davidif:


Its not about being smart, its about being transparent.

You still have not answered my first question. How would you feel if you were the side dude in a relationship?

Toks2008:


Who be your uncle? me and you relate? abeg go and register your presence on this thread fast... https://www.nairaland.com/3745111/single-guys-above-30-single cos nah your type we dry find there and from what I see you don't ripe ...and if I hear "I'm taken"?

repogirl:
You make sense jare, OP!

Afterall, in Uncle Reno's voice, you CANNOT cheat on your boyfriend only your husband

EBBari:
Most times when ladies keep their option open, it creates room for more mistakes, more unserious dudes taken advantage of them and more heart break due to detected infidelity......."this cud also encourage the being 35 and u still keeping ur options open".
Step 1: Guys like serious girls who they can trust (more lik ma girl no be d easy type)
Step 2: guys see qualities of being faithful and think of facilitating d marriage tn buh when open and he sees u wt sm oda dude he cud feel dz girl na olosho and use plan B(ma tk ma share commot)
Step 3: ladies open to different guys r more likely to cheat hence most guys cnt keep up wt this and in turn being open can be jxt cumbersome
Step 4: advise ursef on wts best 4 u most, sticking to 1 guu cud be ur key to d marriage tn, d reverse cud also be the case
Step 5: jxt be really wise while ensuring any choice u mk frm step for is what really suits u.

Toks2008:


My point exactly....but must you sing it that you are in a relationship? what relationship if I may ask? dating or courtship? whoever created those terms understand that it is a way of still saying I'm single....If you are not single then you are married...

Tell a guy you fancy you can be friends....simple...that is a smart way of keeping your options open rather than shutting the door on yourself with a guy who is not married to you by flaunting him and singing it to every guy that you are taken...who take you?

Toks2008:


There is nothing like side dude here...

This is not about me but about her...no lady should keep two dates so stop twisting my write up...a lady should remain SEXUALLY faithful and disciplined with one man but keeping her option open means not flaunting that guy in her life or singing to every guy that comes her way that she is taken but must learn how to maintain surface and cordial friendship with other suitors....is this too hard to decipher?

tabithababy:
. See who dey talk. Are you married now??

virtuedagirl:
When you eventually decide to keep the guys you fancy as friends,let say two of them,the start with constant calling,asking you out on dates,sending you lovely text messages,sometimes you are with your main guy the other call you talk for 15 minutes or you tell him to call you back later. What will you guy be thinking,will he still trust you enough to make you a wife with this attitudes,if he should do the same by keeping female friends he fancy and thing like that will you love it so

bassette:
My angle with Toks' advice is that many ladies would read it wrong n go south

dingbang:
lol very stupid question....

abdulkayus:


And I think u make sense Rubbish, u are nothing bt a f##k boy, u aren't mature yet. Small pikin

FILEBE:


Exactly! Toks2008, you goofed on this one big time. You keep on saying you don't mean it for women to be unfaithful or flirty. How can't that be? when the options are open and you let every Tom, Dick and Harry endear you while you are in a serious relationship. If you are in a serious relationship, work to see it become something rather than seek for options here and there and might end up being the city slut. See ehn, ladies know how to deal with issues like this. If they find no future with a guy, they are entitled to leave. You don't have another date while you are dating someone. It defeats the whole purpose of love. You can just advise ladoew to know when to quit and not be finding options. It is called cheating and that's how it starts. Same ways guys leave their options open and have multiple girlfriends and at the end of the day, they will choose one or none from them after being intimate with them.

Toks2008. you should know better than this na

darbeelicous:
but y u dey vex na?

virtuedagirl:
When you eventually decide to keep the guys you fancy as friends,let say two of them,the start with constant calling,asking you out on dates,sending you lovely text messages,sometimes you are with your main guy the other call you talk for 15 minutes or you tell him to call you back later. What will you guy be thinking,will he still trust you enough to make you a wife with this attitudes,if he should do the same by keeping female friends he fancy and thing like that will you love it so

Toks2008:


Some are already going south south sef and that is their plate of casava.

Some dey find excuse to cheat before but this is not about cheating or keeping multiple guys.

Toks2008:


Aunty how does my marital status bring down the price of original garri ijebu?

Abeg park well make people see road.

davidif:


So you mean that all the time, your intuition or your internal alarm bells were not warning you but you refused to ignore them?

generalbush:


... I guess I was sleep typing.

Bonjour ma'am

darbeelicous:
I thought as much!

How u doing?

Toks2008:


You can stick to one guy yet keep your options open by making good friends with your suitors rather than singing the ...I'm taken lyrics...

EBBari:
Its obvious this guy is campaigning for dull nairaland girls to agree to him so the said open stuff could make them also open to him, which in returns gvs his lazy and non commitment lifestyle an opportunity to explore multiple well.
Or
That girl his bn chasing 4 weeks told him "am tkn". E pain am reach him brain which resulted to this trend.

Jay1F:
...

Aderola15:
You must be uncle zoned

Aderola15:
Ripe for wetin

Aderola15:
I'm taken biko.

refiner:
I'm taken

refiner:
guys keep off!