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Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by Stevengerd(m): 11:03pm On Jul 12, 2017
Tonalphs:
Wow. Nice thread. Reading every page n not dropping mine would be totally wrong.
When I read how guys go extra mile to show how much they love their woman n get dumped, it amazes me. I've been a one man -lady. Never cheated, never really dumped either. But I read between the lines so I know when my own chapter in the relationship book has come to a close. Right now I'm counting a year plus without a relationship. No time to love. Not when all I do is work n work n work. Infact my phone is my bf. Gimme fb, nl news etc n I'm good. #singlennotsearching
Single & Not Searching Keh! Em Searching And Have Found You.
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by luminouz(m): 11:40pm On Jul 12, 2017
queenbetsy:
you still remain my kid bro wink
Awwwww...c'mon!!! U can't knock me out! Lil Sis!! tongue tongue
Now....GO N SLEEP ASAP!!! grin
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by openmine(m): 11:40pm On Jul 12, 2017
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by Khallyella(f): 12:39am On Jul 13, 2017
After reading from page 1-21,
Moral lessons ; you can't keep someone who doesn't want to be kept (don't beg for love),don't love/trust too much &Heartbreak changes people
Well, mine? Hehe, my bf's just one very weird being, tbh, If not for my nature, he'd be dead meat! Broke up few weeks ago, he said I was too good to be true and I barely complained bout anything, never cheated, aside my family, he's the only Guy I officially talk to, nigga stalks my phone like FBI, found nothing but I'm sure he'd find what he's been looking for, someday, just someday
got so insecure so we called it quits...
He came back begging over a week ago, said he was sorry for all the crap he put up and all that & he doesn't wanna imagine some other man dreaming of me as his dream girl, lwkm, well, I'm simple enough so we continued from where we stopped.

I've got this strange attitude of forgiving/tolerating just anything & extreme patience, not sure it's normal but it's all good.

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Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by luminouz(m): 1:47am On Jul 13, 2017
Khallyella:
After reading from page 1-21,
Moral lessons ; you can't keep someone who doesn't want to be kept (don't beg for love),don't love/trust too much &Heartbreak changes people
Well, mine? Hehe, my bf's just one very weird being, tbh, If not for my nature, he'd be dead meat! Broke up few weeks ago, he said I was too good to be true and I barely complained bout anything, never cheated, aside my family, he's the only Guy I officially talk to, nigga stalks my phone like FBI, found nothing but I'm sure he'd find what he's been looking for, someday, just someday
got so insecure so we called it quits...
He came back begging over a week ago, said he was sorry for all the crap he put up and all that & he doesn't wanna imagine some other man dreaming of me as his dream girl, lwkm, well, I'm simple enough so we continued from where we stopped.

I've got this strange at tithed of forgiving/tolerating just anything & extreme patience, not sure it's normal but it's all good.
Lmaoooo! Ur weird too u know....a lotta girls would have given him hell but I guess ur d cool type
The guy seems insecure though I can't blame him...ur such a cutie....
I hope he is better now with d whole jealousy ish??
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olayiwola4u(m): 6:28am On Jul 13, 2017
Khallyella:
After reading from page 1-21,
Moral lessons ; you can't keep someone who doesn't want to be kept (don't beg for love),don't love/trust too much &Heartbreak changes people
Well, mine? Hehe, my bf's just one very weird being, tbh, If not for my nature, he'd be dead meat! Broke up few weeks ago, he said I was too good to be true and I barely complained bout anything, never cheated, aside my family, he's the only Guy I officially talk to, nigga stalks my phone like FBI, found nothing but I'm sure he'd find what he's been looking for, someday, just someday
got so insecure so we called it quits...
He came back begging over a week ago, said he was sorry for all the crap he put up and all that & he doesn't wanna imagine some other man dreaming of me as his dream girl, lwkm, well, I'm simple enough so we continued from where we stopped.

I've got this strange attitude of forgiving/tolerating just anything & extreme patience, not sure it's normal but it's all good.

Khally, that is an awesome post..."don't beg for love"

I could remember my fiancée kept on saying "stop begging"

Before God and man, for the time I beg, she must have made that phrase for more than 200 times.

...now I understand you don't beg for love.

In addition, I got that one..."don't love too much"

ooooooohhh, this is sinking into me like electron...THANK YOU DEAR for that insightful post.
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olayiwola4u(m): 7:09am On Jul 13, 2017
jakandeola:
nice one dat matured i wish u d best and marriage soon

I wish you more than that brother
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by nuelzz04(m): 8:16am On Jul 13, 2017
BiafranYouths:
I met this sweet damsel way back 2014, our relationship was sort of perfect towards the end of 2014 I found out she was a virgin @23 I was perplexed. I was reassured I've found my better half, she was everything a man would want in a life partner. She loved me dearly,.... I helped her build her Events, Decor, Catering and Ushering firm financially and other wise as per my future wife.
Late December 2015 I had a massive contract to execute outside the State, I was to marry her immediately after the project, I didn't tell her though bought engagement ring.
I spent close to 9 Months without setting eyes on her though we've been communicating via calls and social media
Our reunion was awesome, we kissed smooch I didn't push further because I know the cooky will be mine in less than a month.
But unlike her that always reminded me of our promise to help her keep the cooky till the right time, she kept pushing, doing things we've not done before
For my mind I was like oh! So this girl missed me like this, I decided to play along to see where it leads to after reminding her of our promise.
We had Sex for the first time since I met and sadly my virgin fiance was de flowered by another!
After the deed I asked her what just happened? She started with the tears narrating how I left her I was not there for her physically that I should forgive her, I forgave and started making plans for the engagement party.
This fascinating day I was using her tablet to help her market her new design so in the process of uploading the product pictures I saw her photos @ golf course with this dude feeling all loved up, the inquisitive me looked further.
I later had a heart to heart discussion with her, asking why she got de flowered by another while I patiently kept my emotions and Dick on check...

Layer found out that the guy that ripped her puuussy apart was a Malaysian based Guy that pressed her mumu button and slept with her, upon seeing she was a virgin proposed there and then, and she said yes!
Heart broke nearly killed me for the first time in my life I cried in a ladies present and begged her, telling her even if she was to be pregnant for the guy I'll claim the baby just to be with her but she said no. I took I'll for a couple of weeks
The girl was too good.
Beauty, respect, intelligence, struggling type in fact she'll be a blessing to a Man that marries her.
Am still heart broken
I used the wedding money to put up a decent structure and move
Ima Ima mmi thanks for showing me that true love exist, I'll continue loving you and I pray the good Lord provide me with a girl just like you
instead of u to thank ur stars that u just dodged a bullet..... She isn't loyal at all. ...n d baby doesn't respect u either
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by luminouz(m): 8:24am On Jul 13, 2017
nuelzz04:
instead of u to thank ur stars that u just dodged a bullet..... She isn't loyal at all. ...n d baby doesn't respect u either

Help me tell him o
I told him d same thing... Hope he listens sha
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olayiwola4u(m): 9:10am On Jul 13, 2017
BiafranYouths:
I met this sweet damsel way back 2014, our relationship was sort of perfect towards the end of 2014 I found out she was a virgin @23 I was perplexed. I was reassured I've found my better half, she was everything a man would want in a life partner. She loved me dearly,.... I helped her build her Events, Decor, Catering and Ushering firm financially and other wise as per my future wife.
Late December 2015 I had a massive contract to execute outside the State, I was to marry her immediately after the project, I didn't tell her though bought engagement ring.
I spent close to 9 Months without setting eyes on her though we've been communicating via calls and social media
Our reunion was awesome, we kissed smooch I didn't push further because I know the cooky will be mine in less than a month.
But unlike her that always reminded me of our promise to help her keep the cooky till the right time, she kept pushing, doing things we've not done before
For my mind I was like oh! So this girl missed me like this, I decided to play along to see where it leads to after reminding her of our promise.
We had Sex for the first time since I met and sadly my virgin fiance was de flowered by another!
After the deed I asked her what just happened? She started with the tears narrating how I left her I was not there for her physically that I should forgive her, I forgave and started making plans for the engagement party.
This fascinating day I was using her tablet to help her market her new design so in the process of uploading the product pictures I saw her photos @ golf course with this dude feeling all loved up, the inquisitive me looked further.
I later had a heart to heart discussion with her, asking why she got de flowered by another while I patiently kept my emotions and Dick on check...

Layer found out that the guy that ripped her puuussy apart was a Malaysian based Guy that pressed her mumu button and slept with her, upon seeing she was a virgin proposed there and then, and she said yes!
Heart broke nearly killed me for the first time in my life I cried in a ladies present and begged her, telling her even if she was to be pregnant for the guy I'll claim the baby just to be with her but she said no. I took I'll for a couple of weeks
The girl was too good.
Beauty, respect, intelligence, struggling type in fact she'll be a blessing to a Man that marries her.
Am still heart broken
I used the wedding money to put up a decent structure and move
Ima Ima mmi thanks for showing me that true love exist, I'll continue loving you and I pray the good Lord provide me with a girl just like you

That young damsel CAN NEVER BE A WIFE...does not even deserve to be a girlfriend.

She will end up a les...even if she marry, she will divorce to forever be Olosho

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Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by nuelzz04(m): 9:45am On Jul 13, 2017
luminouz:


Help me tell him o
I told him d same thing... Hope he listens sha
m beginning to think d girls jazz na omnipotent grin

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Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by nuelzz04(m): 11:41am On Jul 13, 2017
Adisa89:
I have had a number of breakups before I finally settled with my beautiful iyawo, but I'm going to talk about the last breakup.

It was when I had decided to hang my bachelor boots and look for my missing rib that I met this girl whom I dated for a year-plus. I finally gave her my ring after confirming she met up all I required of a wife, but she did something silly.

She requested that - scratch that - she DEMANDED that she MUST pay her ex the final visit. Don't be surprised, this was just the sign I asked God to show me to know if the marriage would be a blissful one or would have rough patches, and Almighty Baba did it.

I told her no problem, you can go, and she foolishly went.

Don't ask me what I did when she came back. Meanwhile, I'm married to another beautiful girl who gave me one bomboy.
lol u got no chill grin
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by BiafranYouths(m): 12:02am On Jul 14, 2017
olayiwola4u:


That young damsel CAN NEVER BE A WIFE...does not even deserve to be a girlfriend.

She will end up a les...even if she marry, she will divorce to forever be Olosho


Why
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by Nobody: 1:38am On Jul 14, 2017
cassyrooy:
Hmmm! Just by the caption of the thread you know something big is going down in here.

Straight to my case, met this gal in 2013 when I started working to raise money to further my education, she was pretty, intelligent and loving.
She was not completely satisfied with her then relationship(I know the guy and how he works her psyche) and when I came along, her options increased.

I fell for her, asked her respectively and he humbled my request with a no. Immediately dumping me I the frendzone.

I was vice bf, assistant bf for almost 2yrs but I still remained undeterred and later in 2015, I saw clearly there was nothing for me I intensified my hustle for admission and neglected her, to cut long story short, we later got to talking terms after losing my mom that year, although I've bagged my admission.

Later she agreed we date, a month later I was feeling insecure because of the previous ordeals I went through whilst in the 'zone' and was skeptical if we'd continue when I get to school.

2months after resuming school, I slipped into another bout of depression that left my academics in complete ruins, then she called to tell me she's moved on, I was happy for her but not too sure about myself.

After the session I went home, she came by my place and we talked as friends, in January she gained admission and I saw she secured it.
Was busy with work that I have no time for myself that I didn't call for 2wks and she labelled me uncaring. Angrily I blocked her on WhatsApp.

After 1mth or so she started calling, I didn't pick nor returned the calls, later blacklisted her numbers, we had a very hitted exchanges of text messages and ever since we not contacted each other.


Sometimes, I feel my heart tightening but I walk on like its nothing. Love leave us bleeped up whenever it goes sour.
I may never be the same again.

Tomorrow's her birthday(12/7) and I'm not gonna call or text for the first time since I met her.
Happy Birthday, Nnenna, this is the best I could do on your birthday.

Don't blame love bro!!!
TBH, I don't think she was ever yours to begin with. She was in a relationship with another guy, and you tried to steal her away for 2 years. Now, put yourself in the other guy's shoes and imagine how you are gonna feel if another guy is on your girl's neck for 2 years.
I'm not supporting what she did by finally agreeing to date you, but I feel you should have been more careful. If she had broken up with the other guy, it would have been perfectly cool....but instead you got served.
In conclusion, it's a lesson for us all. Don't start giving another person's partner unnecessary attention that could cause them to start having different thoughts. It's the human mind, and it is wired to work that way.
PS: You'll find your girl when the time comes.

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Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olayiwola4u(m): 1:46am On Jul 14, 2017
BoluGabriel:


Don't blame love bro!!!
TBH, I don't think she was ever yours to begin with. She was in a relationship with another guy, and you tried to steal her away for 2 years. Now, put yourself in the other guy's shoes and imagine how you are gonna feel if another guy is on your girl's neck for 2 years.
I'm not supporting what she did by finally agreeing to date you, but I feel you should have been more careful. If she had broken up with the other guy, it would have been perfectly cool....but instead you got served.
In conclusion, it's a lesson for us all. Don't start giving another person's partner unnecessary attention that could cause them to start having different thoughts. It's the human mind, and it is wired to work that way.
PS: You'll find your girl when the time comes.

I LOVE THAT...

Mind you, if a girl break up because of you' she will break up with you sooner than later.

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Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by cassyrooy(m): 11:26pm On Jul 14, 2017
BoluGabriel:


Don't blame love bro!!!
TBH, I don't think she was ever yours to begin with. She was in a relationship with another guy, and you tried to steal her away for 2 years. Now, put yourself in the other guy's shoes and imagine how you are gonna feel if another guy is on your girl's neck for 2 years.
I'm not supporting what she did by finally agreeing to date you, but I feel you should have been more careful. If she had broken up with the other guy, it would have been perfectly cool....but instead you got served.
In conclusion, it's a lesson for us all. Don't start giving another person's partner unnecessary attention that could cause them to start having different thoughts. It's the human mind, and it is wired to work that way.
PS: You'll find your girl when the time comes.
Sincerely, everything has down on me and I'm taking proactive steps to 'completely' pick up from the debris and rebuild myself.

Love wasn't the issue, maybe I was(I completely didn't fancy long distance relationship - Abuja to Ibadan, which greatly reflected on my attitudes but ATM non of these count.

So like I said, I'm forging further and I'm gonna keep trying, at least we don't all marry our first or second, that's why they are our 'exes'.

Thanks man, I appreciate your candid advise.

@Luminouz thanks for the other time. Sincerely, its a bit harder to just jump into another relationship but its not too banal for me to embark upon. Will keep in touch with you, bro. Thanks again.

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Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by Doubleagent008(m): 4:31am On Jul 15, 2017
amakadihot87:
I prepared good soup and fufu d nite i decided it was gonna end...........gave him d best Bleep ever.......in d morning i declared the match over,he thought i was joking but when i didnt pick his call for 3 weeks he understood d fare well
Can u date me for just one day and break up that way too? Not a bad way to end things.
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olayiwola4u(m): 4:42am On Jul 15, 2017
Doubleagent008:

Can u date me for just one day and break up that way too? Not a bad way to end things.


lol
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by amakadihot87(f): 7:19am On Jul 15, 2017
Doubleagent008:

Can u date me for just one day and break up that way too? Not a bad way to end things.
..........since u defect as an agent ,u will also defect as a lover
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olac21(m): 8:15am On Jul 15, 2017
teresafaith:
He was my first boyfriend dated him for eight years, dude called one day to say he wasn't interested anymore that he needs to focus on his life that I should do the same.
That's after ramming the pussy many times!
Live can be unfair atimes!!
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olac21(m): 8:22am On Jul 15, 2017
Gofwane:
The b!tch lied to me that her mum gave her 60k to pay her school fees but she borrowed the money to her besty when her mum when she fell sick. But now the friend is no where to be found.…

… that she went to her friend's house and nobody was around, and their neighbors told her that they have relocated to abuja. But she got their phone number and called and her friend's mum told her that her daughter has fled to Ghana. I was like shocked

So the issue was she needed the money to pay her fee which was closing in two days time.My brothers and sisters, it is about 7 month now and tomorrow is yet to come grin


I no know whether the girl see tribal marks on my face and that made her to feel she has captured a mugu
Has she not asked about the money or you guys are no longer together?
By the way,where are you in Kwara?
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by Iphran6: 8:30am On Jul 15, 2017
She cheated with her brother's friend... Shikena cheesy
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olac21(m): 9:38am On Jul 15, 2017
justino57:
av had 3 major breakup de last one eeeh almost cost me ma life de last one omg this girl love me like never b4 she said if i ever leave her she will drink poison and die me self i had no intension of doing such cause we were madly inluv jst like that she called me one evening and said did u get ma text i said wait let me check she accussed me badly of double dating i was shocked its was all lies next thing its over i begged her like i begged she said no hmmmmm this de same girl that love me like mad.....later i fined out she wanted to get married lol de nigger decived her and ran away she came back to me i almost gave her that poision she wanted to drink before .......girls can be wicked
You accepted her back?
If yes,hope you have been ramming that pussy like never before?
I hope so!!
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olac21(m): 9:44am On Jul 15, 2017
blessingenyo:
we broke up since late last year n he still very fresh in my hrt, it was a very bad one he had issue of trust am a sincere person wen its comes to relationship, but he refused to note that. If I make call with any guy am in trouble there was a day he even slapped me for receiving call from a client. We lasted for a year n broke up twice already he is here again for reconciliation please some one should help me out with a reasonable advice.
You are a piece of shit for still asking for an "unreasonable advice" here miss!
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by drjustice17: 10:09am On Jul 15, 2017
RichieDaVinci01:
When we broke up I broke down cheesy cheesy


ya. broken down
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by justino57(m): 10:24am On Jul 15, 2017
olac21:

You accepted her back?
If yes,hope you have been ramming that pussy like never before?
I hope so!!
no i didnt
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olayiwola4u(m): 10:35am On Jul 15, 2017
olac21:
That's after ramming the pussy many times! Live can be unfair atimes!!
IT IS NOT LIFE THAT IS UNFAIR...IT IS HUMAN BEINGS THAT MAKE LIFE UNFAIR.
...Why should we make people cry?
Why?
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olayiwola4u(m): 10:39am On Jul 15, 2017
Iphran6:
She cheated with her brother's friend... Shikena cheesy

Sorry to hear that...

She is only looking for what's not lost...that kind of person is not good for you.
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olayiwola4u(m): 10:50am On Jul 15, 2017
justino57:
av had 3 major breakup de last one eeeh almost cost me ma life de last one omg this girl love me like never b4 she said if i ever leave her she will drink poison and die me self i had no intension of doing such cause we were madly inluv jst like that she called me one evening and said did u get ma text i said wait let me check she accussed me badly of double dating i was shocked its was all lies next thing its over i begged her like i begged she said no hmmmmm this de same girl that love me like mad.....later i fined out she wanted to get married lol de nigger decived her and ran away she came back to me i almost gave her that poision she wanted to drink before .......girls can be wicked

When it happened to me, I couldn't believe I was awake.

My brains started working at an unimaginable speed...thoughts were coming like torrent.

Your girl was just like my girl...she promised heaven and earth...she was even jealous. She doesn't like seeing me with girls no matter how young they are.

Finally, I wish she could come back for me so that I can have the chance to teach her a lesson.
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by antieverything(m): 11:12am On Jul 15, 2017
if i shld share my story ..i might cry cry
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by justino57(m): 1:09pm On Jul 15, 2017
olayiwola4u:


When it happened to me, I couldn't believe I was awake.

My brains started working at an unimaginable speed...thoughts were coming like torrent.

Your girl was just like my girl...she promised heaven and earth...she was even jealous. She doesn't like seeing me with girls no matter how young they are.

Finally, I wish she could come back for me so that I can have the chance to teach her a lesson.
bros this girl said if i leave her she will die.....i develop strong love for her jezzzzzzz.......oh girls r wicked she is alover me no chance to even cheat on her self oh no i jst feel like killing her now
Re: Share Your BREAK-UP Experience Here For Others To Learn by olayiwola4u(m): 1:15pm On Jul 15, 2017
justino57:
bros this girl said if i leave her she will die.....i develop strong love for her jezzzzzzz.......oh girls r wicked she is alover me no chance to even cheat on her self oh no i jst feel like killing her now

Don't worry, leave her and let her move on.

We will be alright sooner than later...infact, we will hardly remember something like happened.

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