Starting from the last three days of December 2016, I embarked on a challenge known as Nofap. The purpose of this challenge is to help porn addicts beat their addictions, and reshape their lives. I was able to follow that program religiously for 150+18 days before I had an unfortunate relapse and slipped back to my old ways. After going through a relapse binge, I'm done and out, and I'm ready to get back on track.

I'm taking the hard mode challenge which involves abstaining from porn, masturbation, and orgasm (commonly referred to by the acronym PMO) for a minimum of 90 days. This is to give the brain a chance to rest and reset to pre-porn conditions, consider it as a factory reset for your brain. This process is known as rebooting.

Rebooting from Porn Addiction
https://www.nofap.com/rebooting/

Rebooting Basics: Start Here
http://yourbrainonporn.com/reboot_your_brain

Why the emphasis on abstaining from PMO?.Despite attempts by some psychology "experts" and the like to paint porn as unproblematic, the fact remains that porn is one of the most destructive things out there. Excessive usage of porn can leave you with a ton of problems. Eg

Physical

*Porn addiction

*Porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED)

*Premature ejaculation (PE)

*Delayed ejaculation (DE)

*Fatigue

*Brain fog (inability to concentrate)

Psychological

*Anxiety

*Depression

*Low self esteem

*Sense of shame

*Lack of motivation

*Loss of social skills

*Homosexual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder


If you're planning to live a productive life then you need to stay away from porn, it's nothing more than an unnatural and unnecessary stimulus which gives you no positive return on investment (ROI). Follow the links below to get a clearer idea of how porn addiction works.

What is porn addiction?
https://www.nofap.com/porn-addiction/

Brain Chemicals and Porn Addiction: Science Shows How Porn Harms Us
http://www.covenanteyes.com/2014/02/03/brain-chemicals-and-porn-addiction/

Start here for a brief overview of concepts & science
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/doing-what-you-evolved-to-do

Masturbation is another monster on its own, porn use goes hand in hand with masturbation,one typically leads to the other. Even without porn masturbation is still not advisable, as a lot of the symptoms I put up there, actually manifest when you throw masturbation into your life's equation. Other negative effects of masturbation include;

*Feelings of guilt

*It lowers testosterone levels in men

*Reduced sperm count

*Premature balding

*It's addictive

*Insomnia (some people can't go to sleep without masturbating)

*Little satisfaction despite frequent masturbation

*Loss of memory and mental clarity

*Overstimulation of the genitals can lead to numbness

*Can induce homosexual desires (some hard core masturbators fall in love with their c0cks, and their life's purpose boils down to pleasuring it)

If you fap stop it. You're not doing yourself any good

22 Harmful Effects of Masturbation in Guys
http://scholarlyanswers..in/2013/01/22-harmful-effects-of-masturbation-in.html

Since porn and masturbation are generally detrimental, and sex on the other hand is a natural activity that does have numerous health benefits. Why on earth would anyone suggest abstaining from sex for a given period of time. I'm not going to give you the same old reasons you've heard (preventing STDS/unwanted pregnancies, religious reasons etc), from personal experience I can tell you that abstaining from any form of sexual release for 90 days can leave you feeling like a whole new person. The benefits I gained from abstaining from orgasm include;

*More energy

*More self confidence

*Increased creativity

*Motivation

*Regular morning wood

*More respect

*More attention from women

*Feeling of euphoria (go past 100 days doing this and you could end up feeling like a superhuman)

Seriously if you've got time for it try a 90 day sex fast. It can supercharge your life, sometimes it even goes as far as healing broken relationships and marriage (ask Terry Crews). When doing this challenge it's advisable to have one or two goals to focus on, as channelling the sexual energy you get from this into your goals can get you farther than you expected. That's where the concept of sex transmutation comes into play, follow the links below to learn more

Sex transmutation : Harness your sexual energy to boost creativity
http://sex-transmutation.net/sex-transmutation-harness-your-energy/

Increase your Sexual Energy: The Ultimate Guide
http://sex-transmutation.net/increase-sexual-energy/

Sex Transmutation Benefits
http://sex-transmutation.net/sex-transmutation-benefits/

How to Harness Your SexualEnergy
https://boldanddetermined.com/how-to-harness-your-sexual-energy/

I don't have anymore words on this, the pic below tells the difference between pumping yourself all day and holding it back.

Jesutee:
How sure are you a relapse won't recur??

Day -1

Porn doesn't make me happy anymore

After fapping for the 11,000th time I've come to discover something. I just realized that porn doesn't make me happy anymore.

The rush isn't there,and I feel hollowed out just looking at it. This opened my eyes to another truth.

I just discovered that....

I can't do this anymore

I just can't, I tried to force myself into gooning but deep down I knew that I was done. I can't go back now, because I don't feel alive with PMO.

I can't roll in the dirt, not after tasting the glory of 5 months plus of Nofap. I just can't.

I tried to delude myself into believing that I could accept the addiction. I even looked for resources to help me fall deeper into addiction.

But it was all a sham.

At the end I always knew I wasn't going to live like that. Which made me ask the question .

Is this the end?

Apparently it is.

I've lived with addiction, and I've lived without it. And I can say that life is freer without the chains of porn addiction.

What is to be done?

First off, I have to get rid of my porn stash. Next, I need to find some meaningful enterprise to engage myself in during the duration of the challenge.

Why bother?

Losing an addiction leaves a vacuum in a person's life. If you watched porn 4 hours a day everyday and you decided to quit.

You'd have 4 hours free that could be used for either good or bad. Why not use it for good?.

In conclusion

I've made the decision to get my life back on track and I'm sticking to it. It's a tough journey and I have a long way to go.

But like every other worthwhile journey on earth it all begins with a single step. I've made my step today, and I'd be great if you made yours.

Day 0

The countdown begins, if I can survive without PMO for 24 hours I'll gain a day of abstinence. How's it been going for me?. I had some urges in the morning, but I brushed them off.

So far I haven't had any major urge hit me. It's been smooth coasting since morning. There are 3 important things I did today.

First, I got rid of my porn stash. It was a stash of over 300-400mb of porn which I won't be missing.

Second, I figured out what I'd be doing to keep myself busy during the reboot. I'm going to be working on developing and strengthening some good habits, while erasing PMO from my daily routine.

To help me achieve this, I'm going to be using what's known as the X effect. Research shows that it takes 21 days on average to form or break a habit. The X effect is generous enough to give you 49 days to work on your habit.

It's a system where you do or don't do something for seven weeks. The logic behind it is simple. If you do a task consecutively for 49 days, it shouldn't be difficult to do it on day 50. Since it's now something you do regularly.

You can get your X effect scorecard by making a 7x7 grid on paper. Every day you do the task, you'll put an X on the grid.

Alternatively, you can use an app for this. I use X effect on my android device. A quick Google search should give you resources for other devices.

The X Effect on Reddit

https://www.reddit.com/r/theXeffect/

Day 0 cont'd

What will I be working on?

A lot of things;

1. Art

2. Writing fiction and articles

3. Writing Haiku

4. Book reading

5. Bible reading

6. Exercising

7. Thinking positively

8. Memory exercises

I've already got no 1, 2 and 3 going before now. I just have to get back on track on.

A Collection Of Haiku And Other Poems

https://www.nairaland.com/4048321/collection-haiku-other-poems

Jackson's Sketchbook

https://www.nairaland.com/3820321/jacksons-sketchbook

What about the third thing?

The third thing I've done is to document my triggers. What do I mean by triggers?.

We don't fap out of the blue, there's usually something that pushes us. A trigger, i.e a steamy movie scene, pretty girls on the street, feeling lonely etc.

There's a theory that if you can spot the trigger for an addictive behaviour, and avoid it. You can escape the slippery slope that leads back to the addiction.

My triggers so far;
1. Boredom

2. Feelings of loneliness

3. Seeing attractive women

4. Lying on my bed

5. Getting ready for bed

6. Waking up during the night

7. Spending time online (with lots of data)

This is where journalling becomes handy. As time goes on you'll be able to pinpoint scenarios that make you think of PMO. And take steps to counter them.

Day 0 cont'd 2

Let's take the boredom scenario for example;

1. I'm bored

2. I go online without a purpose

3. I remember a porn site I saw last week

4. I tell myself I'll take a quick peek

5. 4 hours later I've visited 6 sites and downloaded 15 videos

6. Fap time

7. I bust a nut and feel guilty after

8. Dopamine kicks in powering the chaser effect

9. I fap again

10. The cycle repeats

If I can side step being bored by engaging in a constructive activity that interests me. I can avoid every other thing on the list.

That's the benefit of knowing your triggers.

Homework For The Day

Get a piece of paper or a book, and make a list of all the fap scenarios you can recall. Catalog the triggers you find.

All you have to do is avoid or change what's at the top of the list. If you can do that, then you'll be on clear standing.

Day 01
It's been one day without fapping. I've had a couple urges today, but, I've been able to brush them off.

I've been doing some productive work lately, preparing for all the stuff I'll be doing during the reboot period.

I'm currently writing and editing a guide to surviving nofap. I'll be posting that in the days to come.

ubunja:
LOOOOOL
why is everyone so desperate for men to stop masturbation?
women have dozens of sex t0ys and noone seems to care: d!ldo,v!brator,cucumber etc. and man only has one,his hand ,and everyone is flipping
any guy who gives up masturbation for any reason other than his own is the World's Biggest Idiot
give up masturbation then when the erections come its back to begging women for sex and spending moola and risking STIs only fools will fall for that sh!t
let men masturbate if they want to.they are not hurting anyone. let them have a good time WITHOUT WOMEN for once
if a gal is stupid enough to make me choose between her and porn she will have to find a new BF i will never delete my porn to please ANY gal. .
i masturbate and im proud

NairalandSARS:
Simple...Take 225mg of amitriptyline and 4mg of Risperidone.
It kills your preeq permanently.
Thank me later

JacksonD7:


Do you have any idea how much energy you waste when you masturbate?. Have you really felt the drain it has on your life?.

This information is applicable to both men and women, masturbation is detrimental to both genders.

I opened this thread, to lay a path for those who are willing to make a change in their life. If you believe masturbation is the best thing for you, then go ahead.

Bookmark this page, so that when you're drained and lost. You'll find a starting point to get your life back on track.

JacksonD7:


Do you have any idea how much energy you waste when you masturbate?. Have you really felt the drain it has on your life?.

This information is applicable to both men and women, masturbation is detrimental to both genders.

I opened this thread, to lay a path for those who are willing to make a change in their life. If you believe masturbation is the best thing for you, then go ahead.

Bookmark this page, so that when you're drained and lost. You'll find a starting point to get your life back on track.

don't be a fool now masturbation takes 5 mins.

which girl can u fvck in 5mins vagina power got u saying stupid things on the internet

do u even know what masturbation is

ubunja:

masturbation is safer than sex anyways

I OPPOSE YOUR THREAD
let men masturbate. for these 5 reasons:
1.there would be less rapes.
everyone will get a release from somewhere for sexual tension.

2.men will avoid STIs.
the safest sex is the sex u can have by yourself.no risk of disease.no risk of unwanted pregnancy.

3.men will save money.
maintaining a GF takes a lot of money.that is why women NEED men to stop masturbation so they will access their wallets. when girls hear a guy uses porn they go EUWWW ,but ask any one of them for sex they will tell u u are crazy or nothing for free. ...so they dont wanna see u pleasure yourself and simultaneously they dont wanna pleasure u. the bottom line is women and those men who worship women dont want to see men enjoying their life. what is so painful to you about men giving themselves pleasure

4.porn makes u expect a lot from women.porn raises your standards about what u desire in a woman.
and women being lazy hate that.when i started with porn i liked black phat women with huge behinds and stretchmarks etc. 3 yrs down the line im masturbating to trim sexy latinas with flawless skin and fair complexion and pretty faces.and i started realizing that in the streets only the trim slender yellowbones were the ones that were begining to interest me. gone was that propaganda belief preached to men " Big Is Beautiful". now trim and slender is what i consider hot.so porn helped me upgrade my choice of women. and women hate that about porn.

5..you cant provide these men with a substitute for their porn
dont preach the gospel of Deleting Porn when u are not going to provide these men with GFs and wives. otherwise u will see an increase in rapes and an increase in STis as men visit oloshos.

stop with your zelous anti-porn movement.provide solutions that first address the reasons WHY MEN USE PORN TO BEGIN WITH.
these reasons are:


1.most of these guys are not hot and so find themselves disqualified from dating.some men go for months without sex coz girls dont find them attractive enough for sex.and such guys have even started dreaming of being raped by women just to get laid.[quote]

These men need to put their lives together and head on a path of self improvement. Women aren't so moved by physical features, but if you've got a dad bod with a one pack. Give it six months at the gym and you could rock a six pack.

If you're broke now, you can start a business and put the work in. Give it a couple years and you can cash in big.

If you're not man enough to improve your life one step at a time. Then you have yourself blame.


[quote]2.modern women are different from what most men grew up being told "proper women" must be.and some men are finding it hard to internalize and inderstand modern women behavours.social networks also add to the already confusing reality of dealing with women.to these men porn is a relief from that stress.

if u had the time to read this epistle of mine great,if u didnt bother its OK also.life goes on still.
there are always 2 sides to every story.

JacksonD7:


Getting yourself addicted and putting yourself at risk of sexual disorders is safe?