Youngpo413:
bla bla bla... wait till reality sets in.

Small boy still living in a fantasy world! Allow a man who could not save his marriage to fill your head with fantasies. You cheat on a female and think she will just be looking at you. You better pray you dnt end up with a woman that will decorate your body parts with hot water or acid or cut off your d1ck or even pour all sorts of disgusting concoctions in the food you eat for each time you cheat. Or dnt you hear what women are doing now?The op is just deceiving all of you. Keep patting yourselves in the back. una never see anything. you guys have no idea what goes on right under your nose. You have no idea the breed of women we have now. They are nothing like your mothers so be prepared. Nigerian women will continue to surprise you men.They will bring other men's children for you to train. Karma is just getting started on all yall.

@Toks2008

Complete rubbish!!!

Advising women to just endure their cheating husbands to be happy in their marriage is the most egomaniac gibberish I've ever read in my life.

You're probably a f*ucking cheater who expects every woman to tolerate your f*ucking pathetic cheating life! You should go and bury your dumb and empty head in the sand in shame, as*shole!

Let me ask you id*iot this, would you tolerate having a cheating wife? It is because of id*iots like you that made it difficult for women to trust good men!

And to say that a woman must be good in the kitchen and bed to have a happy marriage, is the dumbest sexist statement on NL in recent time!

Having a great relationship doesn't solely depend on one partner! It's the full responsibility of both partners to create a great healthy and happy relationship!

A man or woman who really loves you will NEVER cheat on you. When your partner starts cheating on you, it simply means he/she doesn't love you. Some people can't differentiate between "like" and "love".

Any relationship where infidelity is tolerated can NEVER be a happy one! It is a toxic relationship! So for an as*shole to come here to encourage women to tolerate cheating men to ensure a "happy" relationship is sickening!

repogirl:
Sighs....... this cheating thing be as e get sha

Different strokes for different folks..... Protect your man from cheating because whether you like it or not,there are plenty karashikas out there looking to prey on your man and he can fall o.

In the case you marry the type that chases everything, you are going to have your work cut out. It will get to a point where you need to decide whether the marriage is worth it. Like I said different strokes..... people are different, marriages are different.

Op, what you are asking is hard, for a woman to be indifferent (Some with hard minds can be though), it's not really in our nature to be indifferent. Personally I think indifference can give the husband free reign to do as he likes since the wife doesn't care and she even advised him to use protection.

Instead of indifference , try communication , he should know that it is wrong and it is affecting you and the marriage. Also, get to the root cause of his cheating.... most times it is a lack of discipline on the man's part and not what the wife did or did not do.

If my husband is the type that philanders(the unrepentant type) and I know, na to lock up shop throway key o. So that he will not give me one disease I will be treating for the rest of my life abeg.

Finally OP,instead of this kind thread advicing women to expect cheating, you should focus more on advising guys like you on the dangers of cheating and why its wrong. If you keep hammering on it, you could help men realise that they can rise above the urge to cheat. Thereby breeding a new generation of men with core values and respect for their women.

. I taught am the only one thinking this way. You have said it all. Let him channel his lectures to the cheating men out there. I can't believe a grown man like him have time creating such baseless theories.

Sophyrocks:


Small boy still living in a fantasy world! Allow a man who could not save his marriage to fill your head with fantasies. You cheat on a female and think she will just be looking at you. You better pray you dnt end up with a woman that will decorate your body parts with hot water or acid or cut off your d1ck or even pour all sorts of disgusting concoctions in the food you eat for each time you cheat. Or dnt you hear what women are doing now?The op is just deceiving all of you. Keep patting yourselves in the back. una never see anything. you guys have no idea what goes on right under your nose. Nigerian women will continue to surprise you men. Karma is just getting started on all yall.

This comment got my attention and I would like to make some submissions.

When you comment on a topic please try to address the topic and not the life of the writer because it depicts shallow intellect and God knows km not trying to defend OP but it is one absurdity I have observed from many people.

The true test of mental sanity and sound intellect is the ability to discuss, argue and seriously disagree with another without using abusive words or attacking the persona of the other person and this also goes for NobleG1 .intelligence is not about using big grammar but it's in the way you interact and comport yourself in the wake of stiff situations.

I'm so impressed that he has willingly ignored every immature comments on this thread and I would do same if I'm in his shoes.

Please let us make reasonable comments and always try to address the subject rather than the person.

repogirl:
Sighs....... this cheating thing be as e get sha

Different strokes for different folks..... Protect your man from cheating because whether you like it or not,there are plenty karashikas out there looking to prey on your man and he can fall o.

In the case you marry the type that chases everything, you are going to have your work cut out. It will get to a point where you need to decide whether the marriage is worth it. Like I said different strokes..... people are different, marriages are different.

Op, what you are asking is hard, for a woman to be indifferent (Some with hard minds can be though), it's not really in our nature to be indifferent. Personally I think indifference can give the husband free reign to do as he likes since the wife doesn't care and she even advised him to use protection.

Instead of indifference , try communication , he should know that it is wrong and it is affecting you and the marriage. Also, get to the root cause of his cheating.... most times it is a lack of discipline on the man's part and not what the wife did or did not do.

If my husband is the type that philanders(the unrepentant type) and I know, na to lock up shop throway key o. So that he will not give me one disease I will be treating for the rest of my life abeg.

Finally OP,instead of this kind thread advicing women to expect cheating, you should focus more on advising guys like you on the dangers of cheating and why its wrong. If you keep hammering on it, you could help men realise that they can rise above the urge to cheat. Thereby breeding a new generation of men with core values and respect for their women.

This is the most intelligent comment I have ever read on this thread and I'm glad it's coming from a lady and I wish other ladies can learn a thing or two from this.

We'll articulated without the use of abusive words or baseless attack on anyone.Big ups lady, your parents must be proud of you and you are most likely going to make a good wife and mother...

Let's be clear, the same applies to men.

If your sex is one-way and she is not enjoying it: you're not taking time, going down on her or being romantic; she will cheat on you and my brother, you all never find out.

Make money enough for 3.

Love your wife and make the relationshipwork but do not be a fool. If things are looking fishy, bring it up and always be ready to leave/breakup/divorce when your mind/heart tells you to do so.

wrongnumber:


This comment got my attention and I would like to make some submissions.

When you comment on a topic please try to address the topic and not the life of the writer because it depicts shallow intellect and God knows km not trying to defend OP but it is one absurdity I have observed from many people.

The true test of mental sanity and sound intellect is the ability to discuss, argue and seriously disagree with another without using abusive words or attacking the persona of the other person and this goes for Noble

I'm so impressed that he has willingly ignored every immature comments on this thread and I would do same if I'm in his shoes.

Please let us make reasonable comments and always try to address the subject rather than the person.

I dnt care what you think of my comment. As you can see, many have stated their opinions however they deem fit. Why didnt you address others who have addressed women as hoes? If a man who has failed woefully in his marriage comes here to spew jargons deluding himself to think he is some counsellor, we have every right to address his hypocrisy! No man with a failed marriage like his has any right to dictate to women how they should feel when a man cheats. Nobody tells you men what to do. when a woman cheats, you men already know what to do. Why should women be told what to do and how to acy? Thats rubbish! No wonder he is no longer with his wife. So My dear, face yourfront and dnt quote me if you have absolutely nothing to say!!!!! All men backing the op, your karma is just getting started.

What is a happy marriage?why can't we correct the mistakes of our parents in our own families. There are so many broken people in this society, we don't know how to love . Yes men of old cheated but can you also remember the pains the mothers of those days bore , so why inflict such pains to your wife. Did you enjoy knowing that daddy cheats on mummy? So why don't we thrive to make a difference. Why continue in the folly and now glory it. It's sickening. The pain is deep. It's the worst ever no wonder the bible calls it a ground for divorce cos with such pain one can do anything to hurt the cause of that pain.

Spot on

NobleG1:
@Toks2008

Complete rubbish!!!

Advising women to just endure their cheating husbands to be happy in their marraige is the most egomaniac jibbrish I've ever read in my life.

You're probably a f*ucking cheater who expects every woman to tolerate your f*ucking pathetic cheating life! You should go and bury your dumb and empty head in the sand in shame, as*shole!

Let me ask you id*iot this, would you tolerate having a cheating wife? It is because of id*iots like you that made it difficult for women to trust good men!

And to say that a woman must be good in the kitchen and bed to have a happy marraige, is the dumbest sexist statement on NL in recent time!

Having a great relationship doesn't solely depend on one partner! It's the full responsibility of both partners to create a great healthy and happy relationship!

A man or woman who really loves you will NEVER cheat on you. When your partner starts cheating on you, it simply means he/she doesn't love you. Some people can't differentiate between "like" and "love".

Any relationship where infidelity is tolerated can NEVER be a happy one! It is a toxic relationship! So for an as*shole to come here to encourage women to tolerate cheating men to ensure a "happy" relationshop is sickening!

you just lied. They were never at peace. Go back and do a sampling.

wrongnumber:


Honestly I have read several comments from different male and female as well as pretentious genders claiming the opposite and despite all the epistle, rantings and wailing I still ask one simple question....can all the preaching in the world stop men who wants to cheat on their wives?

If No then why the wailing and wishful epistle? It's like some people just love to write baseless.

The point is not all men cheat and the OP Don talk am BUT IF YOUR HUBBY DECIDES TO CHEAT ON YOU just have a shock absorber as he wrote and you will be amazed at how indifferent you will feel or at least less heartbroken.

As I wrote before, many ladies are in the psychaltry wards all across the world and the #1 reason they are there is because of heartbreak suffice to say it's because of a man so I will advice women reading this piece to appreciate the doggedness of the OP and I will send this link to my sister who have gone in and out of two marriages now all in the name of looking for a faithful man.

If you like replace happiness with tolerance,endurance or any other adjective but the bottom line is that deep inside there is this peace you have and our mothers in their 60s will relate to this.

Toks God bless you for dishing out the truth back to back and I hope nland mods bring more of your threads to the front page cos your frank threads are indeed insightful.

Sophyrocks:


I dnt care what you think of my comment. As you can see, many have stated their opinions however they deem fit. If a man who has failed woefully in his marriage comes here to spew jargons deluding himself to think he is some counsellor, we have every right to address his hypocrisy! So My dear, face yourfront and dnt quote me if you have absolutely nothing to say!!!!! All men backing the op, your karma is just getting started.

Why I'm taking time out to defend this particular write up is because I have a sis who is almost 40 yet single after two failed marriages due to the same cheating thingy so wait until you are about 10years into marriage and come back to comment.

Bye and have a great sunday

mizcyn:
you just lied. They were never at peace. Go back and do a sampling.

Is there peace anywhere in the world or in any marriage?

Go and do your findings and you will be amazed that no marriage is perfect.


The bottom line is that endurance in this instance can pass for the happiness and even peace in marriage.

The day my mum of almost 70 years sat me down to tell me stories about her life with my late dad I was like O.M.G yet while growing up I had no clue as they always joked and played together.

My mum said she cared less cos she had more important things to face.

I pity young ladies today who want to die over a cheating hubby cos they will die and the man will continue with his life almost immediately.

wrongnumber:



Here we go again. Anyways there is nothing like jargons cos it has no plural. Jargon is jargon.

Secondly I would like to know these.

Are you married? If No then apologize to the OP cos you need to get married for at least 5 years before you can have the impetus to call out someone over a failed marriage.

I would also like you to answer these questions.

1.If you ever find yourself in marriage with a man who cheats would you leave him for a mistress to come take over your home?

If you eventually go into another marriage and the guy cheats again would you also leave and continue leaving until you grow so old and used due to trial and error?

Why I'm taking time out to defend this particular write up is because I have a sis who is almost 40 yet single after two failed marriages due to the same cheating thingy.

Look sis..I presume you are still too naive to relative with this piece hence your anger bug wait until you are about 10years into marriage and come back to comment.

Bye and have a great sunday

why should you ask me stupid questions? what is my business with your 40 yr old sister? why cant you give all these your silly advice to women with no brains and no future? why are you expecting every woman to act like robots? when your wife cheats on you, what do you do? When you divorce her what is the guarantee that the next woman will be better? Ask yourself. Anything i want to do to a cheating man i will do it! If i leave him for other unfortunate women to suffer what i suffered or swallow stds from him, is that supposed to be a loss? why do you think the op's wife left him? Good riddance. why do you think most widows fare better alone? Women are no longer afraid to walk away except those who have no finances. You think men are gold? You better pray your wife does not bring other men's children for you to train.

So what's the point of marriage to a woman ,she is to endure all and have long years of marriage all for endurance. Why not give her kids and go ur way. Since you have a healthy appetite. So she can live her life and not have to endure all you put up. Marriage is hard work then adding disrespect. Pain and disillusionment is something else

wrongnumber:


Is there peace anywhere in the world or in any marriage?

Go and do your findings and you will be amazed that no marriage is perfect.


The bottom line is that endurance in this instance can pass for the happiness and even peace in marriage.

The day my mum of almost 70 years sat me down to tell me stories about her life with my late dad I was like O.M.G yet while growing up I had no clue as they always joked and played together.

My mum said she cared less cos she had more important things to face.

I pity young ladies today who want to die over a cheating hubby cos they will die and the man will continue with his life almost immediately.

also ask your mum the important things she faced and how they made her happy?and let her tell you those days and nights she cried her hearts out while you were sleeping and how she turned to church activities for comfort. Mothers are known to shield their children from thier pains. Ask her till she tells you?

wrongnumber:


Is there peace anywhere in the world or in any marriage?

Go and do your findings and you will be amazed that no marriage is perfect.


The bottom line is that endurance in this instance can pass for the happiness and even peace in marriage.

The day my mum of almost 70 years sat me down to tell me stories about her life with my late dad I was like O.M.G yet while growing up I had no clue as they always joked and played together.

My mum said she cared less cos she had more important things to face.

I pity young ladies today who want to die over a cheating hubby cos they will die and the man will continue with his life almost immediately.

Wrong Advise.. Few guys like me don't cheat , so why will my wife need such advice

cococandy:
I'm really dumbing it down because you clearly aren't smart. But I've lost a good number of brain cells engaging your empty-headed p3nis-totting self.

Any further and I may permanently lose my ability to reason like you. so ciao

Hahahahaha. Na small boy now. His hormones are still raging. At his age, all he thinks about is s.ex and hoes. No future ambition. His type full nairaland.

mizcyn:
also ask your mum the important things she faced and how they made her happy?and let her tell you those days and nights she cried her hearts out while you were sleeping and how she turned to church activities for comfort. Mothers are known to shield their children from thier pains. Ask her till she tells you?

My mum was full of joy and she still proudly talks about it.

Continue to compare yourself with the malefolk if that rocks your boat. Abeg e do.

oshorstan:
Wrong Advise.. Few guys like me don't cheat , so why will my wife need such advice

Wrong advise because you don't cheat but is it also a wrong advise for women who have cheating hubbies? Oh I guess the op ought to ask them to leave their marriage to start sleeping around like sluts or start indulging in the act of self sex with toys or turn to lesbos?

Hahahah. I said ask her not assume

wrongnumber:



My mum was full of joy and she still proudly talks about it.

Continue to compare yourself with the malefolk if that rocks your boat. Abeg e do.

mizcyn:
Hahahah. I said ask her not assume

Do you think he will want to wash his family's linen in public? How many men in this thread will agree that their mum suffered due to infidelity? This is why its good for young men to have good fathers that lead by example.

Exactly. They are making the same mistakes as thier fathers and expecting a different result. Let one of them truly ask his mother how she truly felt. Then come back and post

Sophyrocks:


Do you think he will want to wash his family's linen in public? How many men in this thread will agree that their mum suffered due to infidelity? This is why its good for young men to have good fathers that lead by example.

Such a rotten mentality.

Youngpo413:
yeah, the broke and ugly ones.

mizcyn:
Exactly. They are making the same mistakes as thier fathers and expecting a different result. Let one of them truly ask his mother how she truly felt. Then come back and post

Dnt mind them. It is only what their fathers taught them that they know. Nothing else. They keep lamenting that today's ladies are not like their mothers yet they are still fantasizing and wishing the ladies will automatically change into their mothers with the same suffering and smiling mentality. Why are they deceiving themselves?

cindyrocks:
Such a rotten mentality.

INCASE you believe you are too cute for a man to cheat on you then you need to go out and see super drop dead hot chic who are single and ready to mingle.

It's so amazing that women want a man who will be faithful to them alone yet will have eyes for a man other ladies want.

Strange people...if you want a faithful man please go for an ugly short broke guy.End of discussion.

hohafrank:
Do you know most pastors cheat? Christianity or no Christianity who will cheat will cheat. So that one is very correct.

my dear, nowadays we have pastors who actually are not pastors.
Just same way we have christians who are christians for application forms etc

Let me clarify the point of the O.P. No man in his right sense would go through the rigour of carefully selecting a woman out of the many women in this world only for him to start cheating on her in whatever form. What I said before and what the O.P corroborated is that he doesn't encourage cheating. But if it so happens that the man cheats, let it go for the sake of the marriage. Nobody has justified cheating. If the woman also makes the mistake, same rule should apply. We are talking about rare occurrences.

Sophyrocks:


Small boy still living in a fantasy world! Allow a man who could not save his marriage to fill your head with fantasies. You cheat on a female and think she will just be looking at you. You better pray you dnt end up with a woman that will decorate your body parts with hot water or acid or cut off your d1ck or even pour all sorts of disgusting concoctions in the food you eat for each time you cheat. Or dnt you hear what women are doing now?The op is just deceiving all of you. Keep patting yourselves in the back. una never see anything. you guys have no idea what goes on right under your nose. You have no idea the breed of women we have now. They are nothing like your mothers so be prepared. Nigerian women will continue to surprise you men.They will bring other men's children for you to train. Karma is just getting started on all yall.

as if you could help yourself.

Cheating is bad. Men find every reason to justify their cheating. I can't go into marriage with the idea that my husband will definitely cheat and be happy about it. No, I disagree with number 1. Unfortunately, most Ladies have accepted that men must cheat and have adapted to it. Please Ladies, let's us do away with such myopic mindset. Don't take such nonsense from a man.

JustHere2Observ:


What is this one saying? Please dont quote me if you are not going to make sense.

P.S. I'm married.

you are making any sense, so swerve, just go and Bleep your imaginary husband.

JustHere2Observ:


What is this one saying? Please dont quote me if you are not going to make sense.

P.S. I'm married.

I doubt if you are married for real cos married women are always sensible but you the direct opposite.

Youngpo413:
you are making any sense, so swerve, just go and Bleep your imaginary husband.

You are so rude and uncouth. No home training whatsoever.