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Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by AreaFada2: 4:55pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
this is because change is the only constant. The change can be postive or negative. Compare Bubu & GEJ govt for example. Before marriage, people might be in their best behaviour to get hooked. Just like people were make up to cover unattractive blemishes, people do package themselves to be more attractive than they are. A future wife beater can appear like a knight in shiny armour, some inflate their salaries to be seen as successful, etc. A woman with thedirtiest attributes of tatafo/backbiting, jealousy, laziness and allergy to in-laws, can feign near perfection when courting. When the kids finally come and life becomes a grinding routine, it can all change quickly. |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Zubby619(m): 4:58pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
all ur comments are great. but to me I thank is because most pple are not prepare for marriage, some get into marriage because of pressure from family members or because friends are getting married at such dey tink dey are also ready for it. for getting dt after wedding d real marriage start. d only institution DT will give u certificate before u start lectures and u will never graduate till death. Jesus is d way.... 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Tajbol4splend(m): 4:59pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
Wiseoldman: I'm not sure you comprehend hyperbole |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Mediapace: 4:59pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
tosyne2much: Nice and inspirational boss man 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by thesicilian: 4:59pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
ayusco85:Never really took the time to notice the difference. Indeed one learns everyday. Thanks! 3 Likes
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Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Tajbol4splend(m): 5:00pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
shehuolayinka: Or deceit |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Missonas(f): 5:11pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
dhardline:Lemme add. God is love. When you love God He puts the right love in your heart which makes u do everything out of love. So theres hardly any room for bad vibes it will come most definitely (trials) but u'll surpass em and grow together. God/Man/ Woman #inthatorder 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by okorgbongidi(m): 5:12pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
tosyne2much:Ur comment made lots of sense. Even though U are not a relationship expert. Keep it up 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Commenthin: 5:13pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
Every idea here is valid but the first evil that crip in is family greed and jealousy. When people see or look at two people in-love, what do you see in the eye, throught or behaivour? Envy, jealousy, evil theoght and saying "it's wont last" why....because their when through same route, instead of guarding...they'll try to put apart. Its start from husband or wife mother in-law and siblings demand for emotional or financial help, and they dont get enough...then problem start....meanwhile you never got such help from anyone. The wife and husband will start to help there people in secret, the trust hit the rock. Then the affected family says "then so what, if he/she tell you nonsense tell him/her nonsense.....you see am. The pain creates the end of love and enmity starts....why one of the family camp rejoice....then they'll try to be the judge and helper to amend the relationship that started without their consent. The goal is to midate and continue to have access to whatever they wanted that wasnt enough initially....and love doesn't need a third party. tosyne2much: 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Tahtah: 5:18pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
YourImaginaryBF:What if she can't hold body for days, she keeps side men to meet her demand wen you are not around? Must her man take her to everywhere he goes? Pls ans me I know one needs to fix things as a man, no going back |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Nobody: 5:19pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
Tajbol4splend: I'm not an expert so I don't really know the right answer to this question. I think it's better for someone to marry one's best friend . |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by shams040(m): 5:20pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
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Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by maybrowne(m): 5:21pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
tosyne2much: Nice one, I will tell pastor to put you in councelling department. |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Viking007(m): 5:28pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
Kentura: 1 Like
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Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by coltaine(m): 5:33pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
Lilyqueeny: would YOU marry your best friend? cos I believe you guys are too close to date now.....right? |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Slapsticker: 5:34pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
We all shouldn't get married. Many a number of marriages happened under the coercion of "I have to get married, I have to settle down, Age is no longer on my side, bla bla bla". Marriage isn't the key to a happy life. Don't attach yours to it. |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by sheDD(m): 5:35pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
quote me"....marriage shouldn't be solely built on love at d expense of other factors..........love wanes and fades, when it does u eye go open wide |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by princessfoluke(f): 5:36pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
That is when everyone sees clearly meaning you have nothing to hide, also all hidden characters are revealed. |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Nobody: 5:39pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
coltaine: It's possible my best friend loves someone else |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Viking007(m): 5:42pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
RELAN2446:Honestly! I got tired of liking comments. Every single comment has been a hit; back to back. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Earth2Metahuman: 5:43pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
shadeyinka:actually yes I can. Those who don't live with their boyfriends, do you know how actively they have sex? Infact, I prefer someone who had lived with 3 different guy all her life to someone who only visits, fhuck actively with different guys. Atleast he bleeped 3 guys within the period of 7years and not 20 guys in 2 years. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by coltaine(m): 5:45pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
Lilyqueeny:I see you did not get what I meant when I said that |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by AloyalNigerian(m): 5:46pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
Kentura: Lol @Tupac line as ya signature. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Nobody: 5:49pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
coltaine: what exactly do you mean |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Opakan2: 5:54pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
All I can say is greed.. most of them aren't contented with what they have.. why you see them acting bitc.hy after 2 - 3 kids looking for flings. The don't care if they die and their kids become orphans, greed (ojukokoro) will never allow them think |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Dindondin(m): 5:57pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
thesicilian:compatible, not compactible |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by coltaine(m): 6:09pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
Lilyqueeny:you mentioned getting married to one's best friend but the excuse you ladies give when your best friend tells you his mind is that you guys re too close to be dating..... 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Hollasmall: 6:13pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
As for me all I need is a baby mama no time for stress and headaches from a woman who will later show me her real color after d ring. Don't want to be scammed.please excuse me I have to chill with my side chicks
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Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:15pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
[quote author=coltaine post=54971228] you mentioned getting married to one's best friend but the excuse you ladies give when your best friend tells you his mind is that you guys re too close to be dating.....[/quote hmmmm I quite agree with you but not all ladies 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by kennymotors(m): 6:20pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
it usually happen when guy intend to chop and lady hook him with pregnant,but if maturity is play they will love each other later,but if |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:23pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
I think the reasons why THINGS change in marriages most times is because they fail to understand the underlisted factors; Uniqueness of individual characters, poor communication pattern, withheld emotional expressions, disparity in priorities, unnoticed dissimilarities in personality traits, differences in tolerance levels, pride/ego issues blinded by the eagerness to marry, and maturity level (note; age and maturity isn’t the same) to mention a chunk. Now, to handle these one needs to be emotionally, mentally/psychologically, financially (at least have an understanding of the role it'll play before and after the kids), also, look out for or HAVE these kindness with humility, sacrifice without expectations, forgiveness regardless of who's wrong or right, apologies without pride, unselfish interests to mention a few. These among many are the basics of true friendship and a lasting marriage. With total commitment from both parties even when issues abound (they will) resolutions will be easy. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Things Change After Marriage? by tosyne2much(m): 6:25pm On Mar 26, 2017 |
maybrowne:I go good for that department abi? |
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