illuminated93:
@freespirited,she will see this thread soon,cos she's a nairalander and she looks up my account every now and then.

daylyt:
Leave her NOW! 
Not only will you have to go without sex but you'll also be stuck with a religious nut for the rest of your life. And they only get more delusional as they get older. 
My guess, your relationship won't last that long.

Lobatan ...



Luminouz aka kunlery

daylyt:
Leave her NOW! 
Not only will you have to go without sex but you'll also be stuck with a religious nut for the rest of your life. And they only get more delusional as they get older. 
My guess, your relationship won't last that long.

Lobatan ...



Luminouz aka kunlery

daylyt:


Your Choices: Get her to compromise; be satisfied with hand jobs or whatever she has to offer; cheat; become celibate; ditch her...

luminouz:


Is this who I think he is

daylyt:




Ehnnn emi na ni..

illuminated93:
Is hand job not a sin? All this sculptural things just make me sick cos of they reek of hypocrisy

luminouz:

Lmaoooooo! U welcome to daylight bro

daylyt:


Na inside this body I dey now..

luminouz:

Wetin do ur oda bodies again

daylyt:


Nothing..

Dem dey vacation..

luminouz:


Here is luminous to help a brother out!!!!
I have been through a similar case....she said I was taking her away from God n she wanted a time out(which was after a night I purposely refused to Bleep her coz I got exams am preparing for) I told her we should talk about it as a couple,DAT it ain't cool for her to just decide to go AWOL for 3 months coz of her sudden urge to repent of her sin.z(she didnt suggest i take time off o coz i SINNED too) i knew she was up to something but becoz am a free minded guy....I let her have her time off(no calls no text)! Fast forward 2months later...I went to her neighborhood to get something from a mall n on a hunch just decided to check her..it was d best decision I ever made bro! I just barged into her room n u should have seen d look on my ex face when she saw me looking aghast as she was diiiking herself with a candle(the big size)... I recovered sharperly n just asked her if DAT candle has been baptized for HOLEY penetration n I walked out! Her hypocrisy disgusted me n I sharpely called two gehs wey don dey eye me since n forgot about her! She came d following week to tell bla bla bla ..I always evoke d spirit of lust in her...she feels like having sex anytime she is with me n God had finally told her break up with me n SHIIIT! She couldnt even look at me when talking! She wanted to punish me for 3 months without sex especting me to run over begging her n all dat but when she couldnt take it anymore she self serviced...I just called my new gf to come over n told her lying hypocritical ass to get outta my room.

My advice is simple..if ur sure she is sincere about how she feels n not a pretender....help her dedicate more time to her spiritual life at d expense of sex( if u can do without it oooo) but most times gehs like DAT think ur d reason they sinned(as if no be d 2 of una fvck) n will wanna break off with u to concentrate fully on God! If u love her let her have her space but have another geh ready to take over if she fvcks up o.....

luminouz:
SIN.Z wudup

SINZ:


I dey, baba.

You mentioned me, was just pointing it out.

illuminated93:
Overtime,i've Learnt to trust my instincts,and recently,it has been telling me that my relationship is about to hit a bumpy road. There has been this unusual disconnect in my relationship with my half,i thought about an effective communication with her so she could possibly let me in on stuffs going on in her mind.

I felt 2 major things could be the cause of this disconnect:

1) maybe she has found a better happiness somewhere,and if that's the case I need not distract her from her new found feeling,i just need to find happiness myself.

2) Maybe she's dealing with stuffs that are just too complicated for her to air out.

It turned out number 2 was the reason for her bumpy behaviour. She said ever since she met me,I made her stray away from God,she has no relationship with God whatsoever. She also said,she want things to be like they were before sex came up. Finally,she says she doesn't want sex anymore.

So she says no sex,and I wonder how things got to this point. I used to think we were the best things that happened to ourselves ,but it turned out a strange feeling was hidden in the matrix of our relationship. I'd like to hear from folks who have been though this phase,how did you deal with the situation?

Btw, I understand that no one is indispensable, not me either.
Cc:
Freespirited
Paulkillerman
Nina4u
Luminouz
Stallione

illuminated93:
1) Yea, I met her a virgin,but she knew about sex and all that,cos she read stuffs on the internet.

2)I don't think she's that religious,not like the born again people. She's more of a secular christian who wants a close relationship with God

3) I don't think there exist a guy that fuccks better than I do.

4)she said it's like the sex is the basis of our relationship. I was stunned when she said this anyways.

5) we both have been going through a financial meltdown offlate.

I'm kinda concerned about our future together. If she pictures a future with me,why would she want us to stop abruptly something we've already started? Except of course she feels when everything ends, she'll end up being the loser. That is to say,in her heart of hearts,she thinks things won't go as planned and we won't end up being couples. The only reason i'm this concerned about her is cos I really do love her,but the feedback I'm getting are not worthwhile. Everyone has a point where they stop caring,this I fear I might start doing,and it would mark the beginning of the end

Sanchez01:

Your number four (4) is the problem here and unfortunately, it is the whole truth. You have stayed it her this long before of the sex. It is not surprising that you feel there is a disconnect between you two since she has resolved to say away from sex. Unconsciously, your mind has programmed everything to be about sex and staying longer than this would be a 'waste of time' since you're not getting 'something meaningful' from it.

My recommendation would be that you let her go since you guys seem to be on opposite lanes right now. Truth is, a whole lot might fall out of place if you decide to stay, reason being that your attempt at resolving 'the problem' would bother around going back to the way you guys were before she made this unfavourable decision.

According to you, there is a disconnect at this time and trust me, it would be reconnecting anytime soon, except she bends to you. I think her decision is wise as she might be thinking she has never gained anything positive, I mean resourceful from the relationship. While you believe you guys have been the perfect thing next to God since sex came in.

If she wants to draw closer to God and wants to put sex behind her, then I believe it is fair enough that you assist her in doing so. And if you think it makes no meaning since sex is off the menu, I'd recommend you sit her down and put an end to it like sane folks would do.

daylyt:
Leave her NOW! 
Not only will you have to go without sex but you'll also be stuck with a religious nut for the rest of your life. And they only get more delusional as they get older. 
My guess, your relationship won't last that long.

Lobatan ...



Luminouz aka kunlery

missrational:


I agree with this because I've been through that stage. If she's the kind of person who is susceptible to religious guilt then there will be no end to the issues that will come up because she feels she is sinning.

Sadly, there's very little you can do for her right now. This is something she has to work out personally. Any opinions that come from you will be seen as coming from the devil himself. I don't see how this relationship will survive because I won't advice you to give into religious demands.

Curvinus:
Forget what women say. From experience, they are always looking up to something superior. This is why you find them constantly working against their own interests. Once they perceive your world as a man revolves around them, they start to regard you as weak and hop on the next available c.ock that gives them the tingles. That's why as a guy, you should always mirror her actions. If she's giving you positive vibes, you can return half as much to give you a head start on her. But if she is all cold and distant, there is no harm in sticking to the golden rule.

But this is an uphill task for a man in a long term relationship because the need to provide will override every other consideration. It explains why we only marry the best of female species to produce beautiful up-spring in exchange for all the nasty things that go with marriage

But for a man in the dating scene, the magic bullet is to always have options that you can fall back on. This eliminates neediness which is the biggest killer of passion. I know us men are wired to focus and solve one task and provide solutions. But when it comes to women and relationships, you have to let go of your captain-save-a-hoe instincts and let her make or break her world. Anything else you do will be counter productive.

illuminated93:
How did you end it with her?
U guys still talk?

missrational:


I'm female, and I went through the phase where I thought my boyfriend was keeping me from God. I've since realised that puritanism is an effort in futility.

I told him I had to leave him to face God, this was over 6 years ago. We still chat occasionally and he's doing well. He has been with his current girlfriend for over 5 years and is getting married soon. So don't worry about losing her, you'll find the right woman for you.

rosalieene:
she strayed from the path of God and have realized herself, help her and also join her. Sex is not everything.

You say fiancee right? It's worth the wait till you are wedded

illuminated93:
1) Yea, I met her a virgin,but she knew about sex and all that,cos she read stuffs on the internet.

2)I don't think she's that religious,not like the born again people. She's more of a secular christian who wants a close relationship with God

3) I don't think there exist a guy that fuccks better than I do.

4)she said it's like the sex is the basis of our relationship. I was stunned when she said this anyways.

5) we both have been going through a financial meltdown offlate.

I'm kinda concerned about our future together. If she pictures a future with me,why would she want us to stop abruptly something we've already started? Except of course she feels when everything ends, she'll end up being the loser. That is to say,in her heart of hearts,she thinks things won't go as planned and we won't end up being couples. The only reason i'm this concerned about her is cos I really do love her,but the feedback I'm getting are not worthwhile. Everyone has a point where they stop caring,this I fear I might start doing,and it would mark the beginning of the end

illuminated93:
Na so i will be all caring ,then oneday one guyman would dig that hole after he presses the mumu button. Every woman is vulnerable to making mistakes..I repeat every woman.

rosalieene:

you've just said what's in ur mind

So in essence, you want to keep eating her honeypot as long as it's still available.

Assuming I know your gf, I would just tell her you are not worth the stress because you are just after the sex and nothing more

rosalieene:

you've just said what's in ur mind

So in essence, you want to keep eating her honeypot as long as it's still available.

Assuming I know your gf, I would just tell her you are not worth the stress because you are just after the sex and nothing more

illuminated93:
@freespirited,she will see this thread soon,cos she's a nairalander and she looks up my account every now and then.