AFRICAN WOMAN AND FEMINISM.


At my building stage of boyhood, in one of processes of trying to build me, I was privileged to have my dad take my to one of the umunna meeting. Like a first timer in such a marvellous gathering, you can imagine what the feeling was like. Like an uneasy pretender who wouldn't allow people notice the feeling running through his mind, my eyes was just hovering about in order to see if people around are noticing this feeling through my composure. What marvelled me the more was seeing one lady amongst that gathering of men, she wasn't just there in a passive manner rather she was being active in critical issues being raised there. Why I felt the way I felt was that prior to that meeting I've always had this feeling that women are always not allow the privilege of sharing the same ground with men. After, the meeting my inquisitive self lured me into engaging my dad into a discussion on why the woman was allowed to enjoy the privilege of appearing in meeting of umunna, my dad responded with an analytic question; he asked what makes a man? Which he responded by saying 'responsibility'. So from there he told me that the woman has done so many responsibilities more than a man could do that's why she was regarded as fit to enjoy the privilege of man. The woman has taken the responsibility of staying back at home to see that the father's lineage is not vanished through the 'iha nwanyi' culture, she does work to sustain and cater for her children etc. Like they say if a child washes his hand he joins elders in eating, so the woman has done something which a man does before he could be regarded as a man. After all this from my dad, a new knowledge and perception was added in my world.
The above anecdote is meant to amend some half baked beliefs have of Africa especially when it relates to feminism. In the clime which we found ourselves, it is a well known fact that not every male that can impregnate women are regarded as man. To be a man is always a virtue which stems from the responsibilities which you've been able to overcome. Just like in things fall apart there's a place where someone said something in the gathering of umunna and okonkwo sharply rebuked that person with a sweeping statement that the meeting is for men. It is quite bad though that some male figures have been mistakenly called a man when they've not conquered any responsibility,that's part of the values which we've traded in the name of civilisation. So, for women to get to that level of being seen with that eye which is used to see a man in the African sense, then, they must be ready to face and clear responsibilities.
Feminism is what every reasonable human on Africa should work towards achieving because when we arrive at that stage where everyone is seen with equal eye, then, responsibility becomes shared and balanced. There won't be a world where the men will always be toiling day and night just to be seen as real men and there won't be a world where they women will only be the 'oriakus' of the world. All hands must be on deck this time around. It baffles to see a man maintaining his #200 while the woman who virtually does nothing maintains her with #10000. So, in Africa we've always had the stage open for everyone to be what he/she wants to be but we don't push people into the stage.

U just spoke my mind nigga.in a world of ours where women wants to be of equal status with men then the onus also lies with them to attain the feet which men are known for.not when the sit there lazy ass at home all day long and also expect to be of equal status with men when they do virtually nothing.

Who run this world? Girls!!!

MrsChima:
Who run this world? Girls!!!

Feminism; "what a man can do, a woman can do better". LMFAO!! One of the most degrading sh*t i've ever heard.

Isn't it ridiculous that it's only when women do so called "men things" that they are regarded as "strong women"? When will society celebrate women for what they are? Which is.......women. Women are the primary & sole reason why the family unit survives & that has led the world to what it is today. No man will ever be able to replicate the role a woman performs in the society as a good mother & a good wife. Same goes for men as fathers & husbands.

I guess my point is until we celebrate women for what they are(women) & not what they are not(men), this whole feminism thing is horsesh*t

MrsChima:
Who run this world? Girls!!!

sylvalord:
Africa and her backward norms. I really don't see how females are inferior to males. If not for gender discrimination, i see no reason for feminism.

It's not all about Africa's norms, it's all about European culture infecting the fabrics of our dear continent. Whether we like it or not men were built to take care of women, protect them, and cater for them, that's why we are naturally possessive when it comes to our female counterparts.
You can take a cue from lesser mammals like the lions,how then can a woman be equal to a man when all this natural hints points towards one direction.
I in no way support maltreatment of the opposite gender, no reasonable person will do that. Sometimes I laugh at the frivolous culture of the West, they have nothing important to think out or invent like their fore-fathers, all they do now is lazy about trying to counter the laws of nature, supporting lesbianism, gay rights, bestiality, feminism, atheism I mean what type of human being doesn't believe in anything.
My question is why can't we influence them with our own culture. My brothers and sisters WE ARE STILLL UNDER THE SHACKLES OF OUR COLONIAL MASTERS!!

MrsChima:
Who run this world? Girls!!!

And who run the girls?

Etophikisi:
U just spoke my mind nigga.in a world of ours where women wants to be of equal status with men then the onus also lies with them to attain the feet which men are known for.not when the sit there lazy ass at home all day long and also expect to be of equal status with men when they do virtually nothing.

did you mama sit her lazy ass at home all day doing virtually nothing? Your papa came back to a filthy house? You got your food from the bush? U bathed yourself from 0-4yrs?

faith551:



And who run the girls?

God

mizzochocinco:
God

*falls from pulpit

missclasssy:


That's not Feminism.

Feminism is all about the social, political, religious economic equality of the sexes.
Not placing one above the other.

.....big big talk

shockwave91:
Feminism; "what a man can do, a woman can do better". LMFAO!! One of the most degrading sh*t i've ever heard.

Isn't it ridiculous that it's only when women do so called "men things" that they are regarded as "strong women"? When will society celebrate women for what they are? Which is.......women. Women are the primary & sole reason why the family unit survives & that has led the world to what it is today. No man will ever be able to replicate the role a woman performs in the society as a good mother & a good wife. Same goes for men as fathers & husbands.

I guess my point is until we celebrate women for what they are(women) & not what they are not(men), this whole feminism thing is horsesh*t

celebrating the women for what they are has always been a major part of African ethics, that's why they are protected from major stress of toiling to see she gets what to eat. Again, the kind of protection that's given to a widow is never accorded to a widower all because we know how vulnerable they are. So if the women folk thinks they are not comfortable where the society has kept them then they should be ready to face the challenges of change

Seun, lalasticlala, mogidi, ishilove and co. I want this to serve as a rejoinder to adichie's recent feminist talk, so help me do the needful.

Still waiting to see a real feminist in africa

faith551:



And who run the girls?

Not the men/boys!

agarawu23:

missclasssy:


That's not Feminism.

Feminism is all about the social, political, religious economic equality of the sexes.
Not placing one above the other.

Exactly. It is about giving women the opportunity to participate and contribute equally without being told to be seen and not heard!

ronald4lif:


Women be giving themselves false hope. You people must be running cuckoo land, not planet earth. Nonsense!

Kasiem2:
celebrating the women for what they are has always been a major part of African ethics, that's why they are protected from major stress of toiling to see she gets what to eat. Again, the kind of protection that's given to a widow is never accorded to a widower all because we know how vulnerable they are. So if the women folk thinks they are not comfortable where the society has kept them then they should be ready to face the challenges of change

Anyone who is lonely and desire companion will be vulnerable at some degree but isolating someone for the sake of protection is wrong!

Women do not need to be treated like eggs and I am sure the change in societal trends would be accepted and appreciated!

MrsChima:

Not the men/boys!

Everybody knows the truth U can't hide it

ronald4lif:


Women be giving themselves false hope. You people must be running cuckoo land, not planet earth. Nonsense!

Why aren't you in power boo?

Girls!

faith551:


Everybody knows the truth
U can't hide it

Just because she is a wife/girlfriend doesn't mean she is being ran.

Get over it!

mizzochocinco:
God

Gbam!

feminism has turned women into narcissistic sociopaths... What happened to women standing by their man and being supportive