beautiful232:
move on babe
a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

GOD will send someone better and someone that is meant for you ok...

believe this at your own peril

many have been waiting

beautiful232:
move on babe
a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

GOD will send someone better and someone that is meant for you ok...

a man who stood by a woman for 5yrs while she was busy pursuing her career, also tried as much as visited her in U.S during the period and eventually stood by his promise to marry her will surely get a better person after the break up. marriage is not all about money or qualification, it is mainly about happiness

Your father didn't want his money but mother and other members of your family were expecting TREASURES. don't deceive yourself, let your family get you somebody that will give them one of the loaded Osborne flats. Foolish greedy custom.

Brownbarbie97:
Today is my birthdayyyyy Show me love fam

Happy Birthday dear Barbie

Forget begging.... can the leopard change its spots? Actions speak louder than words.....you played yourself. What you have shown is you are easily pissed off and have no problem fighting and disrespecting him.... at a time when a relationship should be at its smoothest. What will happen in marriage when real problems and misunderstandings will arise?...what will happen when he struggles to buy you a ehmmm.... cheap Toyota when you expected a G Wagon to match your then Phd?...and Green Card? You and your family need to stop wasting time and start shopping a man that you can control.... you need a husband with a house boy mentality but money in his pockets...keep flashing your Green Card status... they'll find you.Smart guy. ...see you waving red flags. .. he out!

ChiefSweetus:
OP sounds like a silver spoon entitled petulant nag with snobbish mother who didnt work hard but became proud when her gentle husband hit gold.

Mother wants society wedding with Chief & Mrs Bleep's rich and handsome son.

OPs boyfriend is selfmade. His monthly earning is about 600k right now.. but they dont know he's going to be way more successful in 10yrs. Even if they know, they dont care.. they want their sweet and intelligent USA PHD daughter to marry into old money or "pedigree".

OPs boyfriend is finally realising the truth. There will be no happiness with an insatiable horror of a mother in law.. and a naive nagging entitled sanctimonous princess bride who doesnt even suck dïckkk.

His ego has kept him in the relationship thus far because he enjoys his friends telling oboy your babe set.. fine girl, rich family, even if she no sabi cook baba una go hire maid.

Also, OP is Roman Catholic and boyfriend isnt.

If I'm wrong on any of these I'll delete my NL.

You've said it all.

sben2308:




It's not an insult but an advise which she asked for herself....

I have read through and I never saw any advice. Everyone has been blaming her and saying she deserves to be dumped by the man. Is that what you call advice? Nobody has stated any solution to the problem.

Nairaland needs to learn from quora.com like someone already stated here.

Abeg this thing just weak me. Haba.
@Op I'd like to talk to you in private ...

LePrezident:
Lol. So OP picked a fight with her bf because he was watching porn? Smh. Not because he was caught cheating o, because he was watching ordinary porn that 99.79% of men watch including pastors? OP must be a drama queen.

The .79% got me cracking lol. Good thinking man.

otobomax:


Only the rich marry the rich orientation. Maybe the guy no dey their standard n they'll end up pushing the guy away even if he was meant for her.

Exactly

dangotesmummy:
just a gold box is now something too much to satisfy your wife/family

In some cultures,I don't want to mention the name of the ethnic group because I'm not here for tribal nonsense.

In some ethnic groups where a groom will spend millions of naira on bride Price. Buy expensive wrappers for the brides mother and father, palmwine for brides uncles and other extended family nko? They will call those people gold digger.just box


Oyinbos say WHATEVER IS WORTH DOING IS WORTH DOING WELL. so it's either you do it well or you don't do it at all.yes I understand that she is taking a trivial issue seriously but at least COMMUNICATE before coming to a dead end instead of just making an abrupt and rash decision

Seems u kept a blind eye to where she wrote the father insisted they keep the gift simple, he is not selling his daughter. What do you expect the guy to do when his fiancee breaks up on issues like porn. The Lady should look for a pastor abegi.

madone:
I think u re too pushy and u have a nag for picking a fight over trivial issues ,maybr na too much book.sweet heart no african man will stick to a lady that argue and fight everytime with big big grammar. Gold was not in the wedding item u got angry.i think ur guy just tire for ur tomuch drama.listen girl in nigeria here a guy that travel to u.s to see his babe deserves worship from other ladies and am sure he has seen a worshipper... Not a fighter

what will i dash you now oooo... u be better pikin

Lamore:



Happy Birthday dear Barbie

Thank you

you got into a fight because he bought cheap stuff? he dodged a bullet, he should rejoice he is no longer getting married to you.

SammyAx - you fu*ked up and pursued a good man away because of your ego, pride and self-entitlement mentality. I hope the guy never comes back, so that you learn your lesson.

Seriously you picked a fight because he watched porn? the guy dodged a bullet.

ikp120:
So you had a fight because nigga no put gold item?

I would have deleted everything about you that same day too.

Don't be offended o, but this is the best that you deserve right now.

guy just stop this na before I do you something.
You made me laugh loud.
Have a nice day bro

lovethchioma:
I have read through and I never saw any advice. Everyone has been blaming her and saying she deserves to be left by the man. Is that what you call advice? Nobody has stated any solution to the problem.

Nairaland needs to learn from quora.com like someone already stated here.

Abeg this thing just weak me. Haba.
@Op I'd like to talk to you in private ...

another naija Pharisee, you don yab us and why have you not advise her publicly, naa private you wan do, so as to ask for private help abi. shior

madam you are not serious oh u picked up quarrel just becos there is no gold item's in d stuff he bought for u. and u could not consider his reason for not buying expensive things. suppose those things are expensive ur people might not even send it to you.. my dear ur wedding day or marriage day is not marriage. marriage start after celebration. well d reason why he broke up is that he thought you cannot manage his home. you will end up considering expensive material things before anything in your home because u just show case your high value for expensive material things. Madam its left for you to handle..
you can still change his mind if you want to because I believe you can. according to d Bible in proverb... women have the power to make their home.

Helo my sis,pls dnt be 2 harsh on hm agn,he's realy dr 4 U.try to expln thgs beta with him in a gud way.cn tell hm lovingly dt pls go bk nd include ds in d item,just wisdom he dnt knw.dnt alws put Ur parents wish at him,so dt he dsnt feel dey wld wnt to alws cntrl d affair. My piece,go bk to hm 7yrs nt a joke its wrth dyn 4.

suzan404:


He said he doesn't want you anymore....then look for your boyfriend else....or do you wanna keep begging him.....just leave him alone and cheer up..... 7yrs relationship sef na wahala

See them.

I hv noted ur username

Heart killers

PatriotTemidayo:
Every piece of advice am about to give is curled out of your write-up. First, I think you think too highly of yourself and less about him. Secondly, picking a fight over him watching porn describe you as Naive and close-minded cus like you've said, you're in the US and he's in Nigeria, how else did you think he survived? Thirdly, you do not appreciate the fact that while you're busy pursuing you personal educational agendas, he was very understanding for waiting for you, that was a big sacrifice.
Lastly, you live in the US and called Nigeria's Item inferior? That's absolute ignorance. I think your parents and family are top used to very expensive and imported items that they forgot that stuffs in Nigeria ain't exactly the same quality as that of the US, and I am sure your people just wanna make an issue for this. I think they got another hidden suitor someone and I think they suddenly think your man of 7 years is not worthy of their heavy investment who is now a PhD in-making.

Think.

You said they dont wanna sell you so why should box of gold matter?

If they don't wanna collect so much money from his family, so how much does a box of gold cost?

As far as am concerned, he has the right to break up with your ass cuz you've been so carried away with the word "YOU" that you forget you're trying to build a relationship, and not a factory.

Don't blame him, but make amend. And make it humbly. Your doctorate degree, your Green card and your family and stuffs wouldn't help you get a man. He was your man b4 you got to this level, be wise.

@op, this person took these words right out of my mind. Stick to this advise. Slow your roll!

my broda for this word whn u talk so, tell that woman make she gv u any of your brand whn I come I go pay. Nice n out spoken

madone:
I think u re too pushy and u have a nag for picking a fight over trivial issues ,maybr na too much book.sweet heart no african man will stick to a lady that argue and fight everytime with big big grammar. Gold was not in the wedding item u got angry.i think ur guy just tire for ur tomuch drama.listen girl in nigeria here a guy that travel to u.s to see his babe deserves worship from other ladies and am sure he has seen a worshipper... Not a fighter

lovethchioma:
I have read through and I never saw any advice. Everyone has been blaming her and saying she deserves to be left by the man. Is that what you call advice? Nobody has stated any solution to the problem.

Nairaland needs to learn from quora.com like someone already stated here.

Abeg this thing just weak me. Haba.
@Op I'd like to talk to you in private ...

Was she asking for advice? ... she specifically wanted to know if the relationship was worth fighting for and if she deserved to be ehmmm...dumped. The comments addressed her questions.... and let her know why.

neocortex:
His excuse for breaking up is just an excuse, what
he really wish for is a wife that answers "Yes Sir" to
everything he does and you don't happen to fit that
description.
So, let him go for his type.

Next time, don't put your eggs in one basket.

is there any woman that put her eggs one basket this days all women this days are cheats, from her explanation she painted her self as been honest sticking to the guy alone that's the nature of all women they lie a lot I believe even when she's Over there she must have dated several men and her frequent quarrels with the guy is just for excuse so that the guy can willingly opt out. Young lady uve gotten what you wanted why ask us for advice now. To me you just see the guy as second option that why the issue of gold came up. you can now go to the person you think will absorb ur excesses and provide unlimited gold for you when you need it.am so happy for the guy for opting out of trouble.

neocortex:
His excuse for breaking up is just an excuse, what
he really wish for is a wife that answers "Yes Sir" to
everything he does and you don't happen to fit that
description.
So, let him go for his type.

Next time, don't put your eggs in one basket.

See ur life. Bad Adviser .. Is it by force to contribute ??

Please just be Happy. God has better plan for you. My sister dated for 10 years, married and has been married for 9 years. But the past nine years of the marriage has been regrets. Please celebrate the break up

As a guy I would ve done the same thing the guy did

Reading ur post shows d guy truly loves u buh u re just 1 of dis dramatic ladies out dre and d guy had actually held on to u for a very long time until u pushed him to a point where he couldn't stand it again.

Ur getting angry cos he didn't buy expensive things for ur engagement shows d@ u re materialistic and egocentric.

I don't really know if u truly love him like he did cos 4rm ur post I didn't really see anything d@ showed u also did all ur best to make d relationship work out

I am sure his response d@ he wasn't interested in d marriage again came as a shock to u coss u believe with what u ve he will b worshipping u. My sis boys don wise up pass d@ level dem no dey get time 4 ladies d@ re full of demselves thinking the whole world revolves around dem.

I can categorically tell u d@ dre are ova 1 million and 1 girls out dre d@ re dying to have him buh he chose to stay with u with all in d name of love buh u are full of ur sef thinking d world revolves around u.

I am sure if d guy marries u ur ego wont allow u respect him accordingly.

So my sister if u truly love him and want him please call him and be very apologetic and I hope it wont b 2 late by now if 1 of dose ladies giving him face while u were acting hasn't taken d full-time position in his heart

You know what get me pissed off by some ladies, them go cause the problem finish and go dey disturb Men Of God for prayer, you are not ready for a life partner my dear remain a Rvnd Mother or better b single mother all your life. Shu.... see when a man see a woman he is comfortable with he flee

joenor:
my broda for this word whn u talk so, tell that woman make she gv u any of your brand whn I come I go pay. Nice n out spoken

cool spot don dey Nairaland. e-bar

All I see is a girl from rich family who picks quarrel anyhow. continue. men full everywhere and you are getting younger everyday


Na Gold be your problem

madone:
I think u re too pushy and u have a nag for picking a fight over trivial issues ,maybr na too much book.sweet heart no african man will stick to a lady that argue and fight everytime with big big grammar. Gold was not in the wedding item u got angry.i think ur guy just tire for ur tomuch drama.listen girl in nigeria here a guy that travel to u.s to see his babe deserves worship from other ladies and am sure he has seen a worshipper... Not a fighter

The language of truth is simple.

seriousy, oya take any, I dey come

Sammiejokes:

cool spot don dey Nairaland. e-bar

lanrywatt:
You are the best person to tell us if the relationship is worth fighting for or not

After saying this, you still went ahead to tell her to leave

U better move on distance relationship kole work