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jesmond3945:
Yes thats what he did. So that she would not spin out around. Now she has been exposed, her guilt might either make her sober or make her toxic.

Yes, u understand my point very well.

If the man try to be a gentleman (aka oponu, amukumeko) don't be surprised she would play the fast track on him and pin the whole blame on him.
Even the family would still be blaming him that Wen he saw something like that why didn't he raise alarm from onset?
Now everything don clear, no where to hide for her, she can do whatever pleases her.

henrimoto:
@2radii. you have deep understanding of certain issues of life that goes beyond the common physical reason. More grace to you.

U know, experience they say is the best teacher.

When u tell people outside there, they will say u re victimising someone else for ur own laziness, and the next tin u will hear is that u should double Ur hustle.

Well, I use to shake head weneva I see comment like that, all I know is that everyone will chop breakfast soon or later in one way or the other.

Many many tins wey a don experience, but Wen u voice out no one will take u serious .

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to you all wherever you are reading this my story. I am just in an emotional situation now that i need a breather and what to do to ease me of this emotional pains am going through.
I got married 5 years ago and have 2 daughters to that. For almost 5 years of marriage, i have not had any reason to suspect my wife of cheating cause she has always prove to be a loyal and trustworthy person to me not until recently that i started noticing some things popping up. Our marriage has not been that rosy and perfect as we do have alots of arguments which i have tried my best to make her happy in my capabilities. I fund the house finances and barely get any tangible financial support from her but that doesn't really bother me so far am still capable of meeting those bills.
It happened when i noticed that my wife started using password on her phone and she react negatively whenever i want to access her phone. Though she doesn't pick up my phone cos its also has password but i can never deny my wife access to my phone whenever she wants to make use of it. Anytime i want to access her phone, she says she cant allow me cos i dont allow her aswell which is not true. I only password my phone cos of security purpose. The last time i used her phone, i noticed she deleted a particular chat with a guy. It was the guy replying chat that made me knew she deleted the conversation and the way the guy was addressing her made me so uncomfortable. He was using my love and all sort of romantic words to my wife, i saw it and confronted her about it that i dont like it but she said he is just a friend that she knew way back before she got married. I noticed the guy just left the country to an arab country and my wife told me that its strictly business of exporting food stuff to him thats between then.
Fortunately, i picked up her phone last night and what i saw was so devastating, i noticed she was still chatting with the guy and also exchanging love words together. My wife told the guy that she loves him and also miss him so much. This was just a little out of their conversation. I was so mad and screenshot those chat and send to my self for evidence cos she can deny anything deniable. I sent those shots to out church pastor, her dad, her mom and also all her siblings to know what their daughter was doing under my roof. Her dad has been apologizing that i should forgive her but seriously am so hurt emotionally right now and just felt like leaving the marriage cos to trust her henceforth will be difficult.
Pls what advice can you give i do and also did i over reacted by sending those screenshot out to her family and pastor. I need to know cos am confused. Pls pardon my english and typo errors.

Ogun and ayelala will kill anybody that said u shouldn't have forwarded the chat.. Ogun will kill them.

See bros, in all u do, always try to defend ursef first, u just defended ursef by sending those chats, u wont know now but u will know in the future.

Well, don't divorce Ur wife now, give her a second chance pls.

Rozross:
And you that slept with her deserves better abi? Brostitute condemning a prostitute. Stay out of her life because you ain’t any better

do u have sense at all??

That means u can date both father and son together, ashewo.

AgentGoat:
How person go take know if our spirit are compatible?

Aahh, a no be God na

Enter na!! Enter the relationship first, if dem tell u, u go argue that nothing of such exist, so enter first, as u might be lucky to find Ur solemate


There are some ladies that even from the very first day u meet them u start losing valuables, contracts and others.. but enter first

Oluchi3:
Good evening. My name is Oluchi, I'm a fashion designer. I sincerely need your advice as I'm so depressed and I'm having suicidal thoughts. I'm really crying as I'm typing now.

Since I was born, I have never been approached by any man. I'm 36 years old and No man has approached me not to talk of proposing love/marriage to me.

It all started when I was in senior secondary school. I noticed no guy ever told me he likes me or write me a letter back then but my friends do receive love letters from our male class mates. Even the ones I'm more beautiful than. Well, I didn't pay attention to it becus I was thinking maybe I was too young for that.

Then I became more concerned about the matter during my HND 1. Through out my ND no single guy ever said Hello, I was so worried. I told my mother she said I should pray about it.

I have gone to different churches for prayers, I have done different deliverance, some pastors even wanted to take advantage of me by sleeping with me but I refused because that's not of God, some have collected lots of money from me in the name of deliverance. I have seen hell

I have met with just 3 men in my life and I was the one who actually approached them by the advice given to me. I noticed after like 8 months the relationship will collapse if I ask him when is he coming to pay my bride price. They will just start acting up and the next minute they ghost me.

Even my last relationship that ended (the 3rd guy). We dated for almost a year, he even cheated on me I still forgive him and asked when is he coming to pay my bride price, he started acting up and ended the relationship. It's been 2 years now and no man has approached me.

All my life no man has approached me and I'm really depressed. I try to stay happy and busy but I find it difficult to be happy. I'm depressed. My younger brother is married with 2 kids.

I'm beautiful, hardworking, I dress decent, I'm brown skinned, I'm average height and slim. But I don't know I'm so depressed.

this kind of tin are best discussed with fathers...

Don't ever underestimate the usefulness of Ur father. Sister Goan and meet Ur father, I promise u will come here to thank God.

Wait...

I see Olufemi fani-kayode abi na my eye dey do me ni

ogashman:
Bro, can u explain this in details for me? Wanna learn

Nothing much, just that if u have a responsive spirit, then know that not all women out there are meant for you to climb. Some will render u useless why some will add betterment to Ur life, some wont add value and won't deter u.

NOTE...

Those ones who render u useless are not necessarily evil, they are good women, just that Ur spirit beings are not in agreement. Believe me or not, those women will be the perfect fit for another man.

Those who add good luck into Ur life are not necessarily good women, infact many of them are found of exhibiting bad behaviour like cheating, and all other vices, but since Ur spirit beings are on agreement beliv me all what u touches during the course of Ur relationship turns gold. Reason why u find some people who will rather forgive their cheating partners than to divorce them, it goes both ways.
Forgiving their cheating partners does not mean they will forget the pain, but Wen they tink of how the partner have impacted them emotionally and spiritually, den breaking up become wahala. But they won't tell u cus there is no how they will say it that it won't sound stupid to people's hearing, only the knowledgeable will understand.

fman:
The same

Allow op talk na, na u be the op??

slan87:
Your response to this question is very important, then you examine yourself very well.

Check your zodiac sign n your wife to be sure of your compatibility

Bro I never believed it until I had first hand experience

Smartford:
Good day fam, I newly got married in (April 2022) and my wife is now 2 months pregnant. I live in my own house of 2 bedroom apartment with another 1 bedroom apartment attached. I am a fresh graduate (have not gone for nysc.) Lost my job weeks to by wedding. Now the problem is that I have an out standing debts to the tone of 2.3mill. it includes a police bond which is due for payment last month, a couple of due loans from loan apps that are already unlishing all manner of treths, my in-law gave me 200k during my wedding and she is about to take a title in the village and needs money to run around (she have not asked for it but I can read the handwriting on the wall), and many unpleasant debts adding to the fact that I have no help from any family member as I am the first son, my parents are all retired and are using their pension to train younger ones. Uncle's are all making sure that no one in the family surpass their kids so have never and not ready to give 1kobo. it happens that almost all needs their money and some (police and loan app) may take legal actions against me anytime also to avoid my in-law from making unpleasant side talks. We bearly eat 3 square meal and there haven't been any income since April.
I have nothing doing, and my wife have nothing doing too. Depression pushed me into Yahoo but I am not seeing any light. I am also very fluent in programing Bitc0in investmeint websites, etc and as a result flooded both Facebook and nairaland with my ads which got by accounts banned. I have waited on the Lord and have submitted my application letter to several offices even to filling station, gas plants and at a point, I even applied at a bread factory all to no avail. All I have is my humble self with a bright future and a house at okpanam, asaba Delta State.
Note: I am ready to take any action even if it requires to start from scratch all over again as I am still young.

I need your advice,
What do you advice me to do.
Please help a brother.

Am sorry for this but I will still say it.

How was Ur life before u met Ur wife, and how was Ur life after u met her??

Owontime:
My question is,why can't IPOB people stay in their region and trade?
Abi dem curse una?

hunger!!!

That ladipo own worst... Chaii

The place just be like animals enclave.

thatigboman1:
read with understanding.
The lady is saying if seun can say on nairaland that opinions of nairalanders are the responsibilities of those that posted them, how can he then say the opinions of millions of Peter Obi's worldwide supporters are the responsibility of Peter Obi?
In other words "those that live in glass houses should not throw stones"

Okkkkkk

Na now I understand, make Obidients wey get brain like u no vex.. my bad


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DSC7:
Zonebeeee....


So because i am a Man United fan,,, Man united management should be held accountable for any atrocious act i commit?



Sense is really so far from all these Agbado boys walai...

So what are u sayin now?? Are we not saying saw thing??

paradiseVirgin:
Apart from programming what kind of remote skill can one aquire?

virtual assistance nko?

VERDA:
See them, mumu people...once they are told the truth they turn to insults, I have never seen ignorant people like this before.

Only the fuul behave like u

Ekundayo7574:
Lol that's Agbo japata, shout out to Awon Omo Oduduwa, APC for the trophy

immediately I saw the cap design, I know it's a gathering of the omoluabis.

Oodua agbewa ooh.

The lady should keepshut.

Owning a sm does not mean u cant have Ur view.

christistruth01:
Which Compound ?

that unfortunate bastærd is Osu ooh.

Osu no awon family weyrey.

Corridon:
I'm from Ilesha.

be proud of ur origin for once u this epileptic Osu

AstraDroid:
I did, and he was too fixated in getting US Passport, I have disconnected from him, cos he was supposed to focus on business in order to afford the EB5 visa category. He is not ready to face the reality of our survival in Africa. Wants where the roads are already paved. Now he is surviving instead of thriving.

Na so life be.

hmmm

Surviving instead of thriving.......word on marble.

AstraDroid:
Hahahahahaa You are making me laugh badly.

One of my friends who was managing a multimillion revenue business in Nigeria is now a taxi driver in America, he was busy delivering food to homes during the COVID lock down.

Ahaa, wait...u mean Ur real friend??
Why not advice him against it??

Well, I hope his income is better than the one he's making here sha. That is the koko.

AstraDroid:
That is it. Just budget for utilities annually and allocate the cash to those accounts and you do not have to worry about them. [People seem to prefer feeling sad about spending on fuel while wasting much on girls and frivolities.

Na delusional mindset, same mindset that make a woman leave her #2m job behind to go study over there, now dem say na caregiver she dey do

AstraDroid:
A smart way to look at it. Very smart approach, using Savings as a benchmark to measure progress. Most of the emigrants are citing health facilities, which also exists here also even at Abuja and VI which are way cheaper than abroad even if you were to fly to Lagos or Abuja and stay in porsche hotels for such treatment.

What also help me was deciding that I could spend less than the amount for utilities like electricity in Nigeria I could produce myself 24/7 electricity so what is the point complaining? Even if you dey abroad, you go still spend hire on electricity.

Some people do not think outside the box. People don dey wise up.

Abi oo...

Abi oo...


Talk about health facilities, Wen u re making it in dollars over here, or probably if u re making it big in naira u can go to a first-class hospital to have Ur health check-up with little compared to what u will be paying there consistently even when u re not needing the services for two years.

Electricity....well, u have said it all, get Ur standby mikano or Ur solar.

ibechris:
Just go...

In ten years to come,pls remind make we compare ourselves.

U will see why that place is no no for some hustlers like us.

Noooo, a no fit go where I can't make a savings of at least $1k savings a month.

Munamoqel:
yes oh .it the band wagon effect ! It feel like everyone is leaving and you are left .it has been so since the late 80 !

so how is the lady fairing now??

Munamoqel:
very true ! Most of the people flashing buggati veron are G boys abroad cos 99 percent of the citizens of this nation cannot afford it ! They are pro and cons of JAPA but Nigerians and bandwagon effect will not analyse thing properly and just join ! A LADY closed down her business that gives her net income of 2m monthly to move on a study visa now 3 month yet to get any job and been abused on the only care job she got !. The are good side and bad like the child care cost which is horrible in najia we used the extended family support ! Old people home , long wait time to.see a GP . housing crisis in Dublin you will pay 600 euro to be sharing room with strangers !

wait, a mumu lady closed down a #2m income venture to proceed on study visa??

Pls clear me a no too understand??

She's mad.

GlobTrotter:
wel I think this is not enough reason not to move. The money you save here in Nigeria, what cab you do with it?

well, the money u make in dollars are spent in dollars why the one u make in naira are spent in naira.

A normal surgery which cost just 200k in Nigeria can not be less that 1200£ in England..

Wen u re abroad, u don't do unnecessary conversion cus its needless, the only tym a conversion is needed is Wen u make it in one currency and spend in another currency.

Munamoqel:
don't change your plan .just lower your expectations and jakpa is not the magical key that solve all our aspirations as portray in Nigeria

I heard the regular savings, I mean an average savings for an average individual over there is 200 to 300$ after taxes and dues. Now I am thinking, even in Nigeria here, I used to have as much as that as savings here, so what is the essence??

I just want to try and learn one or two skills to be able to work remotely.

Imagine working remotely and earning dollars just to spend it in naira, even if it's as low as 10$ per hour.

Michelle70:
When Tinubu bow for a king- he is a slave
When Obi bow for Atiku, he is humble

When APC shared rice -it is bribe
When LP shared soap- it was supporters effort

APC supporters uses their brains
LP supporters are micro organisms