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Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by lydiaoluwaseyi(f): 6:34am On Jun 28, 2017 |
that mentality is really wrong nd should be corrected |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 6:34am On Jun 28, 2017 |
sexybbstar: Thoughtful! It is however unfortunate that it would take more than miracles for some of these parents to allow that. What will you say in situation where a mother earns as monthly pension (120k) more than what her son earns as salary (87k). She lives in her own house, no other kids that she is sponsoring. She has a shop that brings in money for her (in addition to her monthly pension) . The son however has three kids, labouring to keep his family comfortable at the detriment if his own comfort. He still manage to give the mother a little stipend on monthly basis (because they say we must take care of our parents) , yet she complains that the guy wasn't responsible to her as he should. We live in a society where things sometimes go out of hand. And like I said, it will take miracle for these people to see reasons with us. Though, what we need isn't miracle,, it's decisive actions. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Emmahunk(m): 6:56am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Evaberry: Are you kidding me? It's okay if you choose to be a lesbian, it's your life but why so much hatred for men? We definitely have our shortcomings just like women too. Slow down on the hatred dear, a possible ingrate amongst men does not make all of us "crazy scum, useless and just disgusting. Finally on the issue at stake, don't allow your hatred for us to becloud your sense of judgement. The Op was right, parents should take care of the children they bring into the world. I pray that you find love someday soon. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by cocoberry(f): 6:58am On Jun 28, 2017 |
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Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by judgedredd22(m): 7:23am On Jun 28, 2017 |
uminem02: haba... and you still never done?! |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by judgedredd22(m): 7:24am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Evaberry: 1 Like
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Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by uminem02(m): 7:29am On Jun 28, 2017 |
judgedredd22:Bros abeg come add d remaining condiments |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by TheSociopath(m): 7:38am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Evaberry: Unwise comment |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by femi4: 7:39am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Evaberry:Lesbian my foot! As at 2nd of March: My bf of almost a year broke up with me recently, I cried for days, and was severely depressed, I ended all communications with him but lately I keep thinking about him and have this need to talk to him I really don't know why I feel like speaking to him. I still love him alot and don't know how to move on 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by olujastro: 7:47am On Jun 28, 2017 |
My own na reverse case. The youngest of five children being responsible for almost all others. I'm only excited when I give to my mum, the rest na just church mind I dey use. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 7:48am On Jun 28, 2017 |
femi4: hahahaha laughing so hard here I love Nairaland too damn much only a wise person can see I'm just looking for attention but Bros Na WA for u ooo u really carry your finger go stalk my post 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by femi4: 7:53am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Evaberry:lol..... I dey untop your matter |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by bullabong(m): 7:58am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Evaberry:Before you condemn all men as scum or whatever you call it,take a look at urself in the mirror for 5 minutes and speak the truth to urself about what made it possible for u to only attract men of the same quality(scums) Means you are either very cheap or you are also a scum. 14 yrs awaits you here in this world someday when you are caught in the act of lesbianism and maybe another bigger punishment in the after life. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by bunminikan(m): 8:04am On Jun 28, 2017 |
thanks OP! this is evil and a national one for that matter. this singular practise has contributed for underdevelopment in our society. there must be an enforced change of attitude. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by solacong: 8:26am On Jun 28, 2017 |
femi4: gbagaun detector ndewo you sir! 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Chidinmaluv22(f): 8:27am On Jun 28, 2017 |
I do this but I do it out of love. I believe is God that will reward me |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by fakuta(f): 8:33am On Jun 28, 2017 |
99% of the parents that are doing this to their children can't get this message |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Ugosample(m): 8:42am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Phut: Well, I see your point, but the thing is that culture is dynamic. Even those Asians you hailed, they are fast changing their attitudes too, especially the 3rd to 4th generation Japanese/Chinese youths in the U.S. /Canada. We should just do what is right, that's all 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by gokuu(m): 9:01am On Jun 28, 2017 |
gypsey: You are truly DEPLORABLE! |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by gokuu(m): 9:04am On Jun 28, 2017 |
gypsey: Hahaha...and if you kick them out, people will say you are wicked, not the useless couple who bring in children that will be totally disadvantaged in this increasingly competitive world. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Sirheny007(m): 9:05am On Jun 28, 2017 |
@Op thanks for this exposing this fact.. I am 23, and the responsibilities on my shoulders no be here! Being an Igbo, I am already expected to start preparations for building a house..and as the first male son of the family, I am forced to sacrifice my academic ambitions in order to provide for my younger brothers... I had to drop out from a University to settle for a Polytechnic..I traded a 6 year course for a 2 year national diploma.. Anyway, I have learned to put one step at a time. I am not ranting or exposing my predicaments, but parents might not know these things depresses us.. Parents should watch out lest we die before our time. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by gokuu(m): 9:08am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Coldfeets: Exactly!! 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 9:09am On Jun 28, 2017 |
I can bet my ass the victim is from the southeast. Yorubas don't "use" their children in this manner. Responsibility my foot! Rubbish. sexybbstar: |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by RockyEyo(m): 9:12am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Do you think the parents that need to hear this are reading this? If an educated and enlightened parent does this then it has to be due to unplanned future (which so many of us here are guilty of, cos of all the experiences we had with insurance in Nigeria). Meanwhile, @Op hit me up when you become a pensioner parent. do the lil you can and let ur siblings kw that the hustle is real. What is so killing in our today Nigeria is the fact that we still don't want to teach the younger ones how to fish but complain every time they come asking for fish. I rest my case.......... |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by gokuu(m): 9:13am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Sirheny007: You are the one letting this happen to you. Advise: you better pursue your dreams and ignore social expectations or you will look back in some decades and always wonder how far you could have gone if only you had pursued your own dreams. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by obi123: 9:19am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Nyceguy92: no what the op is trying to say is that parents should stop having kids that they cannot raise , expecting the first born child son or daughter to immediately take up the mantle of responsibility when they themselves are yet to even able to stand causes unnecessary pressure. With depression on the rise no ones needs that kind of pressure please in this life, if its 2 kids you can raise then have 2 kids for goodness sake , not 8 then you expect your first born child to raise 9 people his/her 7 siblings + 2 parents. In some cases the pressure sips into the marriage of said first born child thats if they manage to get married, because the funds are now spread so thinly that the pressure will lead to many challenges for all involved. Anything can happen, parents will get ill, they will die,there will be one project or the other, this same first born child will treat , bury the parents and still raise his/her siblings, then now raise his/her family . ah ah sometimes the pressure is tooooooooooooooo damn much |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Electroweb(m): 9:30am On Jun 28, 2017 |
This is very true. A funny one is when a nephew tells you that you have to train him because he assumed his father or mother put you through school. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by erico2k2(m): 9:33am On Jun 28, 2017 |
gokuu:I was not talking about the OP I was talking about you and it is very evident that you failed to read btw the lines . I'm a parent to three . You are not . The university of life is a wonderful school of though and it's free . But there is no repeat . My advice plan well . Your savings of 10 years ago is worth a basket of tomatoes only mi et made during the times of needs make sense . Imagine if your Dad saved 500k 1998 and thought that's you sorted for Uni . What is it worth now ? U get where I'm coming from that ur savings might just mean nothing . You can only sustain yoyr commitment only if you are in employment or in Biz at said time. |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by erico2k2(m): 9:34am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Electroweb:Bro leave that thing it's not by force |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Kobicove(m): 9:36am On Jun 28, 2017 |
This observation is very accurate... It's also because of this entitlement mindset that corruption has refused to die in Nigeria |
Re: Nigerian Parents Should Stop This. by Nobody: 9:50am On Jun 28, 2017 |
Thank God I have only 2 younger brothers. They b men. |
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