igwegeorgiano:
Fellow NLs how we dey. hope we all had a swell time at our respective places of work/bussinesses? so sorry to bother you with my relationship issues i just need advice that will calm down my nerves right now before i will rashly take decisions i may regret later

I just got a phone call from my babe asking for my permission to allow her hang out with another guy. she made me to understand that the said guy has been a very good friend back in their uni days but no string attached. furthermore, she said that the guy came to her office to take her home after the day's work.

Friends what do you think? am a jealous perso but not possessive. my babe and the guy have actually fixed their outing for sunday. am really feeling upset right now because am seeing the intruder as a threat to my relationship. pls i need your candid advice on how to handle this unfolding ugly scenerio. thanks

Bumbae1:
Tell her to go
And then You know what to do , the fact she came to ask, means she must think ur a
Be wise my brother be wise .... his dropping her home ( shows intentions) can't she go home herself

Anyway like u stated they already booked d day meaning she never needed ur approval in the first place .. ......

BUTCHCASSIDY:

Ive been in his shoes.. with my ex.
Lets just say that was the beginning of the end

igwegeorgiano:

Friends what do you think? am a jealous perso but not possessive. my babe and the guy have actually fixed their outing for sunday. am really feeling upset right now because am seeing the intruder as a threat to my relationship. pls i need your candid advice on how to handle this unfolding ugly scenerio. thanks

Threats of this kind can only stems from low-self esteem. Yes, it is when you begin to feel that the said intruder is a better person than you, that you can perceive him as a threat.

So what...?

Simple. Let them go on with their outing. You gotta keep your head high. You're better than your perceived enemy! You're the boss!

Bumbae1:

Leave him
His waiting for to ask him to bleep d guy too

igwegeorgiano:
Fellow NLs how we dey. hope we all had a swell time at our respective places of work/bussinesses? so sorry to bother you with my relationship issues i just need advice that will calm down my nerves right now before i will rashly take decisions i may regret later

I just got a phone call from my babe asking for my permission to allow her hang out with another guy. she made me to understand that the said guy has been a very good friend back in their uni days but no string attached. furthermore, she said that the guy came to her office to take her home after the day's work.

Friends what do you think? am a jealous perso but not possessive. my babe and the guy have actually fixed their outing for sunday. am really feeling upset right now because am seeing the intruder as a threat to my relationship. pls i need your candid advice on how to handle this unfolding ugly scenerio. thanks

LeView1:
The comments on this thread show what a perverted generation we are. Why can't 2 friends hang out and catch up? The fact that she considered your feelings by letting you know of her whereabouts shows she has respect for you. This is a case of low self-esteem on the part of the op. Or a guilty consious on your part op because you are a cheater and expect the same treatment.

I see!

Davidgrey:
I see!

igwegeorgiano:
Fellow NLs how we dey. hope we all had a swell time at our respective places of work/bussinesses? so sorry to bother you with my relationship issues i just need advice that will calm down my nerves right now before i will rashly take decisions i may regret later

I just got a phone call from my babe asking for my permission to allow her hang out with another guy. she made me to understand that the said guy has been a very good friend back in their uni days but no string attached. furthermore, she said that the guy came to her office to take her home after the day's work.

Friends what do you think? am a jealous perso but not possessive. my babe and the guy have actually fixed their outing for sunday. am really feeling upset right now because am seeing the intruder as a threat to my relationship. pls i need your candid advice on how to handle this unfolding ugly scenerio. thanks

LeView1:


Don't View me

So what's your take on this?

LeView1:
The comments on this thread show what a perverted generation we are. Why can't 2 friends hang out and catch up? The fact that she considered your feelings by letting you know of her whereabouts shows she has respect for you. This is a case of low self-esteem on the part of the op. Or a guilty consious on your part op because you are a cheater and expect the same treatment.

Davidgrey:
It would be immature of him to tell her not to go(she would go either way)

He should allow her go but.......He should choose the time that the outing will end(this way he is exhibiting subtle jealousy and manliness)

He should not call her during her "platonic date" (let her enjoy your trust)

She told him which signifies the fact that she respects him

I don't see anything wrong with that.

Cutehector:
please keep quiet.. Will u allow ur boyfriend to hangout with a girl prettier Dan u?

Cutehector:
please keep quiet.. Will u allow ur boyfriend to hangout with a girl prettier Dan u?

Aderola15:

The question isn't for me but YES

LeView1:


I don't allow or disallow an adult to do what they want. It's natural that I would have feelings of insecurity but I'd share those feelings and he would reassure me and we'd get past it. That's what adults do. But what would a broke lil boy like you know about adult affairs?

Davidgrey:
It would be immature of him to tell her not to go(she would go either way)

He should allow her go but.......He should choose the time that the outing will end(this way he is exhibiting subtle jealousy and manliness)

He should not call her during her "platonic date" (let her enjoy your trust)

She told him which signifies the fact that she respects him

I don't see anything wrong with that.