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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Lexusgs430: 8:16am On Sep 27, 2016
A condom is very very cheap. Use it for future headaches and heartaches.
I would not think less of a lady that offers me condom, before sex (my own condom too would be on standby) Condom jam Condom (oya fire down)...............
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by carammel(f): 8:16am On Sep 27, 2016
All these useless guys with low or zero sperm count be forming boss blaming a girl for their misfortune.
I can bet it 90% that the guy is the problem here, has he ever impregnated any girl? if No then he should check himself. Olosious.

That's how I caught my friend's husband at a fertility clinic without his wife,he was there for treatment to boost his sperm count after heaping all blames on my friend that she's barren,he even went ahead to try two other girls and none got pregnant for him,Nigeria and bias,like my friend too can go try some other guy outside just to get pregnant. I know his secret but I can't tell my friend so I won't break their home but I may just have to do that anonymously someday soon. Five years of her life with an impotent man and his low understanding family is the height of wickedness.


Mttttccccchhheeewwww.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by KevinDein: 8:20am On Sep 27, 2016
IyfeNamikaze:


oga one very important thing I just learnt from this thread is that 90% of the girls here have done an abortion at least 2 times.
you might not be far from the truth, man. Funnily enough, you see these ladies on the streets with angelic faces and smiles not knowing these bunch are capable of murdering an innocent baby in the afternoon and then go to bed at night, sleep like a baby without an ounce of remorse.

I know better now.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by jamalnation(m): 8:20am On Sep 27, 2016
Are u talking to me ?
canDy4eva:
Will u keep quiet??
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Nobody: 8:22am On Sep 27, 2016
fullofregrets:
I am full of regrets and I feel so suicidal right now , I am really depressed




Babe, stick around and watch the moment this man walked out on you become one of your life's biggest blessings. Allow God remove the things in your life He knows to be of little value and build your mind for the greater things you deserve. He loves you and He is taking care of you. Trust that.

A popular fictional character says that "....the strongest relationships are built on the decency of merciful lies.." and maybe they are, but there's nothing as liberating as telling the truth. You can always rest easy after that. Your honesty is commendable but he obviously doesn't deserve you and you shouldn't be with someone who wavers in testing times. So, stop insisting on weeds when God has determined a rose for you. Pick yourself up and move on, your road winds up further still.....have the courage to wait on what's yours.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by CSTR2: 8:23am On Sep 27, 2016
VikingsOO7:

calm Your nerves and don't let Your emotions cloud Your reasoning. Abortion is not Ebola, You will never know provided the procedure was carried out successfully.

You don't go about announcing it to the whole world You've had an abortion, when its of no use.

Same way You don't start telling Your wife how many women You've slept with. Its of no use, makes zero sense.

And oh, my advise is not "devilish". cheesy It's just common sense.

Case closed.
Calm my nerves? You must really be deluded if you think i care about some online opinion.
When did the husband became the ''world''? It is like a man having a child with someone else and then hiding the fact from the wife before marriage. Anyway, that is your business. Even the comparism you used in your analogy is laughable and you know it.
Anybody that follows your advise is on her own. We all face the consequences of our actions anyway.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by JeffreyJamez(m): 8:24am On Sep 27, 2016
Laveda:


Mehn.. Best on this thread.

Kudos!

Its not everything you tell a man cause you love him, especially when you don't know how he reacts to some issues.


Seriously? undecided
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Funjosh(m): 8:25am On Sep 27, 2016
VikingsOO7:


Then why did You tell him bout Your abortion? To make him love You more or what biko?

Some things are better left unsaid.




That is it. If the guy open his own mouth about his past May the ladyfor don find her square roots tey tey.




But on the other side their are somethings we just have to bottled up as long as we no it will jeopardize our happiness its better they are left not said at all.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by danbrowndmf(m): 8:25am On Sep 27, 2016
Laveda:


Mehn.. Best on this thread.

Kudos!

Its not everything you tell a man cause you love him, especially when you don't know how he reacts to some issues.
This is where you get it all wrong.That dude is not meant for her at all.if the dude truely luvs her he will allow the past to stay in the past. She should be happy sef that all these things happened before marriage. And why do you think the guy won't find out later? Is it not in this nigeria where we have heavy men of God who has a gift of word of wisdom to see things? The truth is THAT GUY IS NOT MEANT FOR HER. Her husband will come and so pregnancy will come too.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Laveda(f): 8:28am On Sep 27, 2016
JeffreyJamez:



Seriously? undecided

Yup, seriously!
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Antina(f): 8:29am On Sep 27, 2016
adedayoa2:
Maybe the woman wey abort cuz of the guy never still born for her own home. Abortion these days no be like those days, Women wey commit am these days dey born. Make God help person ni A friend that did 7 before marriage dey born anyhow. So my dear I'm not here to ask if your womb Don commot, mbaa, but I know you will definitely get married.

That is why its not too good to fall in for what others are doing, even ur twins, cos what works well for A might not for B.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by chudez0147(m): 8:29am On Sep 27, 2016
fullofregrets:
thanks nairalanders , I appreciate all you have said , but I love this man so much , and I never expected him to throw me off like this , he's the person I will stand with in time of troubles , I mean worst troubles I can imagined, my worst fear is that he's not giving me chance to do the right thing , even with all he did , I still love and heart him so much , I still hope he comes back to me
sorry sister. If I may ask, what about the guy you aborted for ?
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by sheddy03: 8:30am On Sep 27, 2016
am seeing the hand of God in all this. the man wants the woman to get pregnant b4 he will marry her, abomination in the sight of God.
God may have forgiven the lady her past sins(fornication/abortion), and now premarital. I think God is not happy with all their plans and setups.
for now, just give up and move on. pray for forgiveness and for God to lead the right man to you. surely, when you do the right thing, in your matrimonial home you will take in.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Laveda(f): 8:30am On Sep 27, 2016
danbrowndmf:
This is where you get it all wrong.That dude is not meant for her at all.if the dude truely luvs her he will allow the past to stay in the past. She should be happy sef that all these things happened before marriage. And why do you think the guy won't find out later? Is it not in this nigeria where we have heavy men of God who has a gift of word of wisdom to see things? The truth is THAT GUY IS NOT MEANT FOR HER. Her husband will come and so pregnancy will come too.

Lol what man of God?

See some men are very bad at handling truth, I still feel she shouldn't have..
Its in the past, better left there.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by teacherbim(f): 8:33am On Sep 27, 2016
ItsQuinn:
suicidal thoughts because of a man? sad ....you are a disgrace to womanhood undecided

So annoying
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by chenor(f): 8:33am On Sep 27, 2016
Op please stop being full of regrets. Instead be grateful that you didn't enter one chance with him
You aborted. Fine the deed has been done. Ask God for forgiveness. He will forgive you. Praise him that your fiance left you cuz a better man is ahead waiting for you.
Why would he tell you to get pregnant in the first place. That's childish after then you have will still wed in church. It doesn't make sense. You guys don't deserve each other. He isn't a saint either. For him to say get pregnant first. He isn't one. Run away please. You don't know the evils he'd has committed..
For those of us condemning her. Did you ask her why she aborted?. Do you know if she was raped by an armed robber or maybe the pregnancy had issues that she had to save her life. You guys will be talking and condemning.. Shuu as if una holy pass. If people should open your can of worms ehn. Person fit die as e see them..
.
Poster. Abeg thank God, you should be happy your dad was against it at first. He saw it all. Every disappointment is a blessing.
Send a text to your now ex fiance thanking him for everything and move on. Don't call him. Block him on social media, relocate and start a new life. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. At least you told the truth and it has set you free from troubles in the future.

God bless you

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by ccollins(m): 8:36am On Sep 27, 2016
fullofregrets:




my dear , you are right ,
we learn everyday ,
sometimes in just a hard way ,
I just wish he can give me chance to make things right again , but he refused to hear my pleas, he said he's fed up , and ready to find another girl , and impregnate her , well I can only wish him luck , am not bad either , God will surely send my own husband and children my way , I moved on already ,
U know an abortionist is sort of a muderer, what made U do that and hope you repented on it
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Ekeseges(f): 8:39am On Sep 27, 2016
fullofregrets:
I am full of regrets and I feel so suicidal right now , I am really depressed

My sister pls pray and move on with your life.that guy doesnt love you,becos if he does he wont mind abt the abortion because ur womb is intact.may be he isn't meant for you.it is better a relationship breaks than marriage.God comfort you but nvr take your life.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Ekeseges(f): 8:41am On Sep 27, 2016
chudez0147:
sorry sister. If I may ask, what about the guy you aborted for ?
Stupid question you ask.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Reki760: 8:42am On Sep 27, 2016
My dear, do not worry yourself for life is too short to be bothered
about things that doesn't worth it. If truly the guy loves you like said, he will never ask you to get pregnant before marriage or leave you simply because you let him know about your past. Everyone have a dark history, no one is an angel. Just let him be for he is not the rightful man for you. And thank God for revelling his fake pretence of love towards you, cause such person will surely leave you when situation change when you get married tomorrow cause no one can predict what will happen in future. Be prayerful and seek God first in everything you do.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Ekeseges(f): 8:43am On Sep 27, 2016
chenor:
Op please stop being full of regrets. Instead be grateful that you didn't enter one chance with him
You aborted. Fine the deed has been done. Ask God for forgiveness. He will forgive you. Praise him that your fiance left you cuz a better man is ahead waiting for you.
Why would he tell you to get pregnant in the first place. That's childish after then you have will still wed in church. It doesn't make sense. You guys don't deserve each other. He isn't a saint either. For him to say get pregnant first. He isn't one. Run away please. You don't know the evils he'd has committed..
For those of us condemning her. Did you ask her why she aborted?. Do you know if she was raped by an armed robber or maybe the pregnancy had issues that she had to save her life. You guys will be talking and condemning.. Shuu as if una holy pass. If people should open your can of worms ehn. Person fit die as e see them..
.
Poster. Abeg thank God, you should be happy your dad was against it at first. He saw it all. Every disappointment is a blessing.
Send a text to your now ex fiance thanking him for everything and move on. Don't call him. Block him on social media, relocate and start a new life. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. At least you told the truth and it has set you free from troubles in the future.

God bless you
Thanks for the post my sister.dont mind all these holier than thou nairalanders as if they are perfect beings.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by HardMirror(m): 8:44am On Sep 27, 2016
CAPSLOCKED:




BUT SHEY THE GUYS ARE IN CHARGE OF MAKING THE GIRLS PREGNANT? smiley

IF AS A GUY YOU DON'T DEPOSIT THAT FLUID IN YO GIRL THERE AIN'T NO WAY SHE GONNA GET PREGNANT IN THE FIRST PLACE.

AND EVEN IF THERE'S A MISTAKE DUE TO YOUR OWN CARELESSNESS AND SHE GETS PREGNANT, IF YOU TELL HER TO KEEP IT, THAT YOU'RE READY TO TAKE THE RESPONSIBILITY... FOR REAL, NO SANE GIRL WILL THINK OF KILLING AN UNBORN CHILD.


WHEN POINTING FINGERS, WE ONLY LOOK AT ONE SIDE.
BE BLAMED THE GIRLS FOR BEING RAPED, FOR BEING SINGLE, FOR BEING BARREN, FOR GETTING MOLESTED, FOR GETTING PREGNANT,... FOR EVEN BEING LADIES IN THE FIRST PLACE.

HABA IS THE LOAD NOT TOO MUCH ALREADY?
I am not putting the blame on ladies alone. Anyone that aborts is simply an IRRESPONSIBLE person, BOTH THE LADY AND DUDE. I will not mix words on it. They are fvcking irresponsible!
it is appalling to expect the guy to just overlook that and go ahead to marry her. I hate the assumption ladies are portraying here that the dude is as guilty as the lady. He has a right to kick her out of his life, she shld go and marry the dude she aborted for.
If they like they shld not learn, keep spreading their legs for boys that won't take responsibility when the baby pops in.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by KevMitnick: 8:45am On Sep 27, 2016
fullofregrets, I want you to put yourself in his position, how would you have reacted? Give him some time to cool off. He is feeling betrayed, he's probably been betrayed before, hence his request that you get pregnant first. Don't feel bad, just wait and see. And all these people saying he is a fake and pretentious man don't understand human behavior. You should be more worried if he didn't react to your confession this way because he may be planning something even more sinister for you. So his reaction is pretty normal for a man who loved you genuinely, and don't forget that he is a part of a larger family so his decisions may be influenced by those he respects. Just give him time, pray to God to soften his heart and don't bother Contacting him to beg, it will aggravate the matter.
We all make mistakes, some come back to haunt us in the future. Even if God has forgiven us already, we may still need to bare the consequences of our deeds.
Even if nothing happens, don't give up on love, someone will come along.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by HardMirror(m): 8:48am On Sep 27, 2016
MrPresident1:

Una see them, smh.
goingape1 and hardmirror, make una come see them o angry
Useless girls all around. By their comments you shall know them.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by trapQ: 8:48am On Sep 27, 2016
You have no point.
Emu4life:
Lol! Funny comment. Its obvious to all dat xtianity always bend to d will of man. infact, it came after Jesus...so u even have GUTS to say peadophile religion? Well, let me reserve my Comment cuz i dnt wanna HURT even a FLY DZ morning...but my comments ar true, u can go any lenght to confirm. SHALOM
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by iguita: 8:49am On Sep 27, 2016
Did you say you revealed your secret to him? Or you told him when there seemed to be a problem? If you had told him before you started trying to get pregnant then it is a different thing Entirely

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by HardMirror(m): 8:49am On Sep 27, 2016
MrPresident1:

Una see them, smh.
goingape1 and hardmirror, make una come see them o angry
Useless girls all around. By their comments you shall know them.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by teacherbim(f): 8:50am On Sep 27, 2016
fullofregrets:
thanks nairalanders , I appreciate all you have said , but I love this man so much , and I never expected him to throw me off like this , he's the person I will stand with in time of troubles , I mean worst troubles I can imagined, my worst fear is that he's not giving me chance to do the right thing , even with all he did , I still love and heart him so much , I still hope he comes back to me

Ayaah! I don't think he is the type that forgive even if he comes back he would use it against you.Be strong
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by Ekeseges(f): 8:51am On Sep 27, 2016
gymnasium:
girls and abortion.....................be like bread and akara............... grin grin grin
boys and sponsoring of abortion be like bread and akara.
Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by teacherbim(f): 8:51am On Sep 27, 2016
vivaciousvivi:

Clearly u failed to grasp the content of my comment.
Dude, nevermind. I refuse to argue pointlessly.

At all you don't need it joor

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by CAPSLOCKED: 8:55am On Sep 27, 2016
HardMirror:

I am not putting the blame on ladies alone. Anyone that aborts is simply an IRRESPONSIBLE person, BOTH THE LADY AND DUDE. I will not mix words on it. They are fvcking irresponsible!
it is appalling to expect the guy to just overlook that and go ahead to marry her. I hate the assumption ladies are portraying here that the dude is as guilty as the lady. He has a right to kick her out of his life, she shld go and marry the dude she aborted for.

If they like they shld not learn, keep spreading their legs for boys that won't take responsibility when the baby pops in.




WHAT HAPPENED TO FORGIVENESS, TOLERANCE..... LOVE?

AT LEAST SHE'S HONEST ENOUGH TO ADMIT SHE MESSED UP. SO YOU'LL PREFER SHE DON'T TELL YOU ABOUT IT AND THEN GO AHEAD WITH THE MARRIAGE?
MOST LADIES TODAY ARE SERPENTS, THEY NEVER COME OUT PLAIN. ALL TERRIBLE DECEIVERS.

IF I FIND A LADY LIKE THAT I'LL KEEP HER, AND TRUST HER.

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Re: My Fiance Is Leaving Me , Cause I Let Out My Painful And Biggest Secrets To Him by DukeNija(m): 8:55am On Sep 27, 2016
fullofregrets:
well I have done everything necessary , my
womb is okay and intact

I am truly sorry about your situation. Thank God you are okay. Please you did the right thing because he would have left you even after marriage if he finds out about the abortion. If you are a Christian just look onto God and he will bring your own man to you.

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