LeView1:
The comments on this thread show what a perverted generation we are. Why can't 2 friends hang out and catch up? The fact that she considered your feelings by letting you know of her whereabouts shows she has respect for you. This is a case of low self-esteem on the part of the op. Or a guilty consious on your part op because you are a cheater and expect the same treatment.

God knows I dont even hav d strength to play such stupid games wit ladies anymore. See d way u simplified d matter? If I were ur guy and u try dis wit me, I wont say a word. Will simply wait a month or two later and seek d same permission from u to hang out wit a lady OBVIOUSLY hotter than u. How insensitive!

Cutehector:
why u dey lie like this.. Ok what if they flirt with each oda .. And Smth happens..

Looool. I no too like lies


When did flirting become a crime? Me sef dey flirt and Yeahhh, I have an understanding bf that trusts me. We both know flirt is flirt, nothing more.

All of una go just carry insecurity scatter your relationships

igwegeorgiano:
Fellow NLs how we dey. hope we all had a swell time at our respective places of work/bussinesses? so sorry to bother you with my relationship issues i just need advice that will calm down my nerves right now before i will rashly take decisions i may regret later

I just got a phone call from my babe asking for my permission to allow her hang out with another guy. she made me to understand that the said guy has been a very good friend back in their uni days but no string attached. furthermore, she said that the guy came to her office to take her home after the day's work.

Friends what do you think? am a jealous perso but not possessive. my babe and the guy have actually fixed their outing for sunday. am really feeling upset right now because am seeing the intruder as a threat to my relationship. pls i need your candid advice on how to handle this unfolding ugly scenerio. thanks

Dude tell her NO..it is the exact situation that caused me my relationship..she asked me to let her hangout with friends at a club and begged me nothing would happen,and cos I didn't want to seem overly jealous and insecure, I let her go (BIG MISTAKE)that's how she met one guy o and he started calling her..12am o,just imagine.

Omoh I no get power to drag any woman way no know waiting she want so I dumped her ass even tho I was making serious plans to wife her. Bro these hoes ain't loyal..small chance you give, they will fuc.kup.

Menzy86:
God knows I dont even hav d strength to play such stupid games wit ladies anymore. See d way u simplified d matter? If I were ur guy and u try dis wit me, I wont say a word. Will simply wait a month or two later and seek d same permission from u to hang out wit a lady OBVIOUSLY hotter than u. How insensitive!

It is that simple and insecure control freaks make it complicated by using their imagination to imagine the worse.

Lol! I'm allergic to childish and insecure men so chances are I wouldn't date you.

Aderola15:


Looool. I no too like lies


When did flirting become a crime? Me sef dey flirt and Yeahhh, I have an understanding bf that trusts me. We both know flirt is flirt, nothing more.

All of una go just carry insecurity scatter your relationships

and he has sex with her

Cutehector:
and he has sex with her

He won't

And if he does, make I no find out.

Aderola15:


He won't

And if he does, make I no find out.

Smh.. I think say u no get insecurities..

Cutehector:
Smh.. I think say u no get insecurities..

Don't let your head fall off ooh... Where's the insecurity in my post?

Aderola15:


Don't let your head fall off ooh... Where's the insecurity in my post?

Aderola15:


Looool. I no too like lies


When did flirting become a crime? Me sef dey flirt and Yeahhh, I have an understanding bf that trusts me. We both know flirt is flirt, nothing more.

All of una go just carry insecurity scatter your relationships

LeView1:
The comments on this thread show what a perverted generation we are. Why can't 2 friends hang out and catch up? The fact that she considered your feelings by letting you know of her whereabouts shows she has respect for you. This is a case of low self-esteem on the part of the op. Or a guilty consious on your part op because you are a cheater and expect the same treatment.

They are wise to only be cautious

You don't wait till it happens and say "had I known"

I know not all girls are the same, and this might truly be a platonic catching up with an old friend scenario...but she rily needs to put his mind at ease, as you can see he's not comfortable about it

Cutehector:

Ehnnnnn what? I said my bf won't have sex with someone he says he's hanging out with not because of insecurity but because I trust him not to do something that foolish.

Bumbae1:
Tell her to go
And then You know what to do , the fact she came to ask, means she must think ur a
Be wise my brother be wise .... his dropping her home ( shows intentions) can't she go home herself

Anyway like u stated they already booked d day meaning she never needed ur approval in the first place .. ......

Wife material, 200 yards

LeView1:


It is that simple and insecure control freaks make it complicated by using their imagination to imagine the worse.

Lol! I'm allergic to childish and insecure men so chances are I wouldn't date you.

You are a funny lady..but this same thing ruined my relationship so don't be too sure of what you are arguing about..insecure or not..there will always be something that will come out of that meeting..

Look there is no such thing as normal friends of opposite sex hanging out..NO guy will waste his money on any girl that he doesn't av plans to fuc.k except she is his relation or family friend..and that is a BIG except

More like, my girlfriend is asking for my permission to cheat on me... That's the koko

All this yeye talk of respect
If the lady actually respected her guy ... she would not have already chosen date how is that respect
She was going to go whether or not .. this one she doing is just for back up plan incase somebody see her with the guy etc ... yh my man knows about it ..

If its harmless why not invite ur man .. make una laugh together if its just friendship shioor ... dont be deceived we are very smart ..
ask her if u can spend sunday with me n see her face
Tomorrow she ask u if she can spend the night hotel already booked ..that's so respectful

Kimbra wey u at ... some and see something .

torqque7:


You are a funny lady..but this same thing ruined my relationship so don't be too sure of what you are arguing about..insecure or not..there will always be something that will come out of that meeting..

Look there is no such thing as normal friends of opposite sex hanging out..NO guy will waste his money on any girl that he doesn't av plans to fuc.k except she is his relation or family friend..and that is a BIG except

What ruined your relationship is that she IS A CHEATER who CHEATED on you not because she went out. She could never leave her house and still cheat.

There are people who have no sexual chemistry and are genuinely interested in the other person's life and where abouts. Let's stay in the context of the op... This is a friend from her uni days and they have no sexual history. She told op where and with who she was going with. If she had an intention to cheat she would never tell him where she went and with who and he'd never find out.

In this case, not from your experience with a cheat, OP is insecure and should trust his woman.

Oyind18:
More like, my girlfriend is asking for my permission to cheat on me... That's the koko

Exactly only matured minds can read between the lines

She just seeing how far she can cheat.. so when he dropped her home what happened she no finish story .

Bumbae1:

Exactly only matured minds can read between the lines

She just seeing how far she can cheat.. so when he dropped her home what happened she no finish story .

Na so, we know every

sirusX:

They are wise to only be cautious

You don't wait till it happens and say "had I known"

I know not all girls are the same, and this might truly be a platonic catching up with an old friend scenario...but she rily needs to put his mind at ease, as you can see he's not comfortable about it

If someone is going to cheat on you they will there's nothing you can do to stop them caution or not. I understand he needs his mind put to rest and the only he could do that is to share his feelings with his girl and then she would put his mind at rest. But if he's acting all macho and if he doesn't trust her then the relationship is DOA.

onegig:


Why do ladies always do this?

Always seem like plausible deniability. Trying to make you give authorisation to something they know can be a bit discomforting. Maybe there are still trustworthy girls out there, but once a lady starts making such requests, there's more than meets the eye and when you consider the era where we are in where youths have loose values and morals. "Friends" of opposite sexes might mean different things and much more.

Tell her she should do what she feels right. I would advise you to tell her she's an adult and should be able to make decisions based on what she feels is right and not to put you on the spot as regards things. No man would be comfortable having a non-relative opposite sex "friend" around their partner especially when this so called friend is not someone you have met, know and approve of.

She knows she's walking into unchartered territory but needs "your validation". This is one part of ladies i can never understand.

Feels like i was ranting ...whew..

My brother, it is called Manipulation...
Don't over think it

LeView1:


What ruined your relationship is that she IS A CHEATER who CHEATED on you not because she went out. She could never leave her house and still cheat.

There are people who have no sexual chemistry and are genuinely interested in the other person's life and where abouts. Let's stay in the context of the op... This is a friend from her uni days and they have no sexual history. She told op where and with who she was going with. If she had an intention to cheat she would never tell him where she went and with who and he'd never find out.

In this case, not from your experience with a cheat, OP is insecure and should trust his woman.

Dude has always been her friend, she chose him over the guy and he still thinks she's gonna cheat on him with the guy...



Bia God, you know I'll understand and condone some shii in a relationship but definitely not a man that can't trust me... So pls don't even direct such guys to my doorstep.

LeView1:


If someone is going to cheat on you they will there's nothing you can do to stop them caution or not. I understand he needs his mind put to rest and the only he could do that is to share his feelings with his girl and then she would put his mind at rest. But if he's acting all macho and if he doesn't trust her then the relationship is DOA.

True...trust is one thing that kips a relationship strong thru moments like this...cz you know your partner and their commitment when it comes to you.

But taking a look on the wild side...it only takes a first impression to create that attraction

It might be about the intentions of the old friend (whether shez told him about her man or not)...that's if shez swayed with words, physique or material things

Pchikaodili:
Mayb she is testing ur level of jelousy ...we call it SHIT test,

reply her as a good-bad guy
your reply will be "No problem, u can go, but i will also invite one girl to keep me company that sunday"



watch her reaction

I was looking out for something like this... good advice. OP, follow pronto. I endorse.

igwegeorgiano:
Fellow NLs how we dey. hope we all had a swell time at our respective places of work/bussinesses? so sorry to bother you with my relationship issues i just need advice that will calm down my nerves right now before i will rashly take decisions i may regret later

I just got a phone call from my babe asking for my permission to allow her hang out with another guy. she made me to understand that the said guy has been a very good friend back in their uni days but no string attached. furthermore, she said that the guy came to her office to take her home after the day's work.

Friends what do you think? am a jealous perso but not possessive. my babe and the guy have actually fixed their outing for sunday. am really feeling upset right now because am seeing the intruder as a threat to my relationship. pls i need your candid advice on how to handle this unfolding ugly scenerio. thanks

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ghost3040:
lets wait for the elders...Abortionss,lefulefu,queensuccumbus,...et al..ur attention is needed ASAP

brother nothin to advice.im case dey complex

Davidgrey:
It would be immature of him to tell her not to go(she would go either way)

He should allow her go but.......He should choose the time that the outing will end(this way he is exhibiting subtle jealousy and manliness)

He should not call her during her "platonic date" (let her enjoy your trust)

She told him which signifies the fact that she respects him

I don't see anything wrong with that.

Boss, please don't lick that girl's asss. Face reality.... No good can come out of a date like that, whether she took permission or not. That's the world we live in.

Tell her you are not comfortable,but you won't stop her .then after a month after ,ask her that you want to carry her gal to easter treat,that she is your childhood friend..her reaction will tell you what is up

My guy you have just lost your babe, it's only a matter of time the hand writing will be everywhere. I suggest you request your girl to allow you to pursue other babes. If she agrees then you can excuse her to go out with the intruder.

LeView1:


What ruined your relationship is that she IS A CHEATER who CHEATED on you not because she went out. She could never leave her house and still cheat.

There are people who have no sexual chemistry and are genuinely interested in the other person's life and where abouts. Let's stay in the context of the op... This is a friend from her uni days and they have no sexual history. She told op where and with who she was going with. If she had an intention to cheat she would never tell him where she went and with who and he'd never find out.

In this case, not from your experience with a cheat, OP is insecure and should trust his woman.

Hmm my dear most times people dnt plan to cheat but situations happen and they endup cheating,so for the fact she told him doesn't change anything o,my ex also told me and even told me about the guy who took her number..but that didn't stop anything.

Yeah I know there are people who can just be friends without any sexual chemistry but very VERY few so prevention is better than cure o..there is a saying 'Na from clap them de enter dance'

igwegeorgiano:
Fellow NLs how we dey. hope we all had a swell time at our respective places of work/bussinesses? so sorry to bother you with my relationship issues i just need advice that will calm down my nerves right now before i will rashly take decisions i may regret later

I just got a phone call from my babe asking for my permission to allow her hang out with another guy. she made me to understand that the said guy has been a very good friend back in their uni days but no string attached. furthermore, she said that the guy came to her office to take her home after the day's work.

Friends what do you think? am a jealous perso but not possessive. my babe and the guy have actually fixed their outing for sunday. am really feeling upset right now because am seeing the intruder as a threat to my relationship. pls i need your candid advice on how to handle this unfolding ugly scenerio. thanks

please take my advice seriously..
let her go..its painful ....but let her go..try to keep calm.
but.
when she's gone..emm if u stay together.. make sure she do not meet u at home when she's back..but if u not together.. let her call to tell u she's tru..u have to find a way to make the equation balance...u can even tell her to come over to ur place when she's tru..but never let her meet u at home...make her understand how u felt when she went visiting a guy..if u don't ..she won't value u...

but let her go joy fully ..b happy..because she's just ur girlfriend.. u not married.. and might not even marry her...u don't own her for now..
pls don't stop her.

honestly d guy wnts 2 sweep ur babe!!! neva agree 2 dat! 2 u babe its jst a frndly gesture! but as a grl b4 u kno it she will stat fallin...
do not agree 2 dat! tell her wat eva u can...

lefulefu:
brother nothin to advice.im case dey complex

Elder lefulefu! Say something nah