ayokellany:
Na wa O. Should he now marry you by force. Person say he no get money for real gold or expensive things.

madone:
I think u re too pushy and u have a nag for picking a fight over trivial issues ,maybr na too much book.sweet heart no african man will stick to a lady that argue and fight everytime with big big grammar. Gold was not in the wedding item u got angry.i think ur guy just tire for ur tomuch drama.listen girl in nigeria here a guy that travel to u.s to see his babe deserves worship from other ladies and am sure he has seen a worshipper... Not a fighter

madone:
I think u re too pushy and u have a nag for picking a fight over trivial issues ,maybr na too much book.sweet heart no african man will stick to a lady that argue and fight everytime with big big grammar. Gold was not in the wedding item u got angry.i think ur guy just tire for ur tomuch drama.listen girl in nigeria here a guy that travel to u.s to see his babe deserves worship from other ladies and am sure he has seen a worshipper... Not a fighter

OgahBohz:
;let me keep this space Nd come bk to comment



the poster above me ..pls am in front of ur back Incase..

PatriotTemidayo:
Every piece of advice am about to give is curled out of your write-up. First, I think you think too highly of yourself and less about him. Secondly, picking a fight over him watching porn describe you as Naive and close-minded cus like you've said, you're in the US and he's in Nigeria, how else did you think he survived? Thirdly, you do not appreciate the fact that while you're busy pursuing you personal educational agendas, he was very understanding for waiting for you, that was a big sacrifice.
Lastly, you live in the US and called Nigeria's Item inferior? That's absolute ignorance. I think your parents and family are top used to very expensive and imported items that they forgot that stuffs in Nigeria ain't exactly the same quality as that of the US, and I am sure your people just wanna make an issue for this. I think they got another hidden suitor someone and I think they suddenly think your man of 7 years is not worthy of their heavy investment who is now a PhD in-making.

Think.

You said they dont wanna sell you so why should box of gold matter?

If they don't wanna collect so much money from his family, so how much does a box of gold cost?

As far as am concerned, he has the right to break up with your ass cuz you've been so carried away with the word "YOU" that you forget you're trying to build a relationship, and not a factory.

Don't blame him, but make amend. And make it humbly. Your doctorate degree, your Green card and your family and stuffs wouldn't help you get a man. He was your man b4 you got to this level, be wise.

lustra89:
Wait, like for real, he watch Porn with ur laptop and you picked a quarrel, and because he bought cheap items u also picked a quarrel, then why are u bothered with making things up with him, my friend get down from your high horse and be humble for one's, tomorrow I guess you will quarrel with him for using a sub standard sperm on you

slurryeye2:


You said white people's lifes are much better than those of blacks. As someone that lives with them, have them as colleagues and interact with them on daily basis for over 6 years now, I will rather be a black man over and over again. See, the problem black race has is that humongous number of us are ignorant. Get black people enlightened and see them rule the world.

slurryeye2:


You said white people's lifes are much better than those of blacks. As someone that lives with them, have them as colleagues and interact with them on daily basis for over 6 years now, I will rather be a black man over and over again. See, the problem black race has is that humongous number of us are ignorant. Get black people enlightened and see them rule the world.

AfricanCalabash:
No gold jewelries and u picked a fight, did u ask him whether he has the money- learn to appreciate any present and gift no matter how little

He watched porn with your laptop and u picked a fight, an adult you called a future husband, well tnx for informing us that he do not have a laptop but lemme tell it is only a Man that love and respect u will travel all the way to US to visit u leaving his business and other olosho behind bcs he cares for you (the hole is the same whether Ph.D or illiterate).

You are so self centered u have Ph.D, Professor, Harvard, Oxford, Cambridge name them, i hope this Man is a graduate before you kill him with your intimidation.

To get a good husband this days is not easy

Seven yrs is not a joke, however, if he is meant for u from divine he will surely kom back. just pray and ask God for forgiveness.

Remember this Man did not run away, he actually went to your family to perform traditional marriage rites! but u and your mother discouraged him

AfricanCalabash:
No gold jewelries and u picked a fight, did u ask him whether he has the money- learn to appreciate any present and gift no matter how little

He watched porn with your laptop and u picked a fight, an adult you called a future husband, well tnx for informing us that he do not have a laptop but lemme tell it is only a Man that love and respect u will travel all the way to US to visit u leaving his business and other olosho behind bcs he cares for you (the hole is the same whether Ph.D or illiterate).

You are so self centered u have Ph.D, Professor, Harvard, Oxford, Cambridge name them, i hope this Man is a graduate before you kill him with your intimidation.

To get a good husband this days is not easy

Seven yrs is not a joke, however, if he is meant for u from divine he will surely kom back. just pray and ask God for forgiveness.

Remember this Man did not run away, he actually went to your family to perform traditional marriage rites! but u and your mother discouraged him

AfricanCalabash:
No gold jewelries and u picked a fight, did u ask him whether he has the money- learn to appreciate any present and gift no matter how little

He watched porn with your laptop and u picked a fight, an adult you called a future husband, well tnx for informing us that he do not have a laptop but lemme tell it is only a Man that love and respect u will travel all the way to US to visit u leaving his business and other olosho behind bcs he cares for you (the hole is the same whether Ph.D or illiterate).

You are so self centered u have Ph.D, Professor, Harvard, Oxford, Cambridge name them, i hope this Man is a graduate before you kill him with your intimidation.

To get a good husband this days is not easy

Seven yrs is not a joke, however, if he is meant for u from divine he will surely kom back. just pray and ask God for forgiveness.

Remember this Man did not run away, he actually went to your family to perform traditional marriage rites! but u and your mother discouraged him

grafixdon:


Senseless advice.

aribisala0:
[s]I don't agree with this one. If you live outside Nigeria don't watch porn on another person's laptop it could cost them their job,reputation or prison depending on their profession especially if it is used for work. We can all see the grief Hillary Clinton went through. I have nothing against people watching porn but if you do it in the USA be almost sure it is recorded against your name unless you take professional steps to hide it. So if that sort of thing is going to happen in my name I should have a say. If you are applying for a Green Card you don't want to be doing careless things
Every other thing is just vanity,that the items he bought were cheap? OP just revealed a side to her background that will make many men run.Any man that marries her marries trouble[/s]

Culin:
7 years ontop a man. 3months is enough for me to know a relationship that won't lead anywhere.

ayokellany:
Na wa O. Should he now marry you by force. Person say he no get money for real gold or expensive things.

ultimateballer:

America is the biggest porn consumer, wtf are you talking about? lol

yhemster:
Please ladies you need to understand this, its 2017 and the length of ur relationship will never be a yardstick to getting married.
The OP claimed her 7years relationship is out of the window, and she's crying out. . I have heard lots of ladies making this claim as well, that their X years of relationship cannot be thrown out just like that. At the end of the day, they force their way into the marriage. In my school of thought, a bad relationship no matter this number of years is prefer to a bad married life.

Back to the issue at hand, I feel for both parties in this relationship.
THE DUDE: Its unfortunate that the dude has tried his best to make things work, The OP claimed he travelled to the US to visit her. Thats lot of money invested into travel. Definitely, the dude is comfortable in Naija, have a secured source(s) of income. He probably have lots of admirers around him in Naija. Apart from the fund invested on travel, he must have invested his sleeping hours (different time zone) and some cash on data for video calls and facetime. Also, sending of gift items for birthdays and valentine days (FX isn't cheap). The truth is a guy with this level of achievement needs to be respected and appreciated (if not worshipped, ).

THE LADY: She also has invested her sleeping hours, staying focus on her studies (it can be boring sometimes, as it quite difficult to make friends) , not so much on data (one of the cheapest commodities in the US). It is very obvious that the US environment has influenced the lady's attitude towards everythings. She probably thinks her beliefs and opinions abt life should set the tone of the relationship. I laughed, this trend will definitely escalate after the lady have secured her green card and have to invite the guy to the US. I think the OP understands the difficulty to secure a productive relationship in the US community, which seems to be the reason she wants the marriage with the dude by fire by thunder. Some raised a good point, that her parent seems not in support of the marriage with the dude. Since they are the sponsor of the lady's foreign education their opinion will definitely get validated.
I'm a sorry to chip in my story, I'm a US passport carrier who's currently in Naija for some business runs. I've lived in the US for more than 8 years and the UK for 2 plus years. I've studied trends of ladies with similar situation and I can confidently say the end result of these people when married is very scary. Well, some guys can be lucky but it's a minute percentage of them. Ladies who relocate to the western country as adult (>16 years old) overuse the privilege of woman power.

At the end of the day if the relationship is going to work, the guy has to trend carefully. I will just advise, if the guy makes good income in Naija he shouldn't relocate to the lady yet. He should wait till the lady start earning her income, that's the point when ego rub against ego. He should watch for any change in attitude/ life styles. if the coast is clear, he can go join her and if not, he should sit back and dissolve the union. Both parties should compromise by travelling twice a year. The lady must acknowledge the fact that her boo is a king in Nigeria and he deserve all the respect and appreciation. The dude too must understand he's out of Nigeria, there's going to be some balancing to the role of both parties in the marriage.

Loisemm:
Nairalanders ooo. Una don yab the girl finish sotay she deactivate her handle.
Sorry dear. Oya come back. We only scolded you to correct and point you in the right direction like families do.
My dear, make up with your fiance. I feel he is a good man. But if he doesn't want again, face front...finish ur program and focus on getting another good man there. Truth be told, its not easy to find a suitable down to earth husband material over there. I am not there but I have friends there. You will get o but it may take sometime.

ultimateballer:

America is the biggest porn consumer, wtf are you talking about? lol

madone:
I think u re too pushy and u have a nag for picking a fight over trivial issues ,maybr na too much book.sweet heart no african man will stick to a lady that argue and fight everytime with big big grammar. Gold was not in the wedding item u got angry.i think ur guy just tire for ur tomuch drama.listen girl in nigeria here a guy that travel to u.s to see his babe deserves worship from other ladies and am sure he has seen a worshipper... Not a fighter

If you in lagos, I owe you a carton of chillllllled origin.

lanrywatt:
You are the best person to tell us if the relationship is worth fighting for or not. From your write up, it obvious the guy is not into you like that, it seems you are the one forcing the whole thing on him.. .. Abeg let him be. Move on with your life.
Someone better will come

Loisemm:
Nairalanders ooo. Una don yab the girl finish sotay she deactivate her handle.
Sorry dear. Oya come back. We only scolded you to correct and point you in the right direction like families do.
My dear, make up with your fiance. I feel he is a good man. But if he doesn't want again, face front...finish ur program and focus on getting another good man there. Truth be told, its not easy to find a suitable down to earth husband material over there. I am not there but I have friends there. You will get o but it may take sometime.

madone:
I think u re too pushy and u have a nag for picking a fight over trivial issues ,maybr na too much book.sweet heart no african man will stick to a lady that argue and fight everytime with big big grammar. Gold was not in the wedding item u got angry.i think ur guy just tire for ur tomuch drama.listen girl in nigeria here a guy that travel to u.s to see his babe deserves worship from other ladies and am sure he has seen a worshipper... Not a fighter

nurshah:



Guy no be only that .. Make she go church do thanks giving... Marrying that man would have been a big mistake

Watching Indecency,no respect for you and u felt he was good enough to be the father of your kids??

Haba ladies .. No matter how much we are in love ,do a simple test ,is he good enough to be the father of your children ? That's all