...I call on Liam Neesen to rescue her

U make sense my dear. At times the kind forming u get from them will like shuu. I know of one 7 years still in a relationship

Toks2008:
You ask an obviously unmarried lady out and she says "sorry I'm in a relationship" and many ladies will quickly change their status on their social media handle to...."in a relationship or Engaged" ...worse still some will go as far as putting up the pics of a man who is not yet officially theirs and I keep wondering what goes on in the minds of some ladies ..

Shall we call that being faithful or being naive?

Every lady reading this should wake up and understand that until a man is officially married to you,he can not be trusted in anyway and that a man is even engaged to you does not guaranty marriage

Each time you tell a guy who asks you out that you are taken while still unmarried,you are simply shutting the door on yourself too soon and many ladies have shut out their husbands simply because they got carried away by an unserious man who is only good at mouthing their love and giving them forlorn hope.

Don't get it twisted, this is not about being unfaithful to that particular guy you truly desire but it is about tactfully leaving your options open by not flaunting him on or offline thereby driving away possibly more willing suitors.

Many ladies remain taken for years without wedding bells and I have seen several ladies who have been engaged for years.

The bottom line is that you should stop flaunting any guy you are courting and only flaunt your husband

Ladies should stop blocking their chance cos In the real world...there is no in between and there is no such word like "I'm taken" while you are still unmarried.

You are either single or married

Don't know if this makes sense.

You are a dead meat if Nadia cheats on me

Tajbol4splend:

You are a dead meat if Nadia cheats on me

Lol! I wonder why people juxtapose this to cheating...

Toks2008:


I get where you are coming from but isn't it high time we told ourselves some home made truth?

What is this trash about dating and courtship sef? how long our mama and papa court if they even did?

Please let's face it...this courtship and dating thing is becoming boring...no lady should go into any affair if she is not ready to settle down and no guy has any reason to court a lady above a year except the girl just wants to waste her time or be a sex partner

@toks2008
Well finally its obvious you have some serious personal issues going on with you, my uncle dated his wife from jss3 and latter got married after 11years of dating.

I have a 5 years relationship also and we are perfect ,I never had any break up. Because we dont go online to rant over our grieve ,if you have any issue with your babe talk to her.

Put your self in a guy shoes,a gentle man jejely,has a relationship and he loves his lady, so because he never marry am,she should now be opening option to suitors...

Abeg if you finally find out,how will you feel?

I almost had an heartattack the first time I saw a guy texted my babe a love message and of which she didn't even know who sent it.

Baba,find your own babe dont break people relationship because you are grieving ,if she is taken ,go somewhere else.
Thank you.

Oneday82:
U make sense my dear. At times the kind forming u get from them will like shuu. I know of one 7 years still in a relationship

7 years small....I Don see 10years of engagement....in fact they celebrate engagement anniversary.

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Be smart gal..carry him along and keeping options open does not mean spending minutes talking to them...be smart. [/quote

I dont like when a lady is unpredictable, cmon we are guys now,all does ladies tactics ,we already know,if your girl is cheating you will know if you pay attention. Once I notice something is fishy.and I can't trust you....so you think I will settle down for you? When there are like over 50million yellow girls in Nigeria without man in there life]

TheLordIsGr8:


Hahahaha. abasi mbok !!! wonders must continue.... Taken to where and by who and on whose authority?



Ladies nko?




In fact, no be u suppose dey issue warning. Na who get sth dey tell others to keep off. Na person wen get space dey put signboard say no trespassing, so stop wasting mb biko. I know how much I spend to buy am for u.

btw, wetin u dey refine sef? because last time I check naija still dey import fuel

Stalker!!!...i see u cannot live without me...

[quote author=Oladokunst post=55861258][/quote]

500 million yellow girls...

Oladokunst:


@toks2008
Well finally its obvious you have some serious personal issues going on with you, my uncle dated his wife from jss3 and latter got married after 11years of dating.

I have a 5 years relationship also and we are perfect ,I never had any break up. Because we dont go online to rant over our grieve ,if you have any issue with your babe talk to her.

Put your self in a guy shoes,a gentle man jejely,has a relationship and he loves his lady, so because he never marry am,she should now be opening option to suitors...

Abeg if you finally find out,how will you feel?

I almost had an heartattack the first time I saw a guy texted my babe a love message and of which she didn't even know who sent it.

Baba,find your own babe dont break people relationship because you are grieving ,if she is taken ,go somewhere else.
Thank you.

lmao! this guy go fit shoot me if he sees me o....Chai! naira land is one forum I can recommend for high BP patients...oh my

Bro abeg o nah creative writing be this o and 99% of my write ups...I no get issue with any babel lol!

But come to think of it....if you be woman and you get one Bobo we dey date you for years without wedding and you Don dey near 30,you go like am?

2dugged:
let me guess you are the fault finder crew, I guess your next answer will be it was my fault, well, I already know it was my fault, infact, I never even realised I was already relegated from the main chick to the side chick till I decided to go all FBI on his ass, yeah, you can say I was too trusting( why trust another human who is prone to weakness just like you), and I was too relaxed too, and I obviously didn't know how to get advice, that's is why I want every lady reading this to be cautious, a relationship is 50/50, only serve the arm you are dealt, if he brings 20 give 20 back, simple, like I told the other guy, if we are to remove sentiments aside and look at it from every conceivable angle, a woman isn't yours until you have gone to see her father( both in.our culture and constitution) , I know this red pill will be too bitter for alot of guys to swallow, but that's the fact, many guys who aren't even ready to settle down in the next decade, use dating as a free passage

Well said. But you are sharing your grieve not advise, a lady is not yours until you marry her fine,we agree,so also a man is not yours until you are married.so why grief over what's not yours? Abi.

But for people who are faithful in there relationship and they share common goals and have big dreams together
,they already own each other, its not about the ring or showing up on the altar .
So open your eyes, choose wisely .
dont use your own mistake to poison innocent minds.

If it doesn't work for you,that doesnt mean its bad. Thats just your own luck.

refiner:

Stalker!!!...i see u cannot live without me...

so to quote you now don turn me stalker.

chai!!! this geh.... fear God ooooo.

if no be small thing now ehn... I for ... no worry. I no go ever quote you again. But I go tell u one last time. Your temper no go let you progress for life

Toks2008:


lmao! this guy go fit shoot me if he sees me o....Chai! naira land is one forum I can recommend for high BP patients...oh my

Bro abeg o nah creative writing be this o and 99% of my write ups...I no get issue with any babel lol!

But come to think of it....if you be woman and you get one Bobo we dey date you for years without wedding and you Don dey near 30,you go like am?

Lol.
See baba, no be all this ladies worth having a man. So dont even advocate for them, check most ladies that clock 30s and still not married ,I didn't say all, but most of them , they always have one thing or the other wrong with them that they dont wish to change , sum it cud be there past, for some it cud be there current behavior and some are husband and boyfriend snatcher. So after many ori oke,the owner will still come and collect her thing....

But to does that are faithful and man still chop there eyes. What's not yours will never be yours. So dont be sad. Just pray for your own to come and live your life and be happy you are alive.

Toks2008:
You ask an obviously unmarried lady out and she says "sorry I'm in a relationship" and many ladies will quickly change their status on their social media handle to...."in a relationship or Engaged" ...worse still some will go as far as putting up the pics of a man who is not yet officially theirs and I keep wondering what goes on in the minds of some ladies ..

Shall we call that being faithful or being naive?

Every lady reading this should wake up and understand that until a man is officially married to you,he can not be trusted in anyway and that a man is even engaged to you does not guaranty marriage

Each time you tell a guy who asks you out that you are taken while still unmarried,you are simply shutting the door on yourself too soon and many ladies have shut out their husbands simply because they got carried away by an unserious man who is only good at mouthing their love and giving them forlorn hope.

Don't get it twisted, this is not about being unfaithful to that particular guy you truly desire but it is about tactfully leaving your options open by not flaunting him on or offline thereby driving away possibly more willing suitors.

Many ladies remain taken for years without wedding bells and I have seen several ladies who have been engaged for years.

The bottom line is that you should stop flaunting any guy you are courting and only flaunt your husband

Ladies should stop blocking their chance cos In the real world...there is no in between and there is no such word like "I'm taken" while you are still unmarried.

You are either single or married

Don't know if this makes sense.

Touchè

Hmm, this is a thread for girls. But author seems unidirectional in thinking, never considered dangers. Every good condition has its signs and symptoms. The advice should go for girls that are in an unbalanced relationship. Life has no particular formula, the way yours came so you knew. Many gullible one that will follow this, many not come back. If they do, it will be with several degrees of injuries. God to leads.

story.. go and look for single ladies and stop asking Ladies to av double mind

Toks2008:


7 years small....I Don see 10years of engagement....in fact they celebrate engagement anniversary.

Like seriously Engagement Anniversary

That's hilarious

TheLordIsGr8:



so to quote you now don turn me stalker.

chai!!! this geh.... fear God ooooo.

if no be small thing now ehn... I for ... no worry. I no go ever quote you again. But I go tell u one last time. Your temper no go let you progress for life

Only if u stop being uptight...that emoji there meant i was only joking with u...

Bye.

Omotayor123:
I'm Taken

jokes apart, Op is so on point. Ladies let's stop the "Ayam taken" signature even when the guy concern is not showing any signs of proposing marriage.


You will see guys asking out and dating numerous Ladies with the excuse that they want to choose between/among alternatives so as to have the best. Why can't ladies do same


Let's be wise abeg!

see what u r teaching ladies. Ladies that can't control their emotions. At the end, they lose on both ends because of their indecision. Ladies Beware.

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7 years small....I Don see 10years of engagement....in fact they celebrate engagement anniversary.
10 years what!! And they are courageous enough to celebrate anniversary join. What a world.

So OP what are you insinuating. .that if you are in a relationship..yhu don't have to be faithful to one man??

Weda dx dude likes it or not, there is more risk involved in hvn this open option than stickn to a guy who has tkn u serious. Keep campaigning 4 girls to be loosed....when u finally gt dt girl u want to marry, during the stage u preparn to marry her, a guy will nack her as she has to be open to more suitors till d wedding is done and dusted. Hw abt dt?

2dugged:
just like the op has stated, this is one of the things causing delayed marriages in women, I remember a relationship expert talking about keeping your options open, from experience, I remember about 4 guys I turned down for my ex,infact I didn't even want to be friends with them cos in my naive little mind, I didn't want to "emotionally cheat", and now, they are married and my ex and I broke up.
ladies wise up, a man who is ready doesn't need a decade to consult his ancestors if you are the one or not,that's a fact,If after two years,he not showing signs of commitment, throw him the question and if his answer isn't satisfactory, walk away o

bold enough to be honest. Kudos

This is a very wrong post...doesn't apply to everyone...you're unfortunate in your relationship doesn't mean everyone will be...what about guys flaunting their women?

Toks2008:

That is not true...but I Don dash you a like

Wehdone sir!

queenbetsy:
noted! I just found what I've been seriously looking for...

You'll surely be misled, if you're planning on following sure advice.

Even marriage doesn't guarantee anything. So she is with sumbody she should open up herself for all men and build emotional attachment all in the name of marriage? Some ppl put men on their wall and Facebook page they end up in the Alter some did not and yet alter them no see. So all this online expert that think that life is all about marriage sorry to disappoint u even after marriage nothing is guaranteed

Toks2008:
You ask an obviously unmarried lady out and she says "sorry I'm in a relationship" and many ladies will quickly change their status on their social media handle to...."in a relationship or Engaged" ...worse still some will go as far as putting up the pics of a man who is not yet officially theirs and I keep wondering what goes on in the minds of some ladies ..

Shall we call that being faithful or being naive?

Every lady reading this should wake up and understand that until a man is officially married to you,he can not be trusted in anyway and that a man is even engaged to you does not guaranty marriage

Each time you tell a guy who asks you out that you are taken while still unmarried,you are simply shutting the door on yourself too soon and many ladies have shut out their husbands simply because they got carried away by an unserious man who is only good at mouthing their love and giving them forlorn hope.

Don't get it twisted, this is not about being unfaithful to that particular guy you truly desire but it is about tactfully leaving your options open by not flaunting him on or offline thereby driving away possibly more willing suitors.

Many ladies remain taken for years without wedding bells and I have seen several ladies who have been engaged for years.

The bottom line is that you should stop flaunting any guy you are courting and only flaunt your husband

Ladies should stop blocking their chance cos In the real world...there is no in between and there is no such word like "I'm taken" while you are still unmarried.

You are either single or married

Don't know if this makes sense.

Dearest OP, what exactly are u driving at? if any other guy ask us out wen we re already in a relationship,what re we suppose to say? single?

2dugged:


a woman isn't yours until you have gone to see her father( both in.our culture and constitution) , I know this red pill will be too bitter for alot of guys to swallow, but that's the fact,

You are right even biblically too, the marriage process starts once you seek the consent thats when you can even start laying claim that she is yours

The reason why these issues are springing forth is because things are not done the way it used to be, in most Nigerian cultures theres nothing like dating, now its a different thing entirely.

It used to be boy sees girl, boy tells his parents , his family go to seek the hand of the girl (parents may ask the girl of she likes the boy) if yes deal is signed, A date is chosen, and the period between when the consent of the parents is sought and the wedding ceremony proper is the courtship, they meet in a public place or properly chaperoned.

That setting no longer exist, now people date and then court .

One of the major things that cause trouble for ladies is relationship flaunting especially on social media.

Omotayor123:
I'm Taken

jokes apart, Op is so on point. Ladies let's stop the "Ayam taken" signature even when the guy concern is not showing any signs of proposing marriage.


You will see guys asking out and dating numerous Ladies with the excuse that they want to choose between/among alternatives so as to have the best.

And Ladies do would put these guys on top their head


Let's be wise abeg!

ladies are expert in the above you just mentioned

Toks2008:


Lol! I wonder why people juxtapose this to cheating...

If you were actually telling me you could easily take it with ur gf/bf having relationship another person giving you this same excuse, you would not be a realist

firstking01:
Hmmmm, i think the write up is a food for thought for the ladies but op, telling a nigerian girl this is just like coming to say that lionel messi is better than ronaldo which is the blunt truth and far too obvious to argue about...i always tell my female colleagues, until a man pays your bride price still keep your options open...i don't even know were this engagement, dating and courting thing came from sef cos it's not even in the bible....in the olden days if you see a young damsel/virgin(as it's what they used to adress a young girl in the days of our fathers and mothers), you just make enquiry about her parents and before you know you guys are getting married....and most times you are only meant to see each other on an approval by both parents not to talk of having sex, but today the world don spoil.

lol... you love old days maybe u should get a donkey or a horse to ride on. marriage guarantees nothing. What works for u may not work for someone else. My advice to lady follow your instinct. You can say I am taken and u get to the Alter with that guy on the other hand u can keep your options open and still not get to the Alter afterall most of the guys that wishing u keep options open are actually selfish some feel they can just buy a woman. Trust your instinct.
I for one if you keep your options open I will also keep my options open so don't expect high level commitment chikena