FortuneTeller:


Good for you. It's a broke man mentality that will make you bitter. Just understand you will never get a woman you truly want being that way. That is why some should marry while others remain single.

Biggest bullshhit! You are not that important in a man's life.

Oyindidi:
There is nothing he'll say that she doesn't know. Let him look for a job no matter how small and take his rightful place in his family.

You're right dear but I think she just needs some form of assurance from him while he's still job hunting

FortuneTeller:


It's always the broke men who scream the loudest during such topics

Hahahahahahaahahahahgahaha, look at this mumu, digging up a decoy statement I made on an MMM thread, on those jumping online to mock those that lost their money in MMM, I just wanted to know if he will help those he is laughing at, till today the I.diot did not reply the PM. The fellow is your type that take advantage of those that doesn't have or are disadvantaged.

FortuneTeller:


It's always the broke men who scream the loudest during such topics

OK we agree we are broke and if you are not rich like alakija and calling others broke then something is wrong with this world

Last I checked alakija still bears her husband's name even if she is richer, still cooks for him and so on, please strive to be successful like her and be on your own since only broke men say the truth

TinaAnita:


Says who? Some people actually go to the market not only to buy a half yard but just to admire the quality of the material pending there is money to pick one if you know what that means. We live in a world where most of you guys prefer slay queens to home girls.

but don't be among the material people will only be window shopping or the half yard DAT is just a remenant, a left over after the main yards has all been purchased.

chibuzorAbia:


Biggest bullshhit! You are not that important in a man's life.

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You're an atheist and self hater. You seem awfully bitter about life.

chibuzorAbia:
A monkey is a monkey any day, rich or not. Since 99% of Nigerians are dirt poor, all Nigerians are poor!

chibuzorAbia:
Africans and their "God". The thing that doesn't exist. Oga o!

yungmill:


Young lady relax let's not divert, the point I was trying to pass is ladies should stop setting up double standards, because a man lost his job for four months he is now a lazy loafer even when he did not neglect his duties prior to his fall from grace

Now I asked what of ladies who fail in their duties and their husband's lovingly accommodate their deficiencies and even provide help and the answer I get is some men deserve lazy wives


Always shifting the goal post since the 21st century

See, you can't eat your cake and have it. It's almost impossible for you to retain your title as the head of the family while your wife becomes the breadwinner. It's okay for a woman to be understanding and supportive if her husband loses his job but trust me when I say she would get exhausted if the man fails to Man up on time. Please let's face reality.. It is not the responsibility of any woman to be the breadwinner

God wanted you to learn a lesson. You will get another job but you have known the kind of woman you married. So in future love her but put her in her level.
Women and money are like 5 and 6

yungmill:


OK we agree we are broke and if you are not rich like alakija and calling others broke then something is wrong with this world

Last I checked alakija still bears her husband's name even if she is richer, still cooks for him and so on, please strive to be successful like her and be on your own since only broke men say the truth

If you think she is cooking for her husband every day, you are a fool! The amount of money she has, surpasses our common level. Get sense!

A man who cannot take care of his family is worse than an infidel na Bible talk am. Go out and hustle while you search for job even if it's menial work do it and earn money. It's not a woman place to fend for a man. Most women cannot handle the pressure of single handedly fending for their family for long except if she's an Angel. I for one cannot fend for a man who is healthy or not handicapped. God forbid if I lose my job,I won't fold my hand,I will rather sell garri than sit at home. There's dignity in labour. Your wife is mean for keeping records,it's her family too. Let her attitude ginger you to get to a better place financially.

TinaAnita:




See, you can't eat your cake and have it. It's almost impossible for you to retain your title as the head of the house while your wife becomes the breadwinner. It's okay for a woman to be understanding and supportive if her husband loses his job but trust me when I say she would get exhausted if the man fails to Man up on time. Please let's face reality.

This post irritate me. So you think a wife is not an help mate again. So if a man lost his job or ha e a financial downturn he must lose his position as the head.

You wack

CapitalCee:


Hahahahahahaahahahahgahaha, look at this mumu, digging up a decoy statement I made on an MMM thread, on those jumping online to mock those that lost their money in MMM, I just wanted to know if he will help those he is laughing at, till today the I.diot did not reply the PM. The fellow is your type that take advantage of those that doesn't have or are disadvantaged.

So now you are saying you are a scammer? na wa o

DukeNija:


You are obviously not getting the point. Marriage is a partnership not a parasitic relationship. Yes, men are the providers, but life can happen and that was why God said the woman will be the helper. Meaning she will help him, support him get back on his feet. It is not meant to be a permanent situation hence the statement Men who cannot cater for their families are worse than infidels. There are better ways to motivate your husband instead of nagging and killing whats left of his ego. Supportive words motivate faster than death strokes. But ofcourse, you wouldnt know this.

But why should Ego be present between two people who claim to love each other?

I would also like to know...based on your post; If ego must be present, Is it only the man's ego that should be encouraged and reverred?
What about the woman's ego? Or is she not allowed to have one?
If no is your answer, does that not amount to subjecting her to some form of repression and subserviency?

If a woman is ready to subdue ego in order to move her relationship forward, what stops the man from doing so?

Why do relationships in Nigeria have to be complicated?

Why do I see most males on Nairaland advise people of their gender to go hard on women and treat them with some form of toughness etcetra etcetra...
What happens when the womenfolk start advising their ilk in such light?

Why do people literally enjoy treating others in ways that they would never accept to be treated?

Kindly riddle me

TinaAnita:




See, you can't eat your cake and have it. It's almost impossible for you to retain your title as the head of the house while your wife becomes the breadwinner. It's okay for a woman to be understanding and supportive if her husband loses his job but trust me when I say she would get exhausted if the man fails to Man up on time. Please let's face reality.

Please have you lost your job before and how long did it take you to get one back pre buhari Era? Talk less of now!

And please tell me the business or hustle that will bear enormous dividend in four months

Like you said let's face reality

Amhappy:
A man who cannot take care of his family is worse than an infidel na Bible talk am. Go out and hustle while you search for job even if it's menial work do it and earn money. It's not a woman place to fend for a man. Most women cannot handle the pressure of single handedly fending for their family for long except if she's an Angel. I for one cannot fend for a man who is healthy or not handicapped. God forbid if I lose my job,I won't fold my hand,I will rather sell garri than sit at home. There's dignity in labour.

AMEN!!! AMEN!!!

Guy...use her do juju...she no go worry u anymore and you will have a lot to spend and marry any woman of your choice(joke).
To be rich and succeed for this naija...u must belong somewhere. If you/your parents no belong... Life will be bringing your sorrow 75% and 25% joy...you go work all your life with nothing to show of it. If you can testify there are cabal's on your bank office. They tried you but you no understand. My humble advice is...find a good occult and join. There's no human sacrifices on a good occult, forget that thing you dey watch for movies. They will help you get through life after 6months.

FortuneTeller:
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You're an atheist and self hater. You seem awfully bitter about life.

That I am an atheist is a FACT I will not deny anywhere, I don't believe in God! Oya call Jesus!

6 houses in 3 continents, automobiles everywhere, reasonable respectable bank balances, 2 UK graduate professional children - lady my life is far from bitter.

FortuneTeller:



So now you are saying you are a scammer? na wa o

CapitalCee:


yah i also got the abuja TS invite, i am currently in lagos now, i will add you to my whatsup tru ur fone number

Olodo you didn't see this one. You think everybody is broke like you, using you bottom to hunt for gullible guys you will enslave

walex2:



This post irritate me. So you think a wife is not an help mate again. So if a man lost his job or ha e a financial downturn he must lose his position as the head.

You wack

Welcome to a world where men enjoys eating their cake and having it. Just pray not to experience such a situation.

chibuzorAbia:


That I am an atheist is a FACT I will not deny anywhere, I don't believe in God! Oya call Jesus!

6 houses in 3 continents, automobiles everywhere, reasonable respectable bank balances, 2 UK graduate professional children - lady my life is far from bitter.

Yet you're on here constantly crying about how much you hate religion and how dirty Nigeria is. You're lying and bitter. Enjoy your day.

Amhappy:
A man who cannot take care of his family is worse than an infidel na Bible talk am. Go out and hustle while you search for job even if it's menial work do it and earn money. It's not a woman place to fend for a man. Most women cannot handle the pressure of single handedly fending for their family for long except if she's an Angel. I for one cannot fend for a man who is healthy or not handicapped. God forbid if I lose my job,I won't fold my hand,I will rather sell garri than sit at home. There's dignity in labour. Your wife is mean for keeping records,it's her family too. Let her attitude ginger you to get to a better place financially.

I as a man cannot fend for a healthy unhadicapped woman! I only reserve my resources for ME, me only!

FortuneTeller:


If you think she is cooking for her husband every day, you are a fool! The amount of money she has, surpasses our common level. Get sense!

Where in my post did I say she cooks for him everyday? Please show me!

Insults are only made when one does not have the capacity to make or defend a cogent point, I won't go down that lane with you, continue if it makes you feel better, my grandma ones told me before her death that because a dog has rabies and barks anyhow while drooling, will I join it and do the same because I want it to stop.......

Shalom

mathew247:
Guy...use her do juju...she no go worry u anymore and you will have a lot to spend and marry any woman of your choice(joke).
To be rich and succeed for this naija...u must belong somewhere. If you/your parents no belong... Life will be bringing your sorrow 75% and 25% joy...you go work all your life with nothing to show of it. If you can testify there are cabal's on your bank office. They tried you but you no understand. My humble advice is...find a good occult and join. There's no human sacrifices on a good occult, forget that thing you dey watch for movies. They will help you get through life after 6months.

May God help his wife!!!!

yungmill:


Where in my post did I say she cooks for him everyday? Please show me!

Insults are only made when one does not have the capacity to make or defend a cogent point, I won't go down that lane with you, continue if it makes you feel better, my grandma ones told me before her death that because a dog has rabies and backs anyhow while drooling, will I join it and do the same because I want it to stop.......

Shalom

Continue to be broke or "man up", get a job and take care of a family. It's as simple as that. All this grammar for laziness is really unnecessary.

FortuneTeller:


Yet you're on here constantly crying about how much you hate religion and how dirty Nigeria is. You're lying and bitter. Enjoy your day.

That I hate religion is an obvious fact, hello! I am an atheist, get it?

Yes Nigeria is my country but I have been across the world and have come to realise my country is dirty and backward. So?

chibuzorAbia:


That I hate religion is an obvious fact, hello! I am an atheist, get it?

Yes Nigeria is my country but I have been across the world and have come to realise my country is dirty and backward. So?

Ladies these are the type of men responding to this thread. There are many hateful and evil ones looking to abuse women. Be careful of them.

FortuneTeller:


Continue to be broke or "man up", get a job and take care of a family. It's as simple as that. All this grammar for laziness is really unnecessary.

Like I said if it makes you happy continue, I never told you am married, neither did I tell you am jobless, so continue your name calling wealthy woman, it's your choice exercise your freedom

Life will surely teach us the lessons we need

walex2:



This post irritate me. So you think a wife is not an help mate again. So if a man lost his job or ha e a financial downturn he must lose his position as the head.

You wack

See
This head and tail abi position dragging thingy is the problem. Why should you drag position nau?
It reeks of insecurity joor. A woman will respect you if you give her reasons to...not by forcing or exacting or asserting yourself.

Same way a man will respect a woman if she gives him reasons to...not by nagging and scheming and manipulating.

But wait o, why do men like you love to see yourself as the head?
How about working towards a relationship that is mutually beneficial?

If I'm to put myself in the shoes of a woman who caters solely for the family...

It would be very unfair that after hustling and haggling for the day, I come back to meet the dishes undone, the children unkempt and hungry, the house tattered and you still want me to Coman serve you food, and then have rounds of seks. Lol. Kolewerk.

While you as the Head is balanced on the sofa watching TV or listening to walkie talkie radio.

Check am nau..
If you are in my shoes, how would you feel?

See ehn, I understand that there are jezebelous women out there. As in...nothing you do will satisfy them.

But there are also women who are simply human, like you. They have emotions as well.
What I know for sure is that something is triggering the attitude OP's wife is displaying.

I don't know about other women, but I know that I can move everest for a man who is considerate and thoughtful.
One who understands that it is not easy to bear the burden of working and wifing alone.
Whether he is jobless or not, nothing beats the knowledge of knowing that the two of you can count on each other to make life more easier and worth it.
That kind of man, I would be loyal and serve, even with my dying breath. I AM thankful I have that Kind

FortuneTeller:


Ladies these are the type of men responding to this thread. There are many hateful and evil ones looking to abuse women. Be careful of them.

False alarm!

Ladies, I am not hateful or evil and i have no reason to abuse any woman BUT I am emotionally strong enough to let GO of any woman if and when necessary.

And I am not available for exploitation by any woman.

Obiwiz:
Lubyna, RaggedyAnn... here's something to look at o

These are the repercussions that may result when one operates under the delusion that love will resolve all issues when they eventually arise. Marriage is real; it's not a fairy tale. When the honeymoon is over, the problems that you face can reveal the worst versions of either couple. So, people should do themselves a favor by ensuring they make pragmatic decisions when choosing a mate. There's a thin line between love and hate.

Finance (and the structure of it) is a real issue that must be considered well in advance. It wasn't in this case. She didn't see past the bank job to look for the 'attributes' (as per other thread) in her man, and he married her when she was not contributing financially, probably believing he would be the sole provider. They both took it for granted. Now the man is realizing his wife is unwilling to contribute without keeping a register, and the woman is realizing that that the man did not have the foresight to save or diversify (in two years, no savings) in order to protect his family from this. Bad decisions have led them to this point. But I'm not going to keep beating a dead horse.

The woman might disrespect him now because he isn't contributing financially, or because she doesn't want him to get comfortable while she provides for the family. Making the conditions unbearable for him might be a way of lighting a fire under his arse. This is an explanation not a justification. This might explain the register as well. She may never have the intention to collect. But it's clear that his marriage is structured according to the old traditions where the man must provide for his family. But that was his choice. He can't now pick and choose female emancipation whenever it suits him.

There isn't much he can do now, except try to find a new job or start up a business. After he gets one, he should speak seriously with his wife structuring their respective financial commitments. She won't listen to him now.

chibuzorAbia:


False alarm!

Ladies, I am not hateful or evil and i have no reason to abuse any woman BUT I am emotionally strong enough to let GO of any woman if and when necessary.

And I am not available for exploitation by any woman.

Ladies please check his post history. Don't be fooled by his lies. He's a devil's helper. He could even be an "Evans"!

FortuneTeller:


Ladies please check his post history. Don't be fooled by his lies. He's a devil's helper. He could even be an "Evans"!

I think you have issues!