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Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by deniyor: 5:33pm On Jun 11, 2011
Yeah thats mean. If you did all you could do while dating him, then leave the rest to God and karma.

There is also the flip side that when you were dating, you felt he had no where to go, or he couldnt do better than you etc. A lot of western based naija girls act that way and dont value the guys. Sometimes they treat their guys like trash and disrespect them a lot. Meanwhile there are women round the world that see the guy as a diamond. You mentioned things had been rough for some time. Maybe it got too rough that he couldn't handle it anymore and he wanted a way out while humiliating you at the same time.

Even if that was the case, he should have broken it off with you before starting a new relationship. Don't worry, your own guy is round the corner.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by NYgirl: 7:16pm On Jun 11, 2011
deniyor:

Yeah thats mean. If you did all you could do while dating him, then leave the rest to God and karma.

There is also the flip side that when you were dating, you felt he had no where to go, or he couldnt do better than you etc. A lot of western based naija girls act that way and dont value the guys. Sometimes they treat their guys like trash and disrespect them a lot. Meanwhile there are women round the world that see the guy as a diamond. You mentioned things had been rough for some time. Maybe it got too rough that he couldn't handle it anymore and he wanted a way out while humiliating you at the same time.

Even if that was the case, he should have broken it off with you before starting a new relationship. Don't worry, your own guy is round the corner.
i ddnt feel that he had no where to go.If u read my original post,this guy a very well paying job,was god looking,was legally situated in the country and was family oriented so i knew he had a lot of options.I just naively believed that when a man has reached a certain age,in his case 30 yrs old,he would stop playing games and settle down.I treated him like a king,was good to him but i suppose the grass is always greener on the other side.He even told me on several occasions that i was too good to him n all dt.i guess it still wasnt enough
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by NYgirl: 7:24pm On Jun 11, 2011
izeek:

It would hurt, but i suggest you let go and move on.
Onething i do, is try to see the positives about every situation.
The girl he is marrying might have hurriedly taken what could have been a disaster for you if you had married him.
Moreso, i choose not to believe your friends hubby dint know abt this all the while.
Aniways, he has his reasons and until he's side of the story is told, i can only advice u based on urs.

about my friend's hubby,i think dt too but i can only take his word for it.I also want to hear what his reasons are cos as far as i can tell,we were good until he left for naija n he isnt back as i am posting this.i want to know what his reasons could possibly be
aminalib:


I am sorry to hear girl, BUT please do not take this monkey back when he comes home, I say this because I know a lady that has gone through the same situation, instead of her being the girlfriend and soon to be wife, she is now the mistress, cut your losses and cry and get over it, sorry
it hurts like hell right now and im barely eating,lost 10lbs already.i know its going to get better wt time but im not going to be so stupid as to take him back not as a mistress or rvrn if he leaves his wife.If someone that i loved n trusted can do that kind of thing to me,means he can kill me n who wants somebody like dt in his/her life.we r done,i just want to hear his own side of the story cos as of now all im hearing are what my friend and her hubby have been telling me since its their cousin he is getting married to.i want to know how he could look me in the face,knowing how much i cared about him n still go ahead n do what he's done

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Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by Nobody: 7:33pm On Jun 11, 2011
The guy just left now problem to future problem. Any difference?!
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by BABE3: 7:33pm On Jun 11, 2011
heavy g:

I heard that, BABE!

Aight. You weren't supposed to "hear" it though. I'm sorry. Forgive me.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by SweetT1: 7:40pm On Jun 11, 2011
@OP

Shouldn't you be happy that you didn't marry this snake?? I know it hurts now but you will thank your stars down the road. Take some time off and forget about him. It will be difficult but you can do it if you give it a try. This is the kind of guy that kills their spouse for life insurance money. Congratulations sweetheart.

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Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by SweetT1: 7:42pm On Jun 11, 2011
I think the OP is that girl called "Thief of the heart". I guess she changed her user name. But dang, i never thought a guy could play her like that as sharp as her tongue is. The guy must be one heck of a roughneck.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by omega25red(m): 7:45pm On Jun 11, 2011
poster

sorry for your situation. Seriously Fnck that dude he's not a man. trust me its better this happened now before you are fully committed to this jerk bag.
Forget that looserand find you a better man who will respect you and truly love you.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by Goldieluks: 7:46pm On Jun 11, 2011
Go on your kneels and pray to God, to forgive you your sins,
and also ask God to amend your broken heart, and lead you to the man of your dream.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by SweetT1: 7:47pm On Jun 11, 2011
Thief of the heart,

That serves you right. Now you know how it feels to be evil.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by SweetT1: 7:49pm On Jun 11, 2011
Ha ha ha ha ha. Naija Boys!
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by Nobody: 7:52pm On Jun 11, 2011
Well a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Any marriage to that gorilla is certainly  gonna end in a very disastrous way. This one will walk out on u even if u av 4 kids 4 him without looking back. No matter how justifiable his reasons are, normal people in there right senses would end one relationship before heading into another one.

Dont worry, karma is a Zap.i.n.g bi.a.tch. You re gonna laugh at his backside soon. Just take things easy, time will heal the wound. Move closer to God during this period if you believe in HIM. And please dont let the not-so-smart person near you. You just need to be careful of the next guy you fall in love with. You will be fine, people have gone tru this, some are still in it like you and some will still experience it. God is your strength. And believe this a man way better than him is coming your way.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by Nobody: 7:54pm On Jun 11, 2011
Why do pple still marry? Not that anybody is happy together. I laugh when I hear happily married.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by busygirl(f): 7:56pm On Jun 11, 2011
Sweet T:

I think the OP is that girl called "Thief of the heart". I guess she changed her user name. But dang, i never thought a guy could play her like that as sharp as her tongue is. The guy must be one heck of a roughneck.
You are mean oo, How can you tell it's TOH?
@op, pele! These human species called men are something else. Only God can help us. The guy is very short-sighted. Don't worry, it is his loss. I don't understand why some men will leave the one that truly cares for them to someone else who doesn't give two damns about them lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by andyanders: 8:00pm On Jun 11, 2011
I feel for you, but I cannot reconcile why the separation of your relationship within few days before he traveled. I do understand the attitude of some Nigerian ladies over there in the US. They try to force themselves by behaving like a true American citizen by acting like them and forgetting their own cultural background. When most Nigerian ladies gets to the US, they try to copy the American attitude.

I knew of a friend of mine in Alabama in 1989, who came to Nigeria and got married to a Nigerian lady whom he brought to the US. When the lady got to the US, she discovered that the guy was working in a Restaurant and she was ok and loved the guy. Later when she got a job in one of the fast food outlet, she met American ladies who now made her to know as a lady, you got to be yourself and they planted into her the true American attitude to relationship. Before we knew what was happening, the lady started telling the guy that, here is America and that they should live like Americans and not the other way round. To cut the story short, the marriage headed to the rock and that was the end. The guy even ran away from her and even out of the US after a baby boy.

Now, to your story, if the guy actually did wrong by coming to Nigeria to get married, then their must have been something like negative attitude of yours the guy has been keeping to himself because you can mess him up in the US since women got an upper hand when there is problem. So the only option was for him to keep low, trigger quarrel and you guys gave yourselves a brake and he took an advantage of that to come to Nigeria to look for another relationship which has been

Also, I still believe that his coming home to marry cannot help him because the one that he is getting married to wants to make use of him. She’s not gonna be there. What makes anyone that comes to Nigeria from the US look loveable by ladies is mostly because of the way they look and their ascent. Most Nigerian ladies love to be identified with guys like that. But when they take them over and they discover maybe the kind of job they do, they dump them and find their way.

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Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by pereze: 8:01pm On Jun 11, 2011
Guy man know wetin eh see. This gal (typical of gals), just made it look as though she is a 'SAINTNESS', na today!
You know how una start, u know how una been de do am, u known wetin come vex bros.
No vibrate my ear bucket here abeg, my ear drum don full!

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Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by SweetT1: 8:02pm On Jun 11, 2011
busygirl:


You are mean oo,  How can you tell it's TOH?
@op, pele! These human species called men are something else. Only God can help us. The guy is very short-sighted. Don't worry, it is his loss. I don't understand why some men will leave the one that truly cares for them to someone else who doesn't give two damns about them lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed

Trust me i know. Why blame the guy?? Women always think men are fools. Do you think this chap will go all the way back to Nigeria if he's found what he wants in TOH?? Get a grip, we are only hearing one side of the story, men usually don't make decisions about marriage in such a brash way. The guy knows what's good for him.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by busygirl(f): 8:06pm On Jun 11, 2011
Sweet T:

Trust me i know. Why blame the guy?? Women always think men are fools. Do you think this chap will go all the way back to Nigeria if he's found what he wants in TOH?? Get a grip, we are only hearing one side of the story, men usually don't make decisions about marriage in such a brash way. The guy knows what's good for him.

but the guy should have told her naw. That's really unfair.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by SweetT1: 8:07pm On Jun 11, 2011
busygirl:


but the guy should have told her naw. That's really unfair.

So she can put a bullet in his A$$?? Ekiti people??
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by Nobody: 8:13pm On Jun 11, 2011
Sweet T:

So she can put a bullet in his A$$?? Ekiti people??

Why? U have problems with ur grl and tell her ur future plans. Na wao for u. Well the feller is still inside shittt. This one is his future problem.Person sold monkey and bought baboon, squatting animal is still much around. No escaping unless you do without them in marriage.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by busygirl(f): 8:18pm On Jun 11, 2011
Sweet T:

So she can put a bullet in his A$$?? Ekiti people??
what do you have against ekiti people? I don't pray this kind of humiliation even for my enemies. No one deserves it.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by seyibrown(f): 8:41pm On Jun 11, 2011
I feel so sad for you, OP! sad Forget this bloke! He is bad news! Let him have fun with his 'native' wife!

I was talking to an ex some three months ago and he introduced me to his fiancee - they had been living together for just over a year! Some two weeks ago, he got married to someone else! Nigerian men do this all they time . . . . they usually have about 3 fiancees at a time and end up breaking hearts!

Please, take heart and move on. May God give you comfort and strength.

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Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by Agnesqueen(f): 9:14pm On Jun 11, 2011
This does sound fishy but are you sure that he is not marrying her as fraud. I know a lot of Nigerians (i.e. your boyfriend. that marry so that the person(i.e. your boyfriend's friend cousin) can get a green card. They often divorce later and often get paid to do this by friends and family members of the person they married nigerians (i.e. his friend). Refort him to immigration if you really want to hit him where it hurts because likely he is doing this for that dinero($). The reason i came to this conclusion is that your boyfriend broke up with you in a matter of weeks and got married in a matter of weeks too, fishy. And from what you said that girl dumped her boyfriend too to in a short period in order to marry your boyfriend. I do not know why Nigerians here are still doing this considering that it is illegal and they can go to jail for a long time.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by Nobody: 9:29pm On Jun 11, 2011
Abegi! Let someone hear word jor! What is all this blabbing i am hearing? What is everyone condemning the guy for? Afterall the poster said both of them decided to breakoff the relationship for a while, didnt she. The issue is that if she really loved him, why the breakoff? Another sharper girl was on line to grab the guy. And moreover this is one side to the story. I cant wait to hear the guys version. This reminds me of the recent case of that nigerian ambassador to kenya. We all didnt know the truth till the man said his own version.
Ladies, there is a lesson to learn here= if you love your man, never let him out of your sight for even a second cos there r a lot of sharp girls out there.

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Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by poporipo(f): 9:35pm On Jun 11, 2011
sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad hmmmmmmmmmmmmm!its funny how the people that hurt you the most,are the ones that swore they never would. everything happens for a reason. i know how you feel but just know one thing, HE DOESNT DESERVE YOU, u really have to thank God now and be happy,move on.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by LadyT(f): 9:38pm On Jun 11, 2011
SweetT Taye shut up and stop making up lies! What's wrong with you?
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by NIGERBOY1(m): 9:43pm On Jun 11, 2011
@ nygirl, accept ur faith and carry on with ur life simply becos u are nt meant for each other .some men could be carlos when it come to marriage  but ladies on the other hand sud learn from dere past mistake and stop being victim of circumstances
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by MMM2(m): 10:02pm On Jun 11, 2011
olasu2
am a human being. undecided
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by Princek12(m): 10:11pm On Jun 11, 2011
this is what happens when these Naija girls move to the U.S. and want to emulate the ways of the girls in the West, for example, not cooking for their boyfriends or doing or wifey chores. I am sure he went to Naija to wife a girl with traditional ways.

My advice to all the Naija girls who want to start acting like Yankee girls is to find a Yankee husband. It is a disgrace that so many Naija girls in America are now beginning to say that they are equal with men and that they don't have to cook for their bfs and husbands. Hey this is what you get.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by SweetT1: 10:31pm On Jun 11, 2011
LadyT:

SweetT Taye shut up and stop making up lies! What's wrong with you?

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. Someone call 911 laugh wan kill me. Truth hurts, don't it? You better tell your friend to go and find an Okada driver in Nigeria too and forget about that guy. He's in the arms of another woman right now.
Re: (Ex)Boyfriend Getting Married 2 Weeks After We Went On A Break by SweetT1: 11:00pm On Jun 11, 2011
Where is Ileke-Idi?? I hope she's learning from this. So when she's old enough to start dating, she won't end up like this.

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