If the guy knows you are dating the girl, I doubt he'd make any silly move. They could be innocently close but more you take about it to your girl, the more you expose her subconscious to such possibilities.

ritylove:
you really sound depressed with such respond

response

Na your gf never get the message. The other guy is completely innocent. Afterall, your gf is the one in a relationship yet flirting with a third party

She can't even be called your gf till you leave camp infact the whole nysc year sef .that's when the real scale falls off the eyes and you know for sure if u want to wife her.
For now I think you are trying to colonize everybody's girl and it's not fair to other guys..they on the other hand may even be planning on how to make u back off..don't give urself unnecessary headache now. It's not worth it..
A lady will do anything if her survival depends on it..

Cheers

Fuckkk her and stop picking her calls. That's the way I break up with girls I dated. I simply stop picking their calls and they get the message. If I see them on the street I pretend I don't even know who they are. And if they say hi, I say hi too and keep a straight face.

lilbest4:
response

thankyou sir satisfied..

LadySarah:


I think you still have a lot to do In this life which you obviously need to focus on.

Also,the guy is not owing you,if you want ur rshp to work,your girl should tell the guy to back off not you.You don't go disgrace yourself,for what its worth the girl could leave you in the future.You will want to kill yourself when you rem fighting your fellow man.

When you are ready your own will come.

@op....read what Ladysarah just typed. True talk. Your babe is the only person that can warn that guy to stay put.
That is what I liked about the last babe I dated, she does not tolerate all this putting hand round shoulders and touching a girls waist even if u are just a friend.

So talk to your babe and if she truly loves u as u claim, she will stop all those trash...

maikbanj:
I met this pretty young girl in camp, she was this very friendly girl who was so free with guys. We got to know each other and now we are dating. I told her about her creating boundaries since we are now dating. She agreed and now the relationship is going smoothly.

But then there's this dude who's really on her neck. He keeps calling her and they chat a lot. We went for our clearance and they were both gisting and laughing. I was talking to a dude and next I saw her holding the guy round his shoulders laughing.

I got quiet and acted like nothing happened. Had to call her attention to this now and she was like she was sorry that she got too playful. She promised it will never happen again.

I really do not know how to make this dude back off cause we talk. But not really a friend.

I'd say u should give away Ur attention to something more important, never place high expectations on her to do you normal or make u happy been her guy. girls are naturally stupid so expect less of proper relationship DOS and don'ts from her. Dont be stupid as well to be close to female friend cos u want to get back at her , u did Lose at the end . for me since u want to be serious with her , set a date with her and talk Ur heart out , if she is mature and understands she did at least adjust to respect how u feel. but if she's not bro I'd then say bro convert whatever feeling and love u have for her to just catching fun with her , meanwhile it's only u that will no that u re only catching fun but to her stupidity she did think you guys are still dating. bro no let one idiot girl somewhere disturb Ur life o. start piping her hard if u have not started before since she no want serious with u. one last thing bro , be careful of loving any creature that comes from Nigeria, most of them don't deserve it.

Me I don care sotey, gal tell me I care too much





Imagine her boss even bought her a phone worth 50k





She said just a gift, and started funny excuses



Omo boy, I give myself brain I need someone better.

maikbanj:
I met this pretty young girl in camp, she was this very friendly girl who was so free with guys. We got to know each other and now we are dating. I told her about her creating boundaries since we are now dating. She agreed and now the relationship is going smoothly.

But then there's this dude who's really on her neck. He keeps calling her and they chat a lot. We went for our clearance and they were both gisting and laughing. I was talking to a dude and next I saw her holding the guy round his shoulders laughing.

I got quiet and acted like nothing happened. Had to call her attention to this now and she was like she was sorry that she got too playful. She promised it will never happen again.

I really do not know how to make this dude back off cause we talk. But not really a friend.

Your business is with your girl, not the guy. She's the one who can tell him to keep off. You can't go around telling a nigga to leave a girl alone when she's not resisting him or complaining. It doesn't make sense.

Your partner is the one who owes you commitment , and if you're not comfortable with her rapport with the guy, you tell her to stop. If she listens, all well and good. If she doesn't, then you leave her for her new boyfriend, and go in search of your own girlfriend.

YOU DON'T TELL OTHERS THAT A LADY IS YOUR GIRLFRIEND. SHE DOES THAT HERSELF.

If she's serious with you, she'll choose you and create boundaries between herself and other guys. If she doesn't want you, there's nothing you can do other than to move on, unless she's already your wife, in which case you can force her to stick to her marriage vows and written agreement she's about to breach. She wouldn't have a choice, unless she's ready for a divorce. [This is me typing as someone who believes that adultery is a criminal offence, as every other breach of legal agreement].

Dude, you can't force a girl to love you. Let HER choose between you and that bloke.

She already promised you that such would never repeat itself. You can count on that, and wait and see how it goes. She might be for real. Or not.

maikbanj:


Smiles. To be candid, i'm planning on getting married soon. The problem I'm having now is the Bride.

No sir, you're not ready to be married - even though you do not know that.

Why? Cos she's not ready. She's still in her 'exploration' stage. The other guy may also be an option or prospect to, but maybe not at the same level as you. Maybe higher, maybe lower, maybe same. And there may be others you don't know or haven't met back at her base, church, office, Alma Mata or that she just grew up with.

Doubt me? I challenge you to propose to her. Tell her you want to settle down with her and see how she'll prevaricate. Not that she doesn't love you, but she may feel like you haven't allowed her go through the market before trying to railroad her into buying a fabric . She needs to be sure she's 'buying' the best for herself.

Doesn't apply to all ladies, but most of them. Most are only absolutely sure of what they want by 24-27 (typically 2 years after NYSC). But you can take the risk, just insure yourself against possible heartbreak

maikbanj:
I met this pretty young girl in camp, she was this very friendly girl who was so free with guys. We got to know each other and now we are dating. I told her about her creating boundaries since we are now dating. She agreed and now the relationship is going smoothly.

But then there's this dude who's really on her neck. He keeps calling her and they chat a lot. We went for our clearance and they were both gisting and laughing. I was talking to a dude and next I saw her holding the guy round his shoulders laughing.

I got quiet and acted like nothing happened. Had to call her attention to this now and she was like she was sorry that she got too playful. She promised it will never happen again.

I really do not know how to make this dude back off cause we talk. But not really a friend.

Go and find money bros. The guy will backoff and the girl will back in. You are chasing the wrong thing

maikbanj:
I met this pretty young girl in camp, she was this very friendly girl who was so free with guys. We got to know each other and now we are dating. I told her about her creating boundaries since we are now dating. She agreed and now the relationship is going smoothly.

But then there's this dude who's really on her neck. He keeps calling her and they chat a lot. We went for our clearance and they were both gisting and laughing. I was talking to a dude and next I saw her holding the guy round his shoulders laughing.

I got quiet and acted like nothing happened. Had to call her attention to this now and she was like she was sorry that she got too playful. She promised it will never happen again.

I really do not know how to make this dude back off cause we talk. But not really a friend.

You saw the the girl was free with guys and you popped in thinking you will change her once you popped in.

Sorry bro you can't change people.

Either you break up of deal with it.


I remember a time I wanted to change my girl's habits (@JamaicanLove) but ended up making her worse.

maikbanj:
I met this pretty young girl in camp, she was this very friendly girl who was so free with guys. We got to know each other and now we are dating. I told her about her creating boundaries since we are now dating. She agreed and now the relationship is going smoothly.

But then there's this dude who's really on her neck. He keeps calling her and they chat a lot. We went for our clearance and they were both gisting and laughing. I was talking to a dude and next I saw her holding the guy round his shoulders laughing.

I got quiet and acted like nothing happened. Had to call her attention to this now and she was like she was sorry that she got too playful. She promised it will never happen again.

I really do not know how to make this dude back off cause we talk. But not really a friend.

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KNEEL DOWN & BEG HIM TO LEAVE YOUR HONEY

Cocao:
How prepared are you for the job market?

I just say I should ask you

I don't think that's his priority right now . He wants to secure his woman first.

mema900:


Go and find money bros. The guy will backoff and the girl will back in. You are chasing the wrong thing

Misplace priority.

I bet the op is giving 70% of his allawe to the girl

SMH for some pvssy niggas.



JamaicanLove

Why not just let the girl go?
People spend a lot of time seeing things they don't like but instead of actually doing something about it. They come complaining.
Do you like the way she is acting? No, let her go, you saw her like that, don't try to change her.
Move on.

O boy calm down, is so glaring u won chop for some months, no be nysc again no go fight because of a woman ooo, before she came to camp she has somebody, so u and that guy are shoe shiners but as you are shinning ur shoe if u get rewarded u thank u stars but don't fight to keep d shoe.

lilmax:
Lol, imagine dating someone who's still going through the wh.ore phase

I've said before, two things involved
either you continue with her and let guys use her till she has sense, this will take 2years

or you dump her and go for someone with the right priorities

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dingbang:
Never ever take girls seriously..

Girls should never take boys seriously. Let me balance it out for you.

And please don't cry when girls take this advice and never take boys seriously

There's nothing wrong with him flirting with her , the problem is if she acts on it

"She was very free with guys". Hold it right there Mr. OP.
The above was in your first sentence.

So you want her to begin to bone boys now?
That's who she is. She might have grown up as a tomboy, having many brothers or more male friends than female.
She might also just enjoy male attention.

Boys are not your problem. Does she want to settle down now for real? How much do you know about her? With such "freedom" with boys are you sure there is no other guy somewhere, like her hometown, university bf, etc?
If you are sure you both want to settle down, waste no more time. Good luck!

But you said it already that she move a lot with guy.. Try and understand then you need to trust her and that's called benefit of doubt...

93Miles:


Misplace priority.

I bet the op is giving 70% of his allawe to the girl

SMH for some pvssy niggas.



JamaicanLove

God, what's my offence

Daeylar:


Girls should never take boys seriously. Let me balance it out for you.

boys, not men. its a pity you are still a girl, not a woman.

Just take it easy with her & yourself too. If you are patience in time things will be unfolded. Don't hurt or be bitter to yourself unnecessarily. It is well.

maikbanj:
I met this pretty young girl in camp, she was this very friendly girl who was so free with guys. We got to know each other and now we are dating. I told her about her creating boundaries since we are now dating. She agreed and now the relationship is going smoothly.

But then there's this dude who's really on her neck. He keeps calling her and they chat a lot. We went for our clearance and they were both gisting and laughing. I was talking to a dude and next I saw her holding the guy round his shoulders laughing.

I got quiet and acted like nothing happened. Had to call her attention to this now and she was like she was sorry that she got too playful. She promised it will never happen again.

I really do not know how to make this dude back off cause we talk. But not really a friend.

tell the guy to leave her alone.. if u don’t, he will think u r okay with it. If u guys breakup cause of that,, know it’s for the best

dingbang:
Never ever take girls seriously..

What have dey done to you

kill him

You should concentrate on making money.

Cocao:
How prepared are you for the job market?

I just say I should ask you

lol

JamaicanLove:




God, what's my offence

You're offences are :
1. Depending ipob
2. Not loving your president @PMB
3. Not wishing the dead kid RIP