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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Stevengerd(m): 12:45pm On Nov 20, 2017
Henitan24:

Oya mi lenu oo

Oya bae,Let dem know
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by YoungDaNaval(m): 12:47pm On Nov 20, 2017
tobaseye:
Thank be to God that you are now a graduate of the school of heartbreaking from bad guys as you said. Anyway, I don't know if you are the one. I have actually been waiting for my own missing bone too. But to qualify, aside from the other qualities, you have mentioned. You have to have at least five million naira in your account. The reason is that I have got a property of N19m to buy and I can only raise N16m. The balance after purchasing the property will be used for our traditional marriage. Note the property will be in your name while I use my name as the next of kin.

So if you think you qualify do not hesitate to contact me asap.
I love this
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Stevengerd(m): 12:47pm On Nov 20, 2017
HarkymTheOracle:

Oya mi lenu o


After bad boys don use all the 'anfani' for the puna finish,na one unfortunate good guy she wan give the korofo.
Ta lo ni ounje ajeku.
The tin tire me i swear!
Na left overs remain now
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by deafeyez: 12:48pm On Nov 20, 2017
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked

This is the type of wife every wise man should pray for;

A lady with a contrite spirit,
One who has gone astray like the prodigal son and has decided to come back home.
An experienced woman who knows what she wants.

I love this.

At some point she might fantasize being with his bad guy n this bad for any nice.

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by YoungDaNaval(m): 12:48pm On Nov 20, 2017
Jiang:
Nice guy for Nice girl

Bad girl for Bad Guy

Male LovePeddler for female whoee

etc.

God is always fair in everything, How can you expect me to marry an unpure lady llke you after I have being a virgin my whole life.

abeg
There's nothing like male hoe bro. Don't allow these feminist deceive you

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by cardoctor(m): 12:48pm On Nov 20, 2017
Gimme a break jare
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by AnodaIT(m): 12:51pm On Nov 20, 2017
All I am seeing is a high millage vehicle looking for a new owner to give engine and gear issues.

Nice guys deserves better

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by hopexter(m): 12:51pm On Nov 20, 2017
Abfinest007:
now that Nigeria economic has humble u you want to date me sense will fall on you

For your mind now you be nice guy. Ok kontinu

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by TSOM(m): 12:51pm On Nov 20, 2017
Jiang:
Nice guy for Nice girl

Bad girl for Bad Guy

Male LovePeddler for female whoee

etc.

God is always fair in everything, How can you expect me to marry an unpure lady llke you after I have being a virgin my whole life.

abeg

God isn't fair or unfair. But nature, life? Life is unfair.

You don't deserve or get a virgin 'cause you're one. God has nothing to do with it. God gave you the power to choose. Your choices become your fate or destiny if you like.

The supposed 'bad boys and girls' would always get the good ones if they please. They know life serves you what you order from her menu, not what you wish you ordered.

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Nobody: 12:52pm On Nov 20, 2017
Jiang:
Nice guy for Nice girl

Bad girl for Bad Guy

Male LovePeddler for female whoee

etc.

God is always fair in everything, How can you expect me to marry an unpure lady llke you after I have being a virgin my whole life.

abeg


@emboldened Very very true. Irrespective of your own interest, he will give you what you deserve....

For those who allow God do so tho...

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Barniee(m): 12:53pm On Nov 20, 2017
We don't want a *Borehole*
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Nobody: 12:53pm On Nov 20, 2017
YoungDaNaval:
I'm surprised this is coming from a lady. God bless you
Thanks
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by ourchoice(m): 12:54pm On Nov 20, 2017
johnime:
am a pretty girl with welcoming attributes, a 19 years old 300 level student. But I think something is wrong with me, at times I think and end up tearing so bad.
Ever since my last relationship by last year November, it's been difficult getting another date, at first I didn't consider it an issue cos I know am pretty and young too but right now I can't help but panic.. Have been single for a whole year, no sex, no fling, no boyfriend. Is something wrong with meOr did my ex bf curse me?? I don't know.

Apart from my parents, I don't have any guy at all that could dash me even 5k, not even subscription. Nlers please is something wrong with me?? The funny and annoying thing is that most people don't even believe I don't have a boyfriend, they are always like "fine girl like you?? Na lie jor".

Am just confused and worried. Isn't this something I should be worried about Am not disabled ooo, am not ugly at all, I don't have bad personality. Am even a seamstress ooo plus my academic excellence. So please what's the problem I know a lot of bad girls with bf that would die for them, ugly girls too. And I wonder if I have an issue I can't see. Have always wished to marry immediately after my N.Y.S.C, but is this how I will marry when I can't even get myself a boyfriend??
P.S. that my ex is the only guy have dated and it took me months to get over him. Now I believe am fully over him but I can't get another date..
nlers followers something is wrong with me right Please my identity should be hidden
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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Nobody: 12:56pm On Nov 20, 2017
LaEvilIMiss:
hahahaha ahaahaha it always comes down to old-age and maturity and as the world would have it.. it only comes from Experiencing (since mumu's never want to learn from Elders) it yourself. Sadly 50% of it is by Choice and the other 50% by Circumstance.

Choice because every decision we make comes as a matter of choice. if it is a hard-choice then make a sacrifice to make the right choice and not just give in to circumstances.

Circumstances because we do not choose the circumstances under which we are conceived. could be in a Club trying to be babymamas to 2face and wizkid or davido or worse some broke-ass fcukboy forming swagger with codeine and SK.. viola! you came about grin grin or could be your parents were not privileged and had to make do with what they could spare making you hustle the rest in the midst of sexual vultures in Lagos. Your parents could still be well-to-do but you just love badt guyz.. welcome to Karma biiitch!

Nice Guys.. stay focused and hustle smart and hard.. there is a priceless virtue in being nice.. it kills the ignorant stereotype the girls love Alpha-males. It is not a virtue but a trait needed to survive in the age of dinosaurs.. not today

More wisdom fall on you!!!!

Iba e Tati billion!
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Undertaker001: 12:56pm On Nov 20, 2017
post=62548116:
No matter how far you've gone on the wrong road. ............... TURN BACK. ...........
Chinese proverb.


Are you a lover of BARBECUE?
If YES, check our signature
......

this shiiit is beginning to irritate my eyes..
appearing in almost every damn thread.
why not open your own thread
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Zivaharry(m): 12:57pm On Nov 20, 2017
abi you are looking for revenge......?..... no more nice guys....all hv turn to bad guyz....unless u need some more....

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by UnimkeAk(m): 12:57pm On Nov 20, 2017
OEPHIUS:
Dear Nice Guy,

I don’t know you yet but I’m so ready to date you. Seriously, I am. For a long time, I dated bad boys. Yes, I was that girl you blame for always coming in last. I guess I dated bad boys because, somehow, I liked their unavailability, sexy sideways glances, and late-night calls. I fed off the chase and mystery they provided me. I saw them as a challenge that I always happily accepted. Let me tell you, I’ve dated so many jerks throughout the years. A lot of times, I ended up being disappointed with how it ended with them, and wondered why I always had such blind optimism about these guys I clearly knew were jerks to begin with. But to be honest, I don’t regret any of it now.

I learned a lot from each and every one of those bad boys. I learned something from every un-answered text, from every “I’m just not looking for a relationship” talk, and from every lame excuse as to why he just couldn’t make to my house party until after 1 am. I guess I never let the jerks get to me. I realized it was never me; it was always them. I was born with an abundance of self-confidence. Maybe that’s why I was never too bothered by each guy who was a jerk to me. Maybe it was because I was smart enough to realize I never actually wanted to end up with a jerk. It was always you I wanted, Nice Guy.

With all that being said, I’m ready to date a Nice Guy. I’ve learned all the lessons I need to learn from bad boys. I now have the ability to distinguish between when to give up on a relationship and when to fight harder. I know all the excuses and lies and can see when it’s right to say a big ‘f*ck you’ or an ‘okay, I’ll let you make it up to me.’ I know what it’s like get all dressed up for a night out only to sit in your room watching Netflix, crying and staring at your phone because the person you had plans with never showed. And that a “got too drunk sorry” text is not a sufficient excuse or apology. I know all these things. My mom always said that the problem with people who end up unhappy is that they don’t know how to walk away from something that has already served it purpose. Well, I can see now that bad boys have served all the purpose they possibly could in my life and that it’s time for me to learn a new lesson. I want to learn from you, Nice Guy.

It’s time for me to learn what its like to have someone to fall back on when I feel weak. It’s time for me to understand what its like to open up to someone without the fear that I’ll be emotionally shamed or that it will scare them away. It’s time for me to understand why people write love songs or tear up at the end of the notebook. I want to know what it’s like to be desired for more than my body, for someone to look at me with passionate eyes, slowly but surely falling in love with my mind, body and soul.

I want to know what it’s like to have someone who will always show up, who will always make time for me and who will always respect me. I want to know what it’s like to be able to count on someone, and know that even though love is never safe, I will be safely hurt by them. Mostly, I know I can learn all these things from you, Nice Guy.

I don’t want anyone thinking I hate bad boys. I don’t hate them; I’m just done with them. I have to thank bad boys for a lot actually. Bad boys have taught me how to depend on myself. How to pick up my broken pieces. They’ve allowed me to secure the perfect break-up remedy. Booze, friends, rebounds, cry, workout, acceptance, find new bad boy, repeat.

I understand myself so much better because of these bad boys. I know what I’m like at my worst. But I’m ready to know what I’m like at my best.

I promise you this, Nice Guy: I don’t know you yet, but I will be a nice girl to you in return. I will show you what you’re like at you’re best. I will treat you with the respect you deserve and will always answer your call when you need me. I will show you what all those bitchy girls couldn’t.

So, I guess all there is left to say is…

I’m ready whenever you are. TC Mark

https://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2014/04/dear-nice-guy-i-wasnt-ready-for-you-before-but-i-am-now/
https://twitter.com/C_NyaKundiH/status/932296171623796736

After dem don chop u finish...
Ur kpomo don finish?
Abeg shift.

No good guy should date any washed up girl...
If the bad guys are tired of u guys , find urselves and be lesbians.

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by lunacol(m): 12:58pm On Nov 20, 2017
Tapout:


Bro help me out with the coded message na pls... I no get strength to read between any line cry
The coded message is that never fall for such desparate repentant lady that rejected you then but coming back to you after being dumped by series of baddest niggas.He is coming back to you just to use you and answer a Mrs and stay away from the shame of not getting married.

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by hopexter(m): 12:59pm On Nov 20, 2017
Adaumunocha:
What's with the epistle There's hope as long as there's life.

Not at 38 with 6 abortions.

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by pocohantas(f): 1:01pm On Nov 20, 2017
It's on NL, I see threads trying to make nice guys come off as fools. I keep asking, who is a nice guy? Who is a bad guy?

Let 'nice guys' be.
So many ladies still find them attractive.
All around me, I see nice responsible guys getting married every weekend. They're very much in demand.

Don't try to subtly coerce them into changing. There's a woman for every man.

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by delishpot: 1:02pm On Nov 20, 2017
Yinmu. Go give ya results to the teachers that taught you.
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by gabe: 1:05pm On Nov 20, 2017
Sorry, I'm with a good girl now. Stick to your fuckboys...

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Nobody: 1:09pm On Nov 20, 2017
I'd still take the 'bad guy' over them 'nice guy'.

Who would want to be with a pathetic yes-man forever? I know not me.

Be strong. Dominate me. Know who you are. Support me when it's right. Put me in my position when it's wrong. Be Alpha male.

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by eljayson(m): 1:13pm On Nov 20, 2017
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OEPHIUS:
Dear Nice Guy,

I don’t know you yet but I’m so ready to date you. Seriously, I am. For a long time, I dated bad boys. Yes, I was that girl you blame for always coming in last. I guess I dated bad boys because, somehow, I liked their unavailability, sexy sideways glances, and late-night calls. I fed off the chase and mystery they provided me. I saw them as a challenge that I always happily accepted. Let me tell you, I’ve dated so many jerks throughout the years. A lot of times, I ended up being disappointed with how it ended with them, and wondered why I always had such blind optimism about these guys I clearly knew were jerks to begin with. But to be honest, I don’t regret any of it now.

I learned a lot from each and every one of those bad boys. I learned something from every un-answered text, from every “I’m just not looking for a relationship” talk, and from every lame excuse as to why he just couldn’t make to my house party until after 1 am. I guess I never let the jerks get to me. I realized it was never me; it was always them. I was born with an abundance of self-confidence. Maybe that’s why I was never too bothered by each guy who was a jerk to me. Maybe it was because I was smart enough to realize I never actually wanted to end up with a jerk. It was always you I wanted, Nice Guy.

With all that being said, I’m ready to date a Nice Guy. I’ve learned all the lessons I need to learn from bad boys. I now have the ability to distinguish between when to give up on a relationship and when to fight harder. I know all the excuses and lies and can see when it’s right to say a big ‘f*ck you’ or an ‘okay, I’ll let you make it up to me.’ I know what it’s like get all dressed up for a night out only to sit in your room watching Netflix, crying and staring at your phone because the person you had plans with never showed. And that a “got too drunk sorry” text is not a sufficient excuse or apology. I know all these things. My mom always said that the problem with people who end up unhappy is that they don’t know how to walk away from something that has already served it purpose. Well, I can see now that bad boys have served all the purpose they possibly could in my life and that it’s time for me to learn a new lesson. I want to learn from you, Nice Guy.

It’s time for me to learn what its like to have someone to fall back on when I feel weak. It’s time for me to understand what its like to open up to someone without the fear that I’ll be emotionally shamed or that it will scare them away. It’s time for me to understand why people write love songs or tear up at the end of the notebook. I want to know what it’s like to be desired for more than my body, for someone to look at me with passionate eyes, slowly but surely falling in love with my mind, body and soul.

I want to know what it’s like to have someone who will always show up, who will always make time for me and who will always respect me. I want to know what it’s like to be able to count on someone, and know that even though love is never safe, I will be safely hurt by them. Mostly, I know I can learn all these things from you, Nice Guy.

I don’t want anyone thinking I hate bad boys. I don’t hate them; I’m just done with them. I have to thank bad boys for a lot actually. Bad boys have taught me how to depend on myself. How to pick up my broken pieces. They’ve allowed me to secure the perfect break-up remedy. Booze, friends, rebounds, cry, workout, acceptance, find new bad boy, repeat.

I understand myself so much better because of these bad boys. I know what I’m like at my worst. But I’m ready to know what I’m like at my best.

I promise you this, Nice Guy: I don’t know you yet, but I will be a nice girl to you in return. I will show you what you’re like at you’re best. I will treat you with the respect you deserve and will always answer your call when you need me. I will show you what all those bitchy girls couldn’t.

So, I guess all there is left to say is…

I’m ready whenever you are. TC Mark

https://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2014/04/dear-nice-guy-i-wasnt-ready-for-you-before-but-i-am-now/
https://twitter.com/C_NyaKundiH/status/932296171623796736
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Nobody: 1:13pm On Nov 20, 2017
Someone is making this issue about men, asking who is a nice guy who is a bad guy..... That one no concern any of us here....men know who they are...


She should first answer us who is a nice girl and who a bad girl is!....
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Nobody: 1:14pm On Nov 20, 2017
UBGG:
I'd still take the 'bad guy' over them 'nice guy'.

Who would want to be with a pathetic yes-man forever? I know not me.

Be strong. Dominate me. Know who you are. Support me when it's right. Put me in my position when it's wrong. Be Alpha male.


You have the wrong idea of a bad guy to a nice guy...no vex, how old are you?

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by tobaseye: 1:14pm On Nov 20, 2017
YoungDaNaval:
I love this

Na so o. Women are help meat(helpmate) to men. That is the only help I need now.
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by pu7pl3(m): 1:15pm On Nov 20, 2017
post=62548116:
No matter how far you've gone on the wrong road. ............... TURN BACK. ...........
Chinese proverb.


Are you a lover of BARBECUE?
If YES, check our signature......


This man sef always selling barbecue on every thread grin
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by jiksman3: 1:16pm On Nov 20, 2017
I, the honourable chairman "nice guys association" and on behalf of my colleagues, says we don't give a fvck again!

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Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by Philtrik(m): 1:18pm On Nov 20, 2017
post=62548116:
No matter how far you've gone on the wrong road. ............... TURN BACK. ...........
Chinese proverb.


Are you a lover of BARBECUE?
If YES, check our signature......
Abeg shift with your Barbecue make I see road.
Re: "Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before, But I Am Now" by TSOM(m): 1:19pm On Nov 20, 2017
Blackfyre:



@emboldened Very very true. Irrespective of your own interest, he will give you what you deserve....

For those who allow God do so tho...
You do realize you don't have to smoke, drink, do drugs or be caught up in vices to be a 'bad boy', right?

Being a 'bad boy' doesn't necessarily mean you have to be a serial cheat who's scared of commitments.


There's no one fits-it-all definition of a 'bad boy'...or a 'nice guy'; but a 'nice guy' in the context used by the thread creator, is one who's, not only chilvarous, but ditches his pride and dignity and belittles himself for a female he admires.

The one who'd call four times in a roll until she picks her call by 10.00pm and send her a good morning text eight hours later.

The one who'd accept the "I was too busy to pick your calls or call you back" or "I don't have airtime on my phone to call" excuse when you inquire why she doesn't call even when you call her regularly.


The one who wouldn't mind her chatting with other people on her phone when you both create time to hang out.

That's the OP's definition of a "nice guy". But in the real sense, that type of " nice guy" is a servile dimwit with no pride or self-worth. The Heavens forbid I play blind while any guy within my circle of close acquaintances acts like that.

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