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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Originalsly: 12:41am On Oct 13, 2016 |
tete7000:Two questions.... what is pre-marital sex?...and when are two persons considered married?...according to the Bible. I need to see the point you're trying to make. |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 1:57am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Imagine when you marry,your wife is attractive. She does her makeup well,dresses well has a night shape etc. Later she starts having kids and doesn't maintain all this. It's possible for married men to start losing interest. And trust me 95 percent of single girls will cheat with a married man they fancy. In fact him being married makes them more likely to cheat with him. Like some on said the married men don't cheat with wood and usually the women know they are married 1 Like |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Olufemiolaolu(m): 2:20am On Oct 13, 2016 |
TheArchangel:Hmmm Love Machine fan. |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by danielthames: 2:29am On Oct 13, 2016 |
i heard many similar story and i have the same idea with you (even i'm a man) cheating can only break a marriage but disease can ruin the whole life you a wonan. |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Mayflowa(m): 4:09am On Oct 13, 2016 |
2dugged: You are so right on this. It is not women that encourage it. It is the society and men especially. The numerous male legislators will not review marriage law. If the women benefit more from divorce, men would stop cheating to avoid divorce and women will have the strength to leave abusive marriage 2 Likes |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by zheroes(m): 6:09am On Oct 13, 2016 |
2dugged:I feel terribly pained. What else can a woman do? Quit the relationship!!. I have been married for about a year, I haven't cheated on my wife I feel a type of bonding between me and my wife, she doesn't need to be with me to do the right thing. I see beautiful girls everyday but wht they think they have my wife has it , what has helped is basically the fear of God, and self control. I can cheat and she won't know but my conscience won't even allow me to because we pray togeher so how will I b e able to call on the name of God when we are together knowing God saw the evil I did. I can not stand a cheating partner so I expect same. Please my dear ladies marriage isn't by force. Our ladies are too weak, how can you be permissive to cheating? 3 Likes |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by 989900: 6:10am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Becalm: You are right, while some do it openly, some do it discreetly. A former finance minister of this country, had her husband, a neurosurgeon, cheating on her with well paid nurse(s) in the states who might also be married or in some other relationship(s) -- they did it even in parking lots. The fraction of faithful spouses (both genders) is alarmingly low and worrying. 1 Like |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by iwadobo: 6:13am On Oct 13, 2016 |
nnamdibig: Don't mind them . After another woman's husband paid their school fees they will now marry and be hoping that their men won't date other girls . The man that paid your school fees, the wife is the unfortunate one abi? Whatever u sow, u must reap and the circle continues . 1 Like |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Uncleodi(m): 6:17am On Oct 13, 2016 |
A Nigerian woman will take her needle when going to the salon so she does not get infected with HIV but will do nothing when she finds out her husband is cheating. You are much more likely to get HIV from an infected partner than from the needles used in fixing your weave-on. Some people will tell you to stay with a cheating partner because other women are doing it. They will tell you to stay because those telling you to leave a cheating partner will tolerate worse. What they do not tell you is that when you do get infected, you will have to take medication for the rest of your life. Nobody will take the medication for you. They will also not tell you that they will RUN from you. A hair dresser told me about her experience. She always knew her husband was cheating. When she felt it was too much, she tried to take a walk but her friend told her to stay and fight for her marriage. She got infected with HIV and confided in her friend. The same friend refused her making her and her daughters hair. I have also heard of church members that encouraged a woman to pray for her cheating husband. When she got infected, the church members did not want to sit near her so they don’t get infected. Some men do find out and treat themselves without letting their wife know. The woman might get to find out when it is already too late. From what I am hearing now, some married women in Nigeria are now more likely to get infected than single girls. Women need to start asking themselves questions. Do we really as women have to keep suffering? I am sharing this post to create a bit of awareness. Read the comments section too as there is a good discussion going on there. I have shared two eye-opening comments for those that cannot go through the comments. Aishatu Ella John says "This is why I am always shouting about cheating because I have worked in a HCT centre as a counsellor and it is heart breaking. The highest rates of new infections is among married women who are pregnant. It's sad because most times it is during a second or third pregnancy they test positive. It is for this reason I am very anti adultery, the innocent kids get to suffer for it all as most times the men are not even open to getting tested and commencing treatment. It is a heart breaking trend. Even commercial sex workers are more protected than some married women" Josephine Effah-Chukwuma says "I knew that 12 years ago when I did a qualitative research (focus group discussion) with 24 HIV/AIDS positive women. 75% or 18 of them were married. 90% of the 18 contracted the virus during the marriage after the second - fourth child. The remaining 10% knew both their status as being positive and decided to marry. The inability of married women to negotiate safe sex with their husbands, exposes them more to the virus. A smart unmarried girl will refuse to have sex without a condom. For how long can a married woman ask her promiscuous husband to use a condom? Besides she wants to get pregnant. Also the insistence on condom use all the time could end in acts of physical domestic violence. It's a tough one for married women indeed." Olubunmi Ajai Layode I was talking to a HIV specialist a few days ago. The group with the highest infection rate is married women in heterosexual marriages. Next time your community penis comes back to be romancing you without protection - bear that in mind. 4 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by zheroes(m): 6:22am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Mayflowa:who is society? Society is you and I. Tell yourself what you want and do it. Your last stament is very correct. You can become a law to yourself. Part of the problem is while dating most guuys had numrous partners and the ladies were like I am the main chick!!! If you aren't married and your guy has numrous girlfriends that for me is a red flag for a chronic cheat. He won't change. F you marry him you will still be the main chick. 1 Like |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by OLUWAcypris1(f): 6:51am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Newbeginnings:no lady can stop a man from cheating, the decision has to do with the man, |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 6:53am On Oct 13, 2016 |
elfmann:may I ask who made that law that only women should keep themselves till wedding night?, our same forefathers who were chauvinistic misogynist, no wonder why most of our cultures are anti-women, why not both parties, infact this whole problem started from our forefathers who saw the girl child as a less human being compared to the male child, even till now some people still have that mentality that you don't have a child until you have a male child 1 Like |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 6:56am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Uncleodi:thanks for this wonderful contribution |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:03am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Becalm:Don't mind him..he says Linda ikeji is all celibate now. Hahahaha. |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:08am On Oct 13, 2016 |
sunvick:your last question is probably so you can plot a basis for your next reply I guess, anyway, I knew that this will not go down well with the male folks not because my statistics is out of place but because the same male folks that were brought up by our forefathers who made laws that placed the girl as inferior to the the male child, hence why most cultural practices seem to place women at a disadvantage.so I am not surprised |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:09am On Oct 13, 2016 |
2dugged:Even women have that mentality and use it against those other women who have all female children. The more u don't agree u can keep ur virginity till marriage, the more u lose the power to question men's infidelity. Keep ur part, let see. 1 Like |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:13am On Oct 13, 2016 |
elfmann:and those men that married their wives as virgins and still cheat, what category do they fall under, I can't even believe you would think that marrying a man as a virgin will stop him from cheating, Mr man I know of a case like this,it has not stopped the man from going outside,very laughable, what a warped up mentality, no offense |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:21am On Oct 13, 2016 |
zheroes:let me paint you a scenerio, a man called family meeting and accused his wife of denying him sex and said there was a possibility that he was having an affair, but during the meeting, the woman later said she refused to have sex with him because she found some medications in his trouser pocket, and upon making enquiries online she found out they where treatment for STI, could you believe at the end of the day,she was blamed for not asking her husband about it and it was resolved that she goes back to meeting his sexual needs without any one asking the husband how he contacted the STI or why he went for treatment without telling his heifer whom he had probably infected already, and you say women are weak? |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:22am On Oct 13, 2016 |
iwadobo:No, women believe marriage makes all things clean. Kinda cleanses all their sins. Before, not being virgin could affect getting a suitor but they know almost none is, so men have no choice. But they forget men don't understand y they r crying blue murder. That was y at a time, Tuface shouted, none of my babymamas was a virgin when I met them oh. Everything has changed, nobody has d right to question anybody although the men who pay ur bills can kick u out if u misbehave..their cash which u want allows them to misbehave. 1 Like |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:25am On Oct 13, 2016 |
2dugged:It doesn't but women who have access to cash cheat..women cheat too. Don't think only men cheat.. Everybody cheats including YOU! |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:29am On Oct 13, 2016 |
elfmann:you only made sentences, and separated them with punctuation marks, I can seem to grasp the impact,"what do you mean by everyone cheats?,some people self that you lack self control doesn't mean everyone is like you,don't forget I gave 5 % to men who have not yet cheated on their wives 2 Likes |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by pressplay411(m): 7:34am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Newbeginnings: What u mean "allow it" I don't think any woman would allow her man to cheat. |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:35am On Oct 13, 2016 |
2dugged:My style, yes majority of women who have not cheated fears being thrown out of meal and housing and majority of guys cheat. Have u dated one guy u married or intend to? If not, you are a cheat. |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:41am On Oct 13, 2016 |
elfmann:and If yes?,what does that make you?stop making assumptions that every one is like you, I bet you belong the the category of Nigerian men that think they are polygamous in nature and can't help cheating |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Joy1706(f): 7:42am On Oct 13, 2016 |
2dugged:You sound like a dunce, forgive me. 'Watch as a nigerian man will call family meeting on your head and turn it around in his favour', sheybi you are a mumu that can't talk? Mstchewww. My dear many women are refusing to put up with philandering me these days The ball is in your court |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Joy1706(f): 7:46am On Oct 13, 2016 |
2dugged:First of all, it's not every woman that can get thrown out. Secondly, are you aware you can claim financial damages from your husband for adultery and esp. If he infects you. You need to do ur research o. Our women are perishing for lack of knowledge |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:47am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Joy1706:if I slap you from here, your lashes will fall off your eyes,If you can't be civil enough to make your comment without insults then your are a baich, now shift,actually you happen to be the dance here |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:48am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Joy1706:then this will be the opportunity to enlighten us, a forum such as this will go a long way in enlightening women about their rights in issues like this and how they can go about it |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Joy1706(f): 7:49am On Oct 13, 2016 |
2dugged:Stop living your life for society or culture. Who them epp? My dear who says you must go back to your father's house after living ur matrimonial home? Can't you get your own apartment? This is why women MUST be financially independent |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:50am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Joy1706:you literally don't have to go back, some families cut all ties with her |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Joy1706(f): 7:52am On Oct 13, 2016 |
2dugged:You sound as if you have no say in ur life. If it's not Urr husband dictating to you, it's his family, or your family, or society or church. Smh. Better learn how to take a stand on issues that concern you |
Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:55am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Joy1706:my friend quote me on one comment and make your contribution, Abeg stop quoting me on every comment,i made those comments in reply to quotes, so stop running upandan, say your comment so I can reply you once |
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