dotedote:
Was it also the mother that asked her to turn the porn matter to an issue ?
Op needs to be talked to.
Swallow all ds ya yeye pride and live simply.

Sammiejokes:

another naija Pharisee, you don yab us and why have you not advise her publicly, naa private you wan do, so as to ask for private help abi. shior

dangotesmummy:
just a gold box is now something too much to satisfy your wife/family

In some cultures,I don't want to mention the name of the ethnic group because I'm not here for tribal nonsense.

In some ethnic groups where a groom will spend millions of naira on bride Price. Buy expensive wrappers for the brides mother and father, palmwine for brides uncles and other extended family nko? They will call those people gold digger.just box


Oyinbos say WHATEVER IS WORTH DOING IS WORTH DOING WELL. so it's either you do it well or you don't do it at all.yes I understand that she is taking a trivial issue seriously but at least COMMUNICATE before coming to a dead end instead of just making an abrupt and rash decision

joenor:
seriousy, oya take any, I dey come

Originalsly:
Was she asking for advice? ... she specifically wanted to know if the relationship was worth fighting for and if she deserved to be ehmmm...dumped. The comments addressed her questions.... and let her know why.

dangotesmummy:
1.possibly
2.unnecessary
3.agree
4not necessary. Do a self examination yourself. You don't need anyone's opinion to evaluate where you're wrong. The next man might not think the same way.people are different and what annoys people differs
5.kini big deal.he came OF HIS OWN ACCORD.HE WASN'T FORCED OR EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATED.he could have communicated with her via Skype,phone calls, text messages, whatsapp video calls or messages.I mean there are many ways of communicating to others in another country. This is 2017.ICT is everywhere so don't make it look as if he did her a huge favor. He felt like going that's why he went if he didn't want to go nothing will make him to
6.did she say she's the vain or materialistic type whobis always asking her boyfriend for everything
7.msheewwww.so because a relationship didn't lead to marriage that is what made her not humble.


Smh

Sammiejokes:

Seems u kept a blind eye to where she wrote the father insisted they keep the gift simple, he is not selling his daughter. What do you expect the guy to do when his fiancee breaks up on issues like porn. The Lady should look for a pastor abegi.

dangotesmummy:
1.possibly
2.unnecessary
3.agree
4not necessary. Do a self examination yourself. You don't need anyone's opinion to evaluate where you're wrong. The next man might not think the same way.people are different and what annoys people differs
5.kini big deal.he came OF HIS OWN ACCORD.HE WASN'T FORCED OR EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATED.he could have communicated with her via Skype,phone calls, text messages, whatsapp video calls or messages.I mean there are many ways of communicating to others in another country. This is 2017.ICT is everywhere so don't make it look as if he did her a huge favor. He felt like going that's why he went if he didn't want to go nothing will make him to
6.did she say she's the vain or materialistic type whobis always asking her boyfriend for everything
7.msheewwww.so because a relationship didn't lead to marriage that is what made her not humble.


Smh

dangotesmummy:
filthy thing.see how dirty your environment is and you cannot clean it up


You must be a very dirty person.do you take your bath everyday? Obun oshi.pig

dangotesmummy:
you seem to enjoy filth a lot. You love dirt around you.seems you cannot clean yourself up talk more of your environment. Pigs will love your type of person so you can keep them as pets.they'll make a good company for you since your environment is habitable for them

dangotesmummy:
I'm indifferent about porn.porn is relative.some people think its morally wrong the religious folks think it's a sin but I don't see any big deal in watching porn as long as you're not addicted or trying to practice whatever you watch in it because the actors are on drugs ,strong sedatives and aphrodisiacs so watching it and expecting your partner to have sex like a sex slave is unreasonable.

Secondly I don't know why you men think when a woman has wants its pride.this is what she wants the only problem is her approach which was wrong. She came in as someone with an entitlement mentality instead of being more discrete

As for her PhD, PhD is like any other degree so you men having inferiority or superiority complex or her PhD is making you feel threatened or less of a man,one word grow up

dangotesmummy:
dude your house is irritating.it's not a sight to behold at all.stop displaying your dirtiness.

ChiefSweetus:

you severely lack your moniker.
Chimamanda-àss motherfuckress!

Sammiejokes:

Thrash. if she wants gold she can get it as a PhD holder to be. She has no moral right to be angry on issue of bride gifts as a feminist that you are. Who PHD help, when it comes to relationship, PHD is irrelevant and no one care about her PHD in marriage. be a wife and mother provb 31

dangotesmummy:
gbam.that's why I said if it's about her PhD that is making your penis or ego threatened receive sense because PhD has nothing to do with marriage I see some of you that sees a woman with a masters or PhD you start getting unnecessarily aggressive when no one is fighting with you

PhD is like any cloth or shoe.its a possession and when you think PhD is a threat to your ego you're not a man and meanwhile shut up with the feminist thing. Go and find out what feminism means before misusing the word

And yes if she wants gold She'll get it herself. True that but it's what her family wants so I repeat again WHATEVER IS WORTH DOING IS WORTH DOING WELL.be a man and stop letting stuffs like this get to you

sben2308:




If in dis dispensation u could say this that its just an excuse den I say u r more dillusional dan OP herself

madone:
I think u re too pushy and u have a nag for picking a fight over trivial issues ,maybr na too much book.sweet heart no african man will stick to a lady that argue and fight everytime with big big grammar. Gold was not in the wedding item u got angry.i think ur guy just tire for ur tomuch drama.listen girl in nigeria here a guy that travel to u.s to see his babe deserves worship from other ladies and am sure he has seen a worshipper... Not a fighter

tayorh:
4. Someppu don't know when they are wrong, they always believe Whatever they do is right. She might not see anything wrong with her behaviour.

5. My point exactly, he could have stayed back but he chose to travel, only a guy who loves his babe wil leave Nigeria to the USA to see her.

6. She ruined her relationship because he bought inferior Gold, pls what does that mean?

Hussyhope84:


is there any woman that put her eggs one basket this days all women this days are cheats, from her explanation she painted her self as been honest sticking to the guy alone that's the nature of all women they lie a lot I believe even when she's Over there she must have dated several men and her frequent quarrels with the guy is just for excuse so that the guy can willingly opt out. Young lady uve gotten what you wanted why ask us for advice now. To me you just see the guy as second option that why the issue of gold came up. you can now go to the person you think will absorb ur excesses and provide unlimited gold for you when you need it.am so happy for the guy for opting out of trouble.

PatriotTemidayo:
Every piece of advice am about to give is curled out of your write-up. First, I think you think too highly of yourself and less about him. Secondly, picking a fight over him watching porn describe you as Naive and close-minded cus like you've said, you're in the US and he's in Nigeria, how else did you think he survived? Thirdly, you do not appreciate the fact that while you're busy pursuing you personal educational agendas, he was very understanding for waiting for you, that was a big sacrifice.
Lastly, you live in the US and called Nigeria's Item inferior? That's absolute ignorance. I think your parents and family are top used to very expensive and imported items that they forgot that stuffs in Nigeria ain't exactly the same quality as that of the US, and I am sure your people just wanna make an issue for this. I think they got another hidden suitor someone and I think they suddenly think your man of 7 years is not worthy of their heavy investment who is now a PhD in-making.

Think.

You said they dont wanna sell you so why should box of gold matter?

If they don't wanna collect so much money from his family, so how much does a box of gold cost?

As far as am concerned, he has the right to break up with your ass cuz you've been so carried away with the word "YOU" that you forget you're trying to build a relationship, and not a factory.


Don't blame him, but make amend. And make it humbly. Your doctorate degree, your Green card and your family and stuffs wouldn't help you get a man. He was your man b4 you got to this level, be wise.

PatriotTemidayo:
Every piece of advice am about to give is curled out of your write-up. First, I think you think too highly of yourself and less about him. Secondly, picking a fight over him watching porn describe you as Naive and close-minded cus like you've said, you're in the US and he's in Nigeria, how else did you think he survived? Thirdly, you do not appreciate the fact that while you're busy pursuing you personal educational agendas, he was very understanding for waiting for you, that was a big sacrifice.
Lastly, you live in the US and called Nigeria's Item inferior? That's absolute ignorance. I think your parents and family are top used to very expensive and imported items that they forgot that stuffs in Nigeria ain't exactly the same quality as that of the US, and I am sure your people just wanna make an issue for this. I think they got another hidden suitor someone and I think they suddenly think your man of 7 years is not worthy of their heavy investment who is now a PhD in-making.

Think.

You said they dont wanna sell you so why should box of gold matter?

If they don't wanna collect so much money from his family, so how much does a box of gold cost?

As far as am concerned, he has the right to break up with your ass cuz you've been so carried away with the word "YOU" that you forget you're trying to build a relationship, and not a factory.


Don't blame him, but make amend. And make it humbly. Your doctorate degree, your Green card and your family and stuffs wouldn't help you get a man. He was your man b4 you got to this level, be wise.

PatriotTemidayo:
Every piece of advice am about to give is curled out of your write-up. First, I think you think too highly of yourself and less about him. Secondly, picking a fight over him watching porn describe you as Naive and close-minded cus like you've said, you're in the US and he's in Nigeria, how else did you think he survived? Thirdly, you do not appreciate the fact that while you're busy pursuing you personal educational agendas, he was very understanding for waiting for you, that was a big sacrifice.
Lastly, you live in the US and called Nigeria's Item inferior? That's absolute ignorance. I think your parents and family are top used to very expensive and imported items that they forgot that stuffs in Nigeria ain't exactly the same quality as that of the US, and I am sure your people just wanna make an issue for this. I think they got another hidden suitor someone and I think they suddenly think your man of 7 years is not worthy of their heavy investment who is now a PhD in-making.

Think.

You said they dont wanna sell you so why should box of gold matter?

If they don't wanna collect so much money from his family, so how much does a box of gold cost?

As far as am concerned, he has the right to break up with your ass cuz you've been so carried away with the word "YOU" that you forget you're trying to build a relationship, and not a factory.


Don't blame him, but make amend. And make it humbly. Your doctorate degree, your Green card and your family and stuffs wouldn't help you get a man. He was your man b4 you got to this level, be wise.

neocortex:


I will advise you post in pidgin so people can understand your comment.
Your indecisive hero waited 2,3...7 years before he realise he doesn't
want marriage using a flimsy excuse.

What a coward he is!

fadario:


It seems he just ain't serious about all this. Even if you guys dated for 10 years, it doesn't guarantee anything. Why don't we give it a try and see the chemistry between us. Let's be serious and mature. PM me let's talk.

neocortex:


When a person you don't want in your life decides to opt-out, so
your reaction will be to feel sad and complain ?

Any sane man/woman will actually celebrate such event not brood over it.

So your comment is pointless and illogical.