D-Explorer:

Oh no! Lets resolve that that's your opinion because many female folks won't agree to that else we make a new thread It's a general believe that you gender can change a man and for me, a wife-beater got hope. What if the woman becomes the fool and remain extra submissive? Who if she adopts prayer with meekness? Those points sound absurd......right? Maybe i should quickly ask......is there no wife for every man?......and don't you believe in transformation testimonies instead of jumping from one to another with different excuses? I don't support woman-beating but i think you folks somehow got some magics.

abiL*:



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Idowuogbo:
Werey!!!

Crown Prince:
I am loving this name, Werey. My sweet Akwuna just gave me a romantic name in her dialect.

Crown Prince:
I am loving this name, Werey. My sweet Akwuna just gave me a romantic name in her dialect.

ItsModella:
Idowu, is it you he's calling akwuna? chei!!

Idowuogbo:
Hahahaha!! Na wa o! Attitude up and down dis thread, na time of d month?

Crown Prince:
I am loving this name, Werey. My sweet Akwuna just gave me a romantic name in her dialect.

abiL*:

abiL*:



A great misconception. Some women fall in love with bad guys because the think they can change the guy. Once they realise that they can't, they start to complain about how they've wasted their time on that stagnant relationship.

A woman can defo influence a man to change, but she can't change a man. She can be the reason why the man suddenly wakes up and decides that he wants to change, but she can't force or push him to change.

He might pretend that he has changed just to please her and pull her along in the lane of deception, but unless the man truly wants to change, a woman can do nothing but pray and hope.

freecocoa: chei Bado this guy enter you wella.

carefreewannabe:

good idea!

D-Explorer:

pyguru got sensor that placed me under immunity. Who else? Oh SK.....i think i got a clean record so far. You need to deal with yours

D-Explorer:

Please head on! I'm on the thread

Crown Prince:

Pyguru microchip is embedded on sexkillz forehead. I and Seun has the password that makes the '' human ware'' functions complimentary.

So I can sanction you non existence on nairaland.

carefreewannabe:

Ready

Idowuogbo:
Liv prince for now, I gats d remedy to cure hin seasonal madness.

D-Explorer:

You see, most men aren't "bad guys" before marriage and am so sure no woman with potential admirers as option will accept a ring from such a man. Dear, most men changes in marriage and at bolded, you seem to get my drift. Now, when a man turns wife-beater, does it mean he can't be "influenced" to change and be a better husband. I'm pointing out all these because most comments here are somewhat frivolous.

abiL*:



In reply to the wife-beater comment, a wife-beat can be changed... Only if he truly wants the change. Some aggressive men might tell you that they want to change but deep down, being aggressive is what they known. They've grown up in violence, therefore, the man's partner won't be able to change the guy on her own.

The man will need help to change his faulty thoughts. He needs to unlearn, and relearn new associations. He needs to know that violence isn't the answer.

But such need to have the willingness to make a change.



A man just don't randomly "turns" to be a wife beater. Something must have triggered it. Whatever that something is, it's not the woman's fault. He needs to sort his own issues out without being physically aggressive to her.



And yes, marriage changes most people (men AND women). A woman who is selfish, can learn to be selfless once she's married. But physically laying hands or being aggressive to your partner needs more than a change. A person that does such is messed up mentally.

An aggressive man shouldn't enter into a marriage in hopes that it would change him. He needs to deal with his anger before involving another being.

D-Explorer:

In as much as you've got some valid points, it also could be your very submission that no woman can change a man even as i disagree. Away from that, the bolded could mean that a woman/wife can also change to be aggressive to the extent of once-an-innocent-man beating the hell off her brains. Agreed?

Shollypopz: @abiL: if u need help on the subject, I dey ever ready.

LMAO @ trying to change a man. If u're looking for something to fix/train, get a dog. It's much more satisfying!

abiL*:


Marriage changes most people if they have the willingness to change.

Positive changes needs to come from self.

Negative changes comes from within as well.

Both needs to be triggered by something.


An "innocent man" will not randomly decides to lay his hand on his wife. He will most probably have the need to be aggressive in him, but has been repressing it until the point where it can't be hidden no more.

Haven't you heard of men who are all lovey-dovey until after marriage when their true colours starts to show?




Also, a woman "changing to become aggressive" is not an excuse for a son-of-a-bîtch to smack her up.

D-Explorer:

Oh yeah, this' the point the woman-factor comes in. I won't be caught adopting sentiment on sensitive matters. These changes you're talking about occurs in marriage and thank goodness, you admitted. We've got cases of nagging wives, rude and aggressive wives that were once "angels" before marriage needless to mention that it started as a process; a gradual one indeed. You can't call a man that got his clean-sheet on violence matters a son-of-a-bîtch because he couldn't rescue himself from the grip of aggression and whatnot displayed by his wife (don't think divorce). We've so many innocent men that got entangle in the web of wife-beating as a result of the regularly wrong/negative deeds of the wife. Maybe i release a bomb-shell......some women loves their chains; some women loves to be beating.

hornipipe:

abiL*:



Ki lo funny

abiL*:



Most women love to argue (me inclusive), but no woman wants to be beaten. Tell me a name of a woman that likes (not even loves, likes) to be beaten!!

The changes I've mentioned can occur outside and in a marriage. Marriage isn't the fuel for change. An attitude, a willingness and a mind set to change is what is needed for a change... AND the opportunity to be able to make that change.



"Nagging women who were previously Angels". My comment on this.... Get to know the person inside and out before rushing into a marriage. Just because the pûssy or dïck is good, don't mean that finger deserves a ring.





A man that beats a woman is (I repeat), a SON-OF-A-BÏTCH who hasn't been taught better. There are several ways to resolve a dispute without violence coming into it. Several!!!!!!



The same way we've got what you call "innocent men", there are also truly innocent woman that only needs to disagree with her man's point of view before getting showered with slapping and kicking in abundance.



Let's call a spade a spade, why will a clean man resort to violence just because his wife did something wrong? That "clean man" has obviously had a history of violence that he's been hiding in the cupboard to Narnia.

hornipipe: I don't understand/speak yoruba