Ladyhippolyta88:
Xisnin and Tozara are really sensible people keep it up �.

Xisnin:


You are so myopic. Domestic violence have always existed. If this woman was a feminist,
she would long have left the abusive man. A word of advice for you, never marry in hope
that your wife will "submit" to you. Make sure she is unexposed and believes in "submission"

Daisy17:


Absolute rubbish

Authoreety:
Her lips nd in short her appearance obviously shows she is a troublesome woman!


Only 4 those that have deep insight!

flyDixon:
You can never get it wrong when it come to the lips........ It tells it all.

Tozara:
How're you wired, and who wired you? Are you a radio?

You seem to have a monumental ego. Do I expect men to exchange words with women? Because men are what? The Gods that reside on Olympus? The Ultimate Titans that don't dine with mortals?

Just remember not to complain when she decides to defend herself (the average man is naturally stronger than the female) against your monstrosity by picking up a weapon that is stronger than your fist.

By the way, I am a guy, and I don't think all men are 'wired' alike.

Xisnin:

Stop assuming verbal abuse.
No, it doesn't, people live 80, 100 years even after being verbally abused and if you are
a Nigerian, you have been verbally abused by parents, teachers or bosses at work.
How many of them did you beat up for abusing you?
If you don't like your partner's behaviour, divorce her, but weak men won't do that, they
will want to prove a point by beating her and the cycle continues.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Tell that to the religious folks.I have an egalitarian relationship and we are partners.Everyone has what they can define as marriageable and take note I won't give you respect because of gender or the head or tail of something but I would respect you because you earn it.To complete what I started I never supported such stop being chauvinistic and misogynistic because I don't buy that you actually need to learn to bridle your tongue and earn the respect of a woman and not think because you are a man and have a joystick you ultimately deserve respect to the 21st century woman you should earn it before you spew trash about the head and tail of the family.Daeylar where are you.

Daeylar:


Here dear,

Don't mind him,
He isn't saying anything reasonable,
The problem with nairaland babies is that if there is a topic involving a man and a woman, no matter how wrong the man is the babies will still try and put the blame on the woman,
But if the woman is wrong they won't waste time to condemn the woman,

There is nothing wrong with a woman leaving a marriage where there is domestic violence, that is the ideal,

I don't even know what's their pain?
Are they trying to justify violence? Nonsense.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I would start using this word to refer to some of them"nairaland babies"thanks.

Daeylar:


Lol, that's what I call them,
They don't act like fully grown human beings much less the men they tout themselves as being

uyiekpenn:
hey you. I've noticed you've been directly and indirectly insulting people here. A woman who insults the pride and dignity of any man deserves a very thorough beating. You ladies are very quick to come out online to say trash when 95% of the marriage crash are caused by your insatiable greed for material things and your uncultured mouths.

Xisnin:


You are very myopic. There is no such thing as emotional violence.
Violence is 100% physical. Aren't you a weak man if all you do is beat up
your wife because she insults you.

olabrad:


May Satan appoint your portion with a chronic nagging woman. Even if God has a better plan for you, may Satan prevail and bring a nagging abusive woman to your life.

Then maybe you will have some sense and know that emotional abuse is worse than physical abuse

Bunch of idiots will just wake up from the wrong side of their bed and begin to make baseless unprovable nonsense comments

olabrad:


May Satan appoint your portion with a chronic nagging woman. Even if God has a better plan for you, may Satan prevail and bring a nagging abusive woman to your life.

Then maybe you will have some sense and know that emotional abuse is worse than physical abuse

Bunch of idiots will just wake up from the wrong side of their bed and begin to make baseless unprovable nonsense comments

OrestesDante:



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∆ The way some women talk at times, pukes me!


Were there no period of Courtship?

Didn't she study the attitude of her husband?

Was she rushing to get married like some ladies are doing today?

Wedding Gown and Suits is not marriage.

Just a year?

Nobody is talking about the lady herself. She might be the cause of this. Attitude speaks a lot in marriage which most of these ladywomen don't have.

Now she's rushing to the social media to talk about her failed marriage.
Rubbish!!!

I'm not on the husband's side sha.

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Rozaytee:
u are indirectly supporting abusive union

Ladyhippolyta88:
Stop generalizing if it was a man I am sure you would not need the other half.

Xisnin:

What other side of the story?
That the husband did not beat her?
What if he said her never touched her?
You will jump up in joy that you have been vindicated.

I have worked with NGOs in the past and I can tell you that the last
thing a wife will do is confirm that she is been abused. Even those
who were hospitalised due to beatings will still deny being abused.
Whenever a wife come out to tell her story of marital, there is no "other side"
except in cases where the husband was the one who initiated the divorce.

Note that excuses such as she doesn't obey me or she is disrespectful are nonsense.
If you read the comments above, you will see a post excusing abuse with many likes,
that is to show you the level of reasoning of an average Nigerian men.

Daeylar:


Here dear,

Don't mind him,
He isn't saying anything reasonable,
The problem with nairaland babies is that if there is a topic involving a man and a woman, no matter how wrong the man is the babies will still try and put the blame on the woman,
But if the woman is wrong they won't waste time to condemn the woman,

There is nothing wrong with a woman leaving a marriage where there is domestic violence, that is the ideal,

I don't even know what's their pain?
Are they trying to justify violence? Nonsense.

NothingDoMe:
I disagree. Women speak out a lot when they are in an abusive relationship. They just don't speak out to NGO's that are complete strangers to them. That's why I have issues with women who run to social media to tell their side of the story. That's just one side. As long as the man doesn't come to social media to speak out, the story remains in her favour.

I cannot judge or sympathize by hearing a story from one side.

AntiBrutus:


You can't judge?
LoL. Go read you comment again, with understanding...

NothingDoMe:
I think you are the one who requires understanding.

torvickof1312:
Your husband will not out of self will violet your right as a wife with no reason of you showing your homeless training into play. When dating you he sound nice fetching water for you, cooking for you, spoon-feed you and now he is seeing realities of his being Mr nice during courtship and to fine tune you to start being a woman of substance you jump to social media to announce your manner less act to your husband. For the husband we are waiting to hear your part of the story, you better access yourself and be the best of you with understanding your partner.......... Rubbish ....and tomorrow you will come back and post ..... I've forgiven him, God go punish you. Woman you are not a wife material for flying on social media..... who ever go for you is in doom......

Daisy17:


The way you guys go on about period of courtship in this forum. Don't you realize that most abusers are very loving and romantic in the beginning, and then their characters change. Why will a sane woman marry an abuser? Maybe it's time you read about abusive people and you will realize most victims did not get any warning.

AntiBrutus:


They don't want her to leave, they want the woman to stay there and die. That way they can come blame her in death again.
Have you ever seen them ask for the other side of the story, when the victim is a man? No! They'll only rush out to tell us how women are worse than devils.