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Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Mbediogu(m): 10:19am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Hotzone: Many of us have similar problem but go ahead and be our guinea pig. Good luck and remember to keep in touch. 1 Like |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by supereagle(m): 10:20am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Idrismusty97: Dele Giwa wife was older than him. A renowned Prof of Medicine in UI wife was older than him by two years. They had wonderful marriage. 1 Like |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by hustla(m): 10:21am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Hotzone: Age is but a number My guy sef marry babe wey old pass am Your maturity will determine how things go though |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by okwabayi(m): 10:22am On Oct 10, 2018 |
The story seems like you guys already have a relationship. If you can gbensh her what's stopping you from marrying? It's better to have a high earning wife who likes you physically than one who only likes you for your wealth. Your future children will enjoy all she has to provide financially. 1 Like |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Foeniz(m): 10:23am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Fawklicant: Finally do serious prayer before marrying her. |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by jrex(m): 10:26am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Guy, you love her and she loves you. You understand her and she understands you. You can accommodate your differences. Pls go ahead. Invite me for your wedding pls |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by omooba969(m): 10:28am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Westaslave2: He is not a lazy man, he's employed. 2 Likes |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by femijck(m): 10:29am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Truth is, marriage as a whole is 4c.k.e.d up and too complicated in this our generation so because of this I have nothing to say....The best adviser here might be struggling with his own marriage... So go on with whatever works for u But by the way, who the 4.ck instituted that the husband must be older in a marriage in the first place?? 2 Likes |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Daeylar(f): 10:31am On Oct 10, 2018 |
At his age. Op is still a fuckboy. So sad. You didn't remember her money and position when you dated this lady to the point where she feels comfortable enough to "gesture" to you about marriage. You have intention of marriage but you didn't remember money and position. Now it seems like it is getting to a time to actually make a decision about marriage you've suddenly become intimidated by her money and position. I don't even think you can marry any woman op. Any woman you marry(if you don't marry this one) if during the marriage she surpasses you in position and money. She will hear it from you. And furthermore what kind of husband will you be when you cannot pray for your wife to be the best she can be? You'd probably pray, let my wife excel in everything in life but let her not be greater than me Amen. If Chimamanda talk now people will want to swallow her. 3 Likes |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by omooba969(m): 10:32am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Rashduct4luv: What's unfounded about his comment? 1 Like |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by enemyofprogress: 10:34am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Hotzone:Google is your friend, ask Google about it |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by zicoraads: 10:35am On Oct 10, 2018 |
It is very difficult to actually love in Africa. Religion, tribe, age, class, etc. always seem to lord over what two people actually feel for themselves. Sad. Whatever she has shouldn't be a problem to you, if it isn't for her. I know a few families where the wife is the stronger financial muscle in the home. Still, they do well. The age part might be trickier, especially if your family knows about it. But I've always believed marriage should always always be about what two people want, and not what others or the society wants. So what do you really want? And would you still want her if she wasn't rich? Ask yourself those questions and if the answers are affirmative, then go right ahead. 4 Likes |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by omooba969(m): 10:36am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Blackfire: Reference your claim on Khadijat's age please. 1 Like |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by SarcasticGenius(m): 10:37am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Rashduct4luv: Mumus are the kind of people who try to hide notorious facts that are in plain sight. Imagine how stupid a person has to be in trying to hide something which the whole world acknowledges. When you're done imagining, look into a mirror and write the word "fool" on the image you find looking back at you. 2 Likes
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Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Rubbiish(m): 10:44am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Oyindidi:Lol...this your mouth sef... |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by omooba969(m): 10:45am On Oct 10, 2018 |
folly22: Go to Specsavers. |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by alizma: 10:49am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Hotzone:seek advise from a marriage counselor. preferably a female marriage counselor who has been in marriage for at least 7yrs. success 1 Like |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by NoToPile: 10:49am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Idrismusty97: Ohoo now I see it If he's not comfortable with the age difference, he should let her go abi? |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by omooba969(m): 10:49am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Joshuamilarge: Show some respect please & don't forget to have your head checked. Oponu jatijati. FYI, I'm a xtian. 1 Like |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Boss13: 10:50am On Oct 10, 2018 |
All these people advising you to marry her are not married. I am going to be blunt with you - YOU HAVE VIOLATED ALL RULES IN A RELATIONSHIP First Violation - Never enter or prolong a relationship with a colleague. This is where you make your income. You should never mess with your income. Now not only are you dating a colleague, you are also dating a senior colleague. Love is the last issue to consider during marriage Never marry for love only. Conduct your due diligence properly. Married people will tell you that there are times your partner disgust you. Those times will come during marriage, you cannot escape it. Look at your in-laws, especially the mother, investigate her sisters if they are married Power Dynamics- In marriage, whoever has the more influence and power dynamics dictates the marriage. In your case, it seems your wife has more influence. Automatically, you will never earn the respect you should. Her friends will never respect you, her family will never respect you. Possibly, your children may not respect you because she is the breadwinner. These are the things that will eat you up in that marriage. Erode your ego and make you contemplate suicide. Women Change - You keep hearing that women change when they marry and that’s 100% FACT. They change that some don’t even know they have changed. The first change you would noticed is after child birth. Apart from the physical change, her attention would move towards the child. This is nature and normal with women. Any married man who tell you that this is when you begin to feel like a visitor in your house. Regular sex turns to routine sex and then to less sex and possibly lesser sex or no sex depending on her mood swing. I don’t know your wife’s age, but for her to consider marrying you means she is not young anymore because the average woman marry up and not down - that’s women HYPERGAMY for you. So be prepared for some physical change such as natural enlargement due to child birth which may no longer make her attractive anymore and even worse due to her age. Also, be prepared for emotional changes too. It is the emotional change that will mess you up. Young man, if you plan on being married, you must plan on being in it for the long haul and not to venture into it. Marriage is not an exercise or a test game. The kind of woman you marry determines how far and well you would be. In your case, there are many red flags. The number one is your DOUBT and that is why you are here seeking advice. Listen to this, never marry a woman who has more influence than you - NEVER. It is better to be poor and have peace of mind in your home than to marry a rich woman - YOU WILL REGRET IT. For those cajoling you to proceed that loves conquers all or are more materially inclined due to her wealth - let them venture into it. I have advised you as I would advised my younger brother or my son when he is ready to get married. MARRIAGE IS NOT A JOKE!!! 13 Likes |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Nobody: 10:55am On Oct 10, 2018 |
If what you wrote up here is true. You have landed yourself a good wife material. Females in position of authority generally like to lord over anything and anybody. For her to "lower" down for you at work, she will also do same at home. Brother, green is a go. Hotzone: 1 Like |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Ajokeade17: 10:56am On Oct 10, 2018 |
first reasonable comment am seeing from you. You couldn't have answered it better. Thumbs up NwaAmaikpe: 2 Likes |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by victorian(f): 10:57am On Oct 10, 2018 |
CanineOfJackal: Why did u call my name? What's happening here? Point of correction : AM MARRIED! |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Achimaechi(m): 10:57am On Oct 10, 2018 |
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Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by omooba969(m): 10:59am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Rashduct4luv: Provide us with the authentic proof then. The burden is now on you to prove otherwise. |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Oyindidi(f): 11:01am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Rubbiish:watin do my mouth |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Maccoy507: 11:01am On Oct 10, 2018 |
[quote author=Oyindidi post=71946568]Something is wrong with this kind of love. Somebody is about to be turned to a houseboy[/quote the way you said this thing ehn. It's like you've seen it happen before. |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by victorian(f): 11:01am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Hotzone: If she's what u require in a wife? Then marry her. Also watch if she's humble. For me, I can't marry a younger man nor a guy working beneath me. Thank God I married an older successful guy, questions of she will be older than u in looks after some years won't arises. Cause he looks older already. Anyways the choice is yours op.. Think about it carefully. |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Idrismusty97(m): 11:02am On Oct 10, 2018 |
NoToPile:That's his choice to make. But at his age older women should be off his radar. Not only is she older, she is a colleague, and not just any colleague, a senior colleague! This would have been a wonderful love story in America but not in Naija. Let's not deceive ourselves. 1 Like |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by stars2018: 11:02am On Oct 10, 2018 |
@ op, this is the kind of lady I'm searching for, I'm tired of all these slay queen/chewing gum girls that has nothing to bring to the table. Maybe I have been unlucky with working class ladies. Please if you understand, love each other, I ll advice you to go ahead with the marriage. 1 Like |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by MrBONE2(m): 11:03am On Oct 10, 2018 |
Olifiz:He is a religious IPob Muslim 2 Likes |
Re: A Senior Female Colleague Wants Me To Marry Her by Oyindidi(f): 11:03am On Oct 10, 2018 |
1miccza:No, its someone else I was referring to |
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