Hey there are two I know... One is by Tantalizers, above med Plus just after ajose round about... The second is on Bishop oluWole street. Don't know how affordable sha, you can give it a trial. Cheers

Aint just about her... since she's also not touching you, maybe you also need to shed some weight here and there...

At 42, i want to believe she's in her late 30s as well, add that to work and child care, it can take its toll... do you assist her with stuffs around the house?

At the end of the day, you shd both grow into each oda as you age and not totally apart... are you certain you aint watching anything thats turning you off... or have someone you are eyeing... and she's way younger and more vibrant that your wife...

Sha, i would agree with a Vacation sha, for both of you... been out of your environment and probably where you guys had started from can be a good booster to getting your romance back to shape.

cheers

When you begin to feel uncomfortable...around them...

pickabeau1:
It will have beneficial to give practical examples of how u manage this challenge
child care
cooking/domestic stuff
etc

I have a good support system around me. Initially, my boy used was in a creche close to the office, so we bonded in transit... Then comes the second boy, and it's kind different cos the 1st has started school close to grannies... So logically, they are both dropped off there... While I pick them back on mu way from the office in the evening.
And most importantly, put them to bed by myself... That's like the best time of my entire day...
For domestic.... I have pips that comes to clean over the weekend... Don't have a maid.

For cooking...hubby and I aren't big eaters... So, I don't make dinner usually... However, most of the cooking and family eating together is done over the weekend.

For laundry... Simply got a washing machine...and the rest is history...

However, the bottom-line is that I have a very understanding and supportive hubby... So, I don't feel so stressed out...

It depends largely on both parties... No profession is easy...

Hubby and I work in different banks and yea,we have two boys doing very well.

What they both need is to understand and respect each other... Communication is always key, and this can be done with the several means of we have nowadays...bbm, fone calls. Emails and the likes.

Kids would be fine regardless of how you look at them... Not everyone had their moms at their beck and call growing up and have turned out just fine... So why should yours be any different.

At the end of the day... It's their cross to bear... If he's having second thoughts after knowing fully well that what she does... He shd let her be... Men like them would have trust issues...even when they would continue to admire their own female colleagues in the same office.

To each their own jere

OP,

Your Mom and GF are both right...

There no reason why you shd insist in having her stay the weekend if she doesnt want to for obvious reasons,

You say she's your fiancee, then dont you think its best for you to start looking for a place of your own?

Every woman wants her space... your Mom's position am 150% with... same for your gf....

Its not abt judging her attitude towards the pronouncement, its abt how casual you have taken it upon your self to ignore the actual need of getting your own place.

So, ma 2cents is that you get your own place, and let both women have their space.

*** besides... she sef get mind to dey come visit so taiii stay weekend for family house!!![s][/s]

Goldenboy007:
My guy go and get a job. You have too much free time in your hands...wow..get a life for heavens sake !! Are you a monitoring spirit ?? I pray you don't die of hypertension ! It takes a thief to catch a thief ! It seems your hands sef are not clean !!!! Ahan !!!! Why find what is not lost !!! Why don't you just buy hijab for your wife so that no man will look at her !

Finally some real sense!

What do you think you are doing snooping around her phone... talkless of impersonating her... Would you have taken it likely if it were the other way around?!

OP would advise you the same as i would advise a woman in your shoes...

You need to stop snooping around her phone with the mind of finding something? if only you have got a 6-10 job, this would be the least of your concern...

Please, sit her down when she's in a good mood, and talk to her nicely... if that doesnt work... talk to someone she respects... if da doesnt work.... seek the Lord in Prayers! Nobi only woman sabi pray for man.... you should also learn to pray for your woman...if the marriage really means anything to you!

And about the ring removal? what was your own reason for doing away with your own? You were enjoying, feeling fly like a young bachelor.... abi... tau! the tables have turned... she's an after 2 funky babe.... and you are here shouting all over the place... abegi! u tik its easy to born 2 and still look funky ba? na the result of ya attitude you dey see so.... please, free the babe jere...

Dearest OP,

your situation is really a very sad one, welldone for being so strong and supportive the entire 5 years despite all odds.

So, am gonna liken your situation to a former colleague of mine, unfortunately she's late now... and, we only got to know of her sad situation after she died.

She was the bread winner for her family, with 3 kids for 5 years... unfortunately, she couldnt surmount the burden.

She died, and guess what, we her colleagues had to contribute money for her hubby as support to the burial, and also her kids education.

Bottomline is, nothing worthwhile comes easy... getting married and staying married is a decision we along can make...

Its truly up to you to decide.

Wish you all the very best.

There's something called Emotional Infidelity '. And that is exactly what the hubby is doing. Its hard to stop but she just has to put her foot down.
There's no need for proof...cos, what seems to be innocent would have someone feeling for the other... And what is just call n chat would graduate to the most obvious...
It's best she stops it now.

I have always maintained that marriage is what we make of it.

Been married for 6years, with 2boys... And frankly speaking, we still relate like pallies... No one is overbearing with the other, we take turns to get things done...support each other every other time...and, yea... With God... We are doing super fine.

ATM. We are working towards our very own house... And there's nothing so beautiful as being on the same page.

Issues are part of growing and resolution of disputes have made us stronger as one element.

To each their own... For us... We would continue to be grateful to God.

Hey please lets communication via email. Remykayode@outlook.com. Cheers

This OP should fast and pray for his wishes to be realized.

That he helps out is no big deal... They have no maid... And he also said she returns late at night... So, regardless of what ever he has done... The stress of Traffic is enough to make any one tired.

Since they work in the same office, am wondering why he would leave her there and head home without her sef!

Issues are in every home, that this issue is coming from a dude doesnt make it any special.

Like I started with, please go on your knees and pray and talk to her about your concerns when she's in a good mood.

There has been so much talk about the forthcoming election and the PVC cards...

I just need to know if it's possible we can vote from polling units other than where we registered...

Personally, I have moved from where I registered and I have also collected my voter card... But come Feb.2015... Can I vote from my new location though within the same local government coverage?

Your contribution and response is appreciated.

@OP, it's a pity you have such vocal wife.

But, like you said its barely a year... Separation isn't really the answer. Would suggest you try to understand what drives her to act the way she does...and why she says what she says...

The issue is way beyond her paying for rent?

You need to understand that despite been married, we are firstly our own individual...and you need to respect that even if you don't agree.

Marriage is all about partnerships...work in progress... If you can't take hold of the situation... Then,... I don't know...

And like its usually advises to women...pls prayer for her...above all... Patience is Key.

Good luck

Recently we lost this lovely colleague of ours to the cold hands of death... And almost immediately things were revealed.

It so happened that she was the bread winner of her family for not a year...but almost 3/4 years since her husband lost his bank work.

It was then things began to add up... How she would ever smile or laugh... How she was usually moody... They had 3kids.. And she had to carry all that weight alone... Who knew what else she had to deal with from the home front.

Anyways... This became public knowledge because we had to contribute money for the husband towards the burial and all... And they also appealed to open an college fund account for the kids!

Ordinarily, most wives contribute to their house holds... It's just the sanest thing to do... But adding a dude that isn't willing to fight for himself is just plain crazy and shouldn't be condoned.

Before any woman would lash out be it immediately or in future, would mean that the guy must have done something really really hurtful to her.

I hail Una oh...

Chai... See mamas don born plenty...

Ma seniors, how Una dey... Mommy boys... How every...

Say ma hail all oh...

To all newbie's... Congratulations wishing you all a beautiful pregnancy journey... May you all carry to term.

There's something called Emotional infidelity... Probably that what's happening. Buy isn't enough excuse to chase her out.

Would suggest you ask her nicely... Not. Confront... Ask whose our new boyfriend and watch her reaction... Its at that point you know if she's involved with the guy or not.

Truth is, this things happen since the advent of BBM and all other modes of communication. Also, check your self, is there what she wants that you are not doing?

At the end of the day, it's all about communication.

@OP, i feel for you...

But, i think your best bet is to look for a creche close to where you work, they cant be da xpensive, am sure some wld still take fees monthly.

Hubby n I both leave for work early, mayb not as early as you do, but, our son stayed at a creche around ikoyi axis, since hubby n I work on d island... and it was not as expensive as you might think... and they take fees monthly.

The bottomline is to be ready to pay for what you cant give... and you'd atleast be certain your child is safe.

My boy wld be 3years now, and am so proud of how much he has grown... all of which i witnessed personally.

Sometimes, we just have to do what we need to do... that is another reason why we work n earn money as Mothers...

cheers

Willdidi:
Nice to hav a birth mate, I'm sure d baby is kicking more dan ever, as d day progresses so is dier movement, a luvly experience, all d sexy mamas hope u had a nice day, d heat dis day is not funny @ all, even wit d fan madam still sweat @ night had d take off all her clothings 4 her to sleep comfortable even d leg cramps is reoccuring more now @ nite, she saw d doc yesterday during her antenatal n was adviced to increase her calcium intake wit food. Hav a nice nite rest all

Lol...@willdidi... am also a March Mom... and i so get da cramp of a thing, had an episode sef last nite... it was really painful. Usualy ave it on my left leg, but had it on my right leg dis tyme. Am thinking mayb cos Lagos traffic has resumed.

As for the heat, omo mehn, i hardly sleep with clothes on these days oh...unfortunately, hubby isnt a fan of too much fan, cos it makes sneeze alot, but, i usually cant help it jere...

My doc also prescibed calicum, my mom wants to also get me CAC-1000... but all these calicum intakes, just makes d baby's kick really stronger... and uncomfortable some times.

@sennykenny... so excited your tyme is so close by... i've missed reading birth stories jere...

@kafcakes... how the twins doing?

@hummingbird... am pleading that you show your sef na, biko... lets atleast know you are doing well...

@Night Vigil Mamas... i hail una...

@kafcake... u funny gan oh... make feb no begin countdiwn...lol.... Pele, all dese your last day pains ehn... God wld see you tru, anxiety is more towards the end, its well with you and babies...

@tunjikrown... Its God's blessing that has kept you believing that this would be different, and i join faith with you and wify that this LO shall be carried to term.

@olawunmi... Pregnacare is good... u cld also try folic acid and calicum... its very necessary in the early stage.

Hummingbird.... how have you been... we havent heard from you in a while. Hope the twins are doing well.

Sexysisi... welcome, dont tik dre anyone da wld judge... wot we ave in common like already said is da we r all pushers... so, feel free abeg.

AM really praying for all Jan. Moms... may the day come stressfree ijn.

March mamas. i hail as always oh.

Sen. Byvan, how's our big baby doing...

hello mom's.. Lagos traffic is back in full force.

Guess all dem travellers are back to work...

Sha, ma SIL had a baby girl this morning... really excited for her... its unfortunate i cant go to say hello to the baby for now.

As per shopping, i have collected my list... doest look like alot sha... but i still need to check the house for the old stuffs, to be exactly sure what i need to get.

But, hopefully, wld check the sex again in 2wks, and commence shopping by monthend...

Jan mama's i hail una oh.... be like una lo r really enjoying their stay!

Happy Sunday Mom's,

Ma March mom's, how una dey, am am kinda feeling over whelmed with every thing that needs to be done before the grand entrance.

Doctor says baby is almost head down and ave 2weeks appointment going forward.

Where all the January mama's dey, haven't read any birth this month, abi did i skip any page?

Sha I wish you all safe deliveries.

Ujujoan: Like brother like sister!

Abi oh...

Afterall, the other chics he's been "assisting" to hook up with the boss are someone's sisters as well.

Its good for him thou... IMO d sister is just foolin around!!!

byvan:
@Kemmy,i have securely binded and casted all the castables,mistake prenancyoo,intentional pregnancyooo,pregnancy by default ooo,All outta of my life,Sisi mode activated for life .

No small Sisi Mode activated oh.... i go join you for this activation very shortly...lmao

beauty?:
tobiegirl, its my annual leave for 2013, i no wan make them cheat me, if i delay it, they will deprive me cos of 3 months mat leave so i dcided to be smart, will resume for abt 2 wks before i begin mat leave. na sense.

Sharp Babe. I gbadun this your idea, no bi small...

@jolin, howfar na... be like say ma belle don dey touch chair if i siddon.... na only new moms that wont show this early... dis 2nd tyme ehn... na serious something... lol

Happy New Year Mamas...

Beauty... howfar.. did you say ur leave is about to end abi start?

@ Kafcakes, how far with d twins na... no forget to give life updates oh..."wink wink"

@byvan, udoka, fnor and all new mamas... hope all is well... @fnor , smiled wen u said the baby no gree you sleep...

@Hummingbird, how now? how the bobos... and their expected babes... hope everything is paning out smoothly...

@sennykenny, pele oh... your tyme don reach...

btw you and kafcakes, i wonder who has d barton cos you are both really close.

New pushers.... i hail oh...

@kaf cake... abeg, hurry back your station go siddon wait this your pikins wey don obviously ready to say Happy New Year!
SO after you now, na sennykenny abi na beauty or uwani.... make una hurry hurry do.... Thanking God for the good news we would hear afterwards.

uwani: Back and pelvic pain no dey allow me see road at all. January mamas(Kaf cake and co) how we dey? I am 36+ oh! Who's baby is launching the new year for us?

Nne, this pelvic pain no just get part 2... mine don dey sound wen i try to turn at night... told ma mom ma centre of gravity has shifted oh... but, thankfully, my appointment is this weekend... so, am loading ma note pad with questions/complains for d Dr.

smokey drinky: rukemi pls tell me more, d disposable panties or is it diaper is for after delivery ryt? u think its better?
sinie dear, how are you doing? everything is ok ryt?
hello everyone.

The disposable panties oh, and not diapers are used after delivery... and you really dont have to look back before dumping them....

byvan: Sunnykenny, please use shaving stick,apply spirit with cotton wool on it to avoid bumps.

Chei, dis must be painful oh...


@honiepe, thanks for that beautiful prayer...

@ Opeoluwa, would have to start d search for this Ori, but whot can be added into it na... to make it more lotionie...

okay oh... thanks ya'l ...

Guess i would add shea butter to my list then, and probably still stick to johnson baby pdts.

I used everything Johnson, including baby wipes, and i loved it.

As for diapers, i used and still prefer Premium pampers jere... wld also, stick to da... abeg, byvan, how much does d box go for now... for new birth...

chei, to tik i was jubliating when my son stopped using diapers( pull-ups) entirely.... i don enter anoda one chance... lol

Rukemi291: tobiegal. I dey o. how is baby doing u? January belleful mamas, oya queue up. check your bags. hope u packed extra panties? I forgot during my time o. Plus disposable ones are better.
uwani. I see u. long time.

Am gonna ready charter anything disposable, cos its always d best...

hello Moms, glad i woke us up yesterday!!!

Am so interested in the baby product to use this tyme around oh, since am already on shopping mood.

Used Johnson for my 1st child, but we had da event of chopped front hair.... like papa ajaso's.... pple said it was cos of d pdt i used.

I dont want to take chances this tyme, especially as am wanting a girl... So, new mama's, rukemi, byvan, udoka..., please some heads-up on d baby pdt to use...

Am so excited, am gonna start shopping in a weeks tyme... have my appointment this week as well, cant wait to tell d doctor of all the bearable pains am having...

Una happy Sunday oh, too much igbadun as nobody gree comment since morning.
Iya ibeji X 2 ,I hail oh... it's well with you. I hope your boys are not following you to be sick or down again .

I dey sha, ky belle just feels really full

Beauty,rukemi, joiling,mummyf,kaf cakes and all yea new belle pushers, I hair oh.

@tyspicy... on da cold water ehn, mi dey drink am wella... but, bath with warm water. Am even thinking am of extreme wether these days... i kinda like very cold weather, or very hot water weather.

@mayblossom, thanks jere... d tot of short Feb, makes it look so near by...