Hello guys I trust we're doing great?I really do need sincere advise on this issue. I'd appreciate if married men with same experience can be blunt with me.

I have been very bothered about this issue because even as a young man while growing up I have always destested the idea of marrying an older woman. I never ever thought I'd be in this situation. She's a good woman, although not perfect but she's very reasonable. I didn't see a problem with it at first but as time went on I became scared. She's morally upright and loyal but I fear she may become old too quick especially when she starts giving birth to children. I fear that I may not find her attractive few years after marriage. I'm reluctant to call off the relationship because women like her are rare (I have dated much so I know.) the thing is that getting a loyal woman especially one who is younger is always a challenge.

Should I let go because of the age difference and hope for a younger woman with same character or should I let it slide? I really really do need honest and sincere answers. This is going to be a life saver for me. Thanks.

Mods kindly move this to front page. My happiness depends on it. Thanks.

That's not our problem. Id you have a problem with her age, sack her. If you do, it's not even our business and not our problem.

It's your business, your life, your union, deal with it and don't bring it to the cyberspace Biko!

2 year loading premium tears

Arrrrrrrh

I don't see anything bad there, 2 years is small .

Is your wife fat?
Have she given birth?
How many kids do you intend giving birth too?

From the question let me say an assuming answer .

- If your wife is small in nature?, forget it she woñt old in time.
- If you take care of her well, without much stress she won't get old fast.
- Hope she don't bleach or apply all those rubbish make up girls do wear on?
- She should be willing to dress in ways that suit you.
- Child bearing makes women old fast, most especially she's the type that get old in time. - - --- Minimize the kids you are to born like 3 is Ok.
- Exercise and eating well can refresh her.

Above all money, money can make an old woman young. Just get money you won't be complaining .


Unless you don't love her as before, because if you love the first choice the second choice won't be there.

I see both of you fighting in future, I see you feeling insecure and sad. I see you demanding respect from her but she isn't willing to shift grounds. I see you complaining and sad.

Yo mehn.
Fvck her very much dude, that ain't funny niggar!!!

No need to rush. What is yours will always be yours. Marriage is not a bed of roses, think deeply before you are trapped in a box with no way out.
They will always be loyal at the beginning, who knows what they might turn out to be in the future? Be wise!

kingreign:
That's not our problem. Id you have a problem with her age, sack her. If you do, it's not even our business and not our problem.

It's your business, your life, your union, deal with it and don't bring it to the cyberspace Biko!

Dear Nairalander not everyone is available for children rants. We have matured people here with matured minds seeking and being answers to real life situations. If you don't have anything positive to contribute kindly keep shut as this is not a kids game we're playing. How can you go from section to section seeking to be FTC only to display gross foolishness? Please get a grip on yourself; get a life outside Nairaland.

Remember when I was 24, I dated a woman of 30.....


Well she has respect and all, but I don't see my self marrying any woman older than I am


Didn't enjoy the sex though

Hardtruth01:
Hello guys I trust we're doing great?I really do need sincere advise on this issue. I'd appreciate if married men with same experience can be blunt with me.

I have been very bothered about this issue because even as a young man while growing up I have always destested the idea of marrying an older woman. I never ever thought I'd be in this situation. She's a good woman, although not perfect but she's very reasonable. I didn't see a problem with it at first but as time went on I became scared. She's morally upright and loyal but I fear she may become old too quick especially when she starts giving birth to children. I fear that I may not find her attractive few years after marriage. I'm reluctant to call off the relationship because women like her are rare (I have dated much so I know.) the thing is that getting a loyal woman especially one who is younger is always a challenge.

Should I let go because of the age difference and hope for a younger woman with same character or should I let it slide? I really really do need honest and sincere answers. This is going to be a life saver for me. Thanks.

Mods kindly move this to front page. My happiness depends on it. Thanks.

If you love that girl and she loves you too, marry her. Nobody go dey this world forever, life’s to short to be worried about bull crap. Just make sure her fecundity is sky high. I wish you a happy home. Cheers


Getting married is like this Liverpool game, initially you’ll be faced with tough decisions and challenges like this one you’re battling with, dig deep, hang in there and ‘goals’ will start pouring in

Ogbeni calm down jooor, age is just a number calm down What is needed there is LOVE And TRUST

FalseProphet1:
I see both of you fighting in future, I see you feeling insecure and sad. I see you demanding respect from her but she isn't willing to shift grounds. I see you complaining and sad.

Exactly my fear. Don't know whether it's just my mind or it's actually always goes that way.

Hardtruth01:


Exactly my fear. Don't know whether it's just my mind or it's actually always goes that way.

Coming from a Falseprophet1?

If she has alot to bring to the table..... plus if she's submissive and respectful. Perhaps two years isn't much. .
If you truly love everything about her, you will need to earn her respext and act mature, and maintain frame to make it work. Otherwise older mature ladies can be very manipulative. You have to be smart....or she has to be respectful, submissive, sensitive and reasonable

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pls don't take certain redflag with levity, especially if she's very manipulative, stingy or promiscuous.

NiRfreak:
If she has alot to bring to the table..... plus if she's submissive and respectful. Perhaps two years isn't much. .
If you truly love everything about her, you will need to earn her respext and act mature, and maintain frame to make it work. Otherwise older mature ladies can be very manipulative. You have to be smart....or she has to be respectful, submissive, sensitive and reasonable

.
pls don't take certain redflag with levity, especially if she's very manipulative, stingy or promiscuous.

She's none of the things mentioned above that's why I find it hard to leave. Truth is she's a very resonable woman. Although sometimes stubborn like most women are but she's virtous. Thanks for your advise brother.

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh

I don't see anything bad there, 2 years is small .

Is your wife fat?
Have she given birth?
How many kids do you intend giving birth too?

From the question let me say an assuming answer .

- If your wife is small in nature?, forget it she woñt old in time.
- If you take care of her well, without much stress she won't get old fast.
- Hope she don't bleach or apply all those rubbish make up girls do wear on?
- She should be willing to dress in ways that suit you.
- Child bearing makes women old fast, most especially she's the type that get old in time. - - --- Minimize the kids you are to born like 3 is Ok.
- Exercise and eating well can refresh her.

Above all money, money can make an old woman young. Just get money you won't be complaining .


Unless you don't love her as before, because if you love the first choice the second choice won't be there.

u v said it all if she has a small stature u good to go nd if u.are not comfortable with that den let her go, marriage is a life commitment o, choice wisely nd pray so that u wont regret,,.. don't marry because of love alone marry her because u want everything about her.

OP does she know she's two years older than you?

Hardtruth01:

Hardtruth01 post=97863336:


Dear Nairalander not everyone is available for children rants. We have matured people here with matured minds seeking and being answers to real life situations. If you don't have anything positive to contribute kindly keep shut as this is not a kids game we're playing. How can you go from section to section seeking to be FTC only to display gross foolishness? Please get a grip on yourself; get a life outside Nairaland.

Trash.

Dear Hardtruth01 contrary to your moniker, you don't want to hear the hard truth which is what so ever you decide to do with your partner IS NOT OUR problem, not our concern.
You fail to understand that all manner of folks are here, folks with happy marital union, sad union, violent union, broken union, boring union, no union. Folks who wish others well, folks who are less concerned about others, and folks who wish and are hell bent on seeing others cry and fall.
You may be desirous of sweet words but to your utter dismay and disbelief, I'd never be one who'd sugar coat my words here especially if it concerns relationship or/and marriage because I am married and I have some exposure and experience in that area of life. I'd be blunt with you.
It's rather shameful and sad that you had to bring YOUR PERSONAL ISSUE to public forum for the world to read and react. This show of shame is a huge indication of your gross negligence, immaturity, and subjection of yourself and your spouse to public ridicule and disgrace.

I still stick to my earlier comment, That's not our problem. Id you have a problem with her age, sack her. If you do, it's not even our business and not our problem.

It's your business, your life, your union, deal with it and don't bring it to the cyberspace Biko!

Finally learn to talk to a counsellor or an elderly respected married couple about this rather than bringing such sensitive topics online.

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh

I don't see anything bad there, 2 years is small .

Is your wife fat?
Have she given birth?
How many kids do you intend giving birth too?

From the question let me say an assuming answer .

- If your wife is small in nature?, forget it she woñt old in time.
- If you take care of her well, without much stress she won't get old fast.
- Hope she don't bleach or apply all those rubbish make up girls do wear on?
- She should be willing to dress in ways that suit you.
- Child bearing makes women old fast, most especially she's the type that get old in time. - - --- Minimize the kids you are to born like 3 is Ok.
- Exercise and eating well can refresh her.

Above all money, money can make an old woman young. Just get money you won't be complaining .


Unless you don't love her as before, because if you love the first choice the second choice won't be there.

Thanks brother. This was really helpful.

Only 2 years, you dey complain. Go deeperlife church go see where wife take 5yrs from her husband. Husband na hausa, wife na Edo. Husband black, wife use small escape albino. Everything's just totally somehow and they're happy. Small pikin dey do you. No be who you open ur mouth tell about ur wife age go know?

Hardtruth01:


Thanks brother. This was really helpful.

You are always welcome!!

kingreign:

Trash.

Dear Hardtruth01 contrary to your moniker, you don't want to hear the hard truth which is what so ever you decide to do with your partner IS NOT OUR problem, not our concern.
You fail to understand that all manner of folks are here, folks with happy marital union, sad union, violent union, broken union, boring union, no union. Folks who wish others well, folks who are less concerned about others, and folks who wish and are hell bent on seeing others cry and fall.
You may be desirous of sweet words but to your utter dismay and disbelief, I'd never be one who'd sugar coat my words here especially if it concerns relationship or/and marriage because I am married and I have some exposure and experience in that area of life. I'd be blunt with you.
It's rather shameful and sad that you had to bring YOUR PERSONAL ISSUE to public forum for the world to read and react. This show of shame is a huge indication of your gross negligence, immaturity, and subjection of yourself and your spouse to public ridicule and disgrace.

I still stick to my earlier comment, That's not our problem. Id you have a problem with her age, sack her. If you do, it's not even our business and not our problem.

It's your business, your life, your union, deal with it and don't bring it to the cyberspace Biko!

Finally learn to talk to a counsellor or an elderly respected married couple about this rather than bringing such sensitive topics online.

My brother I don't need your advise. People who are reasonable will advise me.

Ps: you're not being honest or blunt as you claim but rather you're only displaying immaturity. This is a forum which has changed lots of lives including mine. If I didn't consider this place family, I wouldn't bring it up here. From your words I can see what you're made up of. You sound bitter and childish. Like I said before this is not a play ground for kids. And please stop saying "we don't care" if you no care others care. Don't drag others into your backward way of thinking. There are so many reasonable people here. Thanks.

Destinylink:
OP does she know she's two years older than you?

Yes she does know.

Oluromantic:
Only 2 years, you dey complain. Go deeperlife church go see where wife take 5yrs from her husband. Husband na hausa, wife na Edo. Husband black, wife use small escape albino. Everything's just totally somehow and they're happy. Small pikin dey do you. No be who you open ur mouth tell about ur wife age go know?

I guess you're right sir. No be say na small pikin de do me. It's just that normal stuff unto say husband suppose senior wife. That's all. Thank you sir.

debbydams:
u v said it all if she has a small stature u good to go nd if u.are not comfortable with that den let her go, marriage is a life commitment o, choice wisely nd pray so that u wont regret,,.. don't marry because of love alone marry her because u want everything about her.

Hmmm.... Thanks dear I appreciate your sincere response.

Hardtruth01:


I guess you're right sir. No be say na small pikin de do me. It's just that normal stuff unto say husband suppose senior wife. That's all. Thank you sir.

The age gap is just 2 years which isn't much

PAWG:



If you love that girl and she loves you too, marry her. Nobody go dey this world forever, life’s to short to be worried about bull crap. Just make sure her fecundity is sky high. I wish you a happy home. Cheers


Getting married is like this Liverpool game, initially you’ll be faced with tough decisions and challenges like this one you’re battling with, dig deep, hang in there and ‘goals’ will start pouring in

How?

how long have u being in this relationship with ur fiancee

Once you start having any doubts it's best to just end the relationship and go your way...take it from me

If you are worried about just the 2yrs difference, and every other thing is okay with you, then you can put a ring on it.
There are some parents that you'd be astonished when you see their child(ren). You'd be surprise that such woman gave birth to such a grown up.
Her stature, food intake, cosmetics, and exercise requirements matters in this case.

Remember that peace of mind is better than unrest!

You're already having doubts from the beginning. ..this is not a good sign for the future of the marriage..