What type of pôrn?

If it the normal he on she pôrn, just cut him some slacks 'cause he's at the age where exploration starts.

But if it was gay porn, na dia problem dey start.

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

It is both a spiritual, psychological, social and physical problem. If it isn't handled under all this areas, all solutions will fail. I had the same struggle for 8 years and I would be willing to help out. Most people don't understand the problem neither a solution, believe me.

jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.

Nokia torch will do the trick

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

always make sure he's occupied with something.
e.g tell him to go out and play with other children..(football )that'll exhaust his energy..
get him something else that is addictive like a video game.
if he's not into gay porn..relocate his bedroom to yours..
of course all these are temporal options.. he'll still remember to masturbate when these other things are unavailable..

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

The best way to deal with a habit is to keep the cues and the rewards but change the routine . The cues are whatever that triggers the habit , it could be visual , sensual ; the routine is the process involved in achieving the reward ; the reward is whatever that one enjoys when engages in the habit .

Call him , talk to him , ask him what makes him watch porn as a way of understanding the cues . People watch porn for different reasons , don't assume that he watches porn for the general perceived reason . Also know why enjoys watching porn , the reward .

Then try to change the habit by allowing the cues and reward and introducing a new routine . There are positive habits that have the same of effect pornographic scenes give . Try to make him engage in those . Let him understand that why he has to take these important steps to recovery . And make him believe that he can do those . Share stories of people from the internet that have overcome the pornography addiction as a way of motivating him.

Like felixomor said , 21 days and you'd see positive changes .

benedictac:


My dear, it doesn't always work like that oooh. Make God dey help us with our teenage children

Nw U Sound Lyk A Pessimist(Imean No Harm)Wer Is D Faith? Rememba Daz Not D Total Antidote But D Commencing Package.
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victorazy:
buy him condomm

victorazy:
buy him condomm

Apostle will hear this, U too haff been there b4 , so u shud know how to handle him Then

Elparaiso:
How does watching porn affect anyone?

Na question I ask abeg



Is this how you truly feel it affects you, or how you were told it affects? I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you are religious (Christian or Muslim), you were probably brought up with the doctrine that pornography is bad. Most of the "facts" you pasted are untrue, in fact, a lot of couples have used porn to spice up their relationship and made it healthier. It's just like weed and alcohol. Everyone has an opinion about it. But I say, as long as it done in moderation and not allowed to interfere with other aspects of life, then there are no ramifications. It's just to get a feeling.


If you are a Christian, then I will beg you to keep the Lord's Commandments and stay away from pornography as it is a form of fornication. Likewise for Muslims. Porn isn't for religious and spiritual people.

That's all, no true scientific reasons, just religious ones.

That just sent your whole write up to sh*t

chalantmike:
inmate system, yhull make him caged, conscious not good for self esteem, yhull make him feel like he did something wrong, forbidden fruit has a strange appeal.

Guilt doesnt help addiction. People that re addicted to cigarettes know its killing them. But they cant stop

The child knows its wrong

jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.

Give him Nokia torchlight then... I bet, his life will be boring as heaven.

misano:




I didn't put that thing there for u o. Someone asked me D effects of pornography so copied that article for him to read.

you put it her in the public domain

deepwater:
OP the first thing you have to do is to sit down and watch those videos completely yourself, you have to be very sure of the type of problem your cuz has got and donot generalize.

Please check if the videos are MILFs series, GAY (bisi things), transgendered, Lingo, CamelToe, Interracial, Biracial, Lolicon, Spanking nad whipping, facesitting, snuff, Japanese bondage, Gore, Scat, Preggo, Extreme fetishism, Fisting , Anal, Tentacle erotica, Funtanari, etc

OP You see, there exist a cluster analysis on porn viewers, this is divided into three:
1. Recreational Users : averaged about 24 minutes of viewing time per week
2. Highly Distressed, but Non-Compulsive Users: actually watched the least porn, averaging about 17 minutes per week
3. Compulsive Porn Users:This group reported watching the most porn, averaging close to two hours per week, and they were the most likely to say they go out of their way to make time for porn, such as by rearranging their schedules to do so.

You have to really take your time to study your cuz and come back, this issue is a very sensitive one, deleting those assembly files of MOJO has helped nobody.

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Elparaiso:
How does watching porn affect anyone?

Na question I ask abeg

Is this how you truly feel it affects you, or how you were told it affects? I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you are religious (Christian or Muslim), you were probably brought up with the doctrine that pornography is bad. Most of the "facts" you pasted are untrue, in fact, a lot of couples have used porn to spice up their relationship and made it healthier. It's just like weed and alcohol. Everyone has an opinion about it. But I say, as long as it done in moderation and not allowed to interfere with other aspects of life, then there are no ramifications. It's just to get a feeling.

If you are a Christian, then I will beg you to keep the Lord's Commandments and stay away from pornography as it is a form of fornication. Likewise for Muslims. Porn isn't for religious and spiritual people.

That's all, no true scientific reasons, just religious ones.

Who says addiction to pornography bears no malign ripple effect?

It's been observed that men who watch porn habitually are thrice as likely than male non-porn watchers to see women as nothing more than objects of crude sexual satisfaction, and also that these niche of addicted male porn-watchers tend to be more aggressive and violent toward the opposite sex than male non-porn watchers. Really, does pornography depict anything beyond male domination and the humiliation of females, especially as with acts such as “facial ejaculatiøn”, “bukake”, and in usage of demeaning language during penetration—all of which is cloaked by the unopposing and compliant body language of the female actor which goes the distance in suggesting that she is in fact relishing the degradation, hence entrenching the idea in the minds of chronic porn-watchers that such is the acceptable norm and standard.

What about the fact that addictive pornography could lead to depression, low sense of self-worth, and social anxiety disorder or inability to fuction optimally in social situations, especially one involving the opposite sex?

What about the fact that the fall of the domino pieces is put into motion the minute a person feasts his/her senses on a tableau showcasing erotic sex, and that if such person is unable to salve his/her sexual frustration by currying mutual consent from another, he/she is more likely to resort to that most dreaded jackboot option: Rape.

Yet you wonder how such exposure would negatively color the perception of an impressionable fourteen-year old boy? To worsen matters, you even compared the effects of addictive pornography on a kid still drinking in the first flush of adolescence to the effects of porn on a married couple who probably only indulge in the act on an occassional basis.

I fear that you are in fact a (insert apt expletive).

..

Kindly sit him down and make him understand that such videos aren't good for him to watch.

Y'all saying pornography is demonic na una sabi o., like say most of u neva watch am before. Brov., observe the kinds of friends he has., watch him over time, he should be a good kid, he will turn out fine jhare. I don't know if it affects memory and stuffs like dat but I can say that na testosterone level dey rise like dat, early pubertal stage is hard, he will grow out of it jhare. Peace...

Not much u can do, bro. We r who we r. Sit him down and talk to him as best u could. Make sure he knows u r doing it bc u care about him and his future. Then leave d rest to him and God.

benedictac:


this was the same method I used for my 15 years old son when I cut him just last week Thursday here. The dad and I really talked some senses into and told him the disadvantages of watching porn one of it is that it will put virus in ur phone. the following day he went to apologize to his dad and promised not to try it again. I just pray he stops it. We can only advice and pray as parents.

benedictac:


this was the same method I used for my 15 years old son when I cut him just last week Thursday here. The dad and I really talked some senses into and told him the disadvantages of watching porn one of it is that it will put virus in ur phone. the following day he went to apologize to his dad and promised not to try it again. I just pray he stops it. We can only advice and pray as parents.

benedictac:


this was the same method I used for my 15 years old son when I cut him just last week Thursday here. The dad and I really talked some senses into and told him the disadvantages of watching porn one of it is that it will put virus in ur phone. the following day he went to apologize to his dad and promised not to try it again. I just pray he stops it. We can only advice and pray as parents.

u said from ur quote

the disadvantages of watching porn one of it is that it will put virus in ur phone.

am very sure that is not what u meant to type.

Onegai:


Hello, just seeing this.

What type of pornn? Straight, gay, vicious, Group Intimacy?

Let's start by knowing how deep this has gone, shall we?

Every thing except gay p*rn.

There was a day I asked him if he were to choose between his phone and a gameboy (video game) what will be his pick? He chose the later

That was how I knew he hasn't gone beyond the Rubicon. Sadly I can't afford such now prompting my need for smarter ways to restore his factory setting before he grows into an addict.

deepwater:
OP the first thing you have to do is to sit down and watch those videos completely yourself, you have to be very sure of the type of problem your cuz has got and donot generalize.

Please check if the videos are MILFs series, GAY (bisi things), transgendered, Lingo, CamelToe, Interracial, Biracial, Lolicon, Spanking nad whipping, facesitting, snuff, Japanese bondage, Gore, Scat, Preggo, Extreme fetishism, Fisting , Anal, Tentacle erotica, Funtanari, etc

OP You see, there exist a cluster analysis on porn viewers, this is divided into three:
1. Recreational Users : averaged about 24 minutes of viewing time per week
2. Highly Distressed, but Non-Compulsive Users: actually watched the least porn, averaging about 17 minutes per week
3. Compulsive Porn Users:This group reported watching the most porn, averaging close to two hours per week, and they were the most likely to say they go out of their way to make time for porn, such as by rearranging their schedules to do so.

You have to really take your time to study your cuz and come back, this issue is a very sensitive one, deleting those assembly files of MOJO has
helped nobody.

are u a psychology major?


at op follow this steps, if you are buoyant enough and stay in a place like lag book an appointment for him with a psychologist child psychologist preferably.

on a second note my diagnosis are probably i.background/environment/peer pressure: if u check with him very well it either he is always at home alone with access to television programs which aren't edifying for his age or he has friends back in school who brings porn to school and they watch together,background wise it might be the maid, he might be going through a face of molestation with the help who then in turn feeds him with tons of sites of porn. the root and solution to stop his addiction lies in the source how he got to know the porn site. or all together his parent might be the lousy ones who didn't care having him around when they are getting abit intimate atimes that might purne his curiosity

Taa free my nigga

jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

free him joor wtf is wrong with yall

Yeligray:
and who told you

nigga he's 14. He'll download and find a better way to hide.If caning puts sense in people, abacha wouldn't have stolen government funds.

Papiikush:

The world is evolving. We should move away from the old method of handing kids.

I don't even believe in beating kids cuz my voice is enough to put the fear of God in em.

All this is unwise talk, the oyinbos that is the pioneer of method are having issues from raising depressed children, to unclassified,transgender, homosexuals. When a child needs the rod to correct every foolish morals you use it. when his an adult above 17, he can make his decision.

sexybbstar:
I think you should collect the gadgets with him, like phones, laptops, etc and monitors the kind of movies he watches.

Give a rule on the type of TV station, programme or channels he can tune to.

I hope this works.

even music TV stations are very close alternatives to the real X videos!

jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.

People fail to realize that wacthing porn is actually an addiction and should be treated as such.

In rehab You don't forcefully withdraw all tracies of the substance from the person, it would only cause temporary results, but he would go back to it and night even become worse

This is a very dicey situation and should be treated with care to avoid terrible results

I think you should do some research on the topic, why it isn't good and how to curb it


The goal is to make stop it, you'll have to employ wisdom with dat

First and foremost ask him how it started, if he enjoys watching it or it is just an habit that he knows it's bad but can't break from. You have to know if he thinks it's bad because If not you might just be wasting your time especially with an opinionated child.

If he knows the dangers then you could even tell him to Google articles on it and read it so he has a clear understanding of what he is delving into. Then both you can discuss with you analysing it more (you too should have read about it) and then linking those articles to his own situation eg porn can lead to feeling like mastubating, does it make you do so? he might lie because he dosent want the to see him in a worse light.

You will have to be diplomatic especially if he has an opinionated child
Please don't tell his parents, you would have lost his trust which is hard to get back.

I pray he is able to to break out of it, because these things lead to bigger issue like sexual promiscuity

sexybbstar:


Give him a "torchlight" head phone that has no SD card slot. Since it's just for him to make calls.

Story
Even when phones weren't in vogue some of us still found a way to watch porn don't ask me how looool

Where there is a will there is a way, you have to find a way to break that will to stop the action from repeating itself.

pray to God nd advice on certain things abt it

DarkRebel69:


Who says addiction to pornography bears no malign ripple effect?

It's been observed that men who watch porn habitually are thrice as likely than male non-porn watchers to see women as nothing more than objects of crude sexual satisfaction, and also that these niche of addicted male porn-watchers tend to be more aggressive and violent toward the opposite sex than male non-porn watchers. Really, does pornography depict anything beyond male domination and the humiliation of females, especially as with acts such as “facial ejaculatiøn”, “bukake”, and in usage of demeaning language during penetration—all of which is cloaked by the unopposing and compliant body language of the female actor which goes the distance in suggesting that she is in fact relishing the degradation, hence entrenching the idea in the minds of chronic porn-watchers that such is the acceptable norm and standard.

What about the fact that addictive pornography could lead to depression, low sense of self-worth, and social anxiety disorder or inability to fuction optimally in social situations, especially one involving the opposite sex?

What about the fact that the fall of the domino pieces is put into motion the minute a person feasts his/her senses on a tableau showcasing erotic sex, and that if such person is unable to salve his/her sexual frustration by currying mutual consent from another, he/she is more likely to resort to that most dreaded jackboot option: Rape.

Yet you wonder how such exposure would negatively color the perception of an impressionable fourteen-year old boy? To worsen matters, you even compared the effects of addictive pornography on a kid still drinking in the first flush of adolescence to the effects of porn on a married couple who probably only indulge in the act on an occassional basis.

I fear that you are in fact a (insert apt expletive).

Wow a young guy with such knowledge, you are very correct



Your signature though...

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generationz:


Wow a young guy with such knowledge, you are very correct



Your signature though...

And who says a vibrant, goal-driven, young adult cannot possess knoweldge should he faithfully commit to seeking for it?

What about my signature? Does it offend your priggish side? Or are you simply taken aback–in a good way–by the ingenuity of my wordplay?