ImaIma1:


The point is that it is a choice for any woman to go ahead with it. One who goes for a more comfortable guy should not be shamed as well as one who decides to stay with this one. But guys here will shame one who doesn't stay and call her slayqueen, golddigger, etc.

Personally, I would prefer we are both ok and more comfortable because I won't want to get married and still be turning to my family for help.

Whichever way you look at it... it's not all ladies that will marriage a comfortable guy. There are some ladies that will marry an already man made while some will do a little work on their guy before they can be compatible..
Or some will choose a guy that they will do a lot of work before they can be compatible.
Irrespective, It all boils down to your ability and capacity to cope....
So, you have decided to go for the guy that you don't need to do much work.
Different folks for different strokes.. though there are some guys that live a very lowlife just to test the commitment of their partner in relationship...

pocohantas:
We can't date, let alone acceptance.

We are not even the same circle...
He should pick a wife from his circle. Guys should learn to pick a wife from their social class and stop disturbing SM.

Being in that position isn’t a crime bt being comfortable in that position is. I wud rather like to know what or how he/her thinks while in that place or position. I don’t ever look at people based on their present positions/situations bt the potentials they possess while in it.

I’ve seen the rich fall and the poor rise. So I know life much better than this and what to seek in a person.

AntiBrutus:


Na them go help us marry them.

I don't live in such an environment. Then I will go marry a man living in such. Like that is not enough, his ego won't allow him move to my place, I will go join him in that room.

I will start walking on eggshells, so that my actions will not be misconstrued as disrespect.

Marrying a comfortable man isn't all about greed, it helps to protect his ego and give the woman peace.

This guy is best with his class, not me.

Why would a man living in such condition be contemplating marriage self

ImaIma1:


Most of the guys are commenting with the current state of their pockets and bank accounts. If they get good jobs and are staying in decent apartments, won't they expect ladies to marry them?

They think that its only when they are poor that they should be considered for marriage

At that point, they become extra cautious and choosy. I have friends with good jobs, correct bachelors. They all say one thing Ima, "I will never marry a woman who has nothing doing"

Some go as far as mentioning certain "handwork" they consider vain or not sustainable. I don't ever judge them like guys here do. I support their decision.

But guys here will always want to blackmail you into settling down with anything.

GrabHisBalls:
And what if he doesn't have a vision?

See, I am not saying there's anything bad in starting small, or having prospects, but thinking of getting married in such a condition is suicide. As a woman, I won't be helping him by saying 'Yes'.

If he has no vision or drive,then he is a dud!

Oh,you mean that room the OP posted? Lol! At least it has a mattress naaaaaaa

ikechukz:
Truth be told, I won't even allow my sister to marry a guy that lives in a place like this. The guy should be thinking of how to better his condition not making it worse by getting married. And for the ladies saying yes, we know it's just to get likes and praises from guys.

Hope u equally tell you sister to make her own money before she marries to avoid becoming punching bag push over

jaxxy:



Being in that position isn’t a crime bt being comfortable in that position is. I wud rather like to know what or how he/her thinks while in that place or position. I don’t ever look at people based on their present positions/situations bt the potentials they possess while in it.

I’ve seen the rich fall and the poor rise. So I know life much better than this and what to seek in a person.

It is not a crime, same way me wanting a man in a better position is not a crime too.

I have seen rich rise more.
Poor getting poorer.

Life isn't all white and black. I am not the woman for him, irrespective of his POTENTIALS.

ikechukz:
Truth be told, I won't even allow my sister to marry a guy that lives in a place like this. The guy should be thinking of how to better his condition not making it worse by getting married. And for the ladies saying yes, we know it's just to get likes and praises from guys.

Hope u will equally tell your sister to make her own money before she marries to avoid becoming punching bag push over,if not you should start learning how to waylay to beat brother-in law.

luminouz:

If he has no vision or drive,then he is a dud!

Oh,you mean that room the OP posted? Lol! At least it has a mattress naaaaaaa

Good for him.

pocohantas:
We can't date, let alone acceptance.

We are not even the same circle...
He should pick a wife from his circle. Guys should learn to pick a wife from their social class and stop disturbing SM.

Which class, Primary 4 or JSS 2? You ladies have class and you keep on begging for recharge card. Beggee Beggee ladies wey get class

GrabHisBalls:
Good for him.

Lol,
I read una dey do riots for that side cuz water/light no dey...hope u no join sha?

luminouz:

Lol,
I read una dey do riots for that side cuz water/light no dey...hope u no join sha?

I am still in PH. Will be resuming on Monday and by the way, I live off campus.

They have plants that power hotels. I don't why they don't get light.

ornicus:


So basically you were stone poor. Your dad was a nurse and your mum was a trader. Your only stroke of luck was that your dad managed to get a job as a nurse in Saudi Arabia. If not for that you would still be in the face me I face you.

As a guy from a medical family, whose dad was in Saudi Arabia for 10 years from 1990 to 2000, I say your story is bullsheeet. Oya tell me where your dad worked and how many times you visited him. My old man was in tabuk at one time and dhuba at another.

like I should explain my family life to u in details....I didn't tell you so u can believe ...I don't no u motherfucker and don't give a shit about wat u think.....

Tallesty1:
Forget comments oga. Just do a 1k give away here and you will know who is hardworking and who is lazy.

hahaahaha my guy is true o They will be here forming class and I can't marry him attitude perhaps they can still be begging the guy for N100 recharge card and beeping/flashing somebody. They can even block you on Facebook for not sending the recharge card

AntiBrutus:


Dude don't project your sisters on me o.

I work for my money, been working since I was 21. I will never be blackmailed into marrying such a man. NEVER.

Good for you......but I repeat the rich only marry the rich.

XhosaNostra:
No, I will never accept. His priorities are all mixed up for starters. Why rush into marriage when you only have a handful of things & flip flops to your name? I've seen homeless people with more stuff than this!

is like you are a parasite

Please nairaland guys leave these girls in this forum alone. If they say they will not marry a guy like that you people will call them leeches, gold diggers etc. If they decide to settle with a guy like that you people will call them desperate evening newspaper that have no choice. Which one Dem go do wey go please una

GrabHisBalls:
I am still in PH. Will be resuming on Monday and by the way, I live off campus.

They have plants that power hotels. I don't why they don't get light.

OK,nice...
The protest no get joy....
Safe journey and bring something while coming biko.

Glink2018:


Whichever way you look at it... it's not all ladies that will marriage a comfortable guy. There are some ladies that will marry an already man made while some will do a little work on their guy before they can be compatible..
Or some will choose a guy that they will do a lot of work before they can be compatible.
Irrespective, It all boils down to your ability and capacity to cope....
So, you have decided to go for the guy that you don't need to do much work.
Different folks for different strokes.. though there are some guys that live a very lowlife just to test the commitment of their partner in relationship...

You are not getting what I am saying. It's still a matter of choice. Either one should not be shamed for their choices. If you won't shame a lady that marries a poor guy, don't also shame one who marries a rich one.

Godoverevery:

like I should explain my family life to u in details....I didn't tell you so u can believe ...I don't no u motherfucker and don't give a shit about wat u think.....

You just told me your life story na. Face me I face you,, bathing under tap, the cars bought, the house, but all of a sudden you can't explain your life in details

pocohantas:
We can't date, let alone acceptance.

We are not even the same circle...
He should pick a wife from his circle. Guys should learn to pick a wife from their social class and stop disturbing SM.

You ladies also should pick husband from your social circle and stop running after another woman's husband..
What's good for goose is good for gander...
So, marry the kind of guy that you and him are at pal..
Don't be trekking and want to date a guy that has a car.

luminouz:

OK,nice...
The protest no get joy....
Safe journey and bring something while coming biko.

Thanks, I will.

Somebody even said the foam go reach us fork LMAO people too get mouth

AntiBrutus:


It is not a crime, same way me wanting a man in a better position is not a crime too.

I have seen rich rise more.
Poor getting poorer.

Life isn't all white and black. I am not the woman for him, irrespective of his POTENTIALS.

Sure I never said it was a crime did I? I’m sure it’s not every rich person u wud automatically like, u shud have certain requirements not so same way not every poor person one likes. I’m not taking about love on sympathy bt based on ticking the right boxes.

I have seen poor with potential and rich with no potential squandering his wealth b4 my eyes till he got broke. So I’m just speaking on other perspective and realities not exactly condemning ur choice.

I’m sure Lola wudnt have married peter if she thought this way bt then she cud have also married sm rich guys also perhaps rite. The major thing is the right boxes irrespective cos the wrong boxes cud present a wrong outcome.

Godoverevery:

Good for you......but I repeat the rich only marry the rich.

Suffice to say all the poor people you know who married themselves were both poor. Your mum probably didn't have an option than to marry in one room. Not like she was so virtuos, maybe the one room was better or same with where she came from. No disrespect intended, but yea...you are right, the rich marry the rich.

So, allow me and my choice.
Thank you.

RiyadhGoddess:
Yes I will say YES.
I will help him bring his dream to pass with the help of God.
He definitely knows what he wants from life, together we will both achieve that...
Read your signature

Modified

All of you mentioning me because I said Yes na wa for una ooo.
What is your own definition of poverty please It could be that your own definition of poverty is different from mine.
To me, a man who is rich spiritually, morally, wisdom, knowledge, values is the definition of riches. With all that I have mentioned combined, financial wealth will flow in in due time if properly guided/managed and mentored, He will be super rich in no time.
A man who sleeps on a student size mattress or on the mat today can sleep on a king size bed tomorrow if he finds the wife the bible referred to as good thing because that good thing (Wife) comes with Favor from the Lord.
Read the story of the virtuous woman again in the book of proverb.
The woman is meant to help the man build/grow and not scatter.
What some of you don't know is that there are some men that God has destined to be blessed through their wife. There are some men that God will bless the woman first so she can use it to lift the man up.
You all need to understand the principles of marriage in order to understand what I am talking about.
That's why so many marriages can't stand the test of time today because many are built on money money money foundation...

I beg make person hear word jooor...for your church mind?? Na go first abuse the shit out of him

AntiBrutus:


At that point, they become extra cautious and choosy. I have friends with good jobs, correct bachelors. They all say one thing Ima, "I will never marry a woman who has nothing doing"

Some go as far as mentioning certain "handwork" they consider vain or not sustainable. I don't ever judge them like guys here do. I support their decision.

But guys here will always want to blackmail you into settling down with anything.

At the bolded...Makeup artist . Every lady is a makeup artist these days.

I know such guys. Infact I have some that I am trying to hook up...plus my brother's friend that's over 45. Guys here believe it's only ladies that want to get married. I don't blame them. Most are young and immature

gerizzim:
Of a Truth, the apartment is not looking comfortable bt dey can start from der ND climb up. Most of diz well to do pple had similar stat in d beginning of dia marriage.

One line pastor Oyedepo of winners shared in his early stage of marriage was dt he had just one cooking pot. Wt the wife did was to cook wit dt pot ND transfer d food into a cooler ND recycle dt same pot to cook anoda meal. Dt same pastor Oyedepo can choose to buy container load of pots as we speak.

A lady dt is coming to bring value to dt marriage may accept marriage proposal to start a family from der. It's all in d head not wat u see

don't mind them,they will be looking for oil workers with Jeep when we all know their fathers started from one room with no chair.Be forming as if your father is a Batman perhaps we know is a Spiderman

Mrjo:
is like you are a parasite

For not wanting to live like that when I've never lived like that in the house I grew up in? So be it!

jaxxy:



Sure I never said it was a crime did I? I’m sure it’s not every rich person u wud automatically like, u shud have certain requirements not so same way not every poor person one likes. I’m not taking about love on sympathy bt based on ticking the right boxes.

I have seen poor with potential and rich with no potential squandering his wealth b4 my eyes till he got broke. So I’m just speaking on other perspective and realities not exactly condemning ur choice.

I’m sure Lola wudnt have married peter if she thought this way bt then she cud have also married sm rich guys also perhaps rite. The major thing is the right boxes irrespective cos the wrong boxes cud present a wrong outcome.

Financial compability is K, that is a CONSTANT.
It is a box that MUST be ticked.

I don't care about Lola. There are not so many Peter anyway. I care about myself and I would do what's best for me, irrespective of the few examples you guys have been flinging upandan this thread.

ornicus:


You just told me your life story na. Face me I face you,, bathing under tap, the cars bought, the house, but all of a sudden you can't explain your life in details

lol.....dummy it didn't end with 2 two cars or in surulere...... like foolishly u only interested in d ugly part which am no longer interested to talk about....

I got married in that condition in 2008 but today we have our on house. I mean house we built with our own money. Even that our room then was 2 by 2 not up to this size. My colleagues that can to visi t me after the wedding didn't see a place to seat. But today non of them have a House but I do.