refiner:
I'm taken...guys keep off!

Nma27:
Toks2008 how far na

babyfaceafrica:
I can..but as long as I don't have options,why should she?....like I said I don't double date,so I'd a lady because of insecurities do..she is gone....no be everything be sex..hut that is me..I know lots of men that can go a week without getting down!!

Toks2008:
You ask an obviously unmarried lady out and she says "sorry I'm in a relationship" and many ladies will quickly change their status on their social media handle to...."in a relationship or Engaged" ...worse still some will go as far as putting up the pics of a man who is not yet officially theirs and I keep wondering what goes on in the minds of some ladies ..

Shall we call that being faithful or being naive?

Every lady reading this should wake up and understand that until a man is officially married to you,he can not be trusted in anyway and that a man is even engaged to you does not guaranty marriage

Each time you tell a guy who asks you out that you are taken while still unmarried,you are simply shutting the door on yourself too soon and many ladies have shut out their husbands simply because they got carried away by an unserious man who is only good at mouthing their love and giving them forlorn hope.

Don't get it twisted, this is not about being unfaithful to that particular guy you truly desire but it is about tactfully leaving your options open by not flaunting him on or offline thereby driving away possibly more willing suitors.

Many ladies remain taken for years without wedding bells and I have seen several ladies who have been engaged for years.

The bottom line is that you should stop flaunting any guy you are courting and only flaunt your husband

Ladies should stop blocking their chance cos In the real world...there is no in between and there is no such word like "I'm taken" while you are still unmarried.

You are either single or married

Don't know if this makes sense.

darbeelicous:
hehehe..... FTC.... Oya, fire down!

coming back to modify

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ehen, oga toks2008 we don't call it "faithful" or "naive" its a simple 4letter word called LOVE. Call me naive, but women are multipliers, they multiply whatever you give to them and return it in manifold. When u genuinely love your woman, she multiplies it and gives u double in return, but when u show her hatred, sorry for u! So op, nice write up but it doesn't work in most cases! Most times when you're sure of what u want you go for it overlooking other options u may possibly have!

My opinion though! And btw, IM TAKEN!!

Toks2008:
You ask an obviously unmarried lady out and she says "sorry I'm in a relationship" and many ladies will quickly change their status on their social media handle to...."in a relationship or Engaged" ...worse still some will go as far as putting up the pics of a man who is not yet officially theirs and I keep wondering what goes on in the minds of some ladies ..

Shall we call that being faithful or being naive?

Every lady reading this should wake up and understand that until a man is officially married to you,he can not be trusted in anyway and that a man is even engaged to you does not guaranty marriage

Each time you tell a guy who asks you out that you are taken while still unmarried,you are simply shutting the door on yourself too soon and many ladies have shut out their husbands simply because they got carried away by an unserious man who is only good at mouthing their love and giving them forlorn hope.

Don't get it twisted, this is not about being unfaithful to that particular guy you truly desire but it is about tactfully leaving your options open by not flaunting him on or offline thereby driving away possibly more willing suitors.

Many ladies remain taken for years without wedding bells and I have seen several ladies who have been engaged for years.

The bottom line is that you should stop flaunting any guy you are courting and only flaunt your husband

Ladies should stop blocking their chance cos In the real world...there is no in between and there is no such word like "I'm taken" while you are still unmarried.

You are either single or married

Don't know if this makes sense.

ABbless:



women are multipliers?? you mean to say most are dividers because generalizing it makes your forecast fallacious. fallacy of hasty generalization. before you come for me check again we are both wrong.

darbeelicous:
hehehe..... FTC.... Oya, fire down!

coming back to modify

*modified*

ehen, oga toks2008 we don't call it "faithful" or "naive" its a simple 4letter word called LOVE. Call me naive, but women are multipliers, they multiply whatever you give to them and return it in manifold. When u genuinely love your woman, she multiplies it and gives u double in return, but when u show her hatred, sorry for u! So op, nice write up but it doesn't work in most cases! Most times when you're sure of what u want you go for it overlooking other options u may possibly have!

My opinion though! And btw, IM TAKEN!!

Impeller:
No matter how handsome a guy is, he can never get likes for his profile picture on nairaland.

2dugged:
just like the op has stated, this is one of the things causing delayed marriages in women, I remember a relationship expert talking about keeping your options open, from experience, I remember about 4 guys I turned down for my ex,infact I didn't even want to be friends with them cos in my naive little mind, I didn't want to "emotionally cheat", and now, they are married and my ex and I broke up.
ladies wise up, a man who is ready doesn't need a decade to consult his ancestors if you are the one or not,that's a fact,If after two years,he not showing signs of commitment, throw him the question and if his answer isn't satisfactory, walk away o

Chommieblaq:
I might agree with the over flaunting of pictures but not with option part.
It's just like stringing two people along. You might end up loosing all.
Na so unfaithfulness dey take start, unnecessary comparison and confusion.
No one is perfect, know what you want and stick to it.

Jay1F:
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WORLDPEACE:

Instead of keeping your options open when you are already in a relationship why don't you instead be sure the person is ready for marriage before you date him. If he does not take the step in a short time after the dating has begun you free him. That way you don't cheat on anyone. All this keeping options open is just another way of encouraging women to be female dogs. I know a girl with this mentality who thinks she is dating my friend meanwhile we know she has a bunch of other guys she is also dating. She came to visit and he slept with her and after that he has not been able to get into her pants again, but it does not change the fact that he has had his way once. This while she was surely sleeping with other people.
However another friend of mine got married 2015. What impressed him and myself including was the fact that when he met his wife she said she was with someone and she did not want to double date. She told my friend not to call her that she would call him only after she had ended that relationship. That was exactly what she did. They did not even speak on the phone once during the weeks before she ended the relationship. We both valued her for it and she was taken seriously by him. He was not even looking for a wife but my guy was just impressed by her values. All this keeping your options open just muddies up the water and make women loose their values.

refiner:
I'm taken...guys keep off!

Impeller:
No matter how handsome a guy is, he can never get likes for his profile picture on nairaland.