Stephenomozzy:
You can as well become a Nun,
Cos no rich man will marry such an entitled btoke ass woman who's image of wealth is solely dependent on marital inheritance

Romangalactic:
My own is why marry at all. Klass99 will have something to say

Anuoluwa1234:
Must is always be money, money etc everyime . This post made me laugh, you say they shud marry money right. Ok
But I will advise females out there, marry a guy/man with Vision. (Believe me, anything you can control has become possessed and obsessed).. ppl's obsession towards money is really getting out of hands
If you marry money, HV you forgotten money varnishes.
But vision never dies, if the Vision is sharp enough, it will even bring more money.
You don't even care if the guy has no sense of respect, no intelligence, nothing nothing.. all you care about is money .
HV you written off yourself that u can't make it??.
Pls, change that mind set, there is more to life than money you are shouting

yettymuse:
you see this my gender enh, you people make me laugh!!... Men are saying NO TO BROKE GIRLS, but your 'morals' no go gree you say no to nonsense
... you want us to stick to Vision!.... Pray tell, this vision you're talking about... Which market them dey sell am?

yettymuse:
you see this my gender enh, you people make me laugh!!... Men are saying NO TO BROKE GIRLS, but your 'morals' no go gree you say no to nonsense
... you want us to stick to Vision!.... Pray tell, this vision you're talking about... Which market them dey sell am?

emmaodet:
Also, no woman is doing a broke man favour by marrying him.
Whether women decides to marry poor or struggling men or not, most ladies too will be broke if they stay on their own.
Have seen it a lot. A lot of aunties or sisters on the street stay in one room with many ladies, all struggling together.
If they had married 5-10 years ago, they would have put the blames on men for using marriage and poverty to cage them and not realise their dreams blah blah blah but here they are, 10 years down the lane alone with no excuse of a baby or a man slowing them down yet wallowing in poverty.
If only a lot of poor and struggling men also know the kind of favor and grace God is giving them by allowing women to avoid them, they all will be dancing.
Now, let us imagine a struggling man earning 50k per month without any unnecessary baggage of women...

yettymuse:
you see this my gender enh, you people make me laugh!!... Men are saying NO TO BROKE GIRLS, but your 'morals' no go gree you say no to nonsense
... you want us to stick to Vision!.... Pray tell, this vision you're talking about... Which market them dey sell am?

FlordFlorez:
Entitlement mentality. This one must be a feminist.

Anuoluwa1234:
Did you see me say stick to vision??, And the female herself, can't she make her own money?? Why relying on another man's property, when u can make yours??.
And don't you know, because he has money, lavish it on you be4 you married him doesn't mean he won't be stingy in marriage??.
What if, he has the billions, but is very very stingy, I HV someone like that, after many years of endurance of poverty, the wife later stole close to 50m of her husband and ran away.. the man is stinkly rich, but damn stingy. Pls ma get the picture of what am saying well hoo.. am not saying you shud settle for less at all .
All am trying to say is, make a balance btw the two, etc..
Shallom

pmoye:


1. Broke-ass woman?? I disagree on that. The humongous amount of ego our men carry into marriage relationship disqualifies them from insisting on the women bringing in equal amount of money. Any woman who does that should be given a merit award by the husband. If you can forsake your ego as a man, and your native sense of entitlement to implicit respect from your wife, then you can reasonably expect your wife to bring money in.

2. What makes you the head in the marriage is not because you have a dick and ego problem, it is because you do indeed cater for your entire house. We shouldn't make mistake about that. Enough of all the weak and incompetent men we have around who continue to find the slightest excuse to ask their wives to bring in money.

3. If you are not capable as a man, regardless of your age, simply stay away from marriage. In the alternative, you can have girlfriend who is also not interested in marriage. Until you are fit, don't irresponsibly marry and don't get any woman pregnant.

yettymuse:
darling, no woman of today is still sitting idle doing nothing... They are everywhere, most of them are becoming breadwinners, taking up the responsibilities of the men!... In 2020, we are no longer preaching independent woman!... If your man is stinky rich and is stingy to you the woman, it is your fault!... There are guides to getting a man's money and that's what we're preaching in 2020!
.
No room for lazy ass men! No space for broke men!

pmoye:
No, it is not entitlement. It is simply making sure men take care of their wives and family as opposed to competing with their wives. That is the duty of man.

Funny thing is, many ladies attack me on this platform and they are not going to think for a second that I qualify to be a feminist.

Anuoluwa1234:
It's okay, I now understand better

bukatyne:


Anu,

I have seen enough to know that having money is not static or money without vision is temporary.

A man with vision you can key into is key. Pun intended.

I have seen people move from earning peanuts to earning millions in a space of few years and from a lot to hustling for crumbs in a space of years.

pmoye:
This is advice is really for Nigerian ladies. Please and please do not marry a man that is not rich. Your very life will depend on it. You heard me... How long you live as a woman may well depend on how rich your husband is. This may seem like an over-generalization, but a very needful one. Quite a troubling percentage of Nigerian men can not handle a woman who is more financially buoyant.

Ideally it shouldn't matter how much each person earns, because I believe that the husband and the wife should be one financially. That the home should be planned like a company with budgets, financial planning, sound auditing and all... But from the much we have seen around the average Nigerian family is far from this ideal. We often have what increasingly looks like a union that appears more to serve a cultural/societal expectation, a union that is sustained just so that the society can think you are happily married, while between the man and the wife it is more like between US and China, between Northern and Southern Nigeria, a perpetual cold war and bitter jostling for resource allocation and control.

I have seen women who have died because the husbands couldn't afford antenatal care and used ego-motivated argument to keep the women from accessing timely medical care... And of course, few years or even months after that those wicked men would later bring in other wives into the house.

The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria. Do not let any man or any woman convince you to marry for love. There is no such thing as that, just a queer surge of hormones that makes you think you are in love. If you marry a poor man for love, hunger and suffering will soon reset your thinking, and by then most women feel too culturally compelled to remain with the toxin of a husband they have. Take a cue from evolutionary development in animal kingdom generally where females select the most suitable male for mating.

Do not simply believe in a man's future plans and dreams. If he doesn't have money now, he is not ready to be a husband. No matter how much you think you love him, treat him like the case of AS genotype (yours) marrying an SS genotype (his). And this is something I respect some Igbo men for. They will never think of marrying a woman unless they are economically ready.

If he is earning N30,000, or N40,000 or N90,000 per month he is not ready to marry. These are just examples from posts I have seen around here. Do not be fooled, the amount on the payslip is not always available for taking care of the home. But that's the talk for another day.

Some of us are probably never going to get married, I personally find it very scary to read about how men because of poverty increasingly turn against their wives in marriage... I may be too traditional though, because I do not fvcking care the money the wife is bringing into the house. Her role as a mother and a wife is already supremely more than you need to compensate for as a man. If you are a man, do not get close to a man when you are still poor. It is wickedness. It is dishonesty. It is crime against humanity. Do not sell her a future hope of becoming a pastor and other popular silliness.

Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.