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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 5:48am On Oct 04, 2016
Mtcheew, Divorce ain't a word to spew around lightly...You think you would find a much better mum for your kids d@ easily cos you feel there are plenty fishes in the river? Ok go ahead and marry a new 21 year old cutie let's see how it works out...ppl be thinking the grass is always greener. grin
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by drnoel: 5:48am On Oct 04, 2016
EfemenaXY:
Mtcheeew!!

You want to divorce her anyway - this is just an excuse. So go ahead make we hear word.

P.S: Aren't you the same guy who was peeved because his wife wouldn't share her toiletries with??

Gbam!

Ps: let me call the urgent attention of all OPs and post writers on Nairaland. NLer are very observant and will never forget a slight or whatever you did or said in the past. Just like the Miranda it could be used against you in the future.

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 5:50am On Oct 04, 2016
Amelian:
Op. u want to divorce your wife who bore two healthy kids because she lied about age.? I swear u r not serious.. U want to divorce her before, fucvk this age thing u r saying.. She's fertile, she appears young, if not for certificates u won't have known..

My guy u no serious...
If u know since the day u were born, uv never lied before? Thru dating and now married to her, uv not lied at all... Then by all means go ahead and divorce.

But remember . Karma is waiting for u calmly later in life... Smhhh..

Dey divorce nah.

When men brag about divorce over little things it's so annoying..


you are biased, why don't you condemn the wife's action then proceed to calm hi
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by odogwu9(m): 5:50am On Oct 04, 2016
nickxtra:
My marriage to my wife is facing a serious challenge, after I discovered from my wife's WAEC certificate, that the date of her birth on the result is 6 years more than what she told me and what has been in all her non academic documents, including her C.V. Actually, i have seen all her academic certificates, including her NYSC discharge certificate, but never saw her S.S.C.E and FSLC results that normally bear dates of birth. Each time i ask her for them in order to compile all the credentials for job application purposes, she would tell me that her WAEC, NECO and primary school results are in a box, with her mum in thier home town; that she would ask her mum to bring them. I gnomo her mum lager came with them for her.

Eventually, a serious sure job came for which i would need these credentials to forward to the organization. She gave me the WAEC result with the excuse that age forgot the NECO and FSLC in her current office, which she promised to bring. Lol and behold! What i saw on the WAEC result is a date of birth 6 years higher than what she told me and what is in her C.Vs.

I called her attention and she started giving me excuses that hold no water. She is saying that the same DOB were erroneously registerd for her when, perhaps they were registering her for both WAEC and NECO. That when the results came out and she noticed the errors, she complained and applied to correct same, but since then, the exam authorities have not corrected them. I have not come to terms with the this discovery. I think this may cause us peace, thrust and love in pur marriage.

My brothers and sisters, i think am contemplating of what action to take against her and am contemplating a divorce, but our two children are still very small for this. I want to report this issue to her family and mine. Am gradually withdrawing my trust for her.

I need matured advice and suggestions that will see me through this.
You want to divorce your wife because she lied about her age on waec n ssce credentials..seriously r u for real.do u really knw what love and marriage is ? I guess u don't..divorcing that woman will be your greatest regret and u wil leave to regret it..if u eventually do,pls let her go with the kids. I will leave you this line-He who has no sin pr hasn't committed likewise pls cast the first stone....your wife has made an error she will need to work hard to regain ur trust but u r about to throw away a good thing..trust me

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by kuntash: 5:53am On Oct 04, 2016
She lied about her age ...and it's in social media it has to be shared and settled ..

Nonsense !

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Forwetinnah: 5:53am On Oct 04, 2016
xtervaganza:
Here's ni ined to divorce her if she's a good person. But she must tell you the truth 1st before you forgive her



As for those mouthing nonsense about him getting over it; are you guys Ok? What if it's not his ting to do older women?( Some people hate it so much the thoughts of it will make them vomit) . Dkbt just talk nonsense because you can live with it. Not everybody can deal with it and if he decides to divorce her he wouldn't be wrong.






If she was that old and repulsive, would he have married her? Why hasn't he been throwing up before she gave birth to 2kids? See what you're saying. Fine..she told a lie and he found out, he should move on. For him to like her enough to get married to her means she looks younger than her age..so what's the big deal? For all we know he might also be a liar but has not reported his lies for judgement and you're holding brief for him? Some of you guys are just unbelievable

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Runyi74: 5:54am On Oct 04, 2016
My guy forgive her, maybe she doesn't want to loose you. After all age is just a number.

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Forwetinnah: 5:57am On Oct 04, 2016
kuntash:
She lied about her age ...and it's in social media it has to be shared and settled ..

Nonsense !

I taya!! The crop of boys that get married these days, Tufiakwa! No wonder marriages don't last...over grown babies everywhere getting married for some shady reasons and then making excuses when they don't get what they actually thought they would get. I think this man is hiding the actual reason why he wants a divorce, there's more to this story than he's telling

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 5:57am On Oct 04, 2016
Amelian:
Op. u want to divorce your wife who bore two healthy kids because she lied about age.? I swear u r not serious.. U want to divorce her before, fucvk this age thing u r saying.. She's fertile, she appears young, if not for certificates u won't have known..

My guy u no serious...
If u know since the day u were born, uv never lied before? Thru dating and now married to her, uv not lied at all... Then by all means go ahead and divorce.

But remember . Karma is waiting for u calmly later in life... Smhhh..

Dey divorce nah.

When men brag about divorce over little things it's so annoying..


you are biased, why don't you condemn the wife's action then proceed to calm him down. ..women ehh

if a lady should scam your brother that way I'm sure you'll be the first amongst to shame her
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by DesChyko: 5:59am On Oct 04, 2016
nickxtra:
My brothers and sisters, i think am contemplating of what action to take against her..

I think you should wake her up anytime between one and four at night, hold her hand and tell her what you need to tell her.

Inviting third parties, I don't see the reason for that.

That's a strong word you used up there. She's an investment, you don't take actions against your investments. Whatever happens, you lose.
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Gudfrie(m): 6:00am On Oct 04, 2016
nickxtra:
My marriage to my wife is facing a serious challenge, after I discovered from my wife's WAEC certificate, that the date of her birth on the result is 6 years more than what she told and what has been in all her non academic documents, including her C.V. Actually, i have seen all her academic certificates, including her NYSC discharge certificate, but never saw her S.S.C.E and FSLC results that normally bear dates of birth. Each time i ask her for them in order to compile all the credentials for job application purposes, she would tell me that her WAEC, NECO and primary school results are in a box, with her mum in thier home town; that she would ask her mum to bring them. I gnomo her mum lager came with them for her.

Eventually, a serious sure job came for which i would need these credentials to forward to the organization. She gave me the WAEC result with the excuse that age forgot the NECO and FSLC in her current office, which she promised to bring. Lol and behold! What i saw on the WAEC result is a date of birth 6 years higher than what she told me and what is in her C.Vs.

I called her attention and she started giving me excuses that hold no water. She is saying that the same DOB were erroneously registerd for her when, perhaps they were registering her for both WAEC and NECO. That when the results came out and she noticed the errors, she complained and applied to correct same, but since then, the exam authorities have not corrected them. I have not come to terms with the this discovery. I think this may cause us peace, thrust and love in pur marriage.

My brothers and sisters, i think am contemplating of what action to take against her and am contemplating a divorce, but our two children are still very small for this. I want to report this issue to her family and mine. Am gradually withdrawing my trust for her.

I need matured advice and suggestions that will see me through this.
It shows you don't love her if you are contemplating a divorce and issues like this need to be dealt with within two of you.taking it outside will bring less and shame of you

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Yeligray(m): 6:01am On Oct 04, 2016
Age jumper... But seriously bro. I think you have been nursing divorce for long...i think you don't trust ur wife.

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 6:01am On Oct 04, 2016
ItsQuinn:
Lots of childish Nigerian men everywhere undecided
just because he discovered the wife lied to her?...why not condemn the wife and help the guy sort himself out...how some of you ladies reason is what I don't understand

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 6:01am On Oct 04, 2016
why did she do that[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Feanah(f): 6:01am On Oct 04, 2016
Lol,now that I've read the mistress story,the situation isn't even that bad.You're no saint either,I thought you were being the best you can to her.If she really lied about her age,you should think of how you cheated or still cheat on her too;very very bad.Sort it out,and you both work on your shortcomings.
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 6:02am On Oct 04, 2016
why did she
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by daddyabdul: 6:05am On Oct 04, 2016
marriage is greater than age circle...marriage is all about trust, understanding,comfort....once u r comfortable with ur life partner u should be able to develop a shock absorb-er that will absorb all d negative things dat wil arise in d future.
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by phenase(m): 6:06am On Oct 04, 2016
*TEN (10) GOLDEN SECRETS OF MARRIAGE:*

*TO THOSE WHO ARE MARRIED AND/OR ARE PREPARING TO GET MARRIED SOON*

1. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS*

Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse's weakness, you can't get the best out of his/her strength.


2. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY*

No one is an Angel, therefore, avoid digging one's past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. try to forgive and forget. The past can't be change. So Focus on the present and the future!


3. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT'S OWN CHALLENGES*

Marriage is not bed of roses. Every shinning marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day!


4. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS*

Don't compare your marriage with anyone! We can never be equal, some will be far in front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true.


5. *TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR*

When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are: Ignorance, Prayerlessness, Unforgiveness, Adultery, Third Party Influence, Stinginess, Stubbornness, Lack Of Love, Rudeness, Wife battery, Laziness, Divorce etc. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.


6. *THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE*

There is no ready made marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like a CAR with Gear oil, gear box, back hassles and If this parts are not properly maintained, the car will brake down somewhere along the road and exposing the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. - Many of us are careless about our marriage... Are you? If you are, pls pay attention to your marriage.

7. *GOD CANNOT GIVE YOU THE COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE*

He (God) gives you, him or her in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould what you desire. You may desire a woman who can pray for 1 hours but your wife can only pray for 30 minutes. With your love, prayer and encouragement, she can improve.

8. *TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK*

You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, as situation may change, so, leave a room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years. You may get marry to her because she's slim but she becomes 100% fatter after a child. He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. But with God by your side, you will smile at last.


9. *MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS PERMANENT*

Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce! Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married! God hates divorce


10. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY*

Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdrawn. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.

May God Give You The Grace And Wisdom To Build A Heaven on Earth Marriage.
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 6:09am On Oct 04, 2016
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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Sylverbox(m): 6:09am On Oct 04, 2016
chuksbogus2001:
All those that comment didn't address the issue at hand .you guys are absolving the wife of any wrong doing making it look like the guy I not suppose to feel bad after finding out this.what is there are other things this guy is yet to find out.I expect people to first condemn the wife for lying to the husband .in fact she deceived the guy into the marriage.if the guy is aware of the age then he can make an inform decision .

Now ,op I know u are feeling bad about this but you have to put urself together.has she not been a food wife to u? remember her good attributes and forgive her. I guess she did it cos she doesn't want to loose u.
Wisdom oozes off this comment of yours! Thank you Sir.
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Develpeast: 6:13am On Oct 04, 2016
I just found out that we have so many issues in this country and most are not from the government. People talk and think like kindergarten kids. See how they turned everything against him that its a trivial issue. Many people will surely die due to trivial issues. Major investigations see their breakthrough through simple lies because one lie is a squeezer of trust. One simple lie can destroy a contract. One simple lie can lead to mass-sack.

The commenters supporting the lying woman cannot and should not be seen in public offices and places of high repute. It would have been better they pasted names and pictures of such people online. They lack the capacity to deal with critical issues the way it should be dealt with. They should be kept in obscurity. Facing their own whack view of life.

Nickxtra, please feel cheated and angry that she lied this much. 6years isn't six days, my brother. Use this opportunity to ask more questions and fully truth of other lies she might have been dishing out since day 1. Assess those lies and see if you can move on with the marriage because I know you won't be able to consume another strong pill of lies again.

Age falsification wey dem use pursue person from presidency position, these olorikorobas de use am play.

I no know how I be Nigerian sef, kawai

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by doveda: 6:17am On Oct 04, 2016
This issue is not a trivial issue o. I wonder why people are making it so.
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by gbagyiza: 6:20am On Oct 04, 2016
Its a normal thing with ladies always hiding their real age. They don't wnt you to say they r old...so, probably if she told u b4 u marry her, she is afraid that u may quit n she don't want to loose u . bro cheer up if u love her that's nothing in my opinion, you just need to give her a strong warning that's all.
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Petroking: 6:21am On Oct 04, 2016
Nickxtra so na because of age cheat u wan divorce your wife... I guess there is something else you r not saying.. Because to me lies create faults in a marriage but it all depends on both party.. The ability to solve issues without involving the general public in your family private affairs .... This issue is small, please no matter how hurt u may feel.. Address your issue within your family n please do not immediately think of a divorce when issue arises as that will add much more fuel to a burning furnace.. May God help you and give you the wisdom to be able to manage your home without much difficulty. Bless you






nickxtra:
My marriage to my wife is facing a serious challenge, after I discovered from my wife's WAEC certificate, that the date of her birth on the result is 6 years more than what she told me and what has been in all her non academic documents, including her C.V. Actually, i have seen all her academic certificates, including her NYSC discharge certificate, but never saw her S.S.C.E and FSLC results that normally bear dates of birth. Each time i ask her for them in order to compile all the credentials for job application purposes, she would tell me that her WAEC, NECO and primary school results are in a box, with her mum in thier home town; that she would ask her mum to bring them. I gnomo her mum lager came with them for her.

Eventually, a serious sure job came for which i would need these credentials to forward to the organization. She gave me the WAEC result with the excuse that age forgot the NECO and FSLC in her current office, which she promised to bring. Lol and behold! What i saw on the WAEC result is a date of birth 6 years higher than what she told me and what is in her C.Vs.

I called her attention and she started giving me excuses that hold no water. She is saying that the same DOB were erroneously registerd for her when, perhaps they were registering her for both WAEC and NECO. That when the results came out and she noticed the errors, she complained and applied to correct same, but since then, the exam authorities have not corrected them. I have not come to terms with the this discovery. I think this may cause us peace, thrust and love in pur marriage.

My brothers and sisters, i think am contemplating of what action to take against her and am contemplating a divorce, but our two children are still very small for this. I want to report this issue to her family and mine. Am gradually withdrawing my trust for her.

I need matured advice and suggestions that will see me through this.
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by basadenet: 6:24am On Oct 04, 2016
I can understand how you feel right but that does warrant you to divorce her unless there are other underlining issues.
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by just2endowed: 6:27am On Oct 04, 2016
I remembered in my campus life. There was a girl in my department, been eyeing her. Later we chat and chat and told her I am interested in her. She agreed but within months she saw my forms and get worried and ask my real age. I told her and discovered she's like 11month older than me. She dissolved the relationship instantly. I begged and begged and told her she still look young. She told me she can't date someone younger that she need a man older.

All my 2 weeks plea was turn down on that basis of "what will people say"

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Praktikals(m): 6:28am On Oct 04, 2016
nickxtra:

I need matured advice and suggestions that will see me through this.
You asked for it, now have it.
chuksbogus2001:
All those that comment didn't address the issue at hand .you guys are absolving the wife of any wrong doing making it look like the guy I not suppose to feel bad after finding out this.what is there are other things this guy is yet to find out.I expect people to first condemn the wife for lying to the husband .in fact she deceived the guy into the marriage.if the guy is aware of the age then he can make an inform decision .
nickxtra post=49831318:

I need matured advice and suggestions that will see me through this.

Now ,op I know u are feeling bad about this but you have to put urself together.has she not been a food wife to u? remember her good attributes and forgive her. I guess she did it cos she doesn't want to loose u.
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by driand(m): 6:29am On Oct 04, 2016
Ranchhoddas:
If you must spew feculent blather on the internet, you should at least learn to spell properly.
grin grin grin cheesy grin
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by driand(m): 6:34am On Oct 04, 2016
Ranchhoddas:
Not just in marriage, every aspect of life. It's a pity that the not-yet-fully-evolved beings that I happen to have the cosmic misfortune of sharing nationality/race with cannot grasp something so basic. The donkeys are going as far as blaming the man for even daring to get upset. I regret my nationality.
thank you for regretting us, what's your take on the issue at hand?
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by metallisc(m): 6:34am On Oct 04, 2016
emeraldknytt:
From my point of view, I foresee no deal breaker in your stale epistle. So far her lie hasn't affected you negatively or potentially, there is no reason to quit your marriage. Truth is, if you cant handle well something as trivial as this, I wonder what you would do if she told you those kids ain't yours.... grin .... Be patient and tolerable

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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Praktikals(m): 6:35am On Oct 04, 2016
ItsQuinn:
Lots of childish Nigerian men everywhere undecided
Someone like you will lie to her boyfriend that she is still a virgin only to come up later with c0ck and bull stories. Smh for you.

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