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dazzlingd:
No I did not. If he is guilty, he deserves no mercy. But my only fear is that it shouldn’t be a racial profiling and wrongly set up

Go watch the video first, cos you sound very dumb.

Executive729:
If you want honest advise don't do it, I am older but live in UK over 35 years, recently I came back to marry a nurse in Nigeria after my family drove my first wife away. She is still in Nigeria whilst I perfect documents for her to join me in UK. Looking back 3 years now I think and believed is the worst decision I ever made. Look this generations of Nigerian women are not our mothers and grandmothers the way we knew them, these are entitlement block heads having the least respect for husbands and family institutions, as in doctor in UK her least salary is NGN47m a year this excludes her agency work which could double this amount. In summary you can't control her the chances of her leaving you is 70-80 percent. In my case I have already achieved everything I need in life when she Bleep off I don't care I will never put my life in a woman's hands. It will end in tears if you don't listen to my advise, find someone over there to marry there son.

How did your family drive your wife away??

advanceDNA:
Yes... she can wait for years to earn the money needed cos its not small change.....or she can do it on another person's expense...

.... u and i know some women prefer spending other pple's money even for what they need ....or havent u heard countless stories of men sending women to university??

I know this happens but any woman that goes into medicine doesn't do it to marry and sit on her behind.

advanceDNA:
..Even doctors need millions to go abroad.. NHS doesnt invite them for free....saying he's sending her abroad is just because of the finance involved

And she cannot start working as a young doctor to earn the money herself?

If she gets to the UK, she'll out earn him by far especially if she gets to a consultant level.

Let's see if OP will still be condescending by then.

Reminderz:
love is blind they say... it makes men act stupid most times... I pray you don't regret this... never cross a bridge for someone that can't cross over a line for you... you don't even know her well yet, abi you think say na I love you so much wey una dey tell each other abi? e go shock you... sponsor your siblings instead or one of your family instead.

even if you marry someone already abroad, you're already at a disadvantage because she can decide to change any time and use their law against you and collect all your properties. the law favours women most there whether they are right or wrong. better use your head. it doesn't end well most times.. make logical decisions or you will cry.

Are you in the UK?

If not, kindly shut up.

sultry69:
Ego,they have started.

Didn't you sense the arrogance in the OP's writeup?

His doctor- girlfriend doesn't NEED him to go abroad.

She will be welcomed into the UK without even trying because they respect medics.


So he needs to let go of that God-complex.

culkid:
White people smell much worse than Africans. An average Nigerian bathes once a day, while some oyinbos go days without bathing.

It's not about bathing. You need to shower and use deodorant.

Thrombosis:
I need an advice from guys and ladies in UK, US and Canada.

What is the hope for persons like me who is a muslim and hoping to move to any of these countries in the nearest future as a practice as a Medical laboratory scientist.

Please I am not talking about the job aspect, but the religion and social aspect.
Thanks.

Why not go to a rich Muslim country where you will feel more at home if religion is such an issue for you?

LastProphet:
Who told you they are more appealing? You mean the mostly fat slobs with punk haircuts and ear rings and tattoo all over body? And who is the fresh off the boat? You mean for instance an international student who doled out $50k to do a degree in Caltech? How many American born blacks smell such amount? Don't be dumb is not good

It doesn't matter how much they paid, if you're new you're new.

Look, I can spot a recent african migrant by just looking at them. The exceptions are the middle class- rich Africans that move to the west.

Our Western born Africans are now all overweight?

Don't men say the rape wasn't real unless the woman struggles??

Yeye finish you there.

dazzlingd:
Is there any proof he was aware she is 14

Did you watch the video

SIRTee15:
People keep saying that WM don't fancy BM, but Europe is awashed with mixed race kids. UK alone has 2.5 million mixed race population with most of them having a Caribbean paternal gene. Have u seen the present English football team? Half of them are mixed race. NBA is almost turning from a sport of black men to mixed race men!
I think society isn't ready for this discussion but the truth is more WM are dating BM than we all ready to accept- both white and black community.
In another decade or 2 , every black and white family in UK will have a mixed race couple as relative. My nephew who grew up in London is dating an Irish girl and is determined to marry despite protest his mum!!! She even called me to talk to him.

African men tend to shy away from western WM for reason already explained by ibkyee and personally I wouldn't advise it unless you sure of what u about to get into. If it all u want to settle with a WM as an africanised black man, go for eastern European women. They are less into all the toxic feminism and has conservative values like African women.

I said overall/generally.

Ofcourse there are WW partnered with BM but WW OVERALL are still partnered with their men.

There are exceptions and these don't make the norm.

The OP did a very good of poking holes into the delusions of men in Nigeria who think WW will swoon over them once they land in the UK/US simply because they are black.

Some WW will look their way but most will not.

GloriousGbola:
Reading this makes me realise that I prolly look to, oyibos the way artisans, mechanics, bus drivers etal look to me. As they have a rough look, so I will also have a rough look to Westerners.

When topics like this come up, they really need to make a distinction between new african immigrants vs born and bred africans because we look and act differently.

Lade18:
Coming from a girl who is 4feet 2in at best. Provided you're the one on your profile. Women and their delusional standard

What men and women desire from each other is different.

Alot of men aren't virgins but want to marry virgins.

Ibrahimcoomasie:
Alot of escort and call girls have no need for condom services.

Why not?

BloomingDale:
Lol.

I'm talking about serious relationships.

It's easy for a BW to attract sex from WM, but it's not easy for us to attract a commitment.

Make the distinction.

naijapikin2:
before a crime is committed, the avenue has to be there. It is the failure in properly raising a girl child that creates the chance to commit crimes. Train a girl child and the society gains. Even in our families you see that females are taking responsibilities of providing more unlike male children that look after their own families.
My brother God help us.

I'm guessing it's women and little girls fault too when they get raped right?

Women are cheap they say.

DMerciful:
The ability of men to embrace house chores depends on their home training from their mothers when they were younger. If mothers train their sons not to do house chores, its expected that they'd dislike it.

But my initial point was that mothers and sisters do not appreciate the sons/brothers doing as chores. Its only the wives that complain their husband don't do house chores but that same wife complain that her husband is not doing house chores will visit his brother and frown at her brother for doing house chores for his wife

Right. I thought its mainly the men that complain if their brother is doing chores?

So anyway, you said Nigerian men have the mindset that it's wrong to support a man financially.

If you're a traditional man, why do care about a woman supporting you financially?

Isn't that the mans role? Don't Nigerian men love to claim they are breadwinners?

If you want a woman to support you in your role.

Will you support her in her role? Alot of Nigerian men don't. It goes both ways.

BloomingDale:
Both.

One set of standards can't apply to Both.

For Bw to attract and keep a WM, she has to meet specific criteria.

They usually like their Bw very slim and dark skinned and middle-class.

Alot of Bw don't meet the mark.

Ibrahimcoomasie:
1. Racism from baked in conservative values inherited from their parents.

2.They feel the girl has become dirty and unclean with disease so they avoid. Escorts lose money when that starts to happen). WM and some White sex workers have the stereotype that black people have HIV and all sorts of STD. Research backs it up to an extent. The below stat applies to the black race generally as well since Africa has the highest rate of HIV infection in the world.

Absolute BS. If escorts always use condoms, what STDs are these white men worried about?

As for the big dick thing, there is no race of woman that shouts about dick like white women, so why is it now an issue when they encounter an endowed BM?

They say they get sore, but BW have been dealing with BM our entire lives, so do they ask how we cope?
Or should we throw black men away too?

NOETHNICITY:
It is not forbidden to wear bright colors hijab.
But I was even thinking that any form of headscarf for Christian women is forbidden.

Al-taqiyya.

ibkayee:
I’m sure the message was ‘hi bby’

Exactly.

Nyascobar1414:
Effort for a mortal like you?probably a liability.

That's why you keep being ignored, if you think she's a liability..why should she engage you?

Why did you engage in the 1st place?

Ibrahimcoomasie:
We can scream racism but who do you report to? The police or some other sex trafficking organization? Remember that is is an ilegal activity. It's like telling the police that a crack dealer wouldn't sell to some particular customer based on race.

I have done some reading on this topic. Some other reasons mentioned already and some not mentioned yet here. Reasons why escorts put up a NO black gents in ad listings, or will decline a black client:

1- Hygiene: there are stereotypes that black, and to some extent Indians are unhygienic. It is a common stereotype in the sex worker industry.

2- Black men haggle on price after initially agreeing on price before meeting up.

3- Some black men are endowed. A prostitute aim is to make as much money as possible without being hurt down there and recuperating.

4- Some black men try to love-vendor the girls

5- Some black men are violent. They will bring out a gun so as not to pay for sex

6- Some white men will not buy sex from girls that sleep with black men or do not have a no black gents note on their ad. (This is common in the pornography movie industry to an extent. The values of the alot of girls drop when they start interracial sex.

7- Outright Racism



Ps: some black escorts and hookup girls also decline blackmen.

Chaiiii...I'm truly surprised.

I've heard porn stars decline to sleep with black men but I never knew this was going on in the sex work industry aswell!

Black ppl are truly hated in every facet

Why do WM decline sex with a prostitute that has slept with black men??!

LastProphet:
Bros white girls worwor pass all the girls you have ever seen, I'm here and I'm telling you that 9 out of 10 white girls are worwor, potbelly, plus hump for back which is surprising though caused by excess chicken meat. But is true the girls are delusional and think they deserve Brad Pitt. If you face Mexicans, Caribbeans, AA women etc you no get problem. Even white boys say their girls are delusional

You're probably talking from a US/UK/Canada perspective.

Have you been to Eastern Europe??

I can't even hate, Most of the white women there are good looking.

I never saw an overweight one. They are petite and very shapely, behind is not too big like Bw but round enough and they dress very feminine especially in the summer.

The Western diet had messed up the looks of white women in the west.

DMerciful:
Tell me where you need clarification? Looks straightforward unless you don't agree with it

Reword your comment pls

Saying "hello" only? No wonder you keep being ignored. You barely made any effort.

cococandy:
I don’t think it should be illegal. It’s a very personal service and they reserve the right to say no to any clients that don’t fit their preferences.

That's racism sis.


As long as a man has money to pay, he should be able to get the service he wants.

Unless ofcourse, he's violent and aggressive.

When it comes to hygiene, they can put disclaimers out to weed out the unhygienic ones.

Jagabanfromcali:
I wanked so much in my first two years in Chicago that I tot I would go blind, I wanked more than all the wanking i did in boarding house in my secondary school in Nigeria in the 90s , I used to go to Walmart off 47 red line just to see avaerage fat Akata girls who by then looks like royalty and movie stars to me , conji is a bastard but then I realize as u move up it starts trickle towards you, from the nursing school I started banging the RNs and then the emergency room physicians and when I became an RN and subsequently an NP my fork career exploded , my greetings goes to all those girls in lagos and Calabar who will bring the camera down a bit to their mons pubis, you are the MVPs

I thought Nigerian men are the prize, so wetin happen?