₦airaland Forum

na wa o. Na real wa on the land today.  

debosky:
It may be a cause for concern, but 'telling her his mind' is not really the way to approach it - a discussion and rational plan is needed IMO.

very good points . . . but its easy to give such advice from the vantage position of being the outsider. The guy has every right to be worried . . . unless i'm the only one still stuck in the 18th century no where are men prevented from "expressing their minds" to the women they are seriously dating.
Should the girl also not express reservations if he were making a decision that would ultimately affect them both?

What do you mean by "discussion and rational plan"? From his post the girl is not interested in such at all . . . if my parents were deeply worried about a life choice i'd be taking a second look at it instead of wailing that my boyfriend wasnt supporting me.

RampantT:
really, I haven't noticed

You wouldnt even notice your nose was on your face if i didnt tell you

D-reloaded:
Anyone care to jog my memory on who it was that argued with someone on stupid crap like the roads of Abeokuta for a whooping 26 pages filled with insults to the brim?

*my mind is hazy*

I wouldnt expect airheads like you to have read such "stupid crap". Oh well what can i say.

Outa here to go banter with less vulgar pple. Go on bleating . . .

@ RampantT i've decided to tow the line of peace. See how much restraint i'm showing this afternoon.

D-reloaded:
Exactly.

Looks like some of you should "borrow a moinmoin leaf" from our favorite manwhore here.

no be only exactly. Too many people aggressively pushing points they cant even intelligently articulate. As long as they can insult those with contrary opinions of course.

debosky:
Finally, I beg to disagree with all the so called 'flying coffin' aspersions being cast - truth be told, the airlines haven't always been the best (some are quite terrible in fact) but after the closure of many of them, the few flying ones are quite reliable and safe according to all recent accounts.

there are several factors that make Nigerian airspace unsafe besides the state of the aircraft.
1. There is no radar coverage outside Lagos and Abuja, most pilots fly blind.
2. Are our airports (sorry cattle sheds) safe? The last time an international airline complained about bird strikes.
3. Do we have facilities to manage disaster? - It takes us weeks to find a large aircraft.
4. There are stories of aircraft taking off into stormy weather simply because the meteorological service failed to warn them of such - the flight that crashed in the village outside of Ogun state is an example.
5. Aircraft are forced to hover in the air for hrs because a VIP is using the only runway.

Bia, if your girlfriend told you she was joining the army and being deployed to Iraq today will you just sit there and "support" her?

D-reloaded:
Alagolo tell your boy to stay away from me. Please

yawn. What a predictable bore. I dont reply to posts based on who is doing the posting, i reply to the content of the posts . . . just too bad it happened to be you at the other end . . . i dont think you need to tell me to stay away from you, i wasnt in your path was i?

D-reloaded:
David, piss off seriously. whether your mom is a doct9or has n ever been the concern of Nairaland, yet you don't fail to mention it in just about every theread. As usual you're being a petty SOB that looks for my trouble CONSTANTLY. LET IT GO

If you intend on being an ass, don't reply to me. So bloody simple

Grow up, rushing around like a pitbull in a chinashop doth not an independent woman make. I'd be surprised the day you reply to any post without your usual "bloody" this and that. Go see how other women behave and borrow a leaf.
I make mention of stuff when it is pertinent to the thread.

D-reloaded:
I understand the boy's dilemma but it's what the girl wants to do. Maybe he can pursade her later to look into safer airlines, or pray she finds an even better job. Trying to "control" what she does is just garbage, either as a BOYFRIEND or even Husband changes NOTHING. All this 'order her to stay" is rubbish/

The problem is you make claims about "understanding" when its apparent you dont. The boy said absolutely nothing about "controlling" her. The entire essence of his post is that he is voicing a legitimate concern to his gfs career choice. Even the girl herself confirmed her parents are also not happy with her decision with pertinent reasons.

There is nothing to signify control here. Read first before going on rampage.

Research labs who work on smoking and its impact on the lungs. See some papers on the topic from the New England Journal of medicine.

Genetics. Some smokers will not die however the majority will have an uphill battle with lung disease or cancer as they age. It is said that the lungs of a chronic smoker age 20yrs faster than that of a non-smoker.
So a smoker at 45 actually has 65 yr old lungs.

tRoOE:
@topic
Am not your to judge you or anyone but just drop my 2cents. Ciao

this one na 20 dollars you drop.

D-reloaded:
Those of us that work in labs with dieases n ko ? Abegi.

Working in a lab in the US and working on aircraft in a country with one of the world's worst airspace are two clearly distinct issues. Whether you work in a lab with HIV is not the concern of this thread.

D-reloaded:
If he can FIND her a better job, let him do so

Until then he should be quiet and let her parents do the whining

You still have plenty of learning and growing to do.

Everyone is saying "support her in her decision" . . . when it comes to serious relationships decisions no longer affect one person but 2.
If i were in klassyguy's shoes i'd object to her working on Nigeria's myriad of flying coffins.
Supporting a woman doesnt always have to involve agreeing to her every needs and wants.

There are better jobs she could go for.

mamaput:
Nigerian standard.

well it will be hard to find me in the sexuallity section.
old women and mothers should not don't have sex

i think its a pretty good standard.

olabowale:
Oh you gullible souls! You think a common sign had anything to do with this? I wonder why the thief that was hanged with "Jesus," died and "Jesus" did not save him? At least he should have done a last one for the road miracle with the thief that believed him, right? You people are almost behaving like cultists. And those Christians who died were allowed to die by Jesus, uh?

And according to your Bible, Jesus could not even save his own soul, even as he begged in his prayer for this "Cup" to be removed from his head. Think people! Don't go about the places blind.

I know why such a miracle pains you to the marrows. You've never heard of a mu'slim prayer being answered before,

Alhaji dear, our God is ALIVE!

stillwater:
That's by the way , the point I'm trying to make is that being liberated doesn't revolve around sex, sex, sex. There are more issues that are of tantamount interests to me when it comes to womanhood.

What more can i say madame! Good point!

HR.hotness:
I don't do "trying". you either want me to or you don't. don't have patience for games  

you have your invitation already.

HR.hotness:
the first steps in law enforcement i think is to actually have the laws in place?  

the laws are already there.

HR.hotness:
@ topic

Like a friend used to say
"If they don't want to listen they should close their ear"
I am who I am, and I make no apologies,
If the fact that I am open about my sexuality makes me a bad girl then I wear the hat with pride
If it bothers you please go somehwere else. Who gave anyone the right to judge?

I don't always have to close my ears if i don't want to listen especially if you're in the minority.
Iran is not a democracy, will you go there expecting the mullah's to close their ears if they don't want to hear about your sexuality? You'd be recieving 38 lashes before you know it.
Freedom of expression is good but your freedom ends where that of others begin. Being expressive should also go hand in hand with having the wisdom to know when to speak and when to be quiet.

D-reloaded:
Wouldnt that mean for the most part women ARE treated as 2nd class citizens?
As for rapists being held. puh-lease. All the dude's family has to do is pay off a high commisioner and Mr rapist will be let free then they'll say it's because the girl was wearing 'tight pants" or whatever nonsense

I'm sure we all try to defend Nigeria but to be in copmplete denial of the sexism of the country is just baffling

Is there any nation were sexism does not exist? There will be some here in the US who are still debating whether Hillary shld be president simply because she is female.
As for your rape example, what if the girl in question was rich . . . they too would pay off a high commissioner and the fellow will be lucky to celebrate his 70th birthday outside a prison house. It's not always women who are victims of a lawless society like ours.

D-reloaded:
To Nubian Q, truth is only guys are allowed to run their mouths are sexuality. Look at that "cheap sex encounter thread" for instance. As a Nigerian, you shouldnt be surprised by the mentality of most people so this question is void

Fact. Its a man's world, we want conservative women even though we hold them to standards we can never keep. Sorry ladies.  

On topic, speaking openly about sex doesnt "necessarily" make you a bad girl. However when dealing with a people who are quick to judge its always best to hold your cards close to your chest.

HR.hotness:

so theres a heart and blood flowing in your veins under all that coldness? i'm impressed

You're welcome to try and "feel" the blood flowing in my veins.

HR.hotness:
Its just protection from people who attack you for being a woman (no sexual reference here)
guys do whatever and say whatever they please about women and the law allows them to
when you look at rape cases (how many of the perpetrators actually get punished), verbal and physical assaults. . . don't get me started. I'm in a good mood today

This is not a straight forward case of people attacking you for being a woman. Nigeria is a country that has woefully failed to enforce her laws, its just a pity women fall into the category of being too easy to kick about no thanks to a social environment that encourages them to bear pain in silence.

The law (at least in letter) does not allow a rapist to get away with his crime.

mamaput:
women are brainwashed to see themselves as second class.

Interesting, i've never heard of that before. Women as second class citizens in Nigeria?

mamaput:
what did they teach you boys at school so that you will make good husband.

nothing  why because  you are the buyer semi god.

they taught us to be responsible citizens of the state, to respect our familes and wives, to work hard to support the basic unit of the state (the family), to be independent thinkers (even with limited resources) . . . i must say we arent doing too badly.

Olabowale, if Frizy can spend 8 pages quoting from the fraudulent gospel of barnabas surely devoting just ONE POST to a qu'ranic quotation shldnt be a big of a deal.

Not one single mu'slim here has told us about their PERSONAL conviction about is'lam. All we have seen so far is badly plagiarised accounts from websites.

HR.hotness:
what does it take to recognise a woman as an individual rather than a walking vagina? we require no infrastructure for that to happen
all that is needed is recognition by the law

The law is not necessary here. Its not as if women are oppressed in Nigeria, we have had female speakers in the houses of assembly.
Do you want to enact a law that recognises your right to kiss your boyfriend in public?

@ HR
Thanks. But i think i have the most important tricks already.   Those who prefer a bit of privacy arent always ignorant eh.

@ Esss . . . you better start getting your baggage ready for Khartoum.  

@ mamaput, they say when in Rome do as the romans. Nigeria is a conservative country where sex education in secondary schools is looked upon as a sacriledge. A country where to show adults a wooden pen.is during an HIV/AIDS awareness program draws gasps and pretended horror. Dont go there assuming every one will accept your openess about sexuality.