am in love and ready to start a life with you i wont feel traped

If possible we can give it a trail to know if i will feel traped