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I got a girls phone number from a friend and we have been chatting for a week now on phone (i do the calling),though we have not seen each other. She told me that she is not into any relationship so i asked her if we could date and she said no. But what baffles me is that she never ask me to stop sending her love text. I even asked her if she doesnt mined my txt and she said it is allowed and she is willing to come and see me. Could this mean that we might end up dating?
The Other Part: Now she has agreed to come and see me,but the problem is that the babe is a butty and am not.
My problem is where to receive her. I thought of using a friends house (though i will explain to her its a friends house) but am not comfortable with it. Taking her to a fast food joint is not an option for me on a first date. cos i dont like claiming what am not.
The issue here is that i dont want to create a bad impression and as they say,first impression last long,
Guys ,what do you think about the whole thing?

I got a girls phone number from a friend and we have been chatting for a week now on phone (i do the calling),though we have not seen each other. She told me that she is not into any relationship so i asked her if we could date and she said no. But what baffles me is that she never ask me to stop sending her love text. I even asked her if she doesnt mined my txt and she said it is allowed and she is willing to come and see me. Could this mean that we might end up dating?
The Other Part: Now she has agreed to come and see me,but the problem is that the babe is a butty and am not.
My problem is where to receive her. I thought of using a friends house (though i will explain to her its a friends house) but am not comfortable with it. Taking her to a fast food joint is not an option for me on a first date. cos i dont like claiming what am not.
The issue here is that i dont want to create a bad impression and as they say,first impression last long,
Guys ,what do you think about the whole thing?

I am glad that my post is appreciated.
Dear NL,I am thinking of increasing rules to 101 and then put it in an electronic book form. With all the tears guy at NL are shedding,the floor is over flowing and eyes are tired of this mishap.I thought it would be good to have the rule in a book.What do guy thimk? I must confess that this rules are based on my personal experience. I have had my own share of heart break more than once and I would advice anybody to avoid it like plague. it is better imagined than experienced!

Rule 1. There are different culture at different places. What may apply to American dating sphere may not apply in Naija. So forget all the American romance movie you watch
Rule 2 .Dont be too soft with any Naija girl/lady. If you do,alot of them wont take you serious. Learn to be aggressive sometime but appropriately.
Rule 3. If you are just starting out in the dating game, dont date a girl who might have dated over 3 guys in the past and you become the 4th. Chances are that you wont enjoy the relationship. She already know what you dont and might take advantage of you.
Rule 4. Never start a relationship by spending money on her. Doing so is like digging your own grave
Rule 5. If your girlfriend is having too many male friends than female friends,there is a probability that she is dating one. So keep your eyes peeled
Rule 6. Dont always agree to everything she tells you to do for her. She might take you to the cleaners.
Rule 7. Test her to see if she is submissive and co-operative by telling to do certain things for you.
Rule 8. Excessive calls should be reduced. Dont call too often. Most of them dont like it and dont appreciate it, I dont know why.
Rule 9. Dont say "am sorry" often,especially when you know you are not at fault.
Rule 10. The ratio of girls to boys in the world is like 2:1. This mean that there are more females than males in the world. Dont kill yourself because one girl just dont care about you. Besides,if you die, another guy will come after her. Why? Ladies are like products in the market!
Rule 11. Love her but dont over do it,

Am still waiting for more response

All those criticizing me,If you have never fallen mugu before,let me see your hands up.I know that she wants me back probably because most guys she has met over the last 8months since we broke up has not been caring like me. they probably want to use her and dump her. I also know that she loved the guy that deflowered her and that is why she gave him,but later discovered that the guy has no plan for her. All I want you to help me do,which nobody has been able to do,is answer some budging questions I have in mind. Why did she tell me that she had been disflowered? was it really a mistake,as she claimed? Is it easy or possible to forget the guy who deflowered her like she is presently acting? My only plan is to fk her,cos I never did,I then let her be. Do you think that my decision is right? If not,what do you suggest? Thank you. p.s I really need answers to this questions. Thanks All!

To all those who have criticized me,cant you read? Can you read that all this happened last year? If it were an exam,many NLander could have failed to summarise and extract the meaning of my post. I said I have learnt my lessons and am now a changed guy. What I have in mind is fk her sometime and get a nice,tall,light skin girl. aM in my mid 20s. I dont have any plans for her. i know she doesnt love me and nothing would ever make her love me. I know all this.

read me everyone,have you ever experienced it? well I have and I can authoritatively tell you its as damn as hell.

My ex did it to me. Its nt that she was giving any sign that she need and thats why I didnt bother her with It. to my surprise,she opened up and told me that had been Zap.d.

its been over 8 months now and I still havent gotten over it. I dont see how the guy in question would. looking at the past 7years that they have been together. What stop such a girl from discussing with her B.F if she needed sexxx. Its just that girls,as I have finally realised,dont understand their emotion.my ex wants us to continue but am not considering it as something serious like I used to.that means there is no way i will marry her like had planed b4 nd that means we are just dating,Zap.i.n.g,and she is waisting her time. the girl in this thread has not only lost her virginity but the respect her B.F has for her. The Aristo wont marry her. because it happend to my ex. d guy that deflowerd her abandoned her.

190. I am not angry by your words. Infact I liked it because it gives me a mirror view of my old self.I can confidently tell you that I am a changed person now. I have to make this girl pay for what she did! I know what I did to one of them 2months ago. I just used her and kickd the bitch out. there is another one in my home town who I know to love me. am just going to fk and tose her off. I dont give damn anymore. but I have to deal with the one who caused it first and thats y am playing the gentle role. Infact ,my plan is to just be fking her to make her feel like, she thinks she can hold me with sexxx. She would be surprised 2find out that after everything, I still got married to a tall light skin sweet 16.

her said that the girl was sorry& she regreted everything.me,she is just pretending because she finally realised dat most guys out there wouldnt give her free money like I did,without sleeping with her.I called her at night& told her that I had forgiven her,even when she did not ask 4it. I did that because of her friend and because I realised that I wasnt thinking clearly due to anger.after.I told her I 4gave her,the idiot wanted us to continue. I did everything to let her know that she has no place in my life,even telling her that i dont have money to spend,she kept disturbing me. so I thought to myself that am just going to Zap and dump her afterall she ate my money.Now she is acting like a good girl.Is it easy for her to just forget the guy that deflowered her like she is acting now.i knw girls dont easily forget the guy that deflowered her,even in years to come. what does she want from me? i knw she lovd d guy becos she kept saying i like x while she narated how d guy deflowerd her.why did she tell me?

I went to buy her snack but on return,I met her with another guy. with the look in the guys eyes,I knew something was a connection between. I went upstairs to drop the snacks but remembered I had not bought the mineral so i went down to get it but to my suprise this girl had left with the guy. I came out looking for her but she was nowhere to be found and this was about 8p.m i kept calling her on phone but all she said was I will be right back until when I called one more time she then said she then said she was not coming back that night then i kept calling her. After much talk she showed up at abov to 10 at night. She did not let me touch that her night so I that if she could allow the guy in P.H deflower her and refused to let me then there is no point waisting my time with her. I thought over everything and realised she never loved me. So I quit the relationship in August last year. In March this year she started disturbing me to call her which i refused. but after her friend pleaded on heq behalf,I ,

As we continued,I kept helping her with money. April 2009,I checked her email but only to find out that she sent an email to the guy in March.She never sent me any before. Then I sent an email to the guy that she is my G.F. the reply that came back shocked me. he said he wasnt competing with me and I and my G.F should sort ourself out. this was coming from a guy who once promised to marry her.I knew this because once calld him with givin my identity. the guy told me. So after I got thE email reply,i knew he had slept with her and dumpd her. Then in August she told me she made a mistake and that the guy slept with her and that she was sorry because she had lost her vaginity.for weeks I was not myself. Guys,you can imagine how I felt on hearing that and considering what I go through to raise money I send to her. In the midst of that emotional trauma i was going through, she said she would like to come to benin to see me. I managed to raise N10,000 and sent for her and she came. On the eve of that same day ,

What am about to share here had been done by me before September last year and people of NL blamed me and of which I accepted.But there is a new development which I will like to also share with you. Please note that its not that am sympathizing with her after what she did to me but I just want to know what she could be thinking as it will guide me in the future.Beside,I have no plan for because I am just going to use and dump her. It all started November 2008 .She started dating a guy in P.H and while I be in benin sending her money to help her. Its not that I am from a rich home,but youk know those things that you would do for someone you love and care about and trying to be understanding. So when I found out about her infidelity,a quarrel ensued. she said she did it because of money since her parent werent supportive.Then on that same day she said she is still dating X that I should know now. then some days later she told me that she has stopped seeing the guy. she apologised for her action and we continued

Let's read from you and learn.I would have love to start this but frankly speaking,i dont have girlfriend at the moment because my last experience was awful .
The girl dealt with big time and i even made a post here in NL and alot of guys blamed me .
I actually accepted it as my fault. And at the moment I dont feel anything called love for any girl,irrespective of her beauty. And i dont think i would in the next four years. I meant it. Besides,am only in my mid twenties.
So guys of to you. Would you marry your present boyfriend or girlfriend? If yes,please tell us why.

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My apple mac have a problem for over 6Mönths now. I was using it,the picture screen froze, the mouse pointer disappeared,without patience,i removd d battery and re-inserted it then on it, but to my greatest surprised i could only see a white/grey screen. After a few minutes it would display a flashing folder with question mark at the middle then it automatically goes off. Sometime if i immediately hold a key after turning on power a flashing globe display then it goes off. Please help. What could be the problem cos i tried various repairer but they keep saying they cant repair it. I live in benin city,edo state. What part do i need to change

i actually ended mine in august,2009
why?
she got PH, after awhile she doesnt call me baby like she used to

, mmmh she probably didnt want another guy to know that she has another guy,so i thought.

what next? she got back to ASABA, i paid her a visit and saw some text from another

Question: who is sending you this kind of text.

ANSWER: YOU KNOW AM A BEAUTIFUL GIRL,

my heart was pumping, but i calmed down

Got my fathers house and called back to ask her again,but her reply was still the same

we had a quarrel over it,later settle, and she told she has stop seeing the when she got back to PH.

SO, i took it like that,

then in august she told me she had been f, ck,and deflowered

Question: by who

ANSWER: the same old guy,

she apologised but, and begged me to f, ck her,

i actually accepted to f, ck her

then invited her to benin but guest what?

ANOTHER SHOCKER!,

she arrived from PH,we got to an hotel

she said she wants to see her friend, i allowed her,

she came back and said she would like to eat meatpie and drink coke, i went out side to get it for her,

on returning, i met with another guy chatting, now i was not angry though but my anger was that she did not tell me she was expecting some one, she even claim the was her friend, why? probably had some thing fishy going on between them.

i forgot 2get her the mineral and then got back 2buy it but to my surprise this girl was no where to be found at the spot where i had left them,

So i started calling her on phone ,

HER REPLY: pls am sorry i will explain when i get back, i was still thinking that they were very close

then i called up to 4 times, the reply she gave me was that she cant come back this was around to 10 at night

on getting back still transfered airtime to her phone, then what a text came in but she refused me from seeing it, the next thing said was that we should stop checking each other's text and that it her privacy


She still refused me from f, cking her .then the next day, i called it a quite i just could not gone any longer,

this really affected my respect for girls i dont think i would ever be nice to any girl, again

why? because i spent money on this girl,i care for her ,starv myself because of her but what did i get NL?

for this reason i will just be fucking girls without taking any one serious, ever since i havent gotten into any relationship, but there is this girl i had be asking out . she is just display those usuall empty girly "shakara" but i know its nothing, when i get her, i will simply f, uck her,and while at it i will call that my ex so that she can here the all the moans,

Frankly there 3 in number now, one is at my home town, hmmm this love me no be small oh she has be aroound since i was dating that idiot,while another is on blind date, she never me but she don fall in love,she is afriend to my cousing, then the 3rd one is just at my back yard,

what am i going to do with all of them, ? Zap and. D.U.M.P,

Sorry girls it not my fault. you have read it all

beside am just 25 why the rush,

thats my own story why i ended my last relationship,