the question was if your girlfriend gets pregnant unexpectedly so I'm guessing they most be having sex and yes I know that abstinence is a 100% effective.I meant if you cant accept reponsibilty then don't do the deed FOD when i said if u can't stand the heat don't go into the kitchen

doubleface:

i bet u the day they stop child support that every day the number of single mother will reduce by 80%

This is utter trash!! are u saying there is child support in every nation of world? we all know the ansa to that, NO! And are there no single mothers in those nations too? of course YES! so wat are u talking about?

I still maintain it is irresponsibility of the highest order for u do impregnate a woman and then leave her to fend for herself and the baby.

I'll rephrase outkast's slogan,"if you don't want heat, then don't even venture into the kitchen at all."

People!! Please tell the truth.

Deji below was being real.

The only answer here for both guys and girls is:

1. If u are still in school or u are not settled, abortion is the answer.

Do it, move with your life, learn some lessons (especially the lesson of using a condom correctly, truth is most people who get
pregnant either no dey use condom or do not use it correctly) Notice I dont preach abstainance, body no bi wood. it is not
easy.

2. Deji Olowe was right in the case that the guy is ready for the responsibility.

I think it is the responsibilty of girls to know the kind of relationship they are in. U can not get pregnant for a guy with whom u are having a fling. That is dumb. u go suffer

This is what happens in the real world.

dejiolowe:

if babe get belle, na yawa gas be that o.

na situation go yearn the thing wey i go do.

1. if the chick na raz girl or otondo, na comot i go tell am make she comot am
2. if the girl na playa, man, i no go gree o because the thing no fit be my own o. u know say if be say i waka there go write my attendance
3. if the babe na correct, and i dey ok myself, then i go arrange make i marry am or do something proper make shame no come for am

na my own position be that

if dat happens, take a test 2 knw the childs status,if its mine,i will be responsible and take care of the girl and child,what has happend has happend so u take care of them.i will protect myself next time cos at my young age,its my parents dat will take care of the child

Some people just talk sha. So because a girl wants to collect meagre child support, she will deliberately get pregnant and shatter her dreams? Guys...please think!!! Hanhan!

TO CHILLIN..... GOD GO BLESS U.

Hmmm...There is no simple answer really to this question.I guess it depends on the guy's (and other)circumstances. As guys we know some of the tricks that are plaed on young innocent girls(spiked drinks,sleeping pills,fake contraceptives).Some are even told marraige will only happen,if they get pregnant.People have sex,girls get pregnant. Not all ladie may be as lucky or wise a some of our nairaland gals appear. The number of abortions(legal and illegal)taking place daily-shows just what most people would do if a gal got pregnant for them. In my early years medical practice I saw a lot,and heard a lot of incredible stories(and I have practised in both rural and urban areas). the story na the same. I dont wont to elaborate further. My advice to all is informative/educative sex education to all females from early age!

Of cuz i trust her, so i know the pregnancy is mine, so wat stop me 4 accepting it, of cus it's my blood and if i never loved her, i wouldn't get her pregnant in da 1st place.

For real nothing dey happen as 2face talk. Life starts better with dat. But meanwhile I think it will be rather bad if its going to a chop and run girl but if its a girl you think you like, it's only a small time and everything will sort itself out. Afterall one of my guy don do am and dey enjoy the dividends now.

@cutejustyz may God continue to bless you with wisdom and knowledge in abundance my guy,

If your Girlfriend Gets Pregnant Unexpectedly or rather Expectedly, then u better marry her.

If she gets pregnant unexpectely,then u had better marry her unexpectedly as well.

You didn't say if protection was used or not

In the case of no protection

I don't get the unexpected part.
Unless protection is used then it is to be expected that it could or would happen at some point right?

@ Kenya, sometimes protection may not really work out and you are at the expense of how sharp the girl is. Abi?

Yeah that's true. women have many methods of birth control.
Personally I don't care for any of them. I guess it is wise to plan your children if u are able

The situation, which occurs frequently, shows the wisdom of not having sex unless a lifetime commitment has arisen in your heart. If she is pregnant, then you should marry her and commit your life to helping her and the baby find peace and happiness.

Linda

To be Honest, if my girlfriend comes up and tells me that shes pregnant im definitely going to have mixed feelings about.
1. The thought of denial will crop up.
2.  Ill be happy that im fertile .

What action i will take?
1.If shes the kind of woman I can spend the rest of my Life with, I ll settle down with her.
2. If shes not the wife type, Id ask her to deliver the baby, but theres no law in the land that says I must marry a girl 'cos shes pregnant for me, Yes the baby's mine. Its  my resposibility, but the hell im not going to pass thru a long life of regrets with a woman I cant live with.

This is where the truth surfaces: Not every Sex Partner is a Life Partner. Wow!!! We guys are selfish arent we?
Ladies, Shine Your Eyez

It all depends on the situation at hand. As a christian I would have avoided such a situation but since it has happened and I am not yet married I will take responsibility. On the other hand I will ask her to go for abortion. Anyway I have done a lot while in school and while serving. May God have mercy.

If my Girlfriend Gets Pregnant Unexpectedly I'll leave her Unexpectedly

I looked better at the thread. I thought if it was by some othere than oneself.

@Outkast What silly wisdom do you have or what blessing will you have from God when you are supposed to zip up?

@chrisd You can expect more troubles to follow you SUDDENLY...

We are not supposed to zip up, but to take responsibility. Don't know why it should make a difference. It is as though they were married right?

@dejiolowe what the hell are you talking about?

If your girl gets pregnant unexpectedly, you dont have to marry her unexpectedly. Marriage is not a thing to joke about. If youre sure youre responsible for the pregnancy, accept it and show support to your girl. If you love her enough and have the means, then you can think about marriage. Dont allow any one (gal,parents,siblings,friends) to force you into anything. Marriage isnt always the best option. It can cause more harm than good sometimes. Just learn from your mistakes. If she keeps the baby and you guys remain together, you now know better. If she aborts, you still know better. You'll be more careful in the future, whether together or not. I am not supporting abortion here, it just that people do these things and though wrong it still happens.

Depending on your level of maturity, becos you need to plan for it, if it is not planned for please let there be agreement wether to terminate it or continue with the pregnancy.

I like it to be planeed too and be proud of having that child. No one liked to be abondoned by their parents and being thought of an inconvience because it messed their parents life.

but in actual fact, guys can be very funny in this matter. take for example this true life experience. it happened to a friend of mine

she so much loves this guy cos d guy was her first(he disvirgined her) in d process of their frequent love-making, she got pregnant for this guys. U know wat d bobo did? he denied ever knowing d girl outrightly!

thank God for d type of family d girl comes frm and knowing fully well abt their (my friend & her bf) relationship. they made her keep d pregnancy and she delivered a baby that looks exactly like this stupid boy. i need to mention d pain and shame she went thru among collegues and neigbours dat knew abt her relationship wit d guy, enough mockery and sides talks, that was b4 d  delivery o!

recently, my friend called to tell me dat d guy wants 'his son' back dat it was d devil's work dat made him to deny d baby initially.

just imagine!

You got that right. I was talking about men there not boys.

and do u think i'm refering to a shool boy here

I know what you meant, but that kind of attitude is childlish to me. There is a time when we say ''We need strong men''