phanthomz:

Im not a feminist, bt i simply beleive in myself. As much as im a submissive wife, i rub minds wit my hubby ova any decision we make as a family and he loves me d way i am. Cant imagine being a woman who doesnt av a say.

[b]And yes women are actually stronger than men.[/b]1. We are homozygous xx in genotype. Dat makes us stronget dan an heterozygous xy male. Maybe u dnt knw but over 80% of still born and miscarried babies are males. Why? Dy aint so genetically resilient.
2. As a man, can u bleed for 5 days, av cramps for 3 days, carry a baby in ur womb for 9 months ( its like putting ur 15 inches laptop strapped to ur tummy everyday both nite, day, in d shower, bus, toilet and everywhr for 9months) and still cook, clean, make love (with d strapped laptop), go to work, and care for a partner who jst goes to work and comes home to rest without aving to bother about house work. Can u do dat for ?
3. Can u smile, and do laundary, cook, care for and make luv to a partner who is cheating on u? Are u even emotionally strong?
4. Can u hit a man who is ur size? U only hit women because most times u are larger than dem and dy av even been defeated mentally b4 d abuse starts.
5. Why do u think women live longer dan men? because even thru d wear and tear of caring for others, they are more resilient and therefore live longer.
I could go on and on. Bt in d end, i thank God im a woman. A strong one for dat matter. Wouldnt pray to be anything else.

nunumally: All children are important whether male or female. We all have a part to play.

People tend to look for activities and ideologies to occupy their life. So if a couple decides they want a male child in order to continue their lineage, thats a choice that I respect.

However I dont believe in that choice. There are male or female children that have grown up to be a great disappointment. So my question is whats the point for that lineage continuation. We should be more concerned with having children that will make a difference whether male or female. Male seekers take note!!!!

My own desire is to have all sexes present because it brings balance. The sons will learn to interact with females the right way and daughters will learn to interact with males the right way.

I have not been blessed so, I have boys all through so I find myself relying on friends kids to bting that balance. My ideology.

Virgin Finder:

Don't worry. Your sons will bring your much desired 'daughters' home via marriage. And you'll have fun till the end.
Daughter in-laws are easily assimiliated into their husbands' families. Son in-laws never get assimilated into their wives' families.

Another advantage of having more sons.

Virgin Finder:

I thought the Bible said women are the weaker sex? Are you an atheist?

phanthomz:

Im not a feminist, bt i simply beleive in myself. As much as im a submissive wife, i rub minds wit my hubby ova any decision we make as a family and he loves me d way i am. Cant imagine being a woman who doesnt av a say.

And yes women are actually stronget than men. 1. We are homozygous xx in genotype. Dat makes us stronget dan an heterozygous xy male. Maybe u dnt knw but over 80% of still born and miscarried babies are males. Why? Dy aint so genetically resilient.

Thus coming into existence and surviving as male is already hard work. To become a man is not easy. One reason to value male.


2. As a man, can u bleed for 5 days, av cramps for 3 days, carry a baby in ur womb for 9 months ( its like putting ur 15 inches laptop strapped to ur tummy everyday both nite, day, in d shower, bus, toilet and everywhr for 9months) and still cook, clean, make love (with d strapped laptop), go to work, and care for a partner who jst goes to work and comes home to rest without aving to bother about house work. Can u do dat for ?

Ever heard of adaptation? Humans and animals learn to cope with biologically/environmentally imposed situations or die.
3. Can u smile, and do laundary, cook, care for and make luv to a partner who is cheating on u? Are u even emotionally strong?

You're generalising that all men cheat. Statistics show that 30% of kids do not belong to the dads that take them as own biological kids. Even up to 50% in firstborn kids. Girls flex and carry preggy to one of their lovers (the rich or mumu among them) to quickly arrange wedding. Are those bastard kids from holy conception? Those women Nyansh dey open more and more as DNA test is becoming cheaper/widespread.

4. Can u hit a man who is ur size? U only hit women because most times u are larger than dem and dy av even been defeated mentally b4 d abuse starts.
Again you're generalising that all men are wife beaters. It may surprise to know that I have never raised my hand against a lover, not that there wasn't enough provocation.

5. Why do u think women live longer dan men? because even thru d wear and tear of caring for others, they are more resilient and therefore live longer.

Because women don't go to war, women don't get pushed into crime to bring money home like women push men directly or indirectly, DON'T DO MANY RISKY JOBS THAT KILL MEN DAILY. Moreover sex hormones/reproduction protect women against certain disease until menopause (heart disease, osteoporosis), ALTHOUGH oestrogen/early menarche make prone to breast cancer.



I could go on and on. Bt in d end, i thank God im a woman. A strong one for dat matter. Wouldnt pray to be anything else.

Area-Fada:
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Not necessarily true dear.

If a boy doesn't come, it's not the woman's fault. But to say that a male is not important in the family is to demonstrate an astounding disconnect with our African culture in favour of Western culture that promises a lot but delivers little.

Here the European country in live in, over 55% of my work colleagues have divorced at least once already. Some are going through their third divorce and they're not even 50 yet.

So it's not exactly the romance/matrimonial el dorado that our African women believe the lax Western culture offers.

If it happens that a boy is not forthcoming, you would do well to lovingly explore how your man is taking it.

I have several male relatives, some have 3, 4 or 6 daughters, no sons. They are all quite happy.

Virgin Finder:

I thought the Bible said women are the weaker sex? Are you an atheist?

babatgtr: Pls answer dis Question. To born 2 OKONJO EWELA and to born 50 Olokada MAn (BIKE MAN) which one do u prefer?

tpia@:


What about to born 2 George Bushes and to born 50 come and wash my pant girls, which one do you prefer?

Area-Fada:
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Even in the bible?

A girl is married AWAY, a boy brings another man's daughter and add to his own family. To become his Mrs.

Whether the wife was raised by Mazi Okeke, Otunba Amodu or Alhaji Dambau, is immaterial.

Until the time comes when you escort a groom to the bride's house and given to the woman and her family in marriage, we're where we're.

It is disingenuous for ladies to twist this thread to "men say women are worth less than men".

It is not. Majority of men dote on their daughters more than their sons. Both sexes simply have different roles.

Women can chose to totally ignore their birth family if very comfortable in marriage. And she can do so without name calling/consequences. Boys cannot.

Shinatu:




Is it the same Bible that says 'so shall a man leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife'?

Na wa o, for the way we have 'traditionallly doctored' this bible.

babatgtr: . What I mean by sayn dat is female child is also important, Nt only male child is making it. Thnaks 4 ur own view too. I beg is person born to obama, u don mak am sir

phanthomz:

Im not a feminist, bt i simply beleive in myself. As much as im a submissive wife, i rub minds wit my hubby ova any decision we make as a family and he loves me d way i am. Cant imagine being a woman who doesnt av a say.

And yes women are actually stronget than men. 1. We are homozygous xx in genotype. Dat makes us stronget dan an heterozygous xy male. Maybe u dnt knw but over 80% of still born and miscarried babies are males. Why? Dy aint so genetically resilient.
2. As a man, can u bleed for 5 days, av cramps for 3 days, carry a baby in ur womb for 9 months ( its like putting ur 15 inches laptop strapped to ur tummy everyday both nite, day, in d shower, bus, toilet and everywhr for 9months) and still cook, clean, make love (with d strapped laptop), go to work, and care for a partner who jst goes to work and comes home to rest without aving to bother about house work. Can u do dat for ?
3. Can u smile, and do laundary, cook, care for and make luv to a partner who is cheating on u? Are u even emotionally strong?
4. Can u hit a man who is ur size? U only hit women because most times u are larger than dem and dy av even been defeated mentally b4 d abuse starts.
5. Why do u think women live longer dan men? because even thru d wear and tear of caring for others, they are more resilient and therefore live longer.
I could go on and on. Bt in d end, i thank God im a woman. A strong one for dat matter. Wouldnt pray to be anything else.

Chiyung: Am bittered by the way african culture has degraded women and make them look like slaves.
As a girl child ur parents will always remind u dat ur a girl and dat one day,u will b married off, n give ur younger brother the right to insult u cus ur a "girl".
You keep praying that one day u will meet mr right,dat will take u out n treat u right,one day it happened and wen u went there,u were treated like a poo too,u cant attend family meetings cus ur just a "woman",instead u stay in the kitchen n b cooking for them,b his sex slave,only wen he demands and not wen u do.
Facts you dont understand: we bleed for almost one week in a month. We get pregnant n carry it for 9months n during child birth u choose between life n death cus d pains is unbearable except by GODs grace. While the male cheat on you and during dat period without pity,they say its a mans world
U still have to go back to work,to help the family,bcus no man wants to marry a lazy woman or a liability. He has the right to chase other women wen u cant give him a boy or statisfy him sexualy while u dont ,u endure it bcus ur a "woman". His is just to go to work,while urs doesnt end there: u cook so he can come bake n eat,do the laundry,breastfeed the baby n etc. You cant bring in a maid for fear of lossing him to her,u decide to take the pain but it doesnt stop him from going out.
Soon bcus of new life u keep bringing out n the monthly passage of blood n stress u wear out quikely n the protruding stomach dat has refuse to go in n the torn vigi,he says ur no longer attractive n refuse to bed with u. U cry day n night,now u cant go back to ur fathers house bcus its a tabbo it was for better for worse u just keep enduring him. You die quickly if he is the kind dat beats...etc
Now i was suprised wen they told me dat Joke sylvia is married to day nollywood actor,i was suprised cus she still bears her fathers name n nt the mans name. How many of our men can do dat today? Why discreminate a girl child? Seeing dat in life they give the most holding back nothing still they have nothing more to give.
Gender discrimiation starts from the family,why wud fathers buy condom for their sons n imprison their daughter not to so? The same way u treat ur boys do so too to the girls. If u giv preferencial treatment to them today,then tomaro wen they are well to do u xpet them to share the family borden with the male child u prefered to them? They will only have pity towards their mothers cus they understand their pain. I rest my case ave said too.much

jay bee: A very ridiculous pursuit IMO. Saw first hand today how some men can be so cruel
I saw two Nigerian couple arguing on my way back from the hospital few hours ago. The husband was literally shouting at the wife and of course she was sobbing and all. I initially thought they were arguing because the wife was pregnant or something along that line.

I got into my car, drove out of the car park only to find myself right behind the couple's car. The husband suddenly stopped his car and chased the wife out of the car. I immediately stopped as i was right behind them and knew something terrible is happening between the two.
I asked where she was going and offered to drop her. She entered my car with tears running down her eyes so i asked what the problem was.

I couldn't believe it when she told me the man is upset because the scan they just did revealed they are expecting a baby girl. Apparently this is her 3rd pregnancy and she already has two daughters. I was gobsmacked, angry that a so called husband can drop his pregnant wife in the cold all because she is having a baby girl.

I'm actually still very upset because i can't believe how some people can complain about the sex of a child when tons are still praying to just have one. Grrrrrrhhhhhhhhhh

jay bee: A very ridiculous pursuit IMO. Saw first hand today how some men can be so cruel
I saw two Nigerian couple arguing on my way back from the hospital few hours ago. The husband was literally shouting at the wife and of course she was sobbing and all. I initially thought they were arguing because the wife was pregnant or something along that line.

I got into my car, drove out of the car park only to find myself right behind the couple's car. The husband suddenly stopped his car and chased the wife out of the car. I immediately stopped as i was right behind them and knew something terrible is happening between the two.
I asked where she was going and offered to drop her. She entered my car with tears running down her eyes so i asked what the problem was.

I couldn't believe it when she told me the man is upset because the scan they just did revealed they are expecting a baby girl. Apparently this is her 3rd pregnancy and she already has two daughters. I was gobsmacked, angry that a so called husband can drop his pregnant wife in the cold all because she is having a baby girl.

I'm actually still very upset because i can't believe how some people can complain about the sex of a child when tons are still praying to just have one. Grrrrrrhhhhhhhhhh

uj_sizzle:
It's the African mentality, it'a probably worse in Nigeria. I can almost swear that couple you saw were Igbos(Yes i'm one and it seems prevalent among my people).

jay bee:

Yoruba

I think God actually wanted me to meet and talk to her. I told her how my own mother kept trying for a boy (i'm the only boy, last born with 6 senior sisters) so she doesn't lose hope if her heart also desires that

In the end i had to tell her to try and find an elder (possibly her pastor) to talk to the husband considering the fact that she is currently pregnant and heated arguments is obviously not healthy with her current state

The dude was literally threatening this lady i swear. Calling her omo ale (bastard) in public.

I'm so so angry

jay bee:

Yoruba

I think God actually wanted me to meet and talk to her. I told her how my own mother kept trying for a boy (i'm the only boy, last born with 6 senior sisters) so she doesn't lose hope if her heart also desires that

In the end i had to tell her to try and find an elder (possibly her pastor) to talk to the husband considering the fact that she is currently pregnant and heated arguments is obviously not healthy with her current state

The dude was literally threatening this lady i swear. Calling her omo ale (bastard) in public.

I'm so so angry

Teespice: To the igbos a male child is a very big deal. They feel that it is the boy who carries on with the family lineage once the father is no more. Women are more relegated to the background because they are seen as another man's property who would end up bearing another man's name.

Even when women give birth to baby girls, they would often be harassed with names such as a blunt blade that cannot cut common vegetable or a mother hen that cannot lay eggs.

Quite pathetic.

Efemena_xy: Even your average iron bender / roadside mechanic struggling to eck a living to feed his brood of 10+ kids in his face-me-I-face-you bedsit still wants a male heir to his throne of poverty.

PocketEconomist: My people sha. anyway to each his own. the most painful part is that it is the man who determines the sex. a case of wrong accusation on the woman.