I have an aunt, who is 50 has lived in Nigeria all her life. She's been divorced twice, rich, comfortable not married for a while, I mean I don't understand this false notion that just because someone lives somewhere makes them less or more of a human.

$$Rhino:

they are surely not refering to nigerian borvas, because a brother will want to walk behind u to assimilate all he got in you and raise his shoulder to show off the sista and tell all want to be to keep off.

NOT all of course. The guys who were raised in the states are good. And so are the ones born and raised in naija. But those mu mu ones over shadow the good ones.

ch3coo3 sounds like the girls over here never came from Nigeria and the ones they marry from Naija will be living in a cocoon when they get here.
Keep kidding yourselves.
A good woman is a good woman no matter where she lives.
A market woman is a market woman whether in Leeds,NYC or Ikorodu road

Queenisha:

mba

you people should marry them and keep them in the village.
Go home annually at new yam to impregnate them
That way they remain pure and ever ready to serve
since coming to the west may corrupt their minds

You seems to think that pple are still stuck in the dark age, haba now

onyinye2:

NOT all of course. The guys who were raised in the states are good. And so are the ones born and raised in naija. But those mu mu ones over shadow the good ones.

well my blv is that for every 12, there is a judas and same goes for ladies

ehie:

the husband is the head, that is what the bible said, submission, when u go out of God's will ,
well the rest is history
if u don't respect your husban how will your kids respect u and the world they are to enter.
selflessness is not foolishness

ehie, you're turning me on o.

they are surely not refering to nigerian borvas, because a brother will want to walk behind u to assimilate all he got in you and raise his shoulder to show off the sista and tell all want to be to keep off.

abi o.  women of nowadays are not content.  always looking for ways to walk in a man's shoes.

ehie:

the husband is the head, that is what the bible said, submission, when u go out of God's will ,
well the rest is history
if u don't respect your husban how will your kids respect u and the world they are to enter.
selflessness is not foolishness

Nne you got it all wrong. You see i understand that the man is the leader of the household but not over me. Of course i would take of my husband's every need and so will he do the same. But submission, mba

@$$rhino
what?

@baxilexi
what do you mean?

Queenisha:

ch3coo3 sounds like the girls over here never came from Nigeria and the ones they marry from Naija will be living in a cocoon when they get here.

LOL . . . by the time they change (if they ever do), it will be too late.

Keep kidding yourselves.
A good woman is a good woman no matter where she lives.

I AGREE

A market woman is a market woman whether in Leeds,NYC or Ikorodu road

More market women in Yankee than Naija.  Nairastatistics show that 4/5 of Yankee women are market women, while 1/10 of Nigerian women are.  Which odds do you prefer  

$$Rhino:

You seems to think that people are still stuck in the dark age, haba now

aren't u accusing the wrong person ?
I'm only adding to what some men are saying here

@Baxilexi
Nice offer but i will pass. You sound like you would be willing to be a man who stays home for a living. And i don't deal with slackers.

onyinye2:

Nne you got it all wrong. You see i understand that the man is the leader of the household but not over me. Of course i would take of my husband's every need and so will he do the same. But submission, mba

there is no 2 ways abt it, it is either u wanna respect the word of God or not, if you wanna respect it, yo have to submit to ur husband, however, there is a gray area btw submission and being stupid, submission dont means when he is beating u and maltreating u, u have to say yes sir, it means, u have to let him lead, and likewise same bible says, the husband has to love their wife, like jesus loves the church and he gave his life for it, so if the man loves his wife like such, trust me, submission would be so easy.

ehie:

the husband is the head, that is what the bible said, submission, when u go out of God's will ,
well the rest is history
if u don't respect your husban how will your kids respect u and the world they are to enter.
selflessness is not foolishness

The husband is the head there is no doubt about it ut in this part of the world where we are in no help from anyone and the man refuse to be sensitive to the woman need like onyinye rightly said at least when a woman comes back from work and the man is less busy at home just help to prepare something for her it will not make him not to be the head of the house the boys will copy too and treat their wives the same

Nne you got it all wrong. You see i understand that the man is the leader of the household but not over me. Of course i would take of my husband's every need and so will he do the same. But submission, mba

Are you not inhabiting the same household  

OK, apologies then

ehie:

the husband is the head, that is what the bible said, submission, when u go out of God's will ,
well the rest is history
if u don't respect your husban how will your kids respect u and the world they are to enter.
selflessness is not foolishness

GOD BLESS YOU.

So there are still WOMEN of your type? At least there is still hope!!!!!

I am sure you do not live in the Western world.

Queenisha:

mba

you people should marry them and keep them in the village.
Go home annually at new yam to impregnate them
That way they remain pure and ever ready to serve
since coming to the west may corrupt their minds

Well you got me wrong there. may be you should have seen my other post before.

What I meant was that it makes nonsense going home to marry if the reason is that those born and bred here are bad. One will be better of with someone who is already 'spoilt' to the maximum because what you see is what you get.  ooo choochi

onyinye2:

Nne you got it all wrong. You see i understand that the man is the leader of the household but not over me. Of course i would take of my husband's every need and so will he do the same. But submission, mba

My dear,with this stand,you may not be married for too long.
Go and mark my words.
There can never be 2 captains in a ship

Queenisha:

My dear,with this stand,you may not be married for too long.
Go and mark my words.
There can never be 2 captains in a ship

Anything with 2 heads is called monster.

Queenisha:

My dear,with this stand,you may not be married for too long.
Go and mark my words.
There can never be 2 captains in a ship

LOL Even you agree.  You are a naija woman to the core.  

$$Rhino:

there is no 2 ways about it, it is either u want to respect the word of God or not, if you want to respect it, yo have to submit to your husband, however, there is a gray area between submission and being stupid, submission don't means when he is beating u and maltreating u, u have to say yes sir, it means, u have to let him lead, and likewise same bible says, the husband has to love their wife, like jesus loves the church and he gave his life for it, so if the man loves his wife like such, trust me, submission would be so easy.

Nne, define submission for me.

rubi:

The husband is the head there is no doubt about it ut in this part of the world where we are in no help from anyone and the man refuse to be sensitive to the woman need like onyinye rightly said at least when a woman comes back from work and the man is less busy at home just help to prepare something for her it will not make him not to be the head of the house the boys will copy too and treat their wives the same

All said and put to law.

HCH3COO:

Are you not inhabiting the same household  

Yeah but he can control the kids but as for me, mba.

$$Rhino:

Anything with 2 heads is called monster.

When monsters collide disaster strikes.  Divorce is the disaster.

Proudly Nigerian, in Nigeria .my parents have been married for more that 30 years, and if i marry, it would be for life,
after God na my husband then my kids because in the end of everything what really matters is ur family.
people come and go but family always stay by u,

how old is onyinye2? 15?  

onyinye2:

Yeah but he can control the kids but as for me, mba.

So let him go find a woman in Nigeria who understands that the man is the head of the household.  As an American chicka, you no get that understanding.  Doesn't mean he's intimidated; it's just that you have different views on marriage.

onyinye2:

Nne, define submission for me.
All said and put to law.
Yeah but he can control the kids but as for me, mba.

Submission is not same as controlling
Submission means you dont make decision just cos you have the money to do it, you have to respect the man as the head and do all thru him and together.

@ruby, so na oyinbo abi okay oo

Queenisha:

My dear,with this stand,you may not be married for too long.
Go and mark my words.
There can never be 2 captains in a ship

Last i heard, a marriage was a partnership not a dictatorship.

davidylan:

how old is onyinye2? 15?  

add six years to that.

$$Rhino:

there is no 2 ways about it, it is either u want to respect the word of God or not, if you want to respect it, yo have to submit to your husband, however, there is a gray area between submission and being stupid, submission don't means when he is beating u and maltreating u, u have to say yes sir, it means, u have to let him lead, and likewise same bible says, the husband has to love their wife, like jesus loves the church and he gave his life for it, so if the man loves his wife like such, trust me, submission would be so easy.

There is no arguement about this when aman love/treats a woman very well sbmission come naturally

@Pataki
u don reach here, how far with deepzone, lol

onyinye2:

Last i heard, a marriage was a partnership not a dictatorship.

It is a partnership with a God-chosen dictator.  How dare you disobey the will of God.

ehie:

Proudly Nigerian, in Nigeria .my parents have been married for more that 30 years, and if i marry, it would be for life,
after God na my husband then my kids because in the end of everything what really matters is your family.
people come and go but family always stay by u,

God will bless you so much, cos so many ladies will advice their friends to live their husband and they will go behind their back and marry that same man.
Wisdom is the keys