Hello Nairalanders. Pls I want to share my love story with you. I'm a christian and there is this my high school friend that we grew fond of each while in high school, we had been "just friends".

While in SS3, I was a prefect and she was my assistant. This gave us more time together, back then we never thought of romance, we were just the "serious type" always discussing our studies and helping each other. We were best of friends.

It was during the last days at High School that we realised how attached we had grown to each other, I remember we talked about how we will miss each other in a 'friendly' manner while taking a walk round the school.

In those days, I realised I had more feelings than friendship towards her but I do tell my self that it was just infatuation that once we leave each other, the feeelings will die off and I will perhaps meet someone else.

Four years down the line, we still can't let go of each other, we usually only talked on phone and social media not until some months ago that I decided to pay her a visit in her home.

The visit was so nostalgic, we were delighted to see each other but we both kept on hiding our feelings. I think we are both pretending not to feel anything beyond friendship. This is because of differences in our religion.

I met with her dad, an Alhaji, that day, and we also discussed Nigeria and the waxing hardship, I sense he was quite liberal. Maybe that's because I and his daughter were "just friends".

Now, our calls usually starts well but ends cold, when it's time to say goodbye, we are both pretending towards each other. I know, and I think she knows also.

If we had been of the same religion, I would have made my feelings known to her but I just can't summon the courage to do so now. Our differences in religion didnot stop me from loving her but stopping me from having her.

I would like your suggestions. Have you ever been in such situation before? How did you do it?

Pls I want mature suggestions.

Thanks in advance.

Go ahead man and tell her. Love knows no boundaries. Give it a try and you will be glad you did. No need torturing yourself for years. Make a move now!

Hmm

Hmmm...well in your case you are the guy snd she might end up becoming a Christian. But if she doesn't, there will be differences and clashes. Love is not enough to sustain a marriage. So you have to project fivd yrs down the line...ten years... . I was in love with a muslim guy at one point abd I saw in him a lot of things i wanted in a husband. But i thought about a lot of things like how would we bring up the children...will they be torn between being Christian or Muslim...would my husband and I be able to pray together...etc. and i knew i was never going to convert and so I moved on.
The moral of my story...weigh all the options before making ur decision.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Go ahead man and tell her. Love knows no boundaries. Give it a try and you will be glad you did. No need torturing yourself for years. Make a move now!

You get it bro, it's like torture. My fear actually is how will it work? I guess, We are going to have clashes in philosophies due to differences in religion. We are both attached to our religions, but I'm surprised I can't obey the law that "do not be unevenly attached to unbelievers". Love trully has no boundaries, if we are to be sincere with ourselves.

Thanks for your reply..I really appreciate it.

ImaIma1:
Hmmm...well in your case you are the guy snd she might end up becoming a Christian. But if she doesn't, there will be differences and clashed. Love is not enough to sustain a marriage. So you have to project fivd yrs down the line...ten years... . I was in love with a muslim guy at one point abd I saw in him a lot of things i wanted in a husband. But i thought about a lot of things like how would we bring up the children...will they be torn between being Christian or Muslim...would my husband and I be able to pray together...etc. and i knew i was never going to convert and so I moved on.
The moral of my story...weigh all the options before making ur decision.

You get it sis, you get it. I do think of things like our children, praying together and stuffs like that. I've actually tried 'moving on', but I just can't. I've tried cutting contact from her, but it didnot work. It's just like torture, everyday torture.

AbujaLover:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls I want to share my love story with you. I'm a christian and there is this my high school friend that we grew fond of each while in high school, we had been "just friends".

While in SS3, I was a prefect and she was my assistant. This gave us more time together, back then we never thought of romance, we were just the "serious type" always discussing our studies and helping each other. We were best of friends.

It was during the last days at High School that we realised how attached we had grown to each other, I remember we talked about how we will miss each other in a 'friendly' manner while taking a walk round the school.

In those days, I realised I had more feelings than friendship towards her but I do tell my self that it was just infatuation that once we leave each other, the feeelings will die off and I will perhaps meet someone else.

Four years down the line, we still can't let go of each other, we usually only talked on phone and social media not until some months ago that I decided to pay her a visit in her home.

The visit was so nostalgic, we were delighted to see each other but we both kept on hiding our feelings. I think we are both pretending not to feel anything beyond friendship. This is because of differences in our religion.

I met with her dad, an Alhaji, that day, and we also discussed Nigeria and the waxing hardship, I sense he was quite liberal. Maybe that's because I and his daughter were "just friends".

Now, our calls usually starts well but ends cold, when it's time to say goodbye, we are both pretending towards each other. I know, and I think she knows also.

If we had been of the same religion, I would have made my feelings known to her but I just can't summon the courage to do so now. Our differences in religion didnot stop me from loving her but stopping me from having her.

I would like your suggestions. Have you ever been in such situation before? How did you do it?

Pls I want mature suggestions.

Thanks in advance.
cc lalasticlala

If your Bible not religion means anything to you you'll not go or do anything contrary to it. Whatever reduces or will reduce you to what you are not or should not be, desist from it with immediate effect!

Don't let impulsive feelings get the best of you as it did to Adam and he went against what he was warned not to do, unless of course you want to be like Adam! I know you wouldn't want to be like him so do the right thing - follow the Truth

tough case i wont lie..truth be told no matter how we say love has no boundaries it really do have
the fact is one of you will have to sacrifice hes/her religion saying you can do it without her leaving her belief is a recipe for trouble..
buh i do know of a case where the man converted to muslim married the girl and converted back to christian immediately ..
first just way your options and make sure both of you are on the same page

marvin902:
tough case i wont lie..truth be told no matter how we say love has no boundaries it really do have
the fact is one of you will have to sacrifice hes/her religion saying you can do it without her leaving her belief is a recipe for trouble..
buh i do know of a case where the man converted to muslim married the girl and converted back to christian immediately ..
first just way your options and make sure both of you are on the same page

Thanks bro, I think I will first have to admit to her how I feel. I will break the pretence, even if it can't work, I wil just let her know.

Religion, a human induced boundary line that has made and marred so many things.

Y'all sounding like u gave a fvck
Hw dos it concern me wen d trouble looms

It takes more than love to make a marriage successful. Like the mathematicians would say... Luv is a necessary but not sufficient condition for marriage.

Can two walk together except they agree? The biblical injunction not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever is not a suggestion, it is a command given by God to guide against future avoidable problems.

Our faith to a large extent shapes our life's philosophy. Do the two of you share the same vision of life? Views of the role of the man n woman in marriage? How about child upbringing? How would your family prayer life look like? What about relationship with your in-laws n relations? Career n business choice?

You see marriage has so many challenges that it is extremely unwise to burden it with a difference so fundamental as your Faith.

I would advise that you tread cautiously. The commandments of God are not barriers or obstacles to 'enjoyment '. They are like safety rules or fence that protects you from trouble n heartaches....given by an all-knowing God out of love.

I pray you have the wisdom to decide n choose rightly....because more often than not, when it comes to issues of the heart, many are carried away by emotional sentimentalism that defies reason.

God Bless You.

It won't work....just throw in the towel.

Infomaz:
It takes more than love to make a marriage successful. Like the mathematicians would say... Luv is a necessary but not sufficient condition for marriage.

Can two walk together except they agree? The biblical injunction not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever is not a suggestion, it is a command given by God to guide against future avoidable problems.

Our faith to a large extent shapes our life's philosophy. Do the two of you share the same vision of life? Views of the role of the man n woman in marriage? How about child upbringing? How would your family prayer life look like? What about relationship with your in-laws n relations? Career n business choice?

You see marriage has so many challenges that it is extremely unwise to burden it with a difference so fundamental as your Faith.

I would advise that you tread cautiously. The commandments of God are not barriers or obstacles to 'enjoyment '. They are like safety rules or fence that protects you from trouble n heartaches....given by an all-knowing God out of love.

I pray you have the wisdom to decide n choose rightly....because more often than not, when it comes to issues of the heart, many are carried away by emotional sentimentalism that defies reason.

God Bless You.

Amen. Thanks bro.

firstking01:
It won't work....just throw in the towel.

My brother, it's easier said than done. Sometimes I just wish our differences will just disappear and we would be together with nothing separating us...it's really a hard decision to let go.

AbujaLover:

My brother, it's easier said than done. Sometimes I just wish our differences will just disappear and we would be together with nothing separating us...it's really a hard decision to let go.

Religion issues in relationships is usually a dicy one and not something to cajole with....even if you guys get married now you 'll still pathways in due course...so, berra let the cats out now that's still hay and sunny.

Good for you bro. Religion is a human construct. Love is a primordial emotion that should be expressed regardless of anything that divides us.

Yes, I've been in the same situation. was in love with a guy sometime last year. One day I playfully asked my dad if he'd allow me marry a Muslim, He said no except he(the guy) is ready to convert to a Christian. the best thing I'd advise you do to is to know the opinion of your parent and that of hers. If they support it, fine(though it's very rare for them to support it) if they don't support it however, its better you call it off right now before you guys get too attached to each other.

Run for your life

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give her Belle; very simple

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A lot of reasonable people will tell you that it is proper that people who do not share the same religious beliefs should not get married because of the expected corollaries we have witnessed . But there are instances like Mark Zuckerberg (practicing Jew) and his wife Priscilla Chan (Buddhist) and I've got two friends who have Muslim dads and Christian moms - we can see from these instances that the foundation of those marriages is built on love . Love begets religious tolerance and precludes religious bigotry .

But as a Christian do you think you handle the downside of that ? Consider your spiritual growth as a family . And your kids . Which religion will they belong to ? Mum's or dad's ? Or will you give them the freedom to choose theirs ? My friend goes to both Church and the Mosque - can you handle this level of confusion ? And of course , the heated arguments that'd ensue because of your religious differences . People can be very passionate about their religious beliefs . What about religious holidays ? Would you be comfortable with your spouse's religious holiday celebrations ? Would you join her to celebrate ? What if you don't? Can you handle her repulsive reactions and the awkward moments ?

Her father is an Alhaji.

Where would the wedding take place?

Will the naming of your kids be done by the pastor or Alfa?

Will they be Christians or Muslims?

Can you handle the heat from your family and hers when the time comes?

You know what to do when you've answered these questions.

Love is not enough.

since you are religious, it wont work.
the truth is the love you feel today might not be there tomorrow and that's when you guys would have to accommodate your differences and religion is a very difficult difference to accommodate. most marriages are been held together by either kids or religious beliefs after like two years so be wise if you want something that would last very long.

BTW religion is man made, you can make your research with open mind and find out for yourself. but even if you find out, will you be able to convince her?

I pity you.

Only Yoruba Muslims and Christians are somewhat free to intermarry.

The others... NO GO AREA.

Go back. That's the end of the tunnel, and it's dark. Discharge and acquit yourself immediately.

LOVE ABOVE ALL

1corinthians 7 vs 12-16
To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
Normally, Yorubas don't have problem doing inter-religious marriage but dis days things as changed, people now put religion on their head, if u were d lady, it may b difficult convincing ur parent, bt as d guy n being being xtrian, I don't think u will av a problem convincing ur parent but the problem now is hw do u convince d gal' parent?
I know of some people married to d other religion n doing fine.
1. Asiwaju Bola Hammed Tinubu
2. Babatunde Raji Fashola
3. Folorunsho Alakija
4. Ibikunle Amosun
5. Abdul Fatai Hammed etc

Its normal these days

this one get as e be o