jay bee: A very ridiculous pursuit IMO. Saw first hand today how some men can be so cruel
I saw two Nigerian couple arguing on my way back from the hospital few hours ago. The husband was literally shouting at the wife and of course she was sobbing and all. I initially thought they were arguing because the wife was pregnant or something along that line.

I got into my car, drove out of the car park only to find myself right behind the couple's car. The husband suddenly stopped his car and chased the wife out of the car. I immediately stopped as i was right behind them and knew something terrible is happening between the two.
I asked where she was going and offered to drop her. She entered my car with tears running down her eyes so i asked what the problem was.

I couldn't believe it when she told me the man is upset because the scan they just did revealed they are expecting a baby girl. Apparently this is her 3rd pregnancy and she already has two daughters. I was gobsmacked, angry that a so called husband can drop his pregnant wife in the cold all because she is having a baby girl.

I'm actually still very upset because i can't believe how some people can complain about the sex of a child when tons are still praying to just have one. Grrrrrrhhhhhhhhhh

troy20:
you are not a good liar

PocketEconomist: My people sha. anyway to each his own. the most painful part is that it is the man who determines the sex. a case of wrong accusation on the woman.

jay bee: A very ridiculous pursuit IMO. Saw first hand today how some men can be so cruel
I saw two Nigerian couple arguing on my way back from the hospital few hours ago. The husband was literally shouting at the wife and of course she was sobbing and all. I initially thought they were arguing because the wife was pregnant or something along that line.

I got into my car, drove out of the car park only to find myself right behind the couple's car. The husband suddenly stopped his car and chased the wife out of the car. I immediately stopped as i was right behind them and knew something terrible is happening between the two.
I asked where she was going and offered to drop her. She entered my car with tears running down her eyes so i asked what the problem was.

I couldn't believe it when she told me the man is upset because the scan they just did revealed they are expecting a baby girl. Apparently this is her 3rd pregnancy and she already has two daughters. I was gobsmacked, angry that a so called husband can drop his pregnant wife in the cold all because she is having a baby girl.

I'm actually still very upset because i can't believe how some people can complain about the sex of a child when tons are still praying to just have one. Grrrrrrhhhhhhhhhh

Db boy: What's all this abt this feminist always clamming to be men since the inception of this world I know for sure that world wars were fought and led by men, I know if gahndi, Mandela, ojukwu, awolowo, hitler, Jesus, Mohamed and so many were all women they would Hv not been this impactful 98 percent of the world creation were all men's innovation. They world is a special place because of men a world without men is useless female kids on marriage becomes another man property whether u like it or not but male kids stay put this was very clear to me when I lost my dad and at that point I threw out all those western ideology I must get my self male kids it is obiligatory and has to be fulfilled most men if not all alway Hv that sense of obligation where as to the woman once she is married her sense of obligation shift from her birth family to her married family. That's my 2 cent

thegeorgy: how many of know the names of ur great great grand fathers?if male children keep family names bla bla bla...e.g I bear my great grand dad name and don't even know the names of those under apart from my papa name.so what are u guys talking about,in terms of keeping the family name?overtime,names are forgotten jare.so every child is special.

byvan: Nothing special,a dead man doesn't know whether he is succeeded or not,Africans and their idiosyncrasies .They certainly still complain when they ve no female children.

Arosa:

Abi o, women don't have Y chromosome they only have XX.

phanthomz:

Im not a feminist, bt i simply beleive in myself. As much as im a submissive wife, i rub minds wit my hubby ova any decision we make as a family and he loves me d way i am. Cant imagine being a woman who doesnt av a say.

And yes women are actually stronget than men. 1. We are homozygous xx in genotype. Dat makes us stronget dan an heterozygous xy male. Maybe u dnt knw but over 80% of still born and miscarried babies are males. Why? Dy aint so genetically resilient.
2. As a man, can u bleed for 5 days, av cramps for 3 days, carry a baby in ur womb for 9 months ( its like putting ur 15 inches laptop strapped to ur tummy everyday both nite, day, in d shower, bus, toilet and everywhr for 9months) and still cook, clean, make love (with d strapped laptop), go to work, and care for a partner who jst goes to work and comes home to rest without aving to bother about house work. Can u do dat for ?
3. Can u smile, and do laundary, cook, care for and make luv to a partner who is cheating on u? Are u even emotionally strong?
4. Can u hit a man who is ur size? U only hit women because most times u are larger than dem and dy av even been defeated mentally b4 d abuse starts.
5. Why do u think women live longer dan men? because even thru d wear and tear of caring for others, they are more resilient and therefore live longer.
I could go on and on. Bt in d end, i thank God im a woman. A strong one for dat matter. Wouldnt pray to be anything else.

Area-Fada:
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Not necessarily true dear.

If a boy doesn't come, it's not the woman's fault. But to say that a male is not important in the family is to demonstrate an astounding disconnect with our African culture in favour of Western culture that promises a lot but delivers little.

Here the European country in live in, over 55% of my work colleagues have divorced at least once already. Some are going through their third divorce and they're not even 50 yet.

So it's not exactly the romance/matrimonial el dorado that our African women believe the lax Western culture offers.

If it happens that a boy is not forthcoming, you would do well to lovingly explore how your man is taking it.

I have several male relatives, some have 3, 4 or 6 daughters, no sons. They are all quite happy.

jeffizy: Family A . After five girls, the last being age 15, the parents decided to try 'once more' for a male child.
Luckily,they got a boy. But the sisters complained of embarrassment from their parents.

Family B
They had 7 children, all girls. The hubby is looking outside for the missing male child from his scrotum! From another woman of course.

Family C
Wife's family advised her to protect herself diabolically to prevent her man from seeking a new wife after she gave birth to their third girl.

N.B
Above are real life occurrences.
What is so special about the male child?

Crixina: you see exactly what am worried abt. human beings are just too cruel.

Battering a woman physically and emotionally over something they both have no control over.

Crixina: you see exactly what am worried abt.human beings are just too cruel.

Battering a woman physically and emotionally over something they both have no control over.

fellis:


When I think of these things I ask myself if there is actually anything women gain from being married.

All I can see is loss of independence and life where you are expected to live in subservience. No gain at all, even the children that people marry each other to get can be gotten without marriage so why go into it? Why do women take it so serious and police other women into taking it serious?

dasparrow:

Is that not what I keep saying on Nairaland? Marriage does not benefit the woman. Its not like the man is going to remain faithful to the woman in the long run anyway. At some point, he will cheat. Our neighbor who has 3 wives and several mistresses on the side said that the reason he cheats on his wives is because the vargina of his wives are no longer tight once they give birth to children so he has to find women who have not birthed children and have tight varginas outside. Children could be gotten biologically without being married.

Women who force other women into marriage do so because they are miserable and misery loves company. Since they know they cannot leave the prison called marriage, they try to force others into it. Don't fall for their scheme. At the end of the day, I have seen single women who live better lives than their married counterparts. They have their children, their careers or successful businesses, no in-laws to stress them out and they can share their properties to both their male and female children as they see fit. So, what more does a woman need? And as an unmarried woman, the woman does not need to worry about becoming a widow and having to shave the head or drink the bath water of the deceased husband or keep wearing black clothes until God knows when or face the stigma associated with being a widow. You know that men in developing countries here in Africa and especially Nigeria don't live long. So what's the point?

dinachi: Both male child and female child are important for different reasons. I prefer to have a boy and a girl as both brings different things to the table.

fellis:

@bold, I agree. Both male and female children are special. How important or special a child is should be determined by many factors such and not just the ge nital parts of the child.

troy20:
male children are more important to the world everybody in the world knows it.just that alot dont want to admit it.we are not descrediting the female sex contribution.but every man born to a family, to a society, to a nation makes it stronger.

fellis:

Look, if you have daughters in future tell them they are not as important as males ok? Then see how much they love you afterwards.

troy20:
i'll throw them to the lions as soon as they take their first breath.

fellis:

Lol
You barbaric caveman.

troy20:
if you lived 10 centuries ago you wouldnt be saying this.you dare question God's order of things?

Teespice: To the igbos a male child is a very big deal. They feel that it is the boy who carries on with the family lineage once the father is no more. Women are more relegated to the background because they are seen as another man's property who would end up bearing another man's name.

Even when women give birth to baby girls, they would often be harassed with names such as a blunt blade that cannot cut common vegetable or a mother hen that cannot lay eggs.

Quite pathetic.

fellis:

God's order of things is throwing females to the lions?

troy20:
what? you think God is some kind of democrat that believe in free and civil rights of humanity.like he gives a fvck about equality? Read up your bible and the events.you are lucky to be living in this generation.if it where then women have no right to speak unless spoken to.you would probably be a gift to me by your father for helping him harvest his crops.