abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

12inchess:
I know a couple that dated over 12 years and since secondary school and married and had a kid last year. Everyone was always yabbing the lady and calling her lord of the rings etc. but it ended in joy for her. But for some people this kind of thing will end in premium tears. No one knows tomorrow. Even Chioma of assurance fame is still baby mama dey live her life. Anyone that is advising you cannot predict what will happen. So the decision is left to you. Aunty you are an adult and I have no advice for you on this.


Maybe you can tie him down with belle

JasperVII:
It's good you know that time is not on your side. Makes us wonder what you were doing when you had time.

JOACHINpedro:

Time wasters ke.
The quote I cancelled was fallacy of unreasonable assumption.
It holds no water

JOACHINpedro:

Time wasters ke.
The quote I cancelled was fallacy of unreasonable assumption.
It holds no water

Ronin1:
60k is less than $150 and you'll live off of that monthly? won't you have kids?

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

donbachi:
After all the abortions.

Wittyduchess:
It actually does. You are too biases or duluded not to see it.


How many log term relationships end at the altar? Especially this kind that is giving all the signs of a time waster?.



So can you give us your own analysis since you seem to know alot or you are only good at cancelling comments with no meaningful input from you?

Romanoff:
The same men telling this lady to eat for the guy or siding with the guy are the same ones who will call her evening newspaper when she's 35 and unmarried or when he dumps her.

My dear sis, the biological clock of a man is different from that of a woman, if you see a decent man that you love and has most qualities you want in a man, marry him o.

In these 8 years, I just pray you've not been fornicating with this guy of yours, if you have, it's 8 years of husband and wife relations, ki lo tun ku?

shadeyinka:

A lady stands to loose when in an undefined relationship.

If a relationship is not defined properly within 3 months: call him and ask!

What do you really want from me?
Should we start talking how our marriage should be?

You can have 10 years of relationship with zero years of courtship.

Ladies, think!

JOACHINpedro:

Go back to my first post you quoted.
I've keyed in the bone of contention.
Have a blessed evening

kense88:
why not 70 ? So you can be assisting him to walk.

PoliteActivist:


But ask yourself this: if you love someone, will money prevent you from marrying them if you have their consent?? NOOOO.
Money has nothing to do with marriage
Money has nothing to do with marriage

pozehnani:
You're still there doing what? Waiting for him to give you IV to his wedding with another girl?

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.