abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

. For good eight years? I hope he married you later if not the person that will marry you in future I pity am. And he had been making love with you for that right years? I swear if I didn't marry you your future husband cannot meet good thing there anymore. My candid advice is to leave that guy, he can not marry you I swear, he will just be posting you.If guys really love a lady it's the guy that will be begging that please marry me na if money no dey today money go come tommorow because he will do anything just to convince you. The guy in question is tired of your pussy I swear the truth is bitter. Majorities of relationship that is more than two years na cry dey end am. You have used your body to play betnaija.

8 years of dating with no break in between.

Performing all the conjugal duties for him.

Abeg, hold him tight and force him.
He Don too chop you abeg.

I am sure he can draw you naked perfectly offhand.

Try going out with other people nah, no sex. Just have a plan B, abi you no fine reach?

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

singles councillor

Just exercise a little patience your man is facing alot, just wait make buhari complete tenure. am sure he will propose

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

I don't think he is ready to settle down with you, and your confronting him over the matter shows desperation and he will be panicky over that, before we can actually know best advice to give you need to answer this questions. 1. What actually did he say to you that kick started your dating 8 years ago? 2. Have you had sex or not and if yes was he the one that demanded for it or you? 3. Do you cook for him? 4. Do you sleep over at his place and do house chores for him? 5. Are you also working if yes do you earn less or more than the 60k he earns ? 6. What is his nature of your job and his job and and is it government or private sector? 7. Have he taken you to see his parents and if yes what do they call you when they see you?

Where una dae see all dz girls way love una unconditionally for 8years.

I can once stay like dz 5years girl friend I no see for no reason

Kingstanding:
. For good eight years? I hope he married you later if not the person that will marry you in future I pity am. And he had been making love with you for that right years? I swear if I didn't marry you your future husband cannot meet good thing there anymore. My candid advice is to leave that guy, he can not marry you I swear, he will just be posting you.If guys really love a lady it's the guy that will be begging that please marry me na if money no dey today money go come tommorow because he will do anything just to convince you. The guy in question is tired of your pussy I swear the truth is bitter. Majorities of relationship that is more than two years na cry dey end am. You have used your body to play betnaija.

Leave him for who?

Who is the poor guy that want to marry a lady that has been in a committed relationship for 8 good years.?

Many marriages don't even last that long.

Jesu

alasane:
I remember my first heartbreak I woke my sister 5 months old baby and explained everything to him he cried too

lol, kid was probably stressed from being woken up to seeing an adult cry

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

Hmmmn sister, money is crucial in a relationship o and it's place shouldn't be undermined, 60k salary for a prospective husband/father as salary is damn too poor in the current economy, notwithstanding your guy doesn't need to be a millionaire before you could marry.

The two of you should work together to upgrade his income, he should learn a skill or trade, salary will not bring him to wealth

Perfectsouth:
she gave me like 5missed call this morning and was like, I only send money for upkeep and don't even call to check on them.. That I only call to talk to my kids whenever she is not at home...
This is someone that left when I Had financial issues,she no even look back.. She don roam the whole place and realized, men out there are only for the Bleep and not settling down.. She now wants to come back to me, the Boda ode she left..

Young woman, leave the man to decide hsi life.. You are only clamoring for proposal and thereafter wedding because you want to settle down cos age is no longer on your side..
After marriage and he is not doing OK, na una go still mount pressure on the poor man..

So many ladies of nowadays use marriage as a front.. Once they pitch their tent with a man, they now start coded runs because they know they have a home.
I thank God for opening my eyes cos I too suffer for woman hand..
Believe me, na married women fornicate pass..

Leave the young man to arrange and organize his life and don't distract him from becoming who he wants to be...
One thing I like about the male gender is,we are just like wine, the older, the better

Lol

EkelediliBuhari:


But don’t marry him because he’s available and you’re “running out of time”.... who gave you time table??

Focus on your personal life and all will fall in place. Draei

Nature did - biological clock

Zzor is a disappointment period






quote author=SimplyFacts post=99568856]Few months to graduation, na so my gf started persuading me for marriage. She said her savings from N-Power salary would go a long way while we seek for better offers (not knowing the first set beneficiaries would be discarded last year). I know she's so concerned about getting married early,,,,@23. I just advised her to look for someone else that I wasn't ready financially. She did & got married last year. Sincerely,,,, if not for one kind stain wey dey her white, I for force myself into the marriage coz the girl is 70x better than Zzor . I no wan hold any grudge inside marriage[/quote]

Run, run run,. Awon Ndi time waster. From experience, dated guy for 9 yrs, when I complain we ought to have gotten married, he gang up against me with his family saying he is not ready, 6 months after he welcomed a baby even before I move on. So run. I am sure you are close to 30 or in your early 30's

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

nonsense

I know a couple that dated over 12 years and since secondary school and married and had a kid last year. Everyone was always yabbing the lady and calling her lord of the rings etc. but it ended in joy for her. But for some people this kind of thing will end in premium tears. No one knows tomorrow. Even Chioma of assurance fame is still baby mama dey live her life. Anyone that is advising you cannot predict what will happen. So the decision is left to you. Aunty you are an adult and I have no advice for you on this.


Maybe you can tie him down with belle

Chai! Why not try get pregnant for him? It might change everything. You don’t have to tell him you wanna get pregnant. Unfortunately, Life is try and error

Is he paying tax on that 60k he is making? What about tithe? When you deduct tax and tithe, wetin go remain?

Tell him you want a quiet court marriage.

Tell him to marry you want a marriage not a wedding.

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

why not sit him down and have a real heart to heart conversation , let him know age isn't on your side..

Wittyduchess:
Let me make this clear to you the op and the Ladies reading this ;


THE LONGER YOU SEXUALLY DATE A GUY THE LESS LIKELY HE WILL MARRY YOU...

Fixed

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

Na Ffk and Ned people u dey date

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

You better start looking for another option. He's definitely a selfish guy. 8yrs is more than enough to know the direction you are going. It's time to move on my sister

Na so women go talk say them go manage through thick and thin only to start complaining later, comparing you to your mates and shit

Zzor:
You really don't know me,I don't joke around as regards the issue of men,I can't tolerate men in that age group and their problems, the older the better,most young men don't trip me,they mostly don't have anything to offer, I cherish my comfort and happiness a lot and I know who and where I can get that.

what do you earn yearly

Why are u in a relationship dat has no head way, please if u see someone dat is ready , he is responsible and really loves u, please move on immediately

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

8yrs is damn too long for dating because as far as I am concerned u both are not in courtship.
if u're ready and he's not ready, then courtship is not in view talkless of marriage.
U may need to move on and listen to other suitors.
I can bet on anything if his millions comes next year, he will dump u for a younger lady.
After all he never considered u worthy to share his 60k in marriage with u, he will definitely not marry u when he's in millions.

Verdict - Move on, the guy is just a time waster.

I understand you girl and I understand him too. In this our economy today , 60k is not much. I get that he doesn’t want to start a family and he’ll not be able to shoulder most of the responsibilities.
If you feel you can’t wait any longer, let him go. But what’s the guarantee you’ll find someone and settle sooner?
In a bid to get married, what if you get involved with the wrong one? You didn’t say how old you are, how much you earn.
If you can, give him some bit of time and see how things pick up from his end.

JOACHINpedro:

Seems you are one of the time wasters that don't want the truth out there.

Madam stop disturbing us here university sweethearts dey carry belle and the story continues from there.don't you know .if you are waiting for him to propose .it would be in 2050.pls be smart get pregnant and he would end up marrying you.its all about humility.

Wittyduchess:
Seems you are one of the time wasters that don't want the truth out there.

Time wasters ke.
The quote I cancelled was fallacy of unreasonable assumption.
It holds no water