PunkyVeer:
Ok, now I'm confused..you don't want to have sex & yet you want him to be turned on. What for? He knows he won't be getting some, so maybe that's why he is avoiding sexual conversations & too much physical contact. It seems you're deriving pleasure, a kick or maybe an ego boost knowing they desire you. Let the guy be. Why must he torture himself to prove his virility to you when you're not even going to do anything about it. Tell you what, I guess you'll know the answer to that on your wedding night How about that? Mnxm.

prettysassygirl:
To the advise part,jes tell him,"guy I wan see your thing,show me if it dey work"so simple,when u see it,he puts it back,no touching.

ugbah007:
I'm not you man but I once found myself in a relationship where she was not a virgin but decided the no sex tin,to cut the long story shot,I started sleeping with another girl at my area,my own girl was now lookingless attrative to me and I got tired of caring for her becaue my birthday came and she didn't get me anything and when I aske dher why she said the money she wanted to use,she borrowed it out to a friend.The relationship now fell to the friend zone,she got tired and called it off but after some months she came back telling me she really loved me but there was nothing for me to go back for.learn from this my sis.you are not attracted to him again and he is sleeping with another girl.sorry,I don't know you but am hating you already because you are wicked.I pray you loose that guy so this will serve as a lesson to you and your likes out there.

Luckygurl:
Hehehehe!! Your partner is really a brother in the Lord as in all this jim jim brothers

He has to loosen up a bit, for crying out loud you've got marriage plans.

What are his reasons for acting this way? Are they religion based?
Even if they are, engaging in intimate talks and PDA's ain't a big deal, I mean this is someone you'd spend the rest of your life with and it's only proper you get past the normal brother-sister relationship.
Not like you're asking him to go down all the way, nah!! Just a little show of affection, hugs, pecks, kisses, cuddles does it..

Sister mi! Maybe you gat to find a way to break down those walls of his. Insist on getting a warm hug from him after a meet up, blow a kiss through the phone after a call session, he should reciprocate too. Just find a way to work things around....
Once you achieve this, push no further rather help take things to it's permanent site
Guide him well cos his likes are rare sort of, you only have to work around him a little.
Hope you get your desired results.

Topics like this give me hope. It shows that we still have responsible men out there who ain't in for just sexx and it's likes.
I'd choose a man who's got such mindset over another who's ready to try out different sex positions with you whether or not he's got plans of taking you to the altar.

prettysassygirl:
To the advise part,jes tell him,"guy I wan see your thing,show me if it dey work"so simple,when u see it,he puts it back,no touching.

Luckygurl:
Hehehehe!! Your partner is really a brother in the Lord as in all this jim jim brothers

He has to loosen up a bit, for crying out loud you've got marriage plans.

What are his reasons for acting this way? Are they religion based?
Even if they are, engaging in intimate talks and PDA's ain't a big deal, I mean this is someone you'd spend the rest of your life with and it's only proper you get past the normal brother-sister relationship.
Not like you're asking him to go down all the way, nah!! Just a little show of affection, hugs, pecks, kisses, cuddles does it..

Sister mi! Maybe you gat to find a way to break down those walls of his. Insist on getting a warm hug from him after a meet up, blow a kiss through the phone after a call session, he should reciprocate too. Just find a way to work things around....
Once you achieve this, push no further rather help take things to it's permanent site
Guide him well cos his likes are rare sort of, you only have to work around him a little.
Hope you get your desired results.

Topics like this give me hope. It shows that we still have responsible men out there who ain't in for just sexx and it's likes.
I'd choose a man who's got such mindset over another who's ready to try out different sex positions with you whether or not he's got plans of taking you to the altar.

I suspect the 'broda' self service aka Vaseline or maybe he is fvking anoda puchie

Joc86:
Give him kpekus

PunkyVeer:
Ok, now I'm confused..you don't want to have sex & yet you want him to be turned on. What for? He knows he won't be getting some, so maybe that's why he is avoiding sexual conversations & too much physical contact. It seems you're deriving pleasure, a kick or maybe an ego boost knowing they desire you. Let the guy be. Why must he torture himself to prove his virility to you when you're not even going to do anything about it. Tell you what, I guess you'll know the answer to that on your wedding night How about that? Mnxm.

prettysassygirl:
To the advise part,jes tell him,"guy I wan see your thing,show me if it dey work"so simple,when u see it,he puts it back,no touching.

nlfan:
Dear NLers

I am in a no sex relationship with this amazing young man, he is cool and has everything I wanted in a man.

Apart from him, have always been in a no sex relationship, the last man I dated, who died in the ill fated Dana Air crash was also in a no sex relationship with me but he was more vibrant emotionally, like he will hug me tight, hold me and look into my eyes, roll his hands over me and kisses me too and sometimes I notice he will be so turn on, just that we have decided we want to wait and sometimes he will say baby i'm so turn on but I can handle it.

Now the issue I have with this one I am dating now is, he will not do any of that, all he does is look at me passionately, and if he must touch me, he will just hold my hands and play with my fingers, he can stare at me the whole day and gist with me, but I have never seen him at the point where he was turn on, whether in his face or actions, he is just there.

I know he is God fearing and can afford not to be turn on, but I am so scared, have slept in his house before, we were just like blood siblings, cook together eat and off he went to his room, no emotions or maybe a kiss to say good night and stuff, it was so neutral I feared he might not like sex or romance at all or maybe he is not all right.

Sometimes I want to bring up gist like, how far did you go with your ex, what is the most naughty thing you have done in a relationship or for love, and he will go like... I came back from work, I didn't have a car then, so I trek all the way to her house to cook for her.

And I ask, what's your most memorable sex experience, and he replied baby good night, this is not you so don't bring up the fake self, you've been talking too much to your girl friends lately I guess.

How do I get to know all these about him, have starved myself enough of sex to please God, and to be a good girl my mother asked me to be and cannot "CANNOT" and will not be able to stand a slow or bad sex experiences in marriage, the thought of this is driving me crazy

nlfan:
Dear NLers

I am in a no sex relationship with this amazing young man, he is cool and has everything I wanted in a man.

Apart from him, have always been in a no sex relationship, the last man I dated, who died in the ill fated Dana Air crash was also in a no sex relationship with me but he was more vibrant emotionally, like he will hug me tight, hold me and look into my eyes, roll his hands over me and kisses me too and sometimes I notice he will be so turn on, just that we have decided we want to wait and sometimes he will say baby i'm so turn on but I can handle it.

Now the issue I have with this one I am dating now is, he will not do any of that, all he does is look at me passionately, and if he must touch me, he will just hold my hands and play with my fingers, he can stare at me the whole day and gist with me, but I have never seen him at the point where he was turn on, whether in his face or actions, he is just there.

I know he is God fearing and can afford not to be turn on, but I am so scared, have slept in his house before, we were just like blood siblings, cook together eat and off he went to his room, no emotions or maybe a kiss to say good night and stuff, it was so neutral I feared he might not like sex or romance at all or maybe he is not all right.

Sometimes I want to bring up gist like, how far did you go with your ex, what is the most naughty thing you have done in a relationship or for love, and he will go like... I came back from work, I didn't have a car then, so I trek all the way to her house to cook for her.

And I ask, what's your most memorable sex experience, and he replied baby good night, this is not you so don't bring up the fake self, you've been talking too much to your girl friends lately I guess.

How do I get to know all these about him, have starved myself enough of sex to please God, and to be a good girl my mother asked me to be and cannot "CANNOT" and will not be able to stand a slow or bad sex experiences in marriage, the thought of this is driving me crazy

passionate88:
Na only God go fit help Nigerian girls. If to say the dude dey try to sex you, you for dey talk for your mind say all men want sex, now you don meet man wey dey emotionally matured you dey want to corrupt him mind with sexuality talk. op fear God o, fear God.

SexyStrawberry:
No sex relationship, yet ur pressing him so hard to know his sexual life, what are u hoping to get? U want to torture the poor guy with sexual feelings but u no wan open leg, wicked girl, are u a virgin? dey dia dey sleep on a moving bike, if he's not discussing it, den there might be another chick beating u to d game, even d one wey Dana help u kill must have been having his fill after getting turned on with another better sexy chick, who knows maybe he was flying into d arms of his Oda babe b4 Dana obstruct the movement of his ministry

donholy28:
No man wants to fvck u? u need help