tosyne2much:
If you say it paid off, it actually did.

But on a serious, it's not something new so I sometimes wonder why you do those things as a matured lady.

Anyway, I no need check dico jawe.. I know say you sabi English pass me

Doctormarvin:
we are all here to learn dear and I must confess,your write up is sensible but please I would like to know the area in life that you personally have been cheated and robbed of opportunities or your valid opinions discarded due to you being a female and not a male...i feel like I have soo much to learn from you

sexybbstar:
oh really? FYI, he's the inspiration behind it. I don't create threads but he inspired me... It's not those threads that got me a rare gem but the rare gem inspired me

Blackhawk01:



Damn! I've always known Tosin was behind those threads but unfortunately, he denied knowing anything about it when I asked. Rare gem abi common stone, izz all good bands.

Blackhawk01:


Oh well, Tosin thinks I'm a mature Lady. Halleluyah sumbori...

It definitely isn't something new but it's kinda serious when your gf Is sometimes guilty of what you accuse other girls of.

Lailai, with you 10/10 lists abi?

tosyne2much:
Hmmmmmm.. I can see the beef is real


Anyway make I chop jawe.. Come join me

tosyne2much:
Bad guy

sexybbstar:
common stone o,grinding stone ... I appreciate him and his presence in my life.

Doctormarvin:
you don't fight for rights you've never been robbed of...feminists claim they are independent but their entire argument center on rights they've not been denied and thinking being on equal grounds with men will grant them thosel rights which was never taken in the first place ...like somebody forced women to marry men who order them around and stuff!c'mon!!!Know your real problems Nigerian feminists ,gender inequality is not one of it

Doctormarvin:
we are all here to learn dear and I must confess,your write up is sensible but please I would like to know the area in life that you personally have been cheated and robbed of opportunities or your valid opinions discarded due to you being a female and not a male...i feel like I have soo much to learn from you

Blackhawk01:

Yes ooooo, we all help you appreciate am sef

Doctormarvin:
you don't fight for rights you've never been robbed of...feminists claim they are independent but their entire argument center on rights they've not been denied and thinking being on equal grounds with men will grant them those rights which was never taken in the first place ...like somebody forced women to marry men who order them around and stuff!c'mon!!!Know your real problems Nigerian feminists ,gender inequality is not one of them

Evaberry:
It never fails to irritate and anger me when women talk like this


In all honesty this is rubbish

ReinaFarine:


Personally, I know how to handle chauvinists.... I get sexists comments a lot in my job.... Things that are akin to sexual harassment... gender discrimination..... I work in the IT sector.... And it is most times assumed by my clients that my male co-workers are more tech-savvy than me....
I actually love proving them wrong.... But I shouldn't have to fight for that with every new client.... That's one of it.

Pressure to forget about further studies until after I'm happily married....

Please just pay attention to the women of equal ranking with you ghat are around and see how they have to prove themselves all the damn time.

Then you'll understand why Nigerian Women are fighting for equal rights, opportunities and rewards....

ReinaFarine:


Education

Early marriage... Especially in the north

Priority of the birth of the male child over the female resulting in various forms of brutality, witch hunting and divorce.... Especially in the east....

tosyne2much:
My brother, I don't just know the opportunities they are talking about oooo

Giving us a first class experience of how they've been robbed of opportunities on the ground of sex will open our eyes to so many things

Doctormarvin:
well said, please prove me wrong and I will correct myself but I think what you just mentioned goes both ways...males have been witch hunted,brutalized,made to suffer injustice in all forms too

ReinaFarine:


I'm talking about a woman giving birth to the female child repeatedly.... She's tagged a witch, she's beaten, she is casted off, treated like trash, there is in most cases the introduction of a new woman all because the female child is seen as unimportant and her birth doesn't count so much as a child....

I really hope you get me..... Whether I give birth to quadruplets all boys... Or quadruplets all girls, I shouldn't be treated any differently... They are kids and it is my duty to give them equal opportunities irrespective of gender....

ibkayee:

Lol na so

Doctormarvin:
i have seen one who knows what she's talking about... not these little ones who their mothers still wipe their bums after they poo ...figuratively though!before they lay siege to my post

pocohantas:
Hardly will you ever see a happily married woman claiming feminist? you don't mean it!
Hardly will you ever see a happy man, who has a good dose of self esteem...looking for a woman to lord over in the name of submission.

Only men who have never felt important in their lives, wait all their youth to get married to a woman who will submit to them. The definition of submission to a Nigerian man is very flawed, more reason they chose submission over mutual respect.

There is a difference between feminism and misandry.
The former is supported by me.
I love the genuine cause, not the flawed one.
I love how they make most Nigerian men uncomfortable. It shows something is indeed wrong somewhere...
Only the guilty are afraid...

ReinaFarine:


Baby..... C'Mon....

There are men that have the idea of 'I married you to do this and that for me'
Please tell me how this is different from saying I bought you to do this and that.....

I would like to think it shouldn't be a big deal for you to wash your woman's clothes, or wash the dishes after dinner or little chores like that.... And it is not a taboo (like most of the little fukaz here think it is) for you to cook while your woman rest......

The same way it is not so hard for me to do likewise. But when you make it look like I was married to do that and I'm less of a woman if I don't... Then it is slavery....

True feminists are not against housework. We are against doing it at the detriment of our happiness.

Second point.....
That's insulting..... I graduated college at the age of 17. How old are you? And where are you in your career.... Don't just make assumptions and proclaim them to be facts.... I'm not saying this out of pride.... Thousands of feminists on this forum are far higher than most of the chauvinistic pigs we have here.... We're not asking for envy...

And the point I was trying to drive was, you don't have to marry a feminist. The person for them will. Respect them for their accomplishments rather than their sexpertise....

iamJ:
Raggedy.Ann I swear this thread is directed at u
The op used ur terminology to mock u

naijaboiy:
Everybody should just have sense. If you’re a feminist that one dey your pocket.

DarkRebel69:


You seem to support the OP, am I right?

I thought you studied Law at UNIBEN? More importantly, I thought lawyers were known for their cold logic and erudition?

Lol...I didn’t even read half of what she wrote up there.

What use would it be if i decide to speak always in cold logic and erudition? It’s Nairaland Mehn, I’m not here to display my high level of knowledge except when necessary, especially not on an overflogged topic like this.

DarkRebel69:
OP just graduated from the university. I think I saw her make a post as regards this not too long ago (one of the curses of total recall—the useless facts just find their way in).

So if the OP graduated only recently, that would put her age at around 19 or 20. Ergo, it's either the immaturity of her age or her natural default docility state that is to be blamed for this resounding claptrap.

I think it's an ugly blend of the two i.e. both immaturity & inherent docility. Just take a look at her profile, her signature, her topics, her posts, and tell me, what do you deduce? Look at all the non-feminist females too & you would find that most of them are: painfully conservative, unquestioningly docile, emotionally dependent, excessively vain, and usually religious. (By the way, did you know studies have shown that women are generally more religious than men? The smart ones should know where I'm going with this).

From her profile and her posts, we can tell the OP perfectly fits the bill of the docile, averagely intelligent, and conservative female.

Here's an interesting one; see what was written on her profile:-

"It's only a girl that lacks home training that will be taller than her boyfriend"

Yeah, you might say it's just a harmless joke, but do you know what Sigmund Freud said about jokes? He said in most cases they serve two purposes:-

1) As a form of aggression (e.g. sarcasms)

2) As a way of revealing our unconscious desires (e.g. the jokes on OP's profile.)


I think OP should grow up, change this dangerous mindset, and work towards cultivating a better self-esteem than she has currectly (I know she might say she has a healthy self-esteem as it stands, but that's the thing about self-esteem—you might think you have a healthy dose of it when you really don't).

Honestly, this is pathetic. I think I might have to ban my daughters from visiting Nairaland... Before Nairaland females make idiöts out of them.