lefulefu:
the ones in america will come back one day to africa looking for their fada no doubt.that one is expected...but for the children in naija i am sure he visits dem anytime he goes to naija.

Liliantalks:
what I meant was different from how u understood it , telling that guy , that coming to Nigeria to get a wife or even hv a babymama here is better than other options in my opinion.

On the other hand there is nothing wrong being a babymama , Thinking of hving a child two years from now if I ain’t married, and trust me I will be very happy with my life

MOnkeyBabe:
if I tell you the story of my life, the whole world go shake pass coronavirus, no offence.
It's only one man I've told, my true love
I won't think twice before taking a BUllet for him. I know God is involved because we met after I became boRnAGain. No talks. God's presence is in me, though I still do some lewd things. FaShiOn & nuDity has the better part of me. BUt I no longer sleep around or nothing no matter the PRiCe.

Eniolakiite:
Yes cause she can always say she signed it under duress. All she needs is a smart lawyer.

The truth is it is very hard for a man to win over a woman here in the US.

She will mention all the time she stopped her career for the kids or how one thing or the other related to being married or having kids hindered her life progress. And definitely she will be favored.

Many cases hmmm

0KNM:
That’s why we don’t want you Nigerian women. Fact!

lefulefu:
someone here said prenuptials doesnt do shit in the US.dat the courts can still ignore ur prenuptial agreement

jubrilELsudan:
NIGERIAN WOMEN ARE THE BIGGEST CHEATS.

THEY NEVER MARRY FOR LOVE TALK MORE OF EVEN LOVING A MAN. IT'S NOT IN THEIR DNA TO LOVE A MAN BUT THEY WILL HAPPILY LOVE HIS MONEY.


MAJORITY OF MARRIED NIGERIAN WOMEN FVCK AROUND AND HAVE CHILDREN WITH OTHER MEN THEN HER MUMU HUSBAND WILL BE CONVINCING HIMSELF THAT HE IS THE FATHER OF THE CHILDREN DESPITE THE FACT THAT NOBODY IN HIS FAMILY HISTORY HAS THAT SHAPE OF HEAD.


THE ONLY THING NICE ABOUT A NIGERIAN WOMAN IS THAT HER KUKUNASE IS ALWAYS VERY WARM AND SWEET BUT IT IS VERY WIDE MORE THAN BOBRISKY'S ANUS.

RamessesIV:
In the west marriage is by grace of God,see no matter how they twist it as a straight male you will more likely to loose more in case of a divorce,the only thing that can save you is if you marry someone wealthier than you even that one doesn't have assurance

lefulefu:
i think wat will solve everythin is if u marry a woman who genuinly loves u and want to be wiht u

BetWinners:

@Emboldened
The beat finally drops!
You should have told that lady all that 24hours ago straight up instead of all these your endless back & forth with her

Eniolakiite:
My view is many Africans don’t have a good cultural identity.

We move to Germany, we behave like them. We move to UK, we behave like them immediately. We move to US, France...and so on and we keep behaving like them. It’s unfortunate.
I see Indian men and women who immigrated here who still act their values and culture irrespective of how much dollars they earn or where they work.

But Africans, immediately they cross that Atlantic ocean like this, we change everything and no originality again. It’s unfortunate.

Stop changing your real self because of change of location.

executive12:


So tell us about married Nigerian men. Do they also sleep around?

RamessesIV:
Sir love dies,do we do love more than white people but yet they change marriage like clothes,your hard earned money shouldn't be pegged to "love" it can go and come,once divorce comes that your wife that you think is very serious will bring one broke dude to be living with her in the house you bought,I have heard stories of our Edo brothers in europe I won't make such mistake

XhosaNostra:


No, the ones I've met here are Northern Indians. I'm acquainted with people from parts of Gujarat like Ahmedabad & Surat, as well as Sialkot & Kashmir.

RamessesIV:
Hmmm i would love to learn though sounds like incantations,imagine using that language for bedroom voice

so before I used to think south Africa was all Zulu and "mzansi" and those people in "Gods must be crazy" I think khoisans or san is the appropriate term can't remember(heard bushmen is offensive)

Yeah Nigeria is very diverse,just that Yoruba and igbos are much with hausa/Fulani being the largest and the first two spend all the time on the internet doing ethnic quarrels and others ethnic issues,well we are found in Edo state,we are related to the benins kind of how scotish is related to english we both and others make up the edo people which makes up the tribes that encompassed the former benin kingdom,we are very friendly and hospitable,and travel a lot,we have a lot of our people in the west especially europe and some in SA too

Sorry to ask ohh is it true that Xhosa women love money?

dangoteinlaw:
then look at the ones that married whites lot of them are living happily eg Dr DRe, even snoopdogg never married [b][/b]at all but had kids with black ladies, that further confirms the op ascension that black ladies are toxic. These rappers above where alpha males who knew their way around women and at the end got a better deal. Although some whites weren't that lucky eg Jeff benzos

humilitypays:
Exactly!!


People like him think because they live in the US or UK or wherever they live outside Nigeria, it makes them more civilised, more exposed and more successful and knowledgeable than those in Nigeria which is a stupid thinking of mostly young boys that managed to travel abroad by chance through either visa lottery, sham marriage or by chance process.

Anybody earning NGN400,000 and above in Nigeria is far better than most Nigerians living abroad.

With a monthly income of NGN500,000, you will live a very comfortable life of your dream in Nigeria and even go for vacation abroad, but you will see these guys doing up to 3 jobs and overtime abroad coming online to brag and feel like they are now rich, not knowing that most of us here now do vacation abroad and also have friends and families living abroad that envy us back home.

I live in Nigeria and I am more civilized and more comfortable living my dream life than most people living abroad who work their ass off hourly to earn wages whereas people and money work for me....I treat everybody around me with respect and dignity not because I live abroad but because I know what is right and wrong...so I don't need to live in the US to treat my wife well and make her enjoy her marriage to me.

My immediate elder brother who also lives here in Nigeria changed his wife's car around February to a latest model car...and just because he was transferred to another state....he changed their generator to a brand new automatic starter generator so the wife won't labor to on the gen whenever light goes off.....the wife is living larger than most of her friends living and married to guys abroad....yet these op was here talking nonsense


The op really angered me that I tried to restrain myself from giving him a direct attack that would make him deactivate his account on this forum, what nonsense is that!!


When did living abroad translate to being the best or being wiser and more civilised than those in Nigeria.


I am writing a book on this nonsense practice Oyimbo is doing; their hypocrisy of castigating patriarchy practiced in Africa while promoting matriarch practiced by the west; what is the difference


If they want equality, then don't be bias by giving women upper hand in marital cases......make it equal treatment and equal judgment

Liliantalks:
foolishness is what I call that , plain foolish stupidity

lefulefu:
lol its better yu just marry the devil u know than to be going back to naija looking for a bride.many yankee based naija guys who went home looking for homebase wife to bring to US have sorry tales to tell.if u still insist on marrying homebase just marry her and keep her in nigeria and be sending monthly upkeep then visit her during easter and christmas....but there chances she will codedly have a lover while u over there cos she go need man to warm her bed during the cold lonely nights.

executive12:


So what's the point of spreading yourselves like that? Most regular folks with jobs definitely cannot afford to live like that. I bet that most of the guys doing this are into crime for a living.

josh2297:
These talks here in mine opinion does not have a solid legal standing...firat and foremost There are no laws in the USA or in africa(Nigeria) dat sets different standard for men and women anybody can b a victim of any law whether man or woman anywhere let me highlight these few points
1. In d event of a divorce in d USA d spouse who recieves d highest income gets to pay alimony...things tend to get complicated wen children(if still very tender) gets involved then the partner who gets d custody of d children is entitled to a child support which is very fair considering d fact dat a single parent will definitely have to work less hours
2.. Any laws dat are seen to b tilted towards in d USA are in marriage amd unmarried man is free to live his life anyhow he wants and treat women anyhow he wants...u are not being forced to get married to any woman overhere so u can as well get a babymama from diffrent women(dere are free and plenty of sweet punanis here)
3... If u as a man must get married then insist on protecting ur livelihood savings and investment by insisting on aigning a pre-nuptial agreement
4...most of these liberal laws in d states and some other places are just to target the institutuion of marriage and create societal problems...they encourage children to b very stubborn...they tell u dat u dont have to condone anyrin even an agrument in marriage they offer u divorce at ur fingertips and d gullible ones fall into...why not ask y d top people in hierachy most times are always married while those at d lowest cadre of d society are busy divorcing demselves at slight provocation
5....Lastly these shld not b seen as a gender tin...this is clearly agendas...take 4 instance...if u want to b crucified villified and ridiculed as an american(whether man or woman)...then try having a serious legal issue qith a homosexual by dat time u will seriously feel dat u are really a second class citizen.... Real Women in sports today are complaining dat transgender females are beating dem to their games which is unfair they are been told by this same law to go to hell....or d issue of Joe biden which is still an ongoing one....d law, liberals,even so called rights group will work very hard to silence dat lady...so d liberals laws here a actually pointing to sometin that is not very clear yet...but d fact is very soon hetrosexual male and female will b victims of their own circumstance.....I dont blive people change,i blive they get to show their real charcacters wen they get d opportunity

RamessesIV:
Liberals took over government,same people that gave blacks rights,gays rights too

larryking540:


Na stupidity they make brain most times,,,,
U wan make man run out ring and carry u straight to alter abi

When there isn't any investment u have made in the relationship not even money investment but time ,,.. ...na foolishness don make many relationship last unlike ur brain wise Sense

Lleigh:
The problem is in generalisation. Most African men abroad who marry white people treat their wives differently. It's known it's seen. This same man would treat a black wife differently. Why give one reverence and the other a take it or leave it attitude.
We all need to do better and communicate. If your wife has gone to do a twelve hour shift and you have been home, is it fair to expect her to come home and start another shift with you claiming rights. The issue in marriages these days seem to be more along the pressures of living. Talk properly and you will find peace at home is not an illusion.
We are no longer living in a world where it's only the man bringing food to the table. It's both and it will be hard for anyone doing the same job as their husband to come back home and start while he sits and does nothing.
Its been mentioned why other races like Chinese and Indian don't divorce. It's because of family dishonour, a lot of the women in those races are mentally depressed and trapped. They are not happy and the make sure their son's spouse goes through what they went through. Don't let the outside deceive you, they are hiding a lot of suffering women and domestic violence is rife.
Let's all just learn to talk more and communicate effectively.
Ladies if you are dating a man and he expects you to do everything it will not change when you are working and children come along.
We are all afraid of being seen as vulnerable for the person we love.
Both parties if you really love each other you will help each other.
Stay safe

One4me:


Homehow, Women like to paint a very 'one-sided picture' of marriage, that justify their attitude to break up the marriage, in the Western world!

How many Women in Africa will ask for divorce, because their husband did not cook food ready for them, whenthey just got back from work and he has been at home all day? Almost non (rightly or wrongly, is another debate)!
What this confirms is that the laws in the Western world encourages women to break up the home willy-nilly.

Again, hardly will you see a woman who will tie the knot in marriage, with a man who is jobless throughot their courtship (except for some of those "Rich Mamas" who just need a tomboy for exercises
What this shows is that almost all men are working before marriage, are hard working but something may happen along the way that makes them lose their job and they are still trying to get another. They are not "lazy men".

Again, in most cases, when a wife goes to work, it is to increase the income of the family though mostly it is to make her financially independent.
When a man works it is simply to provide for his family. Most women dont put their income from their owrk, 100% at the disposal of their family and husband, like men do when their wife is not working!
This is what causes conflict in most homes. Your (husband) Money is "our Money" but My (wife) money is "my Money".

Most Men who are out fo job, willuse the free time to take care of the Children, take them to and from School, cook for them,, exercise them and have dinner ready for the wife, when she comes back from work. That is the standard practice from most men, except where there is already a conflict on ground and the man deliberately decides not to help out (this is an aberration and he is doing it intentionally to fight back on a disagreement that is brewing but it is certainly not the norm).

Men generally are very helpful of their wives because Men are protective and see it as part of their duty in the family.
Women are not like that, they feel they are entitled to whatever the man does for them and usually dont show appreciation for it, afterall, its his duty!
As for the Chinese and Indian, l think trying to say they are pretending, is to try to undermine and rubbish a good trait of these people.
How long can anyone pretend in a marriage? Why can Chinese and Indian Women pretend (if that is the method to save their marriage) and Nigerian/Black Women cant also pretend, just to keep their home intact?
Are Black/Nigerian women better than these Chinese and Indian Women who on the average, earn three times more than the Nigerian/Black women (who are mostly Nurses and Care workers, compared to Indiand and Chinese women who are mostly into I.T and other top earning jobs)?

Thing is, pretense or not, these indian and Chinese women know the value of staying in marriage, they value their marriage more than the Child Support, lone Parent allowance and Alimony that drives the Nigerian/black woman, but most importantly, they know the long term eefect of breaking up their marriage, on their children and offsprings!
Go to any jail and compare the percentage of black people in jail, with that of Chinese and Indians and you will see that the Chinese and Indian women got more sense than just pretending for the sake of it!
They dont even have to pretend because in the Western world, they have equal access to the Courts that the Nigerian/Black women use, IF THEY WANT TO USE IT.

The end they say, justify the means, that is why the "black generation" will continue to be a servant to the "white generation", their Mothers are at the root of it.

humilitypays:
Young lady stop believing that crap, it is all lies peddled by ladies who failed in their marriage by choosing the wrong guys out of their selfishness and greed!!!


Lots of ladies I know married to Nigerian guys living in Nigeria and abroad are all enjoying their marriages to the fullest....stop believing nonsense stories told online.......go into your own marriage with joy and expect the best and forget people talking nonsense and the process of having a wonderful marriage start with who you chose to marry......don't marry out of selfish reasons and greed....marry for genuine reasons....marry who you believe in and strong believe in his vision and goals....work with him to build that goal....stop marrying out of greed and you won't be crying that your husband is treating you like a slave, where does this even happen today How many married ladies in Nigeria of today are being treated like slaves like you guys are forcing us to believe

Kobojunkie:

Her thoughts on?

Liliantalks:
infact 80% of nigerian married women r treated like slaves, just that the society hv subdue them to keep shut.

humilitypays:
I just looked at your profile, you live in US, what do you know about marriages in Nigeria except what you are told and what you read online or watch on TV

All my sister-in-laws are enjoying their marriages, if u see some, they look hotter than most single ladies all thanks to their beautiful marriages to my brothers....my own wife will enjoy heaven on earth, all I ask for is good health and long life to shower her with love and care.


You single ladies are you problem, you make long list of qualities your man must possess or nothing, and when you attract and accept the foolish boys into your life as a result of your wrong list and personality, you start to cry fowl.


Marriage is sweet to those that chose the right partners, it doesn't matter where they live, what matters is who they are; their personalities

humilitypays:
You are a small girl so what do u know aside dating, hangouts, flirting and crushing